What should teachers do when faced with unscrupulous parents?

People are emotional animals, mainly from the parents' side of the consideration, why parents will behave rudely, is out of dissatisfaction with the teacher, is not angry with the child and then unreasonable venting. If you were the parent of that child, would you have reacted to the teacher in the same way? Parents are generally eager to take out their hearts and give them to their children, so that their children are not bullied or wronged, perhaps parents are too doting on their children and can't care about the slightest accusation of others against their children.

In fact, it's better to move with emotion and know with reason. Stand on the parents' side and communicate with them sincerely, knowing that you are also doing this for the sake of their children, so that they can live and learn healthily and happily. You can also collect some examples of this, because some cases are more convincing.

Be justified and grasp the key points of the other party. For example, fear that the child will be disgusted.

Do more work on his child and ask his parents to make corrections.

You can communicate with him tactfully, but if you can't communicate, you can only give up.

The value of Mao lies in the shield, and the annihilation of the shield is what is the use of Mao!

How teachers deal with "unruly parents".

1. Accept parents' emotions: Any parent's rude behavior occurs on the basis of what he thinks is reasonable, and it is their emotions and feelings that support him that is reasonable. If you put yourself in the shoes of your parents to properly harness their emotions and feelings, it will be easy for them to move from opposites to unity.

Therefore, when faced with the "rudeness" of parents, teachers should learn to accept it, rather than confront it with stronger emotions. Note that it is the other person's emotions that are accepted, not the other person's actions.

2. Find common ground: Solving problems should never be solved at the specific level of behavior, but should be pushed up to find a common ground between both parties. The difference between teachers and parents is the way they behave their children, and if both sides just stick to this level, then everyone has a point, and it will be difficult to solve the problem.

In this case, teachers should jump out of the level of "specific behavior" and look for the starting point of everyone's behavior. For example, reasoning upwards to find the common denominator of "love". Since everyone loves children and the starting point is the same, then teachers and parents are collaborators, partners, and comrades-in-arms.

3. Guide parents to compare and analyze, and let parents decide what to do: When the two sides reach a consensus, teachers should guide parents to analyze the possible consequences of different behaviors through their own questions. Parents tend to become more rational at this time, and when they deduce the serious consequences that may be caused by their behavior, they naturally stop insisting on their behavior.

Let parents think: If the child can't even deal with such a problem, then what should she do in the future? Can parents protect their children for a lifetime?

For the sake of children's happiness in life, how do you think you should love children? Such questions will naturally provoke parents to think and thus achieve the results we want.

4. Pay attention to the fact that teachers must not be unforgiving, and they should not preach to parents, because this will hurt the self-esteem of parents. Teachers leave the decision to parents through questioning and guidance, and smart parents must know what to do. If the parents still don't understand at this time, then your preaching will definitely not work.

Generally speaking, when teachers accept the emotions of parents, they are also more receptive to teachers' views and easier to understand the school's educational behavior, so that many difficult problems become easily solved.

First of all, you must look at this issue objectively and fairly. Why does the teacher target your child everywhere, whether the teacher sees him with colored glasses or the child does not perform well in class, so he will say a few words to him in class, and the parents misunderstand that the teacher is targeting the child.

Don't be subjective when you encounter problems. You should first go to the ** to ask the teacher what is going on, if necessary, the two sides will talk about it, see how to solve the problem, don't listen to biased beliefs, under normal circumstances, the teacher will not target someone casually.

Soothe your child's emotions.

If the child is criticized by the teacher, the mood is definitely not good, and the first thing parents should do is to calm the child's emotions first.

You can give your child a loving hug, or you can take your child out for a spin to divert your attention, or accompany your child to watch a favorite cartoon, play with a toy or something, so that your child can be transferred from a low mood.

Don't scold your child, as this may exacerbate your child's emotions.

Don't say that the teacher is doing something wrong in front of the child, so that the child will have no respect for the teacher in the future, and it will be difficult to manage.

Figure out the ins and outs of the situation, face it with your child and solve the problem.

After your child has calmed down, talk to him and ask him what happened.

Preface: If a parent complains to a teacher that their child is being bullied, then what the teacher needs to do is to appease the parents. Because for parents, the mood must be very exciting at this time.

At the same time, parents and teachers should understand the causes and consequences of this matter, and we should let parents know that teachers will pay attention to their children. At the same time, it is necessary to deal with it appropriately, only in this way can parents feel at ease. Then when we encounter any emergency, we must learn to focus on students, only in this way can we let children grow up healthy and happy.

For parents, children are their own treasures, so when they hear that their children are being bullied. Parents must be very angry in their hearts, and some parents will cry at the same time, so it is recommended that teachers must calm the emotions of parents. We need to tell parents:

The cause and effect of this incident is not clear for the time being, but I will definitely investigate and understand, no matter which child makes the mistake, then it will be dealt with. Only in this way can parents understand that the teacher will take care of this matter. For many parents, what the teacher says can still be believed, but the teacher must do what he says, so that he can establish his own prestige.

If there is an incident of a child being bullied in school, then both teachers and parents are very sad, so we must investigate the cause and effect of this incident. It is suggested that we can call the student in front of us and ask the student what happened that day, so that we can prescribe the right medicine. When we communicate with students, we must control our temper.

Some teachers are very short-tempered and they care a lot about their face, but this is not the right thing for teachers to do. We must communicate with students on an equal footing, so that students can express their true thoughts.

In this case, the teacher must communicate with the parents in a timely manner, and then should also understand the real situation, and at the same time, it is also necessary to hold a class meeting to let the students get along harmoniously and friendly.

The teacher should understand this matter at this time, and should have a good judgment about the real situation, and if the child is really bullied, he should criticize the other party.

The teacher should choose to find out the specific situation, and also need to call the two children into the office and let them shake hands.

The teacher must find out the reason, let whoever is at fault apologize, so that it is okay, and the school violence must be stopped.

1. "Empathize" with parents to understand their feelings.

It is most important to put yourself in the other person's shoes. No matter how bad and brutal the parents are, we must exercise restraint, stay calm, and understand the psychology of parents. We must know that this type of parent, they all have a common psychological characteristic, that is, he only considers the problem from his own point of view, and does not consider the feelings of others at all.

Therefore, once you meet such a parent, the teacher should smile, bring a stool to him to sit down, listen to him, and show an expression that is very understanding of his excitement and even impulsiveness.

2. Stay calm and exercise restraint.

Once you encounter an impulsive parent, at this time, we need our teachers to face it calmly and calmly, neither panicked, nor afraid, nor can you go-for-tat with the parents, let alone when he counts you or your own children, you are still confronting him sentence by sentence, or even arguing. Therefore, at this time, we teachers need not to be knowledgeable with parents, to be calm at the same time, but also to wait for parents to finish speaking, do not answer, let alone rush to explain. Of course, you can't be angry at this time.

Because at this moment, if the teacher is angry, he doesn't know what to do next, and he can't talk about calmness.

So, in such a situation, what should the head teacher do when he takes the dust beam?

1. Teachers, especially homeroom teachers, should improve their own management skills and ability to manage the class.

In life, there are many class teachers, and when they encounter a little thing, they invite parents at every turn, which is the most undesirable. Because parents also have their own jobs, it doesn't mean that they can come to school in time.

We can imagine that if the wanton brother attacks the parents as soon as something happens, after a long time, not only the parents will complain, but the students will not take "inviting parents" seriously, because it will not work. If our teachers have enough educational management skills and abilities to solve difficult problems related to students, we don't need to invite parents, and we will avoid a lot of trouble, and we will not encounter emotional or troublesome parents. So, what's the crux of the matter?

That is, we need to improve our own management level, the ability to manage the class, and the level of educating students.

What should teachers do when they encounter parents who are messing around? Sometimes you can stay away from him, and after explaining the reason to him, you can no longer ignore him.

Sue you for the best way. When you meet him, you say I'm in trouble. I encountered something wrong and I needed to solve the problem. I am very pleased and welcome to you. If there is anything to do with the ant chain, let's contact us. Take him away.

As parents, we don't expect our children to suffer from the difference between teachers in school, but in the actual situation, it is inevitable that some children will encounter this kind of situation, and they will be deliberately cold to their own teaching directors for no reason. This is undoubtedly a very big emotional damage for children, and it will even directly affect the learning and training mentality in the child's school, leading to psychological disorders.

Grasp the edge of the child being cold in a clear wayOld; No matter what the problems and disagreements are, there must be a certain reason for this, so the first thing that everyone as parents should do is to look for the reason why the child's teacher is cold-hearted. In some cases, it may be that some of the methods of our own children have jeopardized the teacher's teaching work, and it will be differentiated, so we can start from the child level to see what the cause is.

Try to create a positive communication with the teacher；In the general understanding of the reasons for this, we can communicate with the teacher about the actual situation of the child's neglect, and the goal in this depends on the content of the message: My child has suffered as a result of the teacher's own improper means. In that case, the person who is generally responsible for the situation will pay close attention to it, so that the more important causes of disagreement can be grasped from the teacher level.

Here, you can understand why the children are treated differently by the teachers in the actual situation of Yizheng Bridge, and you can also understand that it is the teacher's own factors and the children's problems that lead to such a result. Parents should pay attention to the fact that in the process of communicating with teachers, we must communicate calmly in the right direction, and it is not a reproach to state more objective facts.

Create a common understanding with teachers to solve difficult problems; In order for babies to stop feeling deliberately cold, parents should find fairness for their children and make teachers realize that their own ways are not safe. And it is also necessary to reach a corresponding consensus with the teacher, and everyone expects the teacher to treat the baby equally rather than favoritism, so that their children will suffer unnecessary damage again.

Parents can communicate with the teacher, and then you can communicate with your child, tell the child why the teacher treats him like this, if it is the child's reason, you can let the child correct it, you can make a material stop and apologize to the teacher, if it is the teacher's reason, you can reflect with the principal, you can change the class Chunhu.

Parents should ask why their children are treated with special treatment, and after knowing the balance of causes and consequences, parents should tell their children to listen to the teacher at school and study hard to change the teacher's bad impression of the child. Parents should also talk to the teacher in private, and communicate with the teacher about this problem.