I always feel that I can t fit into my boyfriend s family, what should I do?

If you can't melt in, don't force it, let's talk about getting married, don't you still have a word now.

In fact, you have to remember that no matter what you say, you are an outsider when you go to your boyfriend's house, and you must remember that your boyfriend is the person you are most familiar with, at this time, you must communicate with him in advance, so that he doesn't just care about talking to his family, ignoring you, and bringing you in when he talks, and slowly it will be fine, and it will be integrated, and your boyfriend's family will not know you at the beginning.

It doesn't matter, is it a family after getting married? , no, it's just because of a person who walked into their lives, you are still you, what you like is your boyfriend, as long as he loves you, it's enough, his parents and sisters, as long as you get into your heart, don't be so stubborn, life is your own and not someone else's.

Calmly facing "being left out" and hostility, the intimacy of blood determines that they will inevitably favor people who are closer to their blood relationship, and when there are benefits to share, they will inevitably think of your boyfriend instead of you first. For example, I can't remember what you like to eat and what you don't like to eat, and when I see you, I shush my son more and ask for warmth, and I don't care about you symbolically. In the face of such a situation, the students first cleaned up the broken glass hearts and maintained a healthy and peaceful mind

Come casually, your son is in my hands anyway.

Don't care about this problem, your boyfriend's parents are people who have lived together since birth, how can you spend as much time with your boyfriend as his parents and sister, and after getting married, you can get along better, and you can't get along well and cherish yourself, in addition, there are no perfect things and people in this world, learn to tolerate, respect, cherish, and empathize.

It's possible that you're not part of the family yet, because you haven't gotten a license yet. Your boyfriend's group name is a family, and it is possible that he is very sensitive to the concept of a family, and he is not allowed to participate in the slightest bit of your participation that is not a family for the time being. My opinion is not to think too much, as long as your boyfriend is good to you, you should do whatever you want.

This is a good thing, how can you talk when you are pulled in, you don't say a few words when people chat, people say that you are indifferent, if you say two words, in case you don't talk about people's hearts, people will think you are wordy. Tell me, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law have something to talk about, besides, you are just someone's girlfriend now.

Communicate with your boyfriend first, the most important thing is to see how your boyfriend coordinates, he is the bond you integrate into the family.

I got married in eleven this year, I said to my husband that you don't want to pull me into your group, whether it's at home or relatives, I don't go in, more is better than less, my husband is quite helpless, you think, what can you do if you add it, it's quite embarrassing, it's better to just don't know, don't go in, it's the same as no one.

If that's the case, you can talk to your boyfriend and see how the matter can be resolved.

In the third year of my marriage, my eldest sister set up a WeChat group during the Chinese New Year, with her husband, children, her brother (my husband), her husband's younger brother (her brother-in-law, didn't add me,) I was too, and now I see it and then my husband pulled me in, and I didn't say a word in it.

1. Let your husband coordinate in the middle.

The husband's family is basically his own family after marriage, but the in-law's family is not the mother's family after all, and the family members of myself and my husband are not as familiar as the searcher. At this time, the husband, who is the link between the two parties, needs to play his role and help his wife and his family members to integrate.

When we feel that we can't fit into our husband's family, we can find our husband, tell him about our troubles in this regard, and clearly express to him that we are deeply troubled, so that we can attract his attention. With the help of your husband, integrating into your husband's family will become twice as effective with half the effort.

2. Improve your tolerance.

Although I nominally have a dislike for a family with my husband's family, in fact, I still get along with two waves of strangers. Because the living environment and living habits of both parties are different, some friction is inevitable. At this time, we need to improve our tolerance and accept the differences between others and us, so that we can get along better with others.

3. Since you can't fit in, don't fit in.

If we can't fit into each other's family history despite all our efforts, then we can choose not to fit in. Although we are a family, after all, it is not like our mother's family is related to ourselves, and we don't need to integrate into each other's families.

The purpose of our marriage is to value each other's person, not the family behind the other party, as long as we can get along well with our husbands, what does it matter if we can't integrate into each other's families? We can choose to live farther away from each other's families, and everyone can be well.

Falling in love to breaking up, but it is not a thing that both parties can accept, after all, breaking up is a failed relationship, because when you choose to fall in love, you want to have a good love experience, two people can hold hands to have ideas, hope to fall in love with each other, breaking up is not a good thing for both parties, there will be some blows and injuries, falling out of love is painful, but you should not indulge in thoughts and can't extricate yourself, just like the theme. He has a positive and enterprising mind, and he can forget about this unhappy lovelorn, the sadness and torture caused by the breakup, and constantly strive to change himself. After his change, he has become very confident.

Don't pray, don't entangle, accept the fact of breaking up, many people will repeatedly promise each other that I will change, I will change, I will change, give me another chance, okay? And these words are often said n times before the breakup, and repeating them again will only cause the other party to resent them.

Or if you feel hopeless after trying to redeem yourself, you are angry and say that you should never contact each other again, and then you can't help but contact the other party, these repeated actions are not conducive to recovery, and your image in the other party's heart will be greatly reduced.

And when a man proposes to break up, it is generally a deliberate decision, and he doesn't want to continue, for what reason? If you have the opportunity, be sure to ask the other person why they want to leave, but many times they will not tell you the real reason, you can only think about it yourself and understand.

Or you have some shortcomings that he can't bear or there are some realistic external resistances that make him have to give up, or more rationally, it is easier to give up than to continue, and you can find the answer from what he has said.

After breaking up, give yourself some time to think about the real reason why the other party wants to break up, only when you find the real reason why he wants to break up, you can be targeted when you recover.

Breaking up gives yourself a period of calm, and another advantage is to let the other party accept the fact that the breakup is that the two people who used to have the most information every day suddenly cut off contact, and it is not only you who are uncomfortable, but also him, but it is this pain that will prompt him to miss the good you used to be, and think about whether the decision to break up is right.

3. Breaking off contact and finding back to your former self is difficult for people who want to redeem their love, you may very much want to know if he still loves you, whether it is worth retrieving, and what he is doing during the breakup.

But I tell you, don't rush to contact, even if you are still in love with the other person, don't keep looking at his space and following his Weibo, because once you are overly involved, it will only increase your sense of need and make the other party more and more disgusted with you. So when facing a breakup, I must find the reason, and then establish my own image, so that I can become better and better, maybe at this time, I will be more confident to recover this relationship.