Why do some women not want children after marriage?

Because the three years after marriage is the run-in period of two people, during this period you need to understand your other half's various living habits, various other personalities, and the above problems, if you find that the two people are not suitable at this time, you can still separate, but if you have a child, the separation will take into account the child's feelings, and there are a series of other unnecessary problems, so some women do not want children after marriage.

Because the cost of living is too high now, from the birth of a child to marriage and childbirth, it takes a lot of money and time, and more after the couple has children, the children will generally be brought by women, which will make women not have much time to think about their own lives, so when facing these problems, many women do not want children.

Because I haven't grown up from the inside, and the pressure after having children is very high, there is no personal space, so this is the reason why women don't want children.

Written on the way to birth, my husband and I are both only children, both mothers are very idle, and we also have the financial conditions to find a nanny confinement sister-in-law. The child is born and I don't even need to take it, and I don't need to spend money, my mother-in-law has already spoken, just give birth to a full belt. It stands to reason that I probably wouldn't have the problem that most of the people above said.

I still don't want to give birth, I think it's all because it hurts too much. Physiological fear hit me hard. Unlike getting sick, getting sick is a very passive occurrence, you can't anticipate and avoid it, getting pregnant and giving birth, it's like a thorn in front of you, you really have to take the initiative to walk over, and after a little more, it's like self-harm.

I've been in good health since I was a child, but I can't bear it when I'm sick, for example, I don't want to play or eat at all because I have a fever. I was scared at the thought that I might have nausea and vomiting for a long time later. Not to mention the process of giving birth, I also went to understand what is called side cut, some mothers don't use anesthetics when they give birth, which is simply cutting my flesh. ‍

Not having children is the greatest kind of motherly love. Except for a very small number of rich people, the poor are born to suffer. The vast majority of children are selfish, in order to make themselves old and have someone to support, in order to make their lives complete. I just don't dare to admit it. ‍‍

Even if you don't have children in your marriage, you have a lot of difficulties to face, and you can't take care of yourself, and adding a child will add to the chaos.

Whether it hurts or not is not the biggest problem (of course, it is also a problem), what I am afraid of is that I will be responsible for the child after birth, and I will have to spend a lot of energy to take care of him and educate him, education is a big problem, and if the education is not good, the child may be ruined for the rest of his life. (It's not easy to live your own life, what do you want to do with a child who comes out of nowhere.) ）‍

I am very afraid of what kind of child I can educate, I am afraid of the trouble caused by my discord with the child's father, I am afraid that the child will have the same character as me, I am afraid that it regrets appearing in the world as much as I do, but it is troubled by family affection and cannot die, but the only reason that gives me the courage to try is that if he has the same character as the child's father, he will like the world. ‍‍

Afraid of pain, afraid of being out of shape, afraid that her husband will not accompany and comfort her, afraid of her mother-in-law treating her coldly, afraid of depression, very afraid. ‍‍

I don't know why others don't give birth, anyway, I'm lazy.

1. Because raising children is a great financial pressure on the whole family, they have no extra money to raise their children, and they don't want to give their children a poor childhood, so they choose not to have children.

Women think about a lot of things before having a baby, and they don't want to have a poor quality of life for their children. Raising a child is a simple matter, but the cost of education in modern society is relatively high, and the cost of raising a child has increased, so many people have no way to have children. In addition, the house itself is relatively expensive, and it is already difficult for us adults to repay the mortgage, not to mention adding a child.

Second, because some women do not believe in men, nor do they believe that their husbands can take care of children, so they decisively choose not to have children, in fact, they also do not trust their other half.

A lot of men are actually immature, they are like a little child before they get married. After getting married, he still hasn't gotten rid of his bad habits. If you have a child at this time, then there is no one to take care of the child, and most of the time you have to rely on your wife to complete it.

And the husband spends most of his time just sitting on the sofa and playing with his mobile phone, and he doesn't care about the whole family, which will make many women lose confidence and eventually lose the idea of having children.

3. Because some women know that the relationship between husband and wife is not good, so at a critical moment, it is impossible for the husband to take care of the children and his wife at the first time, and in order to avoid being wronged, they choose not to have children directly.

Before having a child, if the couple's relationship is very average, then having a child will not make their relationship better, but will make their relationship worse. Because having a child will bring a series of financial burdens, and various trivial things in the family, these will cause disputes between two people, and will cause conflicts between two people to escalate. If the man is an irresponsible person, then the saddest thing is the wife, and it is the wife who suffers, which is why women are not willing to have children nowadays.

Because the cost of having a child is very high, and having a child is a lot of sacrifices for a girl, and she may have to be a full-time woman after giving birth, many women don't want to have children.

That's because it's very hard to have children now, and it will also make a woman's life very boring, so she doesn't want children.

Because the current economic pressure is really very great, because many people are afraid that they will not be able to give their children the best life, so they refuse to have children after marriage.

First of all, because of the pain, and the current economic pressure of life is too great, raising a child is too tiring. If there is no parental supervision. will put all the pressure on the mother, so the average girl is scared.

Women know that if they have a child, they may not become a little girl, but will become a mother of a child, and there will never be such an easy life again.

Maybe it's because they're afraid, they're worried that having a baby hurts, that they're going to change their figure, that they're going to have a stagnant job, and that they might even suffer from postpartum depression.

I think the main reason is that girls don't want to be fat and ugly, and pregnancy is very uncomfortable, and having a baby may also be painful.

It's because there are many women who feel that having a child is a very terrible thing, and their body will be out of shape after giving birth, so they don't want to.

It is because women are not sure whether they will be happy after marriage, so they don't want children and want to observe their husbands for a while.

Because she loves herself more and wants to live a good life, this is such a feeling, so it's good to say this.

It may be because the burden on the family is too heavy, and there is no way to raise a child, so I don't want children for the time being.

Because women have jobs, they don't want to put all their energy into their families, they want to have their own jobs.

I think the world of the two is very good, and the girl also wants to be independent, wants to work, and thinks that having children will be a great drag on her.

Actress Qin Lan responded to the sentence when urging marriage, "What does it matter to you if my uterus is not used?" On the hot search, countless netizens stood up to support this direct and tough attitude towards life - the value of women is not just childbearing, everyone has their own way of life, whether to give birth or not, we have the final say. On the matter of childbirth, it is worth talking about in detail.

With the development of the economy and the improvement of the level of public education, more and more people's self-consciousness began to gradually awaken, compared to being forced by others, social pressure to fall in love, get married, have children, we want to do more may be to find the true self first, feel their real life experience - marriage and childbirth are just a part of life, I can have more choices about my life, experience or not, I make my own decisions.

China's marriage rate has been declining since 2013, when it reached its highest level in recent years, and to add insult to injury, divorce rates are also rising. From 1990 to 2010, the average age of first marriage for men was postponed from years to years, and the average age of first marriage for women was delayed from years to years. From 1990 to 2015, the average age at first childbearing for women was delayed from years to years.

<> if you ask a young person who is in love and happy to get married why he is reluctant to have children, then it is very likely that he will get a sentence that the house price is the best contraceptive pill.

Many people may not want to give birth, but they dare not give birth. In contemporary society, the cost, manpower and material resources that may have to bear to raise a child have far exceeded the ability of young people to bear. The further decline in fertility is not due to a decrease in the number of people willing to have children, but mainly due to the increase in costs, which leads to the fact that people's desire to have children cannot be fully realized.

In the "China Fertility Report 2019" co-authored by scholar Ren Zeping, it was mentioned that the high direct costs of housing, education, and medical care, the heavy burden of old-age care, and the high opportunity cost of childbirth inhibit fertility behavior. 」

That's all for me, I hope it helps!

Everyone's life is different, and one decision can change the direction of a life. Just as a woman decides whether she wants to have a child or not, it can change a woman's life. So what is it that makes some women not want children?

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