There is a very important reason why many people do not succeed in blind dates

1. The utilitarian nature of the blind date is very clear and strong.

2. The blind date is a stranger and has no emotional basis. The man's economic base plays a decisive role.

3. The two parties on the blind date are basically unsuccessful in free love.

4. Both parties on a blind date are generally older and have certain social experience.

5. Blind date women are basically very materialistic, and they pay great attention to the man's conditions (appearance, economic income). Some men with good conditions can find a beautiful woman in their 20s in their forties and fifties. Most blind date women are so-called insecure, that is, the level of the man's economic conditions.

If the man's conditions are very good for the blind date woman, he will soon fall in love and marry the man. Otherwise, the talks will be long and nothing will come of it in the end.

6. The society is very realistic, blind date love marriage is more realistic, and the man's economic income is the pillar of the whole family. The blind date woman's economic needs are tactful or direct, they will be revealed, and their gentleness and thoughtfulness need to be paid by the man's economy.

7. If the concept and values of the blind date are appropriate, they will talk, otherwise they will refuse euphemistically, and both parties should not waste money and time.

9. On the first side of the blind date, at most a cup of tea, don't spend too much. After all, the blind date is a stranger, if you are satisfied, you can talk, if you don't like to find a reason to leave, even a cup of tea money will be saved.

10. No matter what the result of the blind date, it is best to report to the introducer, and there are some things that the introducer can say better.

11, if the blind date is successful, it is the best, everyone is happy. Even if the blind date is unsuccessful, be natural and generous. The blind date is a stranger, and both parties have not invested too much, and it is okay to be a stranger if they don't succeed.

13, some blind dates say that they are stingy and unwilling to spend money, which is nothing more than trying to take advantage of something that doesn't take much effort. There is no need to spend a penny and a minute of your time on a stranger who has no stakes.

14. In short, the blind date is equal, and it is best if both parties are suitable. Marriage is not available. There is no need to ask for someone, and doing so will only make the other person despise him even more.

It can be said that blind date is a comprehensive game of the conditions of both men and women. Don't have the sustenance of "if you take the initiative you can do it", these words are just self-consolation for unsuccessful ones. Blind dates should be self-confident, self-reliant, self-reliant, and self-respecting.

There are several scenarios:

1. The other party is not interested in you but is not easy to say, so you don't want to develop further.

The other party is hindered by the relationship between the introducer, so he is not too embarrassed to refuse directly, so he can only chat but does not want to meet.

2. The other party is too busy.

The other party has a lot of things to do, and there is not much time to meet, but this situation is relatively rare, generally speaking, you can meet once a month, otherwise you don't have time to take care of love and family with this kind of person.

3. The other party is more shy.

Maybe nervous, because I think it's good to keep chatting. But since it's a blind date, it's going to get married, and if the other party always doesn't mention meeting, then you may have to ask the introducer to ask the other party what it means.

Blind date pay attention to the following points:

For the first meeting of men and women, a good appearance image can leave a deep impression on each other, people do not have an in-depth understanding of each other when they meet, so the image and behavior of the first meeting have become a measure of the degree of interaction between each other, and often people with capable appearance and generous manners are more impressive.

Therefore, Li Yin needs to pay attention to the blind date is to pay attention to the matching of clothes, and do not dress colorfully, which will give the other party a very mature and very ruffian impression, and it is easy to be directly given up by the blind date to continue the meaning of the relationship, and if it is a man, you must pay attention to the humility of the woman, so that the woman will feel considerate and close.

Blind date is a very important experience in life, it is not only related to the happiness of the individual, but also to the happiness of the whole family. But why do some people always fail to go on blind dates? The reasons are complex, and I will answer them in detail in terms of psychology, external factors, communication skills, etc.

1. Psychological reasons.

1.Fear: Blind date is a strange process for many people, some people due to a lack of security, before the blind date will be nervous, fearful, overly worried about their performance and the other party's reaction, in this case, they may behave timidly, talk less, not confident, thus affecting the success or failure of the blind date.

2.Poor mentality: Some people feel frustrated because of their past emotional experiences, and then form a defensive psychology, have negative emotions about blind dates, and think that they cannot find a suitable partner, so they show a negative and resistant attitude in blind dates, which affects the communication between the two parties.

3.Being too demanding of the other half: Some people want to find the perfect partner, and they are too demanding of the other half, which makes it difficult for them to accept the reality, and it is easy to only pay attention to appearance or some superficial characteristics in the blind date and ignore other factors, which will affect the success or failure of the blind date.

2. External factors.

1.Poor appearance: In the blind date process, appearance is the first factor to be noticed, and some people may fail in the blind date due to their natural conditions, or because they do not take good care of their vertical drafts, resulting in their poor appearance.

2.Poor social skills: social skills are one of the important factors affecting the success or failure of blind dates, some people have poor communication in blind dates due to poor social skills in daily life, and it is difficult to establish good communication with each other, which in turn affects the emotional development of both parties.

3.Poor economic conditions: Although money is not the whole of love, some people are unable to meet the material needs of their other half due to poor economic conditions, which affects the development of the relationship between the two parties.

3. Communication skills.

1.Lack of communication skills: Communication is very important in the process of blind date communication, and some people are unable to establish good interaction with each other due to insufficient communication skills, which affects the emotional development of both parties.

2.Ignoring each other's feelings: In a blind date, the other party's feelings are also very important, and some people ignore the other party's feelings because they pay too much attention to their emotional needs, which in turn affects the feelings of both parties.

3.Don't know how to behave: In the process of blind date, not knowing how to show yourself will also affect the development of feelings. Some people don't know how to express their emotions and needs, and they don't know how to make the other person feel their benefits, which affects the development of the relationship.

To sum up, the reasons for the failure of a blind date are complex, and may affect its success or failure from psychological, external factors, communication skills, etc. Therefore, if you want to have a successful blind date, you not only need to dress up appropriately in terms of appearance, but also need to be psychologically prepared, enhance your social skills, and improve your communication skills, which are very important.

First of all, the parents and elders introduced it, and they are really stressed to stare at it.

Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people.

What parents see is that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are even different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Clause. 3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calm as if he is nothing, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed.

And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it. **。Clause.

Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless.

Men and women, sometimes vanity is at work.

In the face of blind dates, many people will have this mentality: "It's not that I don't want it, why do I have to go on a blind date?" ”

As a result, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date.

Why can't I find an object? It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough. Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on.

Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.

Especially young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger, and everyone is so good-looking, so no one wants to lose face.

I've been on a blind date dozens of times, but it's still unsuccessful.

For Lu Fan's filial piety and blind date, many people are bitter tears.

has been running on the blind date, spent a lot of time, put a lot of thought, and used a lot of money, but the result is still unsatisfactory, and I have never really said goodbye to being single.

Every time I am full of hope, but then I am only disappointed, constantly feeling this loneliness, again and again, repeating countless times, that kind of taste, it is indeed very uncomfortable.

And one day, you have been on a blind date many times, disappointment has become a norm, and you will inevitably be a little rebellious.

will start to have a good impression of blind dates, and they don't even want to go again.

It's normal for you to have emotions when you don't succeed, but even so, you'd better not give up.

Don't doubt yourself, it's not that you're bad.

It's just that you've met one or two people, and you're not a good fit, and you probably don't feel that much.

But when you have met a lot of people of the opposite sex, and no one is too active and enthusiastic about you, even if you take the initiative, the other party does not respond much, you will inevitably be a little unable to hold your breath and doubt yourself a little.

I don't think I'm good enough, so I always don't get treated well in blind dates and can't please the other party.

You may feel that when you are better in all aspects, the success rate will be very high, in fact, some people are better looking than you, much better than your family background, much higher than your income, in blind dates, they are also just hitting walls everywhere.

The blind date was originally in the sedan chair, and you will always meet all kinds of people, and you don't really want to go on a blind date with you, you don't really want to find a partner at all, obviously there are already people around you, the conditions are very good, and you are far from you in all aspects.

You will meet a lot of people who you don't feel at all, and there will be a lot of people who are not interested in getting to know you.

So, you really don't have to think it's your own problem just because you haven't met the right one who happens to like each other.

No matter what you look like, you have to firmly believe that you are actually not bad, and someone happens to like you very much, which suits you very well, but the world is too big, and those people you have been on a blind date in the past happen to be not suitable for your type.

I always think that falling in love and getting married are two different things, even if there are a lot of people from school uniforms to wedding dresses, or from meeting but getting married, I think they are very good at dealing with the relationship between love and marriage.

To put it simply, from love to marriage, there must be sufficient external conditions, and the two must have enough ability to deal with the world and a consensus in life.

Since love does not account for a high proportion of marriage, blind dates for the purpose of marriage often do not account for a large proportion. But this does not prevent it from being important in the number of silver.

In fact, this is like reading for life, and you will feel that the real meaning of reading is to have a life that is several times more than others. And this kind of fun is dispensable for many people, but they feel that something is missing.

The same is true for heartbeat, if a marriage is not heartbeat, you have to use other ways to meet your emotional needs. But the heart or reading has a strong irreplaceability.

Therefore, most of today's blind dates for the purpose of marriage are probably not completely realistic value exchanges. Emotional value is also a very important variable, and happiness itself has its meaning.

Therefore, in married life, heartbeat is another kind of life, which will also be mixed in life, promoting the integrity of life and the orderly life.

It's a very important part.

But without it, life will not collapse completely, and people will use other ways to avoid imbalance in their lives.

So it's not necessary.

I'm still paranoid that heartbeat is instantaneous, but feelings can be cultivated. But in the end, all feelings are probably family affection, and at that time, heartbeat may not be so important in your heart.