How can I get rid of the problem of being afraid of doing things?

In general, we need to start from two aspects to get rid of the problem of timidity, first of all, we need to understand from the psychological side that this approach is wrong, and we must pay attention to it from now on. The second aspect is that we have to use it in practice, and be brave to stand up when we encounter some things, for example, when the teacher asks questions, you have to say your own thoughts, even if you don't know how to ask you, don't feel particularly scared when the teacher asks you, as long as you dare to continue to practice, you can also get rid of this problem.

You can exercise your courage, for example, to do some things that you didn't dare to do before, you can do some extreme sports to ride roller coasters, pirate ships, bungee jumping, skydiving, etc., if you can overcome these things, some things in ordinary life will naturally not be afraid of the tail.

The reason for this timidity is because you are not confident enough, if you have enough self-confidence in yourself, you may not have such a situation again, so you must be responsible for yourself when doing things, and the ** of the fund is that you have to hypnosis yourself, or ask others to help you, you can get rid of this problem.

Hello, dear. We'll be happy to answer for you. If you want to solve the problem of fear, you must start from your own heart, that is, we have to give ourselves confidence every day, according to psychological research, people give themselves confidence in one day, the activity of the brain on this day, the secretion of dopaminin and adrenaline will be more than those who do not give themselves confidence hints every day, so we have to give ourselves confidence hints every day.

At the same time, most of the reasons for timidity are things that I did wrong when I was a child, and I have low self-esteem.

Then we start from the source, we have to believe in our own ability, affirm that no one is born with it, and no one is infallible, and we must give ourselves these hints every day, and through a long-term course of treatment, we can get rid of the problem of being afraid of doing things.

I hope I can help you, and I hope you are happy every day!

First of all, we must let ourselves have a responsibility and take the responsibility that we should bear. For example, if it is something or work that you should complete, you need to do it carefully. If something really goes wrong, it's useless to run away, it's better to take the initiative to face it, and it will make people feel that you are very responsible.

If you and your friends want to change the bad problems of doing things at hand, you must first have your own self-confidence and change your personality, a person's personality is determined by the cost of doing things, so you must change these problems and improve your ability to do things.

<> "Why is it always timid.

1.Caring too much about other people's eyes.

Some people attach too much importance to what others think of themselves, and they have to consider the eyes of others in everything they do, so they always can't let go of their hands and feet to do what they do.

2.Lack of self-confidence.

Lack of correct self-awareness, obviously have the ability to do things well, but always doubt themselves, feel that they are incapable, and dare not dare to do it boldly. To believe in yourself, there is a saying called believe in the power of believing!

3.Too much face.

Seeing face more than anything else, they will be afraid of the outcome in advance when doing things, and they will think about the situation after failure, so they will always think again and again before doing everything, and hesitate.

4.Don't dare to accept new things.

They are not willing to accept new things, they are content with the status quo, and they will always resist when faced with some novelty.

5.Fear of mistakes.

I am afraid of making mistakes in decision-making, and I dare not make bold decisions. Some people don't make decisions that should be made, and they don't make decisions when they should make decisions, and they are overly cautious, and the pace of work slows down.

6.Afraid of risks, dare not innovate and break through.

In the face of difficulties and contradictions, looking forward to the future, suffering from gains and losses, anyone who wants to retreat in advance, only seeks their own safety, and does not want to advance their careers. Don't dare to gnaw on the "hard bones", lack the ambition to overcome difficulties, and dare to try.

7.Fear of getting into trouble.

They have scruples about the problems or petitions that the masses have strong reactions to, and they are worried that they will not be able to get out once they take over, so they dare not express their attitude and dare not respond positively.

8.For fear of offending people, they dare not adhere to their principles.

Pursue the idea of "it doesn't matter if you can't do something, at least don't offend people", cherish your feathers, regret digging and protecting yourself, and always think about how to cover it, turning big things into small things and small things.

After reading your description, I have summarized three main points, the first is that the goal is not clear, you don't know what you want; Clause.

Second, because you don't have a clear goal, you don't know what to do and how to do it; Third, you are afraid that your son wants to raise you and will not treat your family. This is something that many people of our generation are confused about, as are those two words on your title – confused!

In fact, after I said this, I think you should be clear, first of all, you need to know what your own goals are, career success and taking care of your elderly parents. You've chosen a location for yourself, go back to doing things. Secondly, what to do?

Reluctant to do machining. Give up the industry you are familiar with and open up another world, that is, transformation, the tree will die, and the person will live. In fact, you have your own ideas, you are afraid of failure, which means that you have a clear general direction, and honesty means that you are ready to do business.

Muddy is a sign that you want to do it yourself, and you're afraid that someone won't support you. You want to get the support of this person, and that's what motivates you.

So, to sum it up, you need to tell the person you are afraid of not supporting you, ask for his opinion, analyze the feasibility of the solution, and convince him! If you can't convince him, then you can't convince your customers to buy your stuff. Next, you have to have a strong heart, because it is possible not to open for three years, and to open for three years!

You have to have a strong enough heart to adjust the trauma caused by failure, and you have to adjust the plan in time. Are you ready?

Dear, please adopt, thank you.

You say it's the same as I used to, to put it bluntly, I'm not confident, my personal solution to this problem is to go to a strange city, and then chat with strangers, anyway, no one knows anyone when I'm out of the house, right?

It shows that you are mature, unlike before when you were young and impulsive, regardless of it, and you are no longer young, you can't stand the toss and fail, you have to consider the consequences of doing things, this is a growth process, don't have psychological pressure, it's normal.

After the setbacks and the loss of self-confidence, all you have to do now is play to your strengths and regain your self-confidence.

Think too much and do too little.

(1) Unconditional self-acceptance. This is the first and most important point. Accepting yourself unconditionally can solve almost any irrational emotional problem, and when you realize that you don't have a negative opinion of yourself because you care too much about other people's feedback, you will most likely not "take the initiative" to please others.

You know it's not a big deal to say what you think, even if it's not acceptable to everyone.

You know that no matter whether you work hard or not, you are worthy of love and love.

Accept the worst.

Before you plan to do something, estimate the best and worst outcomesAlways be prepared to accept the worst and then work for the best. You will find that nothing is the worst, and no matter what the outcome is, it is acceptable. We try to do something so that it has a good chance of going in a good direction, but there is no reason to decide that something "must" be a consequence.

Expressing your dissatisfaction to your partner will result in separation. However, unequal intimacy will not last long.

If you reject someone, the worst outcome is to become a stranger. However, the person who is estranged because of one thing, the other party does not regard you as a good friend.

Try a new idea, and the worst you can do is mess things up. But wouldn't it be better to start all over again?

"Adventure" ** law.

This is one of the most effective methods that REBT has to offer – take risks! Do what you're afraid of! Be sure to try.

In the process of taking risks and failures, in the process of letting others know that you are "incompetent", use this opportunity to remind yourself out loud that you are not the same as your performance, and your performance does not represent you! Yes, you said the wrong thing, lost a job, offended someone, messed up a project, but you have many opportunities – so keep up the good work.