I wanted to get the certificate, but my boyfriend said he was afraid

How to prevent it psychologically, either don't go with him, or let go of things and go on, one thing is okay to say once or twice, mentioning too much is a harm to him to you, no one likes the wrong things they have done to be picked up and mentioned again and again, there are only two choices for this kind of thing, one is to no longer believe in him and leave him, one is to forgive him, believe in him, let him make up for his mistakes, you can't choose to forgive him but don't believe in him yet, so it will be very painful in the future.

It can be seen that he cares about you, because he has made mistakes, and you are tolerant and understanding, but he is afraid that you will bring up the old things again. I think you need to talk about it very thoroughly, so that everyone is comfortable. After receiving the certificate, being together is a lifelong thing. Don't keep the pimples!

Looks like it's your problem.

Men don't like wordy women.

As long as you change it well, it will be better.

If you still want to get divorced after you don't change your marriage, I suggest you don't get married for the time being.

After a year, half a year is talking.

If that's still the case, it's a bit of a hanging.

Wishing you happiness!

The main thing is that he doesn't dare to face it...

In fact, this is very normal, and your performance is a manifestation of marriage phobia, that is, you don't have enough self-confidence.

Some of the typical symptoms of premarital phobia, more than three prove that you have been shot.

In the past few years, with the growth of the post-90s, entering the society, and even getting married, the society has begun to enter the era of young people. Getting married is often a very happy thing, and it also means that the couple is starting to enter a new stage in life. However, for some brides, the upcoming married life and stress will have a certain impact on their physical and psychological feelings, which is often referred to as premarital phobia.

So what are the general manifestations of premarital phobia? Here are some common symptoms of premarital phobia, and I hope you will be aware of them.

1. Irritability, irritability, and anger Due to the uncertainty of future life and some potential pressure, many brides will feel anxious and irritable about these sudden changes, and often lose their temper with their fiancés because of some trivial things, and they will regret it afterwards, feeling as if they are too careful. However, they don't take the initiative to apologize, they are often taciturn, unwilling to talk too much, and feel depressed.

2. Lack of interest in anything, can't raise interest in anything, feels like I don't want to do a lot of things, always feels like there is a big stone in my heart, and I am about to run out of breath. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a daze, I feel tired, and I feel like a numb robot doing things, and I can't get things done efficiently.

3. Menstrual irregularities in the subconscious fear of marriage, as well as uncertainty about the future, will directly affect the condition of the body. The common symptoms are irregular work and rest, and feeling depressed, which can lead to menstrual problems for a long time.

4. Inexplicable rebellious psychology Many people think that rebellious psychology only appears in adolescence, but in fact, many people will also have rebellious psychology before marriage. The main behavior is to be dissatisfied with all kinds of things that my fiancé does, and I feel that my fiancé doesn't take himself to heart, and sometimes he keeps picking on him. The reason for this is that girls are worried that their married life will be constrained and hope for a stable and free marriage.

5. Insomnia and dreams at night When you feel depressed, it is often reflected in the quality of sleep. Many brides will think about a lot of things at night, can't sleep, and sometimes worry about the day, fantasizing about all kinds of problems that may be encountered in married life, which leads to a poor state the next day, which also affects the mood.

In fact, premarital phobia is also a very common situation, for premarital phobia, I think the most important thing is that both husband and wife can be considerate and tolerant of each other, as a husband should be able to understand his wife's nervousness, and do not easily fight with his wife. And the bride should also keep an open mind, talk more about her inner concerns and fears, and communicate with the other party. Finally, I wish all the newlyweds who enter the marriage hall can have a happy married life.

First, we must understand that premarital phobia must always be faced and solved, and we must not escape it, because people need a home that they can love each other.

Second, understand what you are afraid of, and think about how your life will change compared to before you were single, and what you need to learn about these changes. Many people are worried about getting along with their other half, and this needs to be carefully considered, the advantages and disadvantages of the other party, especially the shortcomings, because whether the two can go to the end is not whether they can continue to appreciate each other's advantages, but whether they can tolerate each other's shortcomings. This needs to be communicated with the other party, and both parties must be prepared to change.

Third, talk to your partner and tell him what she is worried about, and both parties will work it out. For example, what if you quarrel? It's normal to quarrel, but there have to be a few rules.

First, quarrels can't be cold, second, can't quarrel with parents, and third, we must talk about things and don't turn over old accounts... Also consider how you want to be kind to your parents. As for the shortcomings of both sides, everyone should think about it and how to correct it.

No one is perfect, and if you're as critical of yourself as you are about the other person, you'll be better off looking for someone.

Fourth, you can go to people who are not married, and people who are married, and ask them what they think about marriage. Find a more comprehensive one, such as finding a family where husband and wife get along harmoniously, and a family that is not harmonious, make a comparison, and learn from experience. If you see a lot of negative aspects of marriage, find more harmonious families and ask them.

Where there is light, there is darkness, there are many failed marriages, and there are many successful ones, how others live, does not mean that they will live like that, it depends on how the two operate.

Fifth, many people are unsure if the person they want to marry is the person they are looking for. This question is difficult to face, so just imagine, if the two separated, would you regret it? There is no regret medicine in the world, no matter what you choose, you have to go on.

The scenery is the most beautiful in your eyes, and the fantasy scenery = 0

Sixth, people are very selfish, love is also very selfish, no one is irrelevant to each other, no one is obliged to do this and that for themselves, so if the other party is willing to do something for you, please cherish it, and don't always feel that the other party has not done enough. This is the problem I faced, I always felt that my boyfriend didn't love me enough, and when everyone was about to break up, I remembered that he had done a lot too.

I'm about to get a certificate with my boyfriend, I should be a little afraid of this marriage, and I feel that I may be a little worried about what his boyfriend will have. Bad place.

Getting married is two people, and they have to face a family, and there are many unfamiliar faces, and it is normal to be afraid. I'm finally going to marry someone I love, I'm a little excited and can't wait, I wish you happiness!

Hahahaha, me too, I want to get the certificate quickly, but I'm afraid to get the certificate. I feel that if I get married, I will be responsible for my marriage, I can't escape, I don't have the freedom to fall in love when I get married, I have to come to this point anyway, otherwise there will be no result in love.

Before receiving the certificate, the girl has the initiative and can dump her boyfriend at any time. After receiving the certificate, the man has the initiative, after all, divorce has a great impact on women, and social values are so.

Because you are not confident enough in yourself and in him, after all, it is a lifetime thing. It's normal to be excited, to wander, to suffer from gains and losses.

Actually, it's fine, as long as you really like him.

It shows that you are a bit of a perfectionist and are not satisfied with your choice. I'm always afraid that I will choose this and miss that. In fact, there is not much difference between choosing one and living at home.

Happiness came too suddenly, and the problems that had been ignored before suddenly came to mind, and human beings were both expecting and fearing the unknown.

Premarital phobia is that you don't have enough confidence to prove that you really love him or he is you.

1.He is insecure about you, and if you don't get a license, she doesn't know if you're going to leave him, and he's not confident enough for you, maybe you're better than him.

2.It may be that the age of hearing will also lead to remembering to get the certificate.

Generally speaking, being in a hurry to get a certificate is a sign of insecurity, fear of accidents, fear of you changing your mind, lack of confidence in yourself and fear of a third party, etc.

It should be that I feel that love is too hard, I need too much flattery and flowers and gifts, and I want to settle down as soon as possible, and I don't want to lose your performance.

As a man, I find your boyfriend's behavior incomprehensible. Play casually, don't be responsible, you can change it casually after a long time.

You are a woman, and you don't want to get a certificate, I can't understand it.

The best promise a man can give you is marriage, hehe.

If you love him, get a certificate.

Because you have received the certificate, you are his person.

Even if he's flirting outside, don't worry about you losing it.

In this era when there are more men and fewer women, his parents at home are pressing, and he has no choice but to get a certificate for a random girl.

There is also the possibility that he was anxious about the view of physiological needs.

I'm afraid that you will leave him, you will have no sense of security, and you are better than him.

I've always felt that when you really want to spend your life with someone, you won't have too many entanglements in your heart, at most you have a little worry about your future life, but because you want to be with this person, you also have the confidence to spend it with the other person. Instead of hesitating or even panicking when the relationship is about to be confirmed. I've had a similar situation with this recently, but it didn't happen to me, but to a good friend of mine.

My friend's situation is very similar to yours, she also took her boyfriend home to meet her parents, and decided to go to get the certificate, and when she started to hesitate to get the certificate, I could hear her uneasiness between her words, but she didn't seem to be able to break the current situation. According to my own understanding, I think it is likely that the other party is not the best choice in her mind, but once she reaches the marriageable age, she will be anxious to marry herself, and it is very important that this object cannot give her love, and it is not so secure materially, both of them are ordinary wage earners, and they will have to buy a house and a car to raise children in the future, and the burden is still quite large.

Therefore, I think the reason why you feel scared at this critical moment of obtaining the certificate may be that the other party cannot give you future security, so you feel very uneasy. Or you are afraid that after going to a strange family in the future, you need to run in and give in too much, this kind of life makes you feel very depressed, you want to marry each other, but you don't want to change the current status quo too much. In short, the mind of a woman to be married is always very sensitive and changeable, if you really choose the other party, be brave.

This is a normal phenomenon of premarital fear, everyone will have more or less nervous and fearful emotions before marriage, which is a normal psychological reaction.

Marriage is a major event in everyone's life. From the moment you get married, you are no longer alone, but you have a significant other, and in the future, you will have your own family and have your own children. You need to worry about your children's food, drink, clothing, work, etc., which you can't encounter when you are alone.

When people face these unknown lives, they will feel nervous and fearful.

On the other hand, marriage is also very important for the individual. From the moment you get married, you no longer live alone, you need to face it with one person. You need to tolerate him, you need to solve problems together, so you can't always think about how you fit in and how you come.

So it's a very serious question, a question of nature. Therefore, you should learn to face the upcoming marriage calmly, no matter in the future, since two people are going to go together, they must go on unswervingly, what difficulties they have to solve, and don't worry about the uncertainty of the future, because what kind of suffering, people can bear it. He is ready to get married, ready to be a wife, and living a down-to-earth life is better than anything else.

There are many moments in life, accompanied by panic, anxiety and fear...Panicked and anxious and a little scared, but this mood comes down to attention and expectation!

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years, and I have a deep understanding of each other! I rely on him a lot, and I know that he loves me very much, cares about me a lot, and can give me a happy life.

You said you were going to get your certificate recently, but you're starting to get scared and anxious...It's not that you don't believe him, it's not that you're starting to doubt him, it's just that you feel panicked, and you always feel that you are not fully prepared, and you don't know if you can bear the "weight" of the marriage certificate.

Premarital anxiety disorder, eight out of ten women have this problem, anxiety and panic before getting the license, the whole person's nerves are collapsed, and everything is like having obsessive-compulsive disorder.

What's more, they will be suspicious, wondering if they are suitable for marriage, whether it is really time to get married...

These are all normal, this is also the performance of valuing marriage and valuing the marriage certificate, but after all, this emotion will have a certain negative impact on oneself and must be overcome.

It's not terrible to be afraid of being anxious before getting the certificate, but it's terrible to be in this state all the time and can't get out.

My suggestion is that it's okay to be moderately anxious, and it's okay to be appropriately scared because of attention! But what you should do more is to relax, think about how you should be a good wife after you get the license, and how to get along with your husband better...

If you really can't get out of this state, you have to talk to your boyfriend, ask him to help relieve your mood, and give yourself a reassurance!