Friends may only be shallow, not deep, right? Please, thank you

1. I hope you are selfless and generous, but you are selfish;

2, the negative energy is bursting, and the person who speaks ill of people behind his back all day may be stabbed one day;

3. If you want to have a deep relationship, regardless of your feelings, one set in front of you, and one set behind your back, you can't have deep friendship, and you feel that it is easy to be stabbed.

The more selfish people are, the more they demand selflessness from others!

If others can't make the slightest concession and accommodation for you, but they only ask you to unilaterally wronged and sacrificed, this kind of person must stay away in time, because if you are close to them, you will never get any gains in addition to suffering losses in your life!

But in addition, don't be the kind of person who is particularly stingy and stingy, and it is difficult to achieve any great climate if you are careful about everything.

People who are difficult to make a profit for the rest of their lives always like to "compete" on these three things. Why do you say that, you can see it!

1.Compete in what you give to others.

Wherever people have what they get, they have to give. People who only know how to get but don't know how to give, are selfish and narrow-minded by nature.

Moreover, everyone walks in society, sometimes you can take the initiative to show favor to others first, and in paying this kind of thing, take the initiative, be generous, and see the other party's reaction.

Generally, people who have normal three views and understand social principles and etiquette will be polite and reciprocal, and they will know that there is something to give back, and the relationship between the two sides will be long; And the kind of people who get cheap and sell well, and like to use moral kidnapping to force others to obediently and infinitely offer the benefits and benefits they want from social relationships according to their own ideas, are hypocrites and real villains, and remember to stay away.

But then again, the kind of person who always stares at the other party's contribution to others, carefully calculates and measures everything, especially cares about whether the other party's contribution is equal to his own side, and especially likes to compete, may be really difficult to make a big difference in this life.

The mind is too narrow, the vision is too shallow, and the energy is not big enough, and the limitations of life are considerable.

2.I don't want to suffer a loss, and I don't know how to back down.

The ancients often said that "suffering losses is blessings", which shows that people living in the world are really inevitable not to suffer losses. When you eat too much, you get used to it.

Once you get used to it, it will become a normal part of life.

If you have to say something beneficial about this self-deceptive life philosophy, it depends on whether you can sum up some lessons, logic and laws from the losses you have suffered.

If you can do this, you may encounter similar losses in the future, and you may immediately take a detour to avoid the traps set in front of you, and you will not repeat the mistakes of the past.

Why do people highly agree that "suffering is a blessing"? It's not because you encounter something, the price you pay for entanglement with it is far more troublesome than walking away and getting rid of it in time!

People with foresight, vision, and ability will weigh the pros and cons and priorities when something bad happens, and they will know how to give up those things that are not so important, even if they have a certain impact on their mood and interests, and then move to the places they care about and what is especially important to them.

When you reach a certain height, those who are not at the same level as you will no longer be able to find it difficult for you, which is a kind of success that kills two birds with one stone.

And people who are entangled in everything, don't want to suffer losses at all, and don't know how to back down when they encounter broken people and bad things, spend all their time and energy on these aspects, how can they have any spirit to do big things.

The following kinds of people can't have deep friendships, 1. People who always joke about your shortcomings and sprinkle salt on your wounds.

2. People who get along with you well on the surface, but talk about you everywhere behind the scenes. This kind of person can be seen everywhere, in their mouths, the secret of one second becomes public information the next second, praising you in front of people and saying bad things behind your back.

3. People who are full of negative energy from head to toe and complain everywhere they go. When you go out in a traffic jam, it's not because the weather is bad, or the driver's skills are not good, sometimes I really want to say: "Big brother, you complain every day, can you talk about some science."

4. People who go out to play together and always cause trouble and ruin the atmosphere. thinks he is a maverick, and he thinks he is majestic when he does something to make trouble, and he can't make friends like this.

5. People who only think about themselves and leave their partners at critical moments. Not only selfish, but also cowardly, when encountering some things that you can't handle, you will be used as a shield, and you can't exchange sincerity.

6. People who say one thing and do another. * Said to invite you to dinner, but you had to pay for going out to eat together; promised to wrap it up on him, but it never happened.

7. People who always think about taking advantage of you must not be a good person. If nothing else, from the point of view of his purpose, he treats your friend as a "profit harvester", *The classmates you have met double-click and like, and you will get new skills.

8. People who do not have a firm position. They may stand in line for you today, and tomorrow they may die for each other, and friends become enemies in minutes.

9. People who bully the soft and are afraid of the hard, love to bully others and dare not take responsibility. This kind of person will only bully and flatter, and will not tell you about the feelings of true brothers.

10. People who are addicted to drugs and gambling, unless they have changed their ways. Once addicted, not only will you lose your money, but you may also do things that violate morality and righteousness, and if the goal of borrowing money falls on you, it will be miserable.

11. People who can be ruthless for personal gain. Like the historical Yi Ya cook, Kai Fang and light mother, and erect Diao Zigong, they don't even care about themselves and their relatives for the sake of profit, how can they take care of you when they interact with him.

12. People who don't talk about feelings and are ungrateful. If you save his life, he will not only not thank you, but may also bite you back, and this is how the story of the farmer and the snake came about.

13. People who often change their faces. Flattering in front of superiors and bullying others in front of subordinates is not that they are bad, or they are too extreme and too changeable.

14. People who are acute and have a violent temper. I usually help him get a takeaway, and I call 5 ** in 10 minutes to ask me if I got it, and if I don't get it, I have to be scolded and criticized, how can I make a deep friend.

The three views are inconsistent.

The character is unreliable.

One set in front of you, one set behind your back.

Small-bellied chicken intestines.

Makes you don't feel like yourself....Doubt yourself and deny yourself.

can only be rich and rich.

Jumping around on your bottom line.

Look down on you.

Good luck in the new year!

In life, no one can be alone, and having three or five confidants and friends is undoubtedly a blessing for the front file.

Although it is easy to walk with more friends, some people are not worth making deep friends. Personally, I think that the following types of people are not able to have deep friendships:

The first category is no integrity and punctuality. If a person is full of lies, then his character is mostly problematic, he can lie to others, and he will lie to friends, it is difficult for you to figure out the bottom line of a person who has no integrity. In addition, punctuality is also an externalized manifestation of dishonesty.

Of course, we shouldn't be harsh, it's not punctual to be late or miss time for some reason, and if he is constantly unpunctual and finds a reason every time, it can almost be inferred that there is a problem with his integrity.

The second category is one set before the person and one set after the person. This kind of person is harmless to humans and animals on the surface, and only says good things to everyone, but behind the scenes, he likes to make bad things and often makes small reports. For such a two-faced person, you must stay away, in his eyes, there are no eternal friends, only eternal interests, and praising you and stepping on you is just a fool's errand.

The third category is no filial piety and no respect for parents. If a person is not filial to even his parents, then he must not have a deep friendship with him. Do you think that even the parents who gave birth to him and raised him can ignore it, which means that he does not have the most basic sense of gratitude, can he really be good to his friends?

There are also people who are very disrespectful to their parents, that is, the attitude of contempt in their bones, this kind of person is not allowed to have deep friendships, and he doesn't need a reason to betray you at all.

The fourth category, spoofs have no bottom line, and like to persuade friends who drive to drink. Some people always like to spoof at friends' parties, ostensibly trying to set off the atmosphere, but in fact, they are joking about other people's lives and health. At the wedding, he had the idea of being vulgar, and he forced others to get off the stage at the wine table, and if he didn't drink anything, he would look down on him.

This kind of person must not be deeply acquainted, and it is only a matter of time before something goes wrong with him.

When people really grow up, they will find that they can't have deep friendships with these kinds of people around them. If you have a deep relationship, it will not be good for yourself.

1. People who often have disputes in public cannot have deep friendships. Because these people's emotional intelligence is too low, they are very likely to have conflicts if they have too deep a relationship.

2. People who always like to pretend to be stupid and use an attitude that they don't understand to obtain benefits are often thoughtful. When encountering this kind of person, you must keep your distance, otherwise you will be pitted very miserably.

3. No matter what a person sees, he will sour two sentences first, which proves that his life has been unsatisfactory.

4. Be wary of people who are very enthusiastic about you when you meet for the first time, such people either have ulterior motives or are particularly lonely.

The former is to quickly gain your trust and set out valuable information; The latter is to get new friends, satisfy his desire to confide, and use it as a trash can for his emotions.

5. People with too sweet mouths can't have deep friendships. Because they are too familiar with human nature, they know too well how to use human nature.

6. People with different views can't have deep friendships.

When you feel that there are all kinds of conflicts with the people around you, the problem is not necessarily you, but that you have different views from them.

I had a graduate student who went to a factory after graduation and had all kinds of disagreements with his colleagues, but since he switched jobs to a listed company, nothing like this has happened.

7. People who say that good brothers don't talk about money, and that talking about money hurts their feelings actually cares about money the most;

He said that he would never let my good brother suffer from the loss of others, and he liked to take advantage of him the most.

People who settle accounts clearly at the beginning are most comfortable working together.

8. The worse the mix, the more they like to hurt their loved ones. An incompetent parent can blame her children, and an incompetent split-head husband will hurt his wife. Because they don't have the strength to stand up to their superiors.

A popular song "Friends" is popular all over the country, especially a large group of old men go to KTV, which is a must-order track. Among the lyrics: Friends, go together for a lifetime, those days, no more.

In a word, a lifetime, a lifetime of love A glass of wine. Friend, never alone. It is especially impressive and unforgettable.

So, what kind of friends can be deeply acquainted, and what kind of friends should not be deeply acquainted?

1. Those who keep their promises have deep friendships, and those who promise but find reasons to refute them are shallow.

A true friend, when you need help, will consider your own situation, do what you can, and will not give you promises arbitrarily. Even if you promise to do things, you will also be provided with a second plan, so that you can prepare with both hands, if I can't do it on my side, the other side is still possible. Some friends are different, at the beginning it was a package ticket.

But if you say one thing on your lips and do another thing behind your back, it's different. Because every time he promises to help you, he always gives up halfway. In the end, they will find reasons to shirk it, not to mention the delay, and make the losses even worse.

2. Don't talk about human feelings, but make deep friends; Everywhere you say that you owe others a favor, and you have to pay shallowly.

A true friend who doesn't talk about the favors you owe. Because he knows that the help you need is not his capital to show off, not to mention taking care of your difficulties and your dignity. When you meet such a friend, you should make deep friends.

And the person who often talks about personal affection is different, he will only show off, and will not take into account the feelings of his friends at all. All I think about is that I'm happy, and I don't know it, in all kinds of quick words. You've already hurt your friends deeply, so who dares to ask you to do things again?

3. Give you advice, but don't hit you, make deep friends; It will only blow water, and even hit you everywhere.

No matter when, where, or what kind of environment you are in, there will always be some advice for you. When you fail, he will lend a hand and pull you along; When you are successful and high, you ask him to give advice, and he will give it truthfully and will not ask for your benefits. It is rare to meet a confidant in life, and when you meet such a friend, you should try to maintain a relationship and make deep friends.

Some friends will only count you down and spit on you when you are at a low point; When you succeed, he will speak in your ear and greet you, and the person who gives you a trick behind your back should stay away. Such a person shall be shallow, and shall not be offended.

The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship of villains is sweet. True friends don't need to be in contact every day, because each has their own life, and it is not advisable to disturb too much. A true friend will only give him help in a timely manner when you need it, and will not exaggerate his promises to you.

A true friend always keeps a certain distance from you, never interferes with anything you do, and he will give you advice truthfully, just to keep you on your toes.