Thank you, but my boyfriend and I both lived together and broke up a little

Updated on psychology 2024-02-09
19 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If your boyfriend's behavior is causing you a lot of pain, then you tell him!

    If you feel that it is not easy to establish a relationship for a year, and you don't want to end it just for an online dating, then please tell him!

    If you don't even know whether to trust him or not, tell him!

    When you tell your boyfriend what you think, I don't think you need to come up and find answers. Because what to do, he will tell you!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    You've only been with your boyfriend for 1 year, and my ex-girlfriend and I have been for 4 years, how's that? Haven't you gone with someone else yet? Human feelings are the most precious but the least believable.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I should have a good talk with him.

    If he still loves you, he'll take care of it.

    If I don't love you anymore, I don't have to force anything.

    Don't be sad to be with him.

    You started voluntarily.

    Don't regret it, and don't be too sad.

    There is no right or wrong in feelings, and there is no reluctance.

    If you love, you will stay, and if you don't love, you will separate.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It's connected to the same disease, and I feel so stupid, so it's not easy.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    In fact, everyone will experience sweet love and painful breakups in their lives. Heaven is not just unfair to you, you should learn to be strong and grow. In this way, you can get a more mature love.

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I'm in a similar situation to you, but I persuaded myself like this, you can't force you to keep what you should give up, what's yours is yours, no one can take it away, and you can't grab it if it's not yours.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Your first time was not given to him. If not, then it's better. If yes, then you will remember him for the rest of your life.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    You have to face all this well, since it happened, that is, the facts, cherish it well, and don't trust others too much!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    A lot of men are like that. If you want to open something, you still have to live.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    One, your parents are against you being together, and their attitude towards him is definitely not much better, which hurts his face. Otherwise it would be impossible for him to speak to your parents in front of you.

    Second, whoever is emotionally moved first in love loses first. It is you who take the initiative in this relationship, because of your initiative and your love, he is sure that you will not leave him, so he will never cherish this relationship carefully!

    Three, you are not married yet, you are so tired, if you get married in the future, will you be happy? The more your parents will feel sorry for you, how much they will hate him.

    Fourth, I didn't see what your question said he did for you? If he really loves you, instead of scolding your parents, try to change the impression your parents have of him.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The biggest sorrow of a woman is that she is not married and cohabited, and she breaks up after living together, this divorce is not much different, and I hope that the impact on life will not be too great.

    If you are not principled about getting along, weigh the next many years of life, if you can be together, the difference between 6 years old is five so. What the world wants is responsibility and family affection. Everything else is puffy clouds.

    If the other person does have little respect for you and your family, this is probably not good. It is advisable to talk patiently once. Decide again.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    is always telling everyone how to pursue, how to recover if there is a problem in the relationship, and often ignores another aspect of the relationship - taking the initiative to break up. Where there is an encounter, there is a ...... separationThere will always be a day when you break up with him, but if you live together, do you have the experience of never being able to say anything about breaking up? This time, I would like to introduce to you how to break up smoothly with the other person who lives together.

    1. Change the pace of life with the other person.

    The first way to break up with a cohabitant is to "change the pace of life". I've always adjusted my time to spend more time with each other, but now I feel ...... pain with each otherAt this time, work or friend dates are included in the calendar, and the pace of getting along with each other in the past is changed. If the more sensitive people may find out, if they don't realize it, they will also be constantly staggered because of each other's time, and then the topic of breakup may go smoothly.

    2. Make the other party hate.

    This method is the easiest way to break up with the other party, that is, to make the other party "hate you" because of the relationship, so you will avoid doing things that make the other party hate! If someone notices this, the other person will take the initiative to mention it and say, "Do you want to break up?" In addition, if the other party doesn't notice, they will naturally progress to the topic of breaking up because they hate you, and they can break up without arguing.

    3. Let's be honest.

    Stop beating around the bush and just say "I want to break up". This is also a way to break up smoothly with a cohabitant, but it also depends on the personality ...... the other personSometimes it doesn't go as smoothly as you think. Because of the relationship, so the other party's personality should be somewhat understood, if the other party is suitable for this method, it is recommended to use it!

    In addition, when talking about breakups, it is also important to find a third party to accompany you. When both parties are angry, if a third party who can calmly judge is present, the discussion can go smoothly......

    4. Leave the cohabitation place.

    To break up with the cohabitant, the ultimate means is to leave the cohabitation directly. If you don't plan to go back again, you can go back to your hometown or rent a new house. This method is only effective if the house in the cohabitation is rented in the name of the other party.

    On the other hand, if you are renting a house in your own name, you should live at a friend's house, or if you are renting a house for a longer period of time, consider renting a monthly apartment or a weekly apartment ......It's not bad to wait. If you move out of the cohabitation of two people, the other party will also react quite well, so it is recommended to discuss the breakup at this time!

    The above is a list of some ways to break up with a cohabitant. Dating is very simple, but breaking up requires a little effort Of course, there are successful breakups, but most of them are bad guys on one side, so if you want to break up, you must have the awareness that you may be a bad guy!

    Of course, it is really not easy to have an unforgettable relationship, and please do not make any requests to break up until you have thought it through thoroughly.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Since the apology must have been something you did to be sorry for him? If not, leave yourself a respectful word, emotional matters can not be forced, calm down first, if he doesn't look for you, explain that your fate can only be like this, you can only let go.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    People empathize and don't fall in love, you apologize and you won't look back, let it go, adjust your mentality to find your own happiness.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    I wonder why you apologized for breaking up with your boyfriend? It's all broken up, whether it's right or wrong, it's meaningless, apologizing can't alleviate anything, it can't change anything, and the point of mentioning the breakup is it yourself or your boyfriend?

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I want to say that it is best to break up now, although you have already lived with your boyfriend, but it is not too late, it is not suitable for people to divorce when they are married, so it is very appropriate for you to break up now, and it is very correct, first of all, I want to say that you are very smart, and found a lot of problems with your boyfriend in time, and also made the right choice, in fact, there is nothing suitable or inappropriate at all, you just have to follow your own ideas.

    I know, you must have broken up with your boyfriend now, but you still have some uncertainty in your heart, let me tell you, your idea is right, what you want to do is also right, although I am a man, but if I am a girl, and I have the same thing as you, I will have the same choice as you.

    That is to break up with your current boyfriend decisively, of course, there will be a lot of reluctance in your heart, but there is no way, now you have found a lot of problems in him, these problems must be unbearable for you, so, if you don't break up now, if you keep living with your boyfriend like this, it's not a problem, do you still want to marry him? It's not that I said, I found out all kinds of problems in your boyfriend now, and when you get married, you will find more problems, and then you have to choose divorce, so why don't you choose to break up now?

    Moreover, breaking up early is good for you and your boyfriend, so that you and your boyfriend will not waste too much time with each other, and you can continue to look for someone who is really suitable for you, this is the best choice, since you already know that he and you are not suitable, then there is no point in persevering, in the end, I want to say to you, don't have any psychological pressure, don't care too much about other people's opinions, just stick to your own ideas, and break up decisively if it's not suitable, which is normal.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    There's nothing unsuitable, you can get divorced when you get married, let alone just fall in love!

    Since he has so many problems, you don't have to wronged yourself to be with him. Why stay with him? If you don't serve, whoever you love will go, what if you get married?

    There are advantages and disadvantages to living together, the advantage is that you can see each other's true colors, and the disadvantage is that it may have a bad reputation when it is spread out.

    Girls, they all care more about reputation, even if the current society is very open, but people's minds are still not open enough. will always say that people are worthless behind their backs, and in the end, no one else can mix in the circle.

    However, even if you are afraid of being told by others, you must separate from someone who is not suitable. I'm not married yet, I'm still in love, and there are so many problems in living together, do you want to live in the future?

    At first glance, you know that you want to break up, but you don't know how to speak. It's just in love, there are not so many constraints, you can break up if you want to break up, you can be together if you want to be together, how can you have so many scruples?

    It's not too late to break up now, if there are problems, they can be dealt with, and if they wait until they get married, they may not be so chic. There may be no way to separate for many reasons, so you can only live like this.

    Really, falling in love and getting married is not a joke, break up immediately if there is something inappropriate, don't delay each other's youth. This kind of thing is really the sooner you break up, the better, why wait until the time you can't separate, and be miserable there?

    I'm glad I found out about my boyfriend's problems at this time, so I don't have to endure them later. Think about it, a breakup is not terrible, and there is no inappropriateness, everyone has to think about their future and future, isn't it?

    Even if you have a problem now, your boyfriend will want to break up with you.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    It's not suitable, no one is perfect, who can have no problem at all, it's not terrible to have a problem, as long as it can be changed, there is no problem. Don't be in a hurry to break up, if you find that each other has a problem, raise it in time, understand each other, and propose a solution to the problem, as long as he can change himself for you, such a person is the person you should love the most.

    When you first fell in love, your IQ was equal to zero, so you didn't find each other's shortcomings, only if you really lived together, it was possible to find each other's problems, and break up if there was a problem, this is not a solution to the problem, maybe every boyfriend you find will have problems of one kind or another, do you have to break up every time? In fact, you may also have problems that he is not used to, as long as each other is willing to change themselves for each other, you will be the happiest couple.

    The life of a single person suddenly becomes two people together, and there will definitely be some unexpected problems, solve this problem when you encounter it, and don't doubt your choice. You have to believe that you will all work hard for this family.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Love is originally suitable, if you are together, if you are not suitable, don't be together, and the prelude to marriage is love. If contradictions and problems are found in the love stage, then why bother to continue, do you want to let this incompatibility continue into the marriage, and it will be more troublesome at that time. In that way, the need for the existence of this stage of love will be lost, and this stage of love is originally to let people experience whether the two parties are suitable and whether they can enter the marriage in the relationship.

    Since I feel that it is not suitable after living with my boyfriend, and I have found a lot of problems, then I have to solve it, if it can't be solved and a consensus cannot be reached, then I can break up, and there is no such thing as being suitable or inappropriate. Cohabitation is actually similar to entering married life in advance, carrying out a marriage trial period, if something goes wrong during this period and wants to break up, it is still too late to cause any adverse consequences.

    There will be a lot of differences between cohabitation and independent living, after cohabitation, the life of the two people must be borne by one person, then at this time, if one party bears all the burden, it will feel pressure, and if both people share the point, it will reduce the conflict. In this process, it is easiest to find problems, at first they all lived alone, and there was a feeling that one person was full of food and the whole family was not hungry, but now there is one more person around, there are more things, and there are more considerations. If one of them is the shopkeeper, the problem will arise.

    Therefore, since the problem has been found in this period and feels that it is inappropriate, then you can propose to break up, don't feel inappropriate, and it is the biggest inappropriate to continue this mistake in the marriage. Therefore, you have to think about it clearly, whether the emergence of these problems will cause the two to not be able to enter the marriage, if you think it is, then there is nothing inappropriate to propose to break up.

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