What was the most frustrating thing about your time in college?

I think the saddest thing about getting along with people is the evil of the human heart. I want to get along with you with all my heart, but you are scheming against me. I think this is something that many people have encountered, you can't do anything about him, but he still does.

Since the development of human beings, the most incomprehensible thing is the human heart, which is also the greatest sorrow of this society. For the sake of fame and profit, even his family can be sold, and when he gets what he wants, he laments that he can never get back what he has lost, but he doesn't know that he has done all the evil things, but he is still begging for forgiveness. The greed of the human heart makes too many people lose themselves and hurt others.

Whenever I think of such a person, I feel a sense of disappointment.

I didn't go to the activities of the dormitory, at that time the game was crazy, the journey, Warcraft accompanied a lot of people, my roommate was also caught in it, often teamed up, played all night, I also fell into the abyss of the game, but I didn't dare to play with them They played the journey to charge money too much, and I didn't have money and felt that I couldn't be together, so I secretly went to play other free games, and when I was free, I could also go to the library to read books and newspapers.

In terms of communication, many people have a kind of conversation with everyone, but when they have difficulties, they all retreat. Academic problems, in junior high and high school, many people are excellent students in the eyes of teachers, but when they reach university, their grades generally decline.

Computers and level 6 have not been passed in one go. If you don't pass the exam once, it will affect your mentality, so that your future test results will not be very satisfactory.

Suddenly, I saw that the students who had been on a level had already obtained the teaching qualification certificate, and I thought that I had not passed level 4 yet. Another time I was chatting with another classmate, and she said that she would go to revision after the chat, and it was already after 11 o'clock. Of course, I'm not going to feel sorry for myself, so I'm trying to catch up.

When I first entered college, I was ostracized by my roommate because of low self-esteem, and I learned how to deal with interpersonal relationships in four years of college. As the saying goes, as long as there are setbacks, there will be achievements.

Relationships, especially women, have a lot of sensitive issues and often don't feel well understood, especially when there is a conflict of interest or when you are in a position of comparative advantage.

Changing irrational beliefs Psychological research has shown that it is not so much the frustration and conflict that causes strong frustration, but the perception of the frustration and the attitude adopted by the frustrated person.

After four years of college and four years of hard work, but in the end I didn't get a degree certificate, it's really miserable, and it can't be summed up in one sentence.

(1) Frustration in interpersonal relationships.

2) Frustration of emotional confusion.

3) Frustration of lack of interest in professional learning.

4) Frustration due to economic hardship.

5) self-negative cognitive frustration 1, the contradiction in interpersonal communication is more intense; Some college students have problems in personality characteristics or moral literacy, and they cannot correctly understand and correct them, resulting in not being accepted and welcomed by the group, unable to make close friends, and therefore closing themselves and isolating themselves, and their hearts are occupied by loneliness and anxiety, resulting in interpersonal frustration.

2. College students are in a special period of continuous emotional enrichment and maturity, and have very strong emotional needs, especially the desire for love and the need for family affection. However, college students' outlook on life and values are not yet fully mature, their ideological understanding has certain limitations, and they are easily confused by the influence of external trends of thought, and they are also the most emotionally fragile. Period.

3. As a result, college students are very blind when choosing majors, and even they can't clearly make a reasonable explanation of the majors they fill in. Some college students have to give up their ideal major in order to enter the university campus because of their low college entrance examination scores, choose the direction they don't like or be transferred to other majors when admitted, lack of learning motivation, easy to lose enthusiasm for learning, often in a state of passive learning, full of resistance and pressure, and then produce frustration in learning.

4. College students who have grown up in the market economy environment have undergone great changes in their values, pay great attention to the gains and losses of material interests, and believe that the amount of material wealth is the standard for measuring a person's advantages and disadvantages, and the psychology of comparing with each other is extremely serious.

5. Some college students are weak in resisting diseases because of their poor physical fitness, which causes certain psychological distress, and they are afraid of getting sick and cautious, but they are really sick due to psychological burden, which makes college students feel frustrated in a vicious circle.

Although the university is still campus life, it is a bridge between campus and society. So, the university is also a small society! It's easier to suffer setbacks!

1. Interpersonal frustrations. In the interaction between people, the intensification of contradictions in college life is more obvious! However, more college students have left the tense high school atmosphere due to the campus life of the new university, and there will be some problems in the social area because of their own personality characteristics or literacy.

If they have no way to recognize and correct in time, they will be particularly easy to offend others socially, so that they will not be welcomed by this group, and there is no way to get more intimate friends, so they will be self-closed and self-isolated, and in the long run, they will become more and more anxious, and all that remains in the interpersonal relationship is frustration.

2. Emotional frustration. Getting rid of the oppression of middle school, the relaxation of college campuses and the loneliness of being away from home will make college students feel more and more emotionally demanding!

In terms of family affection, it is easier to have conflicts with family members because of the continuous improvement of self-thought; In love, a short misunderstanding becomes the emotion of love, and the carriage and horse in the past were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime. Now? Lightning love and lightning breakups have made some parties who are not very quick to accept become less and less confident and emotionally vulnerable!

3. Frustration in the choice of major. In fact, children who are just preparing to go to college are confused! When you don't know anything, you have to make a choice about your future path!

It is really not easy to decide your future employment direction within a month after the college entrance examination! There are many children who don't like it at all when they choose a major, but they just think that the score may be appropriate, or they are automatically adjusted by the school!

I believe that such a situation is definitely not a minority! After entering the university, they found that they were not suitable, and the rejection of this major made them feel that learning was passive, and they had always studied very well, but they could not pass the exam, and the frustration in learning would be aggravated!

University may encounter many setbacks, big and small, but I hope that students can still maintain a good attitude to face them! Believe that no matter what kind of setbacks, they will pass! Embrace the sunshine and embrace the future!

Why College Students? I feel that middle school students also have such frustrations?!Why pinch?

I can't find a partner.,Fail.,Boring....

College students should face setbacks bravely, admit their failures, remember that failure is the mother of success, life is not a smooth sailing thing, if you can't even accept failure, you can't succeed. In this life, whether it is life, work, study or others, it is inevitable that we will encounter some setbacks, but we must face them and solve them, rather than let them go.

First, people will be very frustrated in the face of failure, and you should communicate with friends and family members about failure, so that you can relax your mood. In this way, you will feel a little better in the face of failure, and you will also understand that there are many people with you. People must have the courage to face the pain of reality, rather than being defeated in the face of reality, especially in the face of their own shortcomings.

Second, self-reflection, find the reason for your failure, and make a summary of yourself.

When recognizing and dealing with setbacks, learn to attribute them correctly.

Generally, there are two types: internal and external, and people who tend to external attribution often believe that their behavior is controlled by external forces; People who tend to internal attribution are accustomed to thinking that the outcome of their actions is controlled by internal forces.

Proper attribution is about analyzing it realistically and figuring out whether it's external, internal, or both.

In the face of setbacks, we must correctly assess our own ability, be confident in ourselves, and not lose confidence and sharpness due to setbacks. It's about finding out your strengths and strengths; At the same time, we should correctly recognize the advantages of others and learn from each other's strengths.

The third point is to have a mental estimate of one's own failure, psychological tolerance refers to the ability to actively and voluntarily get out of the situation and avoid psychological and behavioral disorders when encountering setbacks. After the goal is determined, we must be prepared for success or failure, with the "worst" preparation, we will invisibly enhance psychological endurance, and at the same time work hard in the direction of success, we can reduce blindness, passivity, and enhance initiative. In this way, even if you fail, you will have a psychological expectation, and you will not have too much sense of loss when you are disappointed, and you will not fall down.

Life inevitably encounters setbacks, and if we treat it correctly, then it can be our motivation to move forward, otherwise, it will seriously affect our lives. College students will encounter big and small setbacks in their study and life, so how should they face it?

First, treat setbacks with the right attitude

As the saying goes: attitude is everything. Many things are not as bad and difficult as you think, and when we look at a problem from a different mindset and perspective, you will feel that it is a bright place.

It's the same in the face of setbacks, you have to treat it with a good attitude, don't complain, deny yourself casually, and tell yourself a lot: what is this, I will do a good job after a few more contacts. And find the problem and prescribe the right medicine.

Second, vent appropriately in a reasonable way

Venting allows us to divert our attention elsewhere and is also an effective measure for self-protection and nurturing. It helps us release the anger in our body and makes us feel refreshed.

When I have a setback, I go for a run in the playground, I go to the library, I sit in a coffee shop, I feel the quiet atmosphere, or, I talk to my teacher, my best friends, and if it doesn't work, I eat and drink and get some sleep.

However, don't forget to vent in a reasonable way, after all, no one is your bag, and no one is willing to hurt your bad feelings.

3. Maintain good living habits and improve your abilities

Good living habits can make us more energetic to face the unsatisfactory in life, and a fulfilling life can also help us find the beauty in life, and it is easier to get out of the bad mood when we encounter unhappy things.

We also need to understand that the reason for the unsatisfactory in the world is because of our own lack of ability, so after we encounter setbacks, we need to constantly improve our ability, so as to improve our ability to face difficulties. Setbacks again and again will make us constantly brighten and polish ourselves. We must realize that setbacks are just a stepping stone on the road to success, difficulties are often accompanied by opportunities, when we face difficulties, maybe this is our opportunity, as long as we get through, we will usher in a better future.

Perform psychological tuning.

First, to improve the ability to bear, turn motivation into pressure, and improve the ability to withstand setbacks, we should start from establishing a reasonable understanding, take the initiative to put ourselves in a complex social environment to temper, often self-analysis, self-reflection, and self-motivation, so as to make ourselves more psychologically mature, and enhance the ability to withstand setbacks and resolve conflicts.

2. Confident, optimistic, humorous and cheerful. Since setbacks are inevitable in life, instead of enduring them painfully, it is better to accept them calmly and confidently and change them. Every exit in life is the entrance to another, and any success or failure is not only the end of one life, but also the beginning of another.

In the face of setbacks in life that cannot be changed, college students can give themselves enough time to heal, and when the time comes, they can forget the past and move forward to the future, and treat all kinds of difficulties encountered in life with a positive and optimistic attitude. College students can also develop their sense of humor and dissolve the stresses and frustrations in life in a light-hearted and happy way.

3. Positive autosuggestion. The impact of positive autosuggestion on a person's mental activity and behavior is significant. Comfort yourself when you fail:

When you get hit, think about it: I'm great, and the temporary low tide won't defeat me. In this way, you can relax yourself psychologically in time, and you can face difficulties with peace of mind.

You will overcome setbacks.

The manifestations of academic frustration of college students are:

1.Excessive anxiety. The inadaptability to university study and life can easily make college students overly anxious, impatient, restless, and nervous.

2.Stubbornness and behavior. This is often related to a lack of correct self-evaluation.

3.Suppress the ego. Prolonged depression is prone to psychological abnormalities.

4.Aggressive behavior. Common excesses include fighting, name-calling, and vandalism.

5.Interpersonal frustration: Some college students are not good at dealing with interpersonal conflicts in communication, and the relationship with dormitory classmates is very stiff; Some college students are not good at communicating with others, do not have a common language with their classmates, and feel lonely.

Some college students are overwhelmed by the complex interpersonal environment of the university, feel that everyone is hypocritical and selfish, and are afraid to interact with others.

6.Suicidal tendencies. is overly pessimistic, and even produces thoughts of misanthropy.

7.Employment setbacks: Some college students cannot evaluate themselves correctly, lack self-confidence, look ahead and backward, and have no opinions; Some are arrogant, blind and arrogant, and the result is not high, and the low is not enough; Some are blindly impulsive and one-sided, which can easily cause setbacks in employment.