How do you feel when you re in your thirties and still haven t gotten married

The biggest feeling is: living a life rather than life, has been in a high degree of self-discipline, last night running thinking, taking advantage of these years of single self-discipline, calm down to be yourself, first become a firm, interesting, bright boy, work and rest rules: get up at half past 5 to practice European sports, learn MOOC, practice American drama after work, learn English.

I love running: walking, night running, participating in international marathons every year, I like this kind of free life very much.

Feeling broken jars, the mentality is suddenly stable, anyway, this volume of life, since the question of marriage can't be answered, then I have to get full marks for the rest, so the experience is, as the question of marriage does not exist, I love to toss and toss, often uninhibited, intermittently study hard, I don't envy those friends and colleagues who got married early, I always think that I can play for a few more years, and I don't want to be constrained by marriage and family at all. ‍‍

I used to be a delicate girl, but I was very down-to-earth at the beginning of 18, learning to live, I used to run all over the world during the summer vacation, and now I don't want to go, I want to accompany my parents more, cook for them, take a walk with them, read books when I'm idle, learn more things, learn handicrafts, and learn dance. Now that I'm in my 30s, I haven't thought about finding another person to live with, I really don't have confidence in love, I don't have confidence in myself, and love is impotent.

In short, it is very lonely, although my family is also very concerned about me, and there is a dog that has been with me for more than ten years, but I feel very lonely, the kind that spreads in my heart, sometimes I will shed tears when I think about it, there is no goal, there is no motivation, I feel that no one has shared this long life with me, and no one has been with me as a companion.

This year is about to be 30, to be honest, you still have to think about what you want, don't enter the marriage hastily because of age, it's miserable, it feels like picking up a layer of skin. After experiencing this experience, I deeply realized that how old you are does not represent whether a person is mature or not, and it cannot represent whether two people are suitable. What about 30 years old?

What about getting married or not? Do whatever you want, don't shackle yourself, and don't let yourself be shackled.

I'm 82 years old, 36 years old this year, I have no thoughts and plans to get married, I have decided not to marry for life, I once madly liked a girl who was five years younger than me, we have known each other for ten years, and have been together for two years, she has brought me many, many memories that move and miss me, and I also try my best to express my feelings in the way I can imagine, but the only relationship in half my life clearly shows that I am a person who is not suitable for love, which greatly affects my view of love.

There is only the feeling that should be married, and there is no age that should be married. In the past, now and in the future, I will always be an emotionally oriented person, which cannot be changed, as if it is something in the genes, innate. If I can't meet the right person, I'd rather die alone than waste my beautiful life in a loveless marriage, which has nothing to do with age.

At the age of 33, it was an unbearable year, and in August I experienced a breakup that hurt me deeply, and I felt that I might not love again in my life, because it was too hurtful to talk about feelings, but that would be in addition to no love, I still lived very happily, and every day I went home to tease the cat to accompany my mother to visit the supermarket and accompany my father to drink a little wine, so I didn't feel that there was anything wrong with life without love.

Clause. 1. Make money and buy a house.

The ancients had a good saying: without the plane tree, you can't attract the golden phoenix.

I have a male friend from an average family. The matchmaker introduced him to the object, but the woman did not agree because of family conditions, appearance, and other reasons.

He's getting older and can't gnaw on his parents, what should he do? You can only rely on yourself. Make money, buy a house. The second year after the house was bought, the girlfriend was found, and now the child is 9 years old.

A man can earn money to buy a house on his own, which means that he has the ability to make money. It is also first-class for women to buy houses and make money to support their families.

Clause. 2. Tell others that you are single, you are looking for a partner, and you have a suitable introduction.

Nowadays, because of work, everyone has a small social circle.

If you tell your friends and relatives that you want to find a boyfriend (or woman), they will introduce you with half the effort.

For example: the little girl is twenty-eight years old (this is really 28 years old) and has not been married to anyone. Brothers and sisters, if you have a suitable one, introduce me to one. My condition is ......, looking for such a ......If the conditions are clear, it is easy for others to introduce you to someone.

Clause. 3. Do your job well!

That's the very least, and if you're good, you'll stand out in your job. Then your colleagues or friends will think that you have something to do and are capable. Marry you, there will be a sense of security.

Imagine, a person can afford to take the job, but can't let it go; With a person who can afford to take the job and put it down, which one is more reassuring.

Now there is a relatively fixed, high-paying job, which will definitely be a plus for you in your search for someone.

Clause. Fourth, sell yourself, especially your own external and internal cultivation.

Cultivation is not visible to ordinary people, but you have to show your cultivation in front of your friends or relatives.

For example: Dress cleanly and appropriately. The house was neatly cleaned and clean. Then friends may think that after marrying you, you are a diligent person.

Clause. Fifth, cast a wide net and focus on fishing. You can marry yourself!

Now that the Internet is so developed, you can use the Internet to find a marriage partner.

Many people leave their mate selection conditions, their own coordinates, and their age below. There are really a lot of replies. With more than 300,000 reads, if you do, the chances of others seeing you are also great.

Under this article, you can also ask yourself for marriage. Now write down your coordinates, occupation, age, etc.

Or join an online community and get yourself married. As long as you want, there will always be a way. As long as you do it, the odds will be greater.

In short, those who are over thirty years old and have not yet married, in addition to their own efforts, must also promote themselves and seek marriage for themselves.

More than 30 years old is a more embarrassing age, this age is not married, in fact, it seems that there are a lot of people now, women in their 30s, may have missed many people in a trance, or did not pay attention to some people around them, and missed.

In fact, many of the remaining girls are relatively good boys, so they should take the initiative to go out! In this way, you will meet the right people, and of course, it is more important to change your thinking and behavior.

However, men and women living in the city have a little fear of getting married, which makes them not very eager to get married, resulting in many people in their 30s and not yet having a family. But why is this happening? This has to be analyzed from many aspects.

Whether it is now or in the past, we can see such a phenomenon: children who drop out of school in rural areas, in addition to working, will quickly decide their lifelong events. This is because they are exposed to society earlier than those who go to school, but society has reduced the possibilities for them, so they have to choose to start a family first.

But in today's information age, many people have ingested a lot of knowledge, so they will have a lot more choices, and there is no need to start a family first.

Clause. Second, the dazzling outside world makes us greedy, and starting a family has become a bondage.

Marriage represents a family responsibility on oneself, and all one's words and deeds are invisibly constrained, and even many occasions are not suitable for them. But being single does not have so many constraints, and now the Internet makes people see a different world, so naturally there will be many people eager to contact the outside world. Who will get married at this time?

After all, chasing represents that you may give up the opportunity to open your eyes.

Clause. Third, the independent thinking is deeply rooted and the quality of life is improved.

Whether we work or start a family, we have only one motivation: to improve our quality of life. Nowadays, many office workers have become accustomed to the mode of being alone and are quite satisfied with their quality of life.

Since they can achieve their own satisfying life by living alone, why should they get married? After all, marriage involves two families, which makes many people afraid of getting married.

Clause. Fourth, marriage has too high requirements for material and money.

Everyone knows that the thing that must be experienced before marriage is the bride price and dowry, which is a big burden for an ordinary family, after all, the bride price and dowry are not a small amount. What's more, the premise of many people getting married now is that they must have a house, but the current housing prices are not affordable for ordinary people.

Therefore, many people think that they do not have the financial ability to start a family at present, so they would rather be single.

In fact, late marriage is not only a major phenomenon in China, but also gradually appears in other countries, because people nowadays are still very independent economically, and their thinking and imagination are also quite advanced, and there is no need to depend on anyone to live.

And their quality of life is not low, there is no need to live with the other half before they can have a qualitative leap in their quality of life. Therefore, late marriage is not because girls have too high requirements for men, nor because boys are not capable enough, but because everyone has different pursuits and requirements for life. Marriage is not something that everyone has to go through in their life, if marriage makes you happy, then get married and vice versa.

An important reason why many young people often choose to have children after they are 30 years old, or simply choose not to have children, is that they think that if they can't provide good conditions for their children, then they won't choose to have children or won't choose to have multiple children.

First of all, we should make it clear that we have children, not expect to change our future life by having more children, expect our children to be able to bring much change to our lives, we choose to have children in order to be able to better participate in the growth process of children, and to feel happiness and joy through the growth of children, therefore, from this point of view, choosing to have a child or to have multiple children, or even not to have children, it all depends on your own reality, There is no need to blindly follow the trend, when your economic conditions are not very good, and you can not bring better growth conditions and a better life to your children, then it is understandable to choose not to have children in this case, after all, parents should also have a certain sense of responsibility.

On the other hand, when their personal conditions are more permissible and possessed, it is also a good thing to choose more children moderately, after all, to be able to let their children not be too lonely in the process of growing up, but also to make themselves feel prosperous, and if they have multiple children, relatively speaking, they will feel more family affection for children in the process of growing up, but we must always realize that one of the most important premises is that we must take into account our own reality. This practical and economic aspect also includes personal energy, as well as the personal wishes of both spouses.

Much more. I'm 36 and I'm still a single dog.

Nowadays, many young people who have not married at the age of 30 abound, and there are many reasons: conceptual problems, and reluctance to get married. Under financial pressure, he did not dare to get married. Reasons for work, not having a marriage partner, etc.

Perception problem, don't want to get married: Influenced by many wrong views of marriage in society, celibacy harms, hedonism is rampant, and they think that they can live faster without marriage. Being alone, without the pressure of life, free, thinking of **go**, one person is full and the whole family is not hungry, how many troubles are saved.

In the past, marriage was for a better life, but now you can live a better life if you don't get married, so why get married? In the past, marriage was mostly due to the pressure of parents, and it was passed on to the next generation, but now this concept has fundamentally changed, and parents no longer care so much about these, and they can't control the street talk of some irrelevant people in society, and they can live a chic and happy life alone.

The economic pressure is high and they dare not get married: young people marry late, not because they don't want to get married early, but because the economic pressure is too great, and getting married means buying a house and a car, and they have to ask for a large bride price. Organizing a wedding and hosting a banquet requires a large amount of expenses, and in such a situation, as a young boy, just graduated from Yinjing, or has just been employed, without the support of his parents, it is almost impossible to hope for marriage.

Normally, I am going to get married, the family conditions are better, relying on the support of my parents, I can barely give a down payment for a house and a loan for a car, however, after marriage, Feng Heng's living expenses are getting more and more day by day, and they are getting bigger and bigger day by day, I can't count on my parents forever, the loan has to be repaid, the milk powder has to be bought, and the life can't be lived.

Work reasons, no one gets married: many people get married late, out of helplessness, due to the work environment and the nature of the work, there are too few people of the opposite sex around, there is no object to fall in love, plus the work is too busy, there is no time to fall in love, there are no friends, where is the marriage partner? In the end, I can only rely on the push of my parents, relatives and friends, and fall in love on a blind date, and I have no choice but to postpone love and marriage.