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If this happens, you can communicate openly and unfairly with your roommate, hoping that he will not always be like this, which will make other people particularly uncomfortable.
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In this case, it feels more like you can choose to treat others in the same way, so that he can also experience this feeling, or next time, you can also not pay, just when you inadvertently tell him that you were not ...... last time
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Personally, I feel that when you encounter this situation, you can treat others the way they do, that is, the next time you buy something, you don't pay for him to pay for it.
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I think that is a way to tell him directly, why don't you pay for it, and if I pay for it alone, you don't have to use these things anymore.
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I think you can clearly tell him that after all, you are not obliged to help him pay, and you must have your own principles and bottom line.
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At this time, you can't swallow your anger and tell him that everyone pays for it, and you don't pay for it, do you feel sorry to go, if you are sensible, you can understand.
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10 years ago, it seemed that I had the same idea, and the general environment was like this at that time, but now this environment is still like this, and it can only be said that it comes out of a small place, so you can just maintain this relationship, and there is no way to do it.
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What can I do, they may have poor family conditions, but there are a lot of brand-name clothes, and there are many kings, but what can I do if I have to find pirated copies of a stand-alone game.
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Summary. Hello, this is okay, of course, it is best to say it when the thing has not been opened or just used, if it has been used for a while, then it is better not to say it, so as not to mind the other party.
Hello, this is okay, of course, it is best to say it when the thing has not been opened or just used, if you have used the orange source for a while, then the most round and good is still cracked and blind not to say, so as not to mind the other party.
In terms of tone, try to use a joking and relaxed tone, don't be too serious, otherwise the other party will interpret it as if you don't want him to use it, and there will be opinions in private.
But what if they say they didn't ask you to pay for what they bought?
Have you used their things a lot before, if you use a lot, it is indeed not appropriate to ask them to pay together, after all, the exchange of gifts is right.
If the number of times is small, you can add that it will be divided equally between the two sides in the future.
Of course, this is a little embarrassing, and the better way is that you don't want them to use something that is suspicious of Zheng You can put it in a slightly hidden position, and they will naturally understand what you mean.
I want to shout that there are some things in the dormitory that the AA system is very good, and some people are not willing to pay for that Zheng Li's money, and they also said that they didn't ask you to pay for the things they bought before, and others can use them if they want to, but it also depends on the specific situation, some people don't care about the amount of money, but for some economic conditions that are not very good, just like me, it is easy to bear it evenly, and they don't think about it from the perspective of others.
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For dormitory life, a very common thing is to buy things on behalf of her, because many of her roommates in college are not like her roommates in middle school before, they will always be together in activities, go to class together and go back to the dormitory together. Then after arriving at the university, everyone will have their own ideas, some people like to stay in the dormitory, and some people like to run out of the dormitory every day, so the person who runs out of the dormitory naturally becomes the object of many people who have been staying in the dormitory.
They might ask the roommates to help bring some food or drinks or something. So you said that if this person is very conscious, maybe after telling you what to bring, he will estimate the money for you, then it is naturally very refreshing, and we are also willing to help, after all, it may be that you may also bring it to others by the way, and it is not a big deal, after all, it really doesn't matter if roommates help each other.
But some people will want to take advantage of them everywhere. He will deliberately feel that he has forgotten to pay you after you bring things back, so if you don't mention it to him, he won't give it to you at all. Then it may be a dozen or a few dollars each time, and we are embarrassed to ask him for it, but we will always remember in our hearts that this is not a question of the amount of money, but a question of your character.
So if my roommate does this kind of thing a lot, I will choose to reject him the next time he asks me to help again. It's not that I'm not helpful, it's that he's just trying to take advantage of me.
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Then you should be brave and don't buy it for her, after all, there is no free lunch in the world, so you can't go on like this forever, and it's your own who gets hurt like this, so you must make it clear.
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I definitely won't buy it for him. None of anyone's money is blown by the wind. It's not easy to make money. He doesn't respect you. Do you still need to be concerned about his feelings?
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If you encounter this situation and he doesn't give you money many times, I think you can just talk to him about whether you want to save face once, and he will definitely remember.
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"Not Refusing is a Disease" has this article in the psychological FM, you can understand it. Learning to say no is an art, learn it.
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I would refuse to buy her things, and tell him that my money is not easy to get, and for this kind of friend, I don't think it's okay not to make friends, but not to give to my ancestors.
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If you don't pay for buying something on your behalf, then you just tell him how much he owes you in total?
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You can also ask him to bring your things for you without giving you any money. If he asks better, settle all the previous accounts, and treat others in the same way.
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Then you just ask him for it, why don't you always say it?
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I feel that many times my roommate asks you to buy things for him, but he doesn't give you money, you can refuse his request.
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Ask him if he wants it, if he says he didn't buy it, or if you give it away, it's difficult to do, if you admit it, but say you don't have money, it's difficult for you to do it, and you can adapt to the situation, mainly depends on what your roommate says. Alas, the amount is not large, don't do it in the future, it's unclear, it's annoying, or you're ready to lose.
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So don't judge this kind of behavior categorically, it's actually nothing, don't bury the dormitory friendship because of these little things.
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First of all, there should always be a limit to what can be used, such as shower gel and shampoo, and I often take out the shower room in the dormitory and don't put it back, I think I should be too lazy to take it back to the cabinet in the university dormitory, right? I think this is already my own sharing behavior, when my roommate uses it, you will always know that you have used it through the unique shampoo and shower gel smell, but at this time, most of my hearts also feel that this is nothing, I can't suffer with my own loss, and I will use him when the time comes. But this situation is limited to the fact that he also has shower gel shampoo, and in this case, he uses my words, and I am happier in my heart, after all, I use you because I think your things are good, right?
And the other situation is that he doesn't have it for the time being but hasn't bought it, and to be honest, I'm up to him, after all, I'm still relatively broad. In my opinion, he just forgot to buy it. When he runs out of mine, he'll buy it, right?
After all, more than three years of college roommates, don't always think of his behavior as if he is used or not, so that he has an imbalance in his heart, and he is open-minded.
So, subject, look away, the instructions you can take out and use are not very important, they are more routine, so, think like me, don't mind!
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If you don't ask yourself, you will be regarded as a thief. That's how I understand it, anyway.
I used to meet this kind of roommate, who always likes to use my things, and she has said it several times, but it's still like that, it's like a dog can't change the habit of eating, it's hard to change!
Personally, I have a slight cleanliness habit, and I can't stand people using my things the most, and it's still the kind of thing that I use without knowing it, which is simply a test of my patience. One day, I went to the street to buy some new daily necessities and put them on the table, and then, a sudden **, I threw down my things and went out directly.
When I came back from work, I wanted to tidy up my belongings, and suddenly I found that there was a lot of things missing. Originally, there were only a few people in the dormitory, and at that time, I thought it might be that other roommates accidentally took it wrong and didn't take it to heart. So, I went looking for my belongings.
My so-called items are actually the shower gel I like to use, and usually, I am reluctant to use more, and the baby is very good.
When I found the shower gel in the bathroom, which had been turned on, I was messy. The bottle was crooked, the lid was half open, and I vaguely saw some liquid leaking out, and I, that distressed, hurriedly covered the shower gel, and then put it away. I'm angry, but I still have to keep smiling.
In the end, I caught the guy who used my things privately, and sure enough, it was her again, and she liked to do this kind of stealing and touching dogs, so I was so angry that I educated her well. What a bad habit, really!
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The roommate in the dormitory always uses your things, and she doesn't have no money to buy it, I think it may be because your relationship is better, she doesn't think there is any need to distinguish between you and me, if it's too serious, it seems that your relationship is too rusty and not so cordial, after all, you have to live together for four years! You can think of it this way that he uses your stuff to show that she can trust you and look up to you. I want to be able to communicate with you whether there is a mutual connection, as long as the so-called mutual use can establish interpersonal relationships between people.
Besides, you see that she always uses your things, but have you ever thought that in some ways maybe you have done something that she is not used to, and when she can tolerate you, should you gradually understand her? If you really want to calculate every penny, can you calculate these trivial things? So a lot of things don't need to be taken that seriously.
If you always use other people's things, just to take advantage of others, or if you think others use your things as others taking advantage of you, but if feelings are just a material exchange, then what kind of friendship can you talk about, and how can you talk about eternity? You always have to believe that all your efforts will one day be rewarded in a different way. You also have to cherish your friends more and don't worry about it because of a little bit of giving.
Just like in Cinderella, maybe the big pumpkin can also help. Therefore, in real life, we should be more tolerant, hospitable, and sincere with friends. Maybe that's the only way you'll get more sincere friendships.
Thinking about your relationship in the past four years, do you still care about these trivial things?
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Let's simply define this kind of behavior as "eating and drinking", in fact, you still have the behavior of rubbing, and feel sorry for you for ten seconds.
This kind of problem is really difficult to solve, because the other party is your roommate, and you live under the same roof every day, and sometimes it is normal to invite you to come and go. But roommates have been eating and drinking, that's really not good, everyone is a student, everyone lives a life of money given by their parents, sometimes it may not be enough to use the money on themselves, if you meet this kind of roommate, sometimes you have to pay the living expenses of two people, you say yes, so if this kind of thing goes on for too long, our own expenses are facing a huge challenge, or this person still doesn't know how to exchange gifts, then we have to make changes.
The first point is that you can tell your roommate directly, after all, they are all old acquaintances. It's nothing to say. The first time you don't have to hit the nail on the head, you can say something like "you should also pay for it, don't pick too much brother haha" This kind of ridicule is sometimes useful, In fact, some people are not like this by nature, some people actually see you too well, and don't care about these, sometimes you click on him, he understands that you know, so you can try, and then if it's useless, then you can be honest, tell him that you're not very good, everyone lives on their parents' money, You're only going to make me sad like this, so it's better for us to exchange courtesies, it's usually a little embarrassing to say this, but after a while you'll definitely get back together, of course, you still don't care about it a few times in a while, it's better for you to say it for a long time.
Second, you can unite your other roommates, I believe they should have the same problems as you, you can right, find a day and everyone get something to eat, so that only that person has nothing to eat, I believe that if he has a little face, he will know that he is embarrassed, so he will gradually change, and the happiness brought by sharing can be continued and infectious, and this should be the best way. If he doesn't eat this set, then you can tease him together, this person is too thick-skinned!!
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