If parents prefer sons over daughters, how much harm will it do to girls?

Today, let's explore how much influence does the heavy man have, the girl?

Talking: "3 years old, 7 years old,", which is mainly based on the child's time. However, that heavy girl, the girl is growing, look what? Specifically, it can be summarized into the following four types.

1. Work hard to win.

In heavy family families, when the girl has a brother, after an impasse, she does not emphasize at home, the inner feeling of unfairness will be stronger. This difference is a popular discourse.

Therefore, the girl would compete with my brother's brother and finally formed a stronger personality.

2. Conceited. Girls who lack presence sensitivity often lack a sense of belonging and worth.

They usually leave their parents neglected and indifferent, thus falling into a state of self-rejection.

Often, self-rejection of girls is a typical manifestation of social avoidance.

Being able to ignore interactions with family members, the girl's self-denial saw them as naturally awkward, lacking personal appeal, and prone to rejection in social situations.

3. Rebellion. Another extreme performance of the girl who lacks the presence of sensitivity is: inverting it. Because they can't emphasize the regular life, they become anti-reflective, and they get attention by doing something.

4. Be careful.

Girls tend to ignore their rights, to empower others, and often to meet or fulfill others in the way they sacrifice their own needs.

They pay a lot of attention to what they think about their opinions and even get the right interest because from a small family environment tells them that once they don't fit their parents, they can't get the love and approval of their parents.

They live in the needs of others. They are afraid of failure, of mistakes, of going against their will. Because they know that once they have their own parents' thoughts, they will be cold and ignore them.

Therefore, this extreme fear and insecurity of this inner depth ultimately allows the girl to develop a prudent personality.

If the parents are patriarchal, it will find a lot of damage to the girl's self-esteem, and they will think that they are not taken seriously, they may do some abnormal things, they may play with some bad children, and they will feel unhappy in their future marriages.

My parents are also patriarchal, but my father still let me study my secondary school, and then 02 came out of Guangdong to work to help the family pay off debts, understandable, the girls in our village are also like this, help their parents, help their younger brothers and sisters with their schoolwork.

When I was 25 years old, my dad came home and told me I could have a boyfriend. But you still have to send money home on time every month.

When I was 27 years old, I asked me to leave my job and go home, and broke up with my boyfriend, the reason was that my boyfriend was too far away from home, and he couldn't take care of his mother's family, and wanted me to go home on a blind date.

Then, when I came to Guangdong to see me once, my mother's summary was that I was better off than my family, so why couldn't I take more money to help my family?

My husband and I worked long hours in order to repay the mortgage, when we changed jobs, sometimes our pockets were only 100 yuan, and there were 20 days before the next month's salary.

There are many times when I have been unspoken in the workplace and want me to leave my job, but I gritted my teeth and persevered, until Mr. 1 year later, Mr.'s job was stable, and I left that company and threw myself into the army of job hunting! Because of the mortgage repayment and job change, the manual money in the past 3 years is tight, and I didn't give money to Aili, and my mother said that I was not filial when I went home during the Spring Festival!

Now I can't go back to my parents' house, I won't go back, there is no warmth I want, the things and items in my room have been given away by my mother, and the traces of my growth are slowly blurred! My heart is cold!!

Patriarchal parents feel that their daughters are useless from an early age, so that their daughters are deprived of food and clothing, do not provide adequate education, are emotionally indifferent to their daughters, and even wantonly hurt their daughters. And when the daughter grows up to make money, she keeps asking her daughter for "returns", if you are unfortunate enough to be in a patriarchal family, you must love yourself first. Like me, I will have a shadow for the rest of my life, and I am afraid that others will treat me badly, so I always do a lot of it.

My husband's family has 8 siblings, parents and grandmother are very patriarchal, resulting in my husband's sisters and sisters not reading or reading very little, and their view is that no matter how much girls study, they are from other people's families. It is not good for sisters and sisters to marry because they have no education, and their children are not good at living. On the contrary, he doted on his son very much, resulting in an elder brother who was 60 years old and couldn't get a daughter-in-law, and his reputation was very poor.

This question has always been a question I want to dodge and a sore spot for me! Because I have experienced first-hand the abandonment of sons over daughters by their parents! From the time I was born, my parents saw me as a girl and chose to give up on me at the first time!

It was given to my current adoptive parents, so much so that I now have a psychological shadow.

I remember when I was a child, one day, my younger brother said to me, "I know the password of our bank card!" "Then we got into a fight, went to Mom and Dad, and asked why my brother knew, but I didn't, and Dad blamed Mom

Tell you not to say, you see! "At that time, there was no concept of patriarchy, but I knew that I was treated unequally.

I have an older sister whose home is in the coastal areas of Jiangsu and Zhejiang. I have been vaguely aware of the patriarchal nature since I was a child. For example, when I was 10 years old, we might think that 10 years old was a hurdle, and we should celebrate it with a drink when we are 10 years old.

But I remember very well that my sister definitely didn't have a drink on her 10th birthday, but I did. Seeing her, it always gives people a feeling of being sullen and not talking.

I heard that when I was born, my grandmother heard that it was a girl, so she turned around and went home. My biological father also didn't like me, I said in one of my answers, he was doing welding and his eyes flashed with strong light, and his eyes hurt, so he asked me to go to the kitchen when I was about three years old to cut potatoes for him and put them on his eyes, I wouldn't, so he scolded me. ‍‍

It hurts a lot, I feel that I am very lacking in love, I am very eager to be loved by my parents, I am cared for by my parents, of course, this is what I hoped when I was a child, when my parents are old when I grow up, we need us to love, but we can't love it, we force ourselves to love, buy them this and buy that, give them some pocket flowers, but the feeling is always faint. ‍‍

1. Make girls too inferior.

As long as the patriarchal ideology in a family is serious, then girls are hurt the most, they lack the love they should have since childhood, and they grow up in an environment of being disliked and scolded, they will be prone to negative emotions, full of disappointment in life, and will feel inferior and lonely in their hearts, affecting their normal life.

If it is severe, it will be easy to get depression, thinking that life has no meaning with her, and the thought of suicide will arise in your mind.

2. Children are easy to rebel.

Living in an environment of inferiority complex, the child's psychology is more likely to be sensitive, because of the lack of security, the lack of corresponding love, the heart will be easy to oppose adults, spoil the boy, think that the boy will be more promising in the future, but often the opposite, too much pampering the boy, then the boy will take it for granted.

When it comes to the boy's rebellious period, it will become out of control, and the girl will be jealous because of the lack of love, and it is unimaginable to reach the rebellious period.

3. The dignity of children is difficult to exist, and they look down on themselves.

Growing up in a patriarchal environment will make children feel that they are nothing, and they will appear lonely in interpersonal interactions, not because children don't want to make friends, but because children tend to look down on themselves and are too introverted, so they don't want to communicate too much with more people.

Such a concept is also easy to make children feel fearful in their hearts, without dignity, and will make children have no confidence, but will be more likely to be bullied by others.

4. It is easy to fall in love and cling to others.

It's easy to fall in love, and it's hard to get close to your friends! Because I don't have a sense of existence at home, I hope to get married and leave home as soon as possible through early love. Because I am not close to my parents, I don't dare or know how to establish a deep intimacy with my friends. Deep down is always self-wrapping!

Because of the lack of love, lack of money and security, the perception of love is incomplete. So desperately trying to please their parents, hoping to be affirmed. Because of the lack of love, low self-esteem has always accompanied growth. This kind of girl's superficial strength can't hide her inferiority.

5. More lonely in the heart.

Although he is a member of the family, he is always the one who is always ignored, and his parents do not react much to his progress, and the boy's slight progress is very happy. This can make the girl feel even more lonely. Parents bring gifts outside and give boys a lot more than girls, which will make girls feel more unfair, and this unfairness will be untold, and it will slowly make girls feel more lonely, even when they grow up, this psychology is difficult to change.

Girls living in such a family will also lack love, and she will find ways to make up for her lack of parts in society, and it is easy to have no sense of boundaries in the relationship, constantly pay for others, or form an unhealthy value system.

The damage is severe.

ruined a lot of girls, because many girls grow up in such families with low self-esteem and can't feel the love of their parents.

Preference for sons over daughters is widespread in many rural areas. It is because of the patriarchal preference of their parents that many girls have few opportunities to receive education, and even enter the society early and start a family. This has also ruined the lives of many girls.

Patriarchy is very detrimental to the healthy growth of children, many girls with the pain of the original family, in the study and life are greatly affected, do not like to communicate with people, let alone go home to face, in the long run, psychological depression, extreme psychology.

If the phenomenon of patriarchal preference is very serious, it is also very likely to affect the child's life, so I hope that parents can manage their own behavior. We must know that it does not mean that girls must be unproductive, and it does not mean that boys will be able to promiscuously, so the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is a very wrong behavior for children.

We need to know that whether it is a boy or a girl, it is a child born of ourselves. What qualifications do we have to favor sons over girls, and it will also have a very serious impact on children, so we should use the right way to educate our children, whether it is a boy or a girl, or a girl is our baby, we should use an equal mentality to educate our children. Whether it is a boy or a girl, this is born from our womb, so we must treat our children with a normal mentality, and don't always behave like patriarchs.

Otherwise, it will make the child feel very sad and difficult to accept.

If parents are too patriarchal, then it will lead to children being influenced by their parents from an early age, and patriarchy will cause our sons to become unsightly, resulting in our sons being very annoying. And it will also cause our daughter to become very unloved, causing our daughter to hate her parents very much.

When we give birth to a child, we should understand that whether it is a man or a woman, it is our own child, and we have no right to dislike our own child, nor do we have any right to hate our own child. In today's society, there are also many strong women, so I also hope that parents can face this matter correctly.

It has a great impact on the child, because it is likely to affect the child's personality, cause the child to have a rebellious psychology, and may also lead to the child not having a very correct three views, which will lead to the child's lack of love, and will lead to the child's very insecure security, which is not conducive to the child's future development and growth.

This is very bad for the growth of children, it will make boys become very willful, girls become very inferior, and even girls are reluctant to go back to their parents' homes when they grow up, which will make girls' hearts more depressed, and even marry into the man's family will not have a good opinion.

It will affect the child's development, will affect the child's thinking, will also bring some misdirection to the child, will also affect the child's mood, affect the child's personality, and will cause greater pressure to the child.

It will make the child become particularly inferior, and it will also make the child have the psychology of comparison, so that the child does not dare to say his thoughts, which will make the child have conflicts with others, and in serious cases, it will lead to the child's suicide.