Why self inflicted anger? Why do people get angry?

Why do people get angry? Can anger be suppressed? In three parts, this is.

Anger is a stress reflex behavior of self-protective consciousness formed by autonomic nerves, and the fear consciousness stimulated by animals in an uneasy environment forms a defensive response or warning behavior. Animals that are in fear because of an invasion of their territory will usually roar to warn the attacker, and if the attacker is not deterred, they will attack.

Like laughter, people get angry. But where does this "anger" come from? In life, people will have certain ** on their actions and results.

If the situation gets out of control and is not within the scope of one's expectations, people will feel "uneasy" or "panic". The defensive or warning response to "uneasy" or "panic" is expressed in the form of "anger".

When encountering things that do not go well, encountering unreasonable people, repeatedly being humble and reasonable, the object of oil and salt not entering, and being oppressed for a long time, with nowhere to release, being used by powerful forces, and bullied at will.

Anger is a primitive emotion, anger is not all a manifestation of incompetence, but also a primitive survival strategy, which can transform the situation in a self-favorable direction in the primitive confrontation and competition, and is an ancient biological mechanism, which has the necessity of existence.

Much of the anger stems from the discovery of one's own incompetence.

Anger is a manifestation that has its roots in attachment to the self. When we are dissatisfied with others, we usually don't see our own shortcomings. In daily life, learn more about others, do more things, give more to others, and don't be too self-centered.

Short-tempered and irritable is like an inner pile of flammable materials - "anger and annoyance", and a little spark in the outside world can easily cause a fire. The way of fire fighting, the emphasis is on ordinary prevention, and it is a last resort to save after the fire is really caused, and no matter how to save it, it will also cause great losses. The same goes for temper control, you can't wait until it's time to lose your temper, then it's too late.

Kung Fu requires continuous and deliberate efforts when the anger is not rising, and once or twice is not enough.

People are getting more and more angry because the human heart is becoming more and more fragile, less and less powerful, and cannot find a place to be safe. The strength of the heart must be obtained from tranquility, and the peace of mind is the true home of life.

There is a saying that "freedom, how many sins are done in the name of you", no matter how correct our starting point is, once it is mixed with hatred, what we end up creating is bad karma and defilement. Jealousy sounds beautiful, but under this label, we often become part of "evil" without knowing it. Because we are blinded by our troubles and our wisdom, it is difficult to see clearly what should really be destroyed, let alone the evil in our hearts.

A bodhisattva is a person who is truly "jealous of evil as hatred", who has the determination and courage to "thoroughly cleanse and eliminate evil" from all afflictions, and the object of purification is his own heart. Only by recognizing and removing the troubles in one's heart can we truly talk about helping others to subdue their troubles. The bodhisattva's goal in killing negative karmic afflictions is compassion and wisdom, not anger and struggle.

Resentment is a long-buried anger that accumulates in the body, usually in the same place in the body, boiling and devouring the body before finally causing illness. Therefore, suppressing and storing anger is not good for your health, now, please release your anger!

Many people grow up in families that are not allowed to show anger, especially women, who are often taught that you can't be angry, that being angry is a bad thing, that only parents or someone can be angry. Therefore, we accumulate anger instead of releasing it. It's time for us to understand that it's us who hold on to our anger and have nothing to do with anyone else.

In the same way that oysters accumulate calcite layer upon layer on top of the sand and eventually turn into beautiful pearls, we accumulate emotions over and over again to hurt ourselves, just like putting the same movie on our minds over and over again, and if we want to be free, if we want to get rid of these emotions, please go beyond them.

Anger is caused by a large amount of endocrine fluid such as adrenal hormones caused by a violent reaction of the nervous system, which in turn causes blood vessels to constrict and increase blood pressure. Rest time should be increased as much as possible, and attention should be paid to dietary adjustments, increased nutrition, and attention to health regimens.

Maybe it's the influence of external factors that makes you feel bad and get angry.

1. It is beyond the scope of psychological tolerance.

It's because things have touched a psychological defense.

Nowadays, people are under too much pressure and need to be released.

Many times it is easy to glass hearts.

Things that often seem to be the fuse are small.

But it was the emotions that had been pent up for a long time that exploded.

2. People's rights and individual consciousness are getting stronger and stronger.

Expressing anger is an act of defending one's own interests or rights.

Once the issue of individual interests or rights is touched.

It is easy to express anger and protect the individual.

3. People in society are becoming more and more shrewd, and being too kind is easy to be taken advantage of.

When we come into contact with more and more people, we suffer more and more losses.

It turns out that people who are moderately angry are not easy to be bullied, and they have more right to speak, don't think that if I am not angry, I am a kitten.

4. Physical reasons or genetics hahaha.

People with a strong liver are prone to anger and menopause.

In the girl's aunt period, there are a lot of nameless fires, you can eat more liver protection food or nutritional products, and the physical and mental world is so wonderful, but I am so irritable, this is not good!

Control your emotions and don't hurt the people around you with unwarranted anger.

Under what circumstances do people get angry? When things get out of the original setting, develop in a bad direction, and the ending is imperfect or completely failing, then the psychological defense line will collapse, people will start to be anxious, and this rout will make the behavior and language completely out of control.

People are becoming more and more prone to anger, and the essence is personal psychological sub-health, and parents are also very responsible for causing this unhealthy health. The material life of modern people is getting better and better, especially in the case of the two-child policy is not open, especially in these generations, there are only one or two children in each family, parents pamper their children, and even dote on them, providing the best material life for their children, eating, wearing and living are as best as possible, and they are always protected by the stubbornness in their children's life and learning. During this period of education, children almost grew up under the wings, did not receive any wind and rain, and when they stood under the sun and rain, they would feel the heat and cold, they began to bear silently, to reluctantly accept, to anxiety, avoidance, to resistance, they began to deny themselves, to reject others, and even finally to anger.

Anger at any time, like a powder keg that explodes at a moment, if this emotion is not well controlled, it is easy to ruin a person. It will destroy a person's self-confidence and dignity, as well as the trust and respect of others. Ruining one's own future also destroys the hope and happiness of a family.

There are many ways to relieve stress in life, you can communicate and communicate with others more, talk more about your heart, don't take everything to heart, bear it alone, or put aside the troubles, take a trip that is just on the go, and develop more hobbies is also a good way.

In short, remember to take a step back and open the sky, anger will not solve any problems, and only by embracing all rivers can we have a steady stream of vitality.

The negative arguments about anger are largely due to the fact that the living environment in today's society has changed dramatically, we no longer live in the rainforest, there are no natural predators in the cities, the social division of labor and commercial activities make it no longer necessary to hunt, and even the struggle within the race has a special department to govern it, so to speak, our civilization is now extremely advanced and completely out of the natural state.

Personally, I think what is more important is the cause of anger, every anger has a specific trigger, what is it that hurts your interests? Maybe you take some things more seriously than others, or even unreasonable, but sometimes others don't take your interests into account, so you still have to look at them separately. You have the right to be angry with the latter, and with the former, maybe you should look away and objectively examine whether your values are reasonable, whether what you value is not really that important, especially when compared to your relationships.

If you're upset that your angry behavior is too aggressive, such as yelling at someone for a trivial matter, then you need to quiet yourself for a while, not to restrain yourself, but to think about these things: Do I really want to hurt others, does hurting others solve the problem, do I want to hurt myself in the same way? Then look at the problem from the perspective of the victim, and when you see someone who is vulnerable, feel it more from their point of view.

In daily life, you should also look at things from the perspective of the people you come in contact with, and if you want to "what would I do if I were him", remember not to think "what would I do if I were him", but "if I were him", which is very subtle. In the long run, you will be more compassionate and less easily angered.

I think the more people are now.

The easier it is to get angry, there are several reasons.

First of all, the pressure on the human version is getting more and more powerful. Whether it's from career, study or family, there are countless pressures in all aspects. It bothers us every day, so people's emotions are very sensitive and can easily reach a critical point.

Then, when detonated, he becomes unusually angry. Over time, this irritable habit will slowly form.

Secondly, with the progress of modern civilization and social development, people's consciousness is also constantly changing. The enhancement of self-consciousness is more the pursuit of self-expression and the pursuit of freedom. Therefore, once something happens and he disagrees with something, due to the increase in self-awareness, he will inevitably express his different opinions, and thus generate anger when expressing his opinions.

Finally, the consciousness between people and strangers is gradually changing, and everyone has lost their trust in strangers. This sense of trust opens up the distance between people, and he is not so respectful of others, which leads to irritability and irritability.

It's because of the pressure of life and the environment.

First of all, there is the stress of life. The price of the country is in **, but the wage level is not up to the same**, we tend to be a little tight in some aspects, but after that, we are the first current situation, it seems a little powerless, because if we choose to start over, you will have to go to a new industry to face more cruel and more competition, such life pressure is very huge for everyone, so the competitive pressure in the same industry has also led to some troubles in our life, When these troubles reach a certain level, we will inevitably lose control of our emotions and will easily get angry.

Another is the living environment factor, the working environment will affect a person's mood, irregular living habits are easy to cause the body to overload, then people's emotions will develop in a bad direction, if you don't get a certain amount of relaxation, people will have a time of collapse, at this time people's emotions will become irritable and irritable.

For the above two reasons, anger is an instinctive reaction of the human body, and if there is a chance to relax after work, people's emotions will be controlled.

The formation of a person's personality that is prone to anger, anger, and temper tantrums has a certain connection with heredity. Some scientists have found through a large number of studies that people with high levels of norepinephrine in the human body tend to have more obvious mood swings. Of course, there are also some external factors, the most fundamental is that personal cultivation is not enough, and the lack of self-restraint ability.

Anger is an emotional state that can be divided into mild anger, intense anger, and violent anger according to the intensity. Like other emotions, anger comes with physiological changes: when a person is angry, the heart rate and blood pressure rise, and the levels of energy hormones and thyroid hormones increase.

In life, there are many reasons for anger, and everyone can't avoid angry emotions, and when they get angry, they want to get angry. Anger is a harmful emotional state that often causes unexpected troubles: such as a simmering relationship between a husband and wife, a distant relationship between friends, a feud between relatives, a strained relationship between colleagues, and so on.

So how do we control our emotions when we are angry?

When you encounter something unjust and the more you think about it, the more angry you become, it's better to throw it away first and find something to do. For example, go out for a walk, watch TV and movies, listen to **, find an interesting book to read. Of course, this approach is only a temporary measure, not a fundamental one, but it can have immediate results.

If you're always angry in a particular situation, let yourself delay it for a few seconds. For example, postpone the fire for 15 seconds, delay the next fire for 30 seconds, and then keep increasing the interval. Once you realize that you can postpone anger, you learn self-control.

If you are so angry that you can't control your emotions and feel that you have to start the fire right away, it is recommended that you take some "emergency" measures first, such as silently counting 1 to 10, a to z, or wrapping your tongue around your mouth a few times, etc. In short, try to make your words less gunpowder smelling of what you want to say.

Finally, remember: no matter how angry you are, don't do anything irreparable, as the saying goes, "Bear with it for a while, the wind is calm; Take a step back and open the sky. "We don't have to worry about small things, and we don't need to punish ourselves for the mistakes of others, we need to turn anger into a peaceful force and bloom a peaceful lily in life.