What are the relationship disorders? What are the barriers to interpersonal communication?

Counseling for Interpersonal Disorders: Levels of Listening.

Learn to listen at a higher level.

Concentration: Chongqing Cuncaoxin Counseling believes that through non-verbal behaviors such as eye contact, a relaxed posture, a friendly facial expression, and a pleasant tone of voice, you will establish a positive atmosphere. If you are attentive, attentive, and relaxed, the other person will feel valued and safer.

Show interest in the other person's needs: You can show interest in the other person's needs by listening with understanding and mutual respect.

Listen with concern: Listen like a sounding board, allowing the speaker to test your opinions and emotions while feeling that you are presenting in a non-judgmental, non-judgmental manner. Don't ask many questions right away.

Constant questioning often gives the impression that the listener is suffering"Searoiled"。Act like a mirror: Feedback what you think the other person is thinking about at the time.

Summarize the speaker's content to confirm that you fully understood what he was saying. Timemobs has an empathy article in attachment theory that has a way to do this.

Avoid preconceived notions: This happens when you are invested with a personal attitude. Throwing yourself into an issue with a personal attitude often leads to feelings of anger and hurt, or makes you jump to conclusions prematurely and appear arbitrary.

Use colloquialism: Use simple sentences such as:"Ugh"、"Oh"、"I understand"、"Yes"or"Interesting"etc., to agree with the other party's statement. By saying"Let's hear it"、"We discuss and discuss"、"I'd like to hear your thoughts"or"I'm interested in what you're saying"etc., to encourage the speaker to talk more.

Following these principles will help you become a successful listener. Chongqing Cuncao Psychological Counseling reminds you to make it a habit to apply these principles on a daily basis and internalize them into your ability to listen, and you will be amazed at the results that come from it.

Participate in more group activities, find something meaningful to do, treat others sincerely, provide necessary help to others when they need it, and treat everyone around you with a friendly heart.

In work and life, we should pay attention to our self-cultivation and strive to overcome the following pathologies in interpersonal communication. 1.Inferiority complex:

Some people are prone to have an inferiority complex, and even look down on themselves, only know their shortcomings but do not know their strengths, are willing to live under others, lack the self-confidence they should have, and cannot give full play to their own advantages and specialties. People with an inferiority complex have no courage to act in social interactions, are accustomed to going along with the voice, and have no opinions of their own. If this mentality is not changed, over time, it may gradually wear down people's courage, courage and unique personality.

2.Cowardice: Mainly seen in people who are not deeply involved in the world, have shallow experience, are introverted, and are not good at rhetoric.

Cowardice can hinder the realization of one's plans and assumptions. Cowardice is a rope that binds thoughts and behaviors, and it should be cut off and discarded. 3.

Suspicion: People with suspicion often like to look at each other and look at external things with distrustful eyes, and every time they see what others are talking about, they think that others are saying bad things about themselves. People who are suspicious and jealous often chase after the wind and shadows, make extraneous branches, make irresponsible remarks, and provoke troubles, and the result can only be to seek troubles for themselves and harm others and themselves.

4.Rebelliousness: Some people like to raise the bar with others as a way to show that they are different.

For anything, no matter whether it is right or wrong, you say good and he says bad; You say one and he says two, you say that the pepper is very spicy, and he says it is not spicy. Rebellious psychology tends to blur the strict boundaries between right and wrong, and often makes people disgusted and disgusted. 5.

Exclusionary psychology: The existing knowledge, experience and way of thinking of human beings need to be constantly updated, otherwise it will lose its vitality and even produce side effects. Exclusionary mentality ignores this, and it manifests itself in the refusal to expand one's mind, prompting people to go around in circles in a small space that they enclose themselves.

6.Drama psychology: Some people regard making friends as a drama on the spot, often looking at Qin and Twilight, seeing different thoughts, and like to brag.

Some people think that the purpose of making friends is to "use each other", so they only make friends with people who are useful to them and can bring benefits to them, and often "cross the river and tear down the bridge". This kind of interpersonal psychology can damage one's personality. 8.

Apathy: Some people are indifferent to people and things that have nothing to do with them, and even mistakenly believe that harsh words, arrogant attitudes, and high-mindedness are their "personality", causing others to dare not approach them, thus losing more friends.

Interpersonal psychology** is a focus on depression and other issues that focus on the intersection of interpersonal dysfunction and psychiatric symptoms. The mentor helps clients identify and effectively make changes to their future social roles, improve current interpersonal relationships and communication, and help them identify possible future interpersonal dilemmas. There are 4 main aspects:

Unresolved grief, role reversals, role conflicts, and interpersonal deficiencies.

1. Grief: Some grief experiences that suffer from the loss of a loved one, usually in the emotional subordinate, these grief reactions do not lead to the onset of depression. However, when these sad reactions are not fully resolved, these sad feelings can trigger depression, which is mainly referred to as complex sadness.

2. Role conflict: A woman's social roles may include wife, mother, manager, sister, and daughter. Role conflicts can be caused by life events such as work, illness, getting old, financial stress, getting married, or becoming parents.

Role conflict affects the individual because the individual develops a sense of loss of control in the conflict, and repeated conflicts can make the individual helpless, or the conflict can cause the individual to feel hopeless, all of which can be sold to the point of reduced self-esteem.

3. Role evolution: It is usually accompanied by life events during the development stage of an individual's life, such as getting married, finding a new job or changing jobs, or having children. In the evolution of the role of marriage, while she agrees that she is single, she has to adapt to the role of a married person, and the worry or fear of not knowing where to go may also appear, and this feeling and evolution may lead to the emergence of emotions if it is difficult to cope.

4. Interpersonal deficits: Mainly for those individuals who have limited social contact or inappropriate and unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships. They are usually lonely and may feel very isolated and dissatisfied with their situation.

These individuals may have had some unresolved depressive symptoms in the past that interfered with the current relationship, leading to long-term relationship woes.

What are the causes of interpersonal communication disorders.

Cultural factor barriers.

Language barriers, such as misunderstandings, distortions, prejudices, and discrimination in the process of communication, such as language, writing, and meaningful symbols; Ethnicity or group is emotionally and ideologically inclined to problems.

Barriers to differences in educational attainment.

Social factor disorders.

Status and role barriers, such as differences in social status, role, position, age, economy, politics, etc.

Spatial distance barriers, the spatial distance between the two parties is too large, and there are too many links in the middle, which will inevitably hinder the establishment of interpersonal relationships.

Communication network disorders, the different communication networks formed by people in a group structure, can affect interpersonal communication due to various factors.

Individual factor disorders.

Personality structure disorders, differences in people's needs, motivations, habits, attitudes, values, outlook on life, etc.

Obstacles to personality traits, such as hypocrisy, apathy, withdrawal, suspicion, etc.

There are three main aspects of interpersonal communication disorders:

1) Cultural factor barriers: language barriers, such as misunderstanding, misinterpretation, prejudice, and discrimination in the process of communication, such as language, writing, and meaningful symbols; Ethnicity or group is emotionally and ideologically inclined to problems. Barriers to differences in educational attainment.

2) Social factor barriers: status and role barriers, such as the gap in social status, role, position, age, economy, politics, etc.; Spatial distance barriers, the spatial distance between the two parties is too large, and there are too many links in the middle, which will inevitably hinder the establishment of interpersonal relationships. Communication network disorders, the different communication networks formed by people in a group structure, can affect interpersonal communication due to various factors.

3) Individual factor disorders: personality structure disorders, differences in people's needs, motivations, habits, attitudes, values, outlook on life, etc.; Obstacles to personality traits, such as hypocrisy, apathy, withdrawal, suspicion, etc.

That is to say, sometimes interacting, you can't all follow yourself, sometimes you still think about him, but he has to understand and do it, if he doesn't understand the problem again, whether it's doing things or eating, drinking, and socializing, sometimes he will be unhappy if he says the wrong thing, and he has to explain, there are many factors and obstacles, and you will know after you get in touch.

Summary. Social anxiety disorder is a communicative phobia that increases vigilance when encountering an unfamiliar new social threat situation.

Social anxiety disorder is a communicative phobia that increases vigilance when confronted with an unfamiliar new social threat, and patients with this disorder are always in a state of anxiety, afraid of socializing with others, afraid of making a fool of themselves in front of others. Don't like to be in public places.

Socio-ethnic abyssion anxiety disorder is divided into general social disorder and specific social disorder. People with a general social disability, afraid of being the center of attention in the eyes of others, everywhere, you will feel that everyone around you is watching you, afraid of communicating with strangers, and even more afraid of eating in public places. I never dared to discuss and argue with anyone, and I didn't dare to defend my rights.

People with special social disorders are afraid of certain situations or situations. Quarrel and merge.

Therefore, when interpersonal barriers are encountered, they will be vigilant when encountering unfamiliar new social threat situations

Interpersonal barriers mainly include perceptual disorders, semantic disorders, and psychological barriers. Interpersonal communication disorders refer to interpersonal relationship disorders, which refer to all factors that hinder the establishment and maintenance of normal and good interpersonal relationships, and interpersonal communication is one of the important contents of people's social life.

The basic principles of interpersonal communication: the principle of respect, the principle of sincerity, the principle of tolerance, the principle of mutually beneficial cooperation, the principle of understanding, the principle of credit, the principle of equality.

Interpersonal communication promotes the deepening of self-understanding, interpersonal communication promotes the process of socialization, and interpersonal communication is the bridge to realize the value of life.

The basic principle of interpersonal communication is that interpersonal communication is always based on the cost value of both parties and realizes equivalent exchange.