Is our engagement right or wrong, let s help analyze what I m going to do

Do you think you and your current boyfriend will be happy? If the answer is yes, then you don't regret it, getting married is a very happy thing. For raising your younger siblings and helping your father reduce his burden, you can send money back, why do you have to go back?

As long as the family has money to use and you are happy, they will also be relieved.

If you go back and give up your current relationship, do you think you'll find someone more suitable for you? It's close to home, but you can often go to see your family, but it's more difficult to be in other places, which is more troublesome. However, I think your family is afraid that if you stay at your mother-in-law's house, there will be disharmony and fear that you will be bullied!

Their worries are good, and as long as you tell your family about your choice, I think they will still support you. (However, when you make a decision, read the premise of what I said, I hope my advice can help you, and I wish you happiness!) ）

Don't you have an opinion?

Do your siblings really understand your hard work?

Your current mindset is that you want to marry him.

Then get married! @

Now you calm down and think about it, do you love your boyfriend, if you love, then accompany them here to marry him, and after marriage, you can go home to see your younger brothers and sisters, besides, your burden will be counted, if your boyfriend loves you, he will also help you share a little, your own happiness must be grasped, this is a matter of your life, you can't take care of your younger brothers and sisters for a lifetime, if you have a deep relationship with your boyfriend, you can get married and live, after marriage, you can also take care of them, Distance is not an issue, as long as the hearts are together.

Is your boyfriend good to you? Do you think he loves you? Do you love him?

Your brother disagrees because of family reasons or because your boyfriend is not good, if your brother thinks that your boyfriend is not very good and is afraid that he will not agree with you badly, you have to think about it As long as you understand the above reasons, then you know what to do If you get married, you can take care of the family!

I believe that love and family affection are difficult to choose. In addition, after losing your mother since childhood, you shoulder the responsibility of a mother to take care of your younger siblings, and your relationship with them is more responsible than that of ordinary brothers and sisters. Therefore, it is really difficult to choose between love and family affection.

But, back to reality, happiness is your own. In a 4-year relationship, you should know that it is not easy to support each other and go through each other. You have certainly built more than love in these days.

Do you love him? If you love him, grasp the happiness of the present.

Your siblings are worried about you because they both cherish this great sister who has always taken care of them. But they are still young, and in a few years, they will also have their own love lives.

As for whether your boyfriend will be good to you in the future, it depends on how deep your love is. The future is an unknown quantity, no one can **, no one can know.

I believe that after marriage, you can still take care of your younger siblings and see them often. They will also have their own lives in the future. And you should also take control of your own happy life.

Whatever your decision is, may you be happy!

Think about whether you're really in love!

It is another ideological struggle of "family affection and love", your choice of love will not affect family affection, since they are all engaged, it means that your mother-in-law's family has recognized you and your family status. I think this should all be due to the fact that you have a good lover, who can tolerate everything about you, good people are hard to find, confidants are even harder to find, you should choose to get married.

There is no time to lose. There is a good opportunity that you should seize and get married as soon as possible, procrastinating marriage is unfair to your lover and a bit individualistic. Besides, getting married is not in conflict with your younger siblings going to school.

Don't confuse the two questions together. Seize the opportunity to change your life, and I wish you happiness.

How is it wrong to be happy and not affect others?

As for helping your younger siblings, you can do it anywhere!

Of course it's time to get married! (as long as you love one another).What qualifications do they have to disagree.

This is your happiness. It should be blessed. Isn't your brother and sister a little too selfish?

Also, why can't you give it again when you get married? Have you discussed these ideas with your boyfriend?

As long as you feel happy, it's right.

Emotionally, you're right; When it comes to family, you have responsibilities, but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your happiness, and there's nothing right or wrong about that. Besides, they're just worried that you're not going to be happy, what do you think?

Explain to the man's family the difficulties of your family and your difficulties, if you insist that you get married this year, then ask if you can have children later, because after marriage, you can still provide for your younger siblings to go to school, but it will be difficult to have children.

You're too family-oriented, just like me. That's good. But this time you have to think clearly, this is related to your life, so do you touch your heart yourself, are you true love?

Yes, then don't hesitate to do anything, get married. When you get married, you can be good for your family, and you can help when you need help. I wish you all happiness! ~

1. First of all, you have to think clearly, whether the man around you is really important to the point that he will not marry, whether it is really worth you to stay away from your family for him, if your love is unforgettable to this point, then you should be selfish and stay bravely for your own happiness.

2. Secondly, the best of both worlds is to let the man provide money to your family every month under the premise that the man's economic conditions are good, so that you can not only stay at ease, but also give the family some help; If his economic conditions are average or low, and you are not sure whether you really love him, then you have to think about it, marriage is a lifelong thing, and you can't put marriage and family in a dilemma.

This is my opinion, please refer to, thank you.

What a good sister

Marriage is not the same thing as love. Love is about feelings, primarily spiritual. When it comes to choosing a marriage, the main consideration is the actual conditions and environment.

As a sister, you did it, but I feel like it's not over yet, although it's not easy for them to open up, but your obligations are not over After all, they haven't entered the society yet, and they are still relying on you, so they just left, it's really a bit anticlimactic, and it has an impact on the psychology of younger siblings.

As your lover, I think it has reached the point of getting engaged, and I believe that no matter the emotion, material and character, it should be no worse! You can study it with him and listen to his opinion.

Although your siblings can't be in your hands for the rest of their lives, I think they still rely on you before they enter society! If you have to go to Shandong, you can only pay your sister to finish college, and when the conditions on your side are good, let your younger brother be by your side for college, if the conditions are good, you will take them over and arrange for them to work and live, although it is a little too difficult for you, but there is no way, this is your responsibility and a commitment to your mother! If it were me, I would have done my best.

It can be seen that you love your boyfriend very much, and since you are hesitating, I believe that your affection for your relatives is very, very large in your heart. Otherwise, I wouldn't have bothered with this reason!

There are so many good men in the world, although it is not easy to meet a boyfriend like you know now in life?

I don't know how old you are, if you are still young, you can wait a few more years, and you are not in a hurry to get married (there are a lot of good men lining up behind), you can read it for your sister to finish it before it is too late, and now many people are in their 27s, 28s or even early 30s before getting married. Think about how inconvenient it is for your boyfriend's house to be so far away from your home now, and bear the grief-stricken cry when you parting with your younger siblings.

My suggestion is to wait.

Don't live for others, but live for yourself

Men are afraid of getting into the wrong business, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man!Husband, you must pick well, as for your family, you have to remember that what really wants to live with you for the rest of your life is that your husband is not your family, don't hinder your happiness because of anything anyone says!Your family is not wise either, they should bless you and should not put pressure on you anymore!

On the premise that you think your husband is someone you can trust, keep going!Even if it's wrong, it's my duty to do it without hesitation!I wish you happiness!

It's up to you to weigh which is more important!

If you think you're going to be happy with your boyfriend, then don't worry about it. You've done enough for them over the years, and you have to make your own decisions when it comes to relationships, and don't always think about them everywhere.

It's time to think about yourself, and don't always live for others.

I really admire what you have done for your brother and sister, if you think that your boyfriend cares about you and is a man worthy of your love, then you have to seize your own happiness, your brother and sister don't want you to marry so far and care about you, so you don't have to worry, see how you feel.

It's really wrong, you should help your dad, it's not easy for you to think about him, one person has to provide for two people to go to college, do you think love is really important?Most of them are weird in their hearts, in fact, you can also choose other people, not necessarily that you are good at your boyfriend first, it is really much better to find a boyfriend near home, my cousin is now married to a wife (from other places), originally very much in love, but now he treats (her) with a very indifferent attitude, (she wants to leave and does not stop her).

1. The difference between pre-marriage and post-marriage is that after the engagement, you have established a relationship and can be more free in front of both families! I won't be talked about! You can live together openly!

Don't be too nervous about meeting every day, my friend's parents and I have already met, just as an ordinary meal, it's best to invite a matchmaker if you have a matchmaker! 3.After the meeting, the man will go to the woman's house once before the end of the year to discuss the engagement, and what the two parties will talk about, such as the bride price.

By the end of the year, you should be ready to buy some engagement things, such as rings and clothes, because engagement also needs to change some image! What I said above is that the etiquette of our family is not as different as yours, I hope it can help you!

When a man and a woman are ready to join hands to form a family, of course, the engagement ceremony has no legal effect, but Wending is a tradition that has been practiced since ancient times, and it is also used to show respect and caution for marriage, so the engagement ceremony must be passed before marriage.

At the time of engagement, the parents of the man and the woman, the betrothed person, the introducer and the representatives of relatives and friends will hold the engagement ceremony at the agreed date and place agreed by the woman. The betrothed and the betrothed may exchange tokens with each other and, if necessary, make two copies of the engagement certificate; After getting engaged, you need to distribute candy cakes to your relatives and friends.

Items to be prepared by the man at the time of engagement: clothes, shoes, socks, necklaces, bracelets, rings, earrings and other gold jewelry for the woman. The bride price is agreed upon by both parties, and can be divided into two types: large employment and small employment, and the woman accepts small employment but not large employment.

The large bride price, for the purchase of dowry, is generally not accepted by the woman nowadays, and it is also stated that the dowry or the supplies needed for marriage when getting married, all prepared by the man, one is a small bride price, which is called "nursing money" in Hakka Village in the south of the province, and its intention is to dedicate it to the prospective mother-in-law and repay her nurturing grace. In the north, it is called "shirt money", and its intention is to buy clothes for the bride.

Gifts can be divided into gift boxes, gift cakes, flatbreads (a box of several catties prevailing in the south), winter melon sugar and ring cakes (prevailing in northern Taiwan), betel nut and rock sugar (prevailing in southern Taiwan) and other kinds of candy biscuits are combined with gift cakes and other kinds of 12 or 6 kinds, but each should be even. The number of gift boxes, cakes or flatbreads has been agreed with the woman through the introducer in advance, and if the residence of the man and woman is far away, it can also be converted into cash and ordered by the woman on behalf of the woman with the consent of both parties. In addition, two portions of gold, incense, candles, and cannons are prepared, and lotus banana taro, grain seeds, pig iron, charcoal, etc. are wrapped into a package.

The engagement banquet is usually invited by the woman, and the number of men in attendance, including the male betrothed, is selected as an even number of attendees, and the woman is given a thank you banquet ceremony. In the past, there were six so-called ceremonies, including the chef's ceremony (cooking ceremony), the serving ceremony (duanyi), the basin water ceremony (washing ceremony), the welcome and send-off reception ceremony (carrying ceremony), the rice ceremony (hairpin ceremony) and the tea ceremony.

The items that the woman needs to prepare are as follows:

The clothes, shoes, belts, purses, rings (tokens) and other items of the male betrothed are taken in an even number, and given to the man on the engagement day, which can also be converted into cash. If the bride price is not accepted, the bride price sent by the man shall be handed over to the introducer and returned to the man.

After the ring wearing ceremony, the man will pay homage to the ancestors with the wedding cakes and golden incense candlesticks, and collect the required portions, and return the remaining even boxes (6 or 12 boxes). and prepare an engagement banquet for the man's guests.