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Let students learn to manage themselves.

In the lower and middle grades, students' awareness of self-management is relatively unconscious and unstable. Students in the lower grades generally take the teacher's requirements as their own requirements, take the evaluation of others as their own evaluation, and take the school discipline as the discipline of self-restraint. Schools should promote students' self-management, so that it can develop from "other discipline" to "self-discipline", so as to achieve the ultimate goal of students' self-management, which is the management of students' self-awareness.

1. Establish a one-day life system and develop self-control.

Institutionalizing students' daily lives has an extremely important impact on their future lifestyle. Let students live a regular and fast-paced life, so that students feel that they are making progress every day, often in success, and gradually learn to know themselves in life, overcome themselves, and be strong in life.

2. Establish a system of writing weekly diaries, diaries and observation notes to develop self-understanding.

Guide students to observe society, life, others, and themselves, and write them down in the form of weekly diaries, diaries, and observation notes. Develop the habit of being strict with yourself, dissecting yourself carefully, being good at learning from others, and being good at self-criticism.

3. Establish a student group life system to promote self-evaluation.

Establish a student life group system to allow students to participate in a lively and rich group life. In the activities, a positive evaluation mechanism is introduced so that students can learn to evaluate the group and other students seriously and objectively, learn to evaluate themselves comprehensively, and also learn from others in the process of evaluating the collective and themselves.

4. Establish a system for students to talk to each other and promote self-experience.

Self-management is not a closed self-experience process, but an open management system that relies on the exchange of ideas and information between students, which is formed and developed in the rich exchange of thoughts and emotions among students. Therefore, to establish a system of heart-to-heart talks, it is necessary to advocate that students promote the exchange of thoughts and emotions through heart-to-heart talks, and cultivate lofty thoughts, personality characteristics, and a strong sense of self.

5. Establish a system for students to report to their parents in front of the group to improve their awareness and ability of self-management.

Homeschooling is the main way to develop students' self-awareness. However, family education and school education must be coordinated in order to achieve practical results. Parents generally know their children, but children are more willing to let parents understand themselves in front of the group.

Allowing students to report their progress in front of their peers will greatly stimulate students' sense of pride and help them improve their self-management awareness and ability.

Discipline yourself. If personality is a glass, we play with it and play it to the fullest, but don't let it break, in fact, it doesn't matter if it breaks, the key is not to let it hurt your hands. Self-restraint can be said to be cautious, to consider doing the opposite thing again and again, and try to avoid mistakes.

Since we are all afraid of failure and do not want to experience too much pain, it is all the more important to restrain ourselves. Mr. Lu Xun said: "There is no road in this world, and when there are more people, it becomes a road."

I do admire the first person who dared to break through the obstacles and bravely blaze the trail, he was showing off his personality and doing something that no one else had done and others did not dare to do. But don't forget that life is as easy as opening the way. Maybe we didn't open the road, and we won't pay much price, but life is different, maybe a failure will cost you a very heavy price, and whether you can bear it, it will not be ignored, but don't complain about the cruelty and injustice of life, because the source of pain is your own paralysis.

Yes, one mistake may kill you in the abyss, and how sure are you not to fail? Therefore, if we want to try not to fail, we must learn to restrain ourselves and be cautious.

Wandering thoughts, unable to reach the other side of the May dark incense floating. We must learn to restrain ourselves while showing our individuality, and we must not choose one over the other. Please don't "self-trample" and see life as a broken iron, to be a smart person must learn to show off your personality and restrain yourself.

Freedom and restraint are mutually reinforcing. There can be no absolute freedom in the world, "the sea is wide and the fish jumps, and the sky is high and the birds fly" sounds very free, in fact, whether it is a bird or a fish, their freedom also has a bottom line, and the bird must restrain itself and cannot fly into the sea. The same goes for fish, which can only be free in the sea and cannot survive once it jumps on land.

Human freedom should be based on law and morality, and everyone should use law and moral norms to restrain their behavior, otherwise not only will you not be free, but you will not even be able to guarantee a normal life and study. For example, when you want to study, and other students are making loud noises and playing and chasing in the classroom, can you continue to read? When a car comes by, you don't obey the traffic laws and rush out, is it okay?

For example, the school stipulates that students are not allowed to climb high and go to danger, not to bring prohibited knives into the school, and not to smoke or drink too much, which seems to be a constraint on students, but in fact protects students.

It can be written around your actual situation, or, for example, you are locked up in your home and are not allowed to go out, and finally one day you go out and find out how wonderful it is to be free.

The constraints of the outside world, the inner pursuit of freedom. You can try to use Lao Zhuang's thoughts.

Have you finished your homework? "Stop watching TV" "Go to bed early" The top three mantras that parents like to talk about, and the three things that students don't like the most, about the beginning of the theory of freedom.

Freedom: to be your own decision; Unrestricted and uninhibited.

Since we were children, we have been under the control of our parents at home, and after we went to school, we began to accept the management of teachers again, and we have always fantasized that there is no loss in the town without parents, and there is a free life with teachers. When one day we think that we have a free life, without constraints and restrictions, we will still walk on the road of school normally, and will we exchange every drop of sweat for the fruits of labor?

In the relationship between freedom and discipline is dialectical unity, it is saidFreedom is not unrestricted freedom, and the greatest freedom can only be achieved by abiding by the constraints of laws, systems, and other disciplines, otherwise it will be punished accordingly, and there will be no freedom to talk about. If there is no discipline such as law in the world, people will do whatever they want, and nature will be destroyed, diseases will spread everywhere, and mankind will be destroyed.

So when I get the freedom we want, most of us may put down our books and go to what we think is a free life: books become games, learning becomes fun, and when the time passes in a hurry, we will find ourselves eliminated by society and a burden to parental society. You may also say that you won't be like this, you can still pick up books and be there, but the current strong constraints and restrictions make you unacceptable, we are still students should have our own sky, have our own space.

Yes, sometimes excessive constraints only limit human development, limit our inventiveness and creativity when we were students. The frog is bound to the bottom of the well, and he thinks that a piece of the well is the whole sky, and when we are too confined to the rules of school and home, how can we not be like the frog at the bottom of the well, how can we be happy?

According to the survey, 77% of teenagers participated in remedial classes, and 38% of this group said that participating in remedial classes was not fun, but because of the request of their parents. It is precisely these requirements that make a considerable number of young people less interested in learning and less effective in learning because of the long time spent in passive learning.

Therefore, parents and teachers should give students some freedom, so that students have time to read their own books, do their own things, cultivate their own interests, and be their own masters in their study and life, so that students can grow up healthy and happy.