I don t want to get married, but my mother is worried that I won t be able to get married, how can I

This is a parent's concern for their children, out of care. It is also because you are personally afraid of marriage due to the influence of your family, but in fact, marriage is not as bad as you think, the main thing is to find the right person. You can try to talk about love first, it's good for you and your family, real love doesn't matter if you're a silk girl or not, the important thing is that you have each other in each other's world.

I don't want to get married. It's that you haven't met anyone you want to marry. That's all it can say.

It's inevitable that parents will worry about themselves. What parent doesn't want their children to be better off than they are? Domestic violence is bad. But that's their way. We are fully capable of giving ourselves a good environment for future children.

Be considerate of your parents. I believe the landlord will want to open it. Hope it helps.

Don't deliberately avoid marriage, the misfortune of the previous generation does not mean that you can't pursue happiness, you should grasp it or grasp it, your mother will feel that she has subtly harmed you, she will feel guilty, she wants you to be happy. Let it be.

You are not satisfied with the answers given to you by so many people. I see you tell your mom directly. You're Lala. She was completely dead. No, you have it.

Tell your mom that you have someone you like

Summary. Maybe her mother has a child at home, and she looks more delicate, so she doesn't want to go too far.

How long have you two been together?

Get along for two months.

The biggest problem is her mother.

Yes. The problem is that when she married far away, her mother broke off the relationship with him.

Did she do a job with her mother?

She didn't want to hurt her mom.

So, I didn't tell my mother.

He just wanted to follow the fuck, so I don't know what to do now.

In that case, it will be very difficult for you to convince her mother alone.

Although you really don't want to give up like this, because you are also serious about giving.

So my personal suggestion is to talk to your partner first.

Then, you two go together to convince her mother.

Maybe her mother has a child at home, and she looks more delicate, so she doesn't want to go too far.

Coupled with the impact of the epidemic, it is not easy to marry and return home.

Therefore, parents also think more about it.

My personal suggestion is to focus on communication, and empathize with each other.

There is a need for long-term planning.

1. Communicate well with them.

It is often said that blood is thicker than water. Our parents are the ones who gave birth to us and raised us, they gave us life, and we naturally have the obligation to be filial to them. However, we need to realize that we are an individual with our own ideas and the right to pursue our own happiness.

If you really don't want to get married, you should communicate with your parents at the banquet, tell them what you really think, and tell them why you don't want to get married, and see if you can get forgive.

2. Prove to them that you will be better off.

The reason why your parents worry about your marriage is because they are afraid that you will not be happy and sleepy in your old age. Therefore, you have to prove to your parents with practical actions that you are no worse than others even if you don't get married. Only when you prove this well, will you not let your parents worry, and you will have a better attitude to face your parents and marriage.

As a person who marries far away, I am very responsible to tell you, be good, listen to your mother, and don't marry far away. Because no one deserves to leave behind your parents and friends who grew up with you.

Before I got married, I also liked my husband very much, and I felt that I couldn't do without this man, so I insisted on marrying away despite my parents' objections. The speed at which I can be slapped in the face by reality is far beyond my imagination.

Two months after I got married, I got pregnant, I had a strong reaction during pregnancy, and I wanted my mother-in-law to take care of me, but he said that his mother was not in good health and was prone to high blood pressure, so I asked me to overcome it by myself.

Before getting married, I thought his behavior was filial piety, but after getting married, my behavior felt piercing cold.

From pregnancy to childbirth, I almost always went to the prenatal checkup alone, and after giving birth, he was noisy, so he slept in a separate room with me. At that time, I often took my children back to my parents' house for a few months at a time, so that my parents could help me with a little of it.

Every time I go back, my mother always can't help but touch her tears, she said: "If you are by our side, we can still help you, but if you marry so far, we can't help you." ”

During an argument, he yelled at me, "Get out of my house." ”

I couldn't get angry, and when I really ran out, I found that the city of Nuoda had no place for itself. I'm in the city, and I have no relatives and friends except him. A few hours later, I went back in disgrace.

Before I got married, I thought he was the whole world.

After I got married, I found that not only was I missing the world, but I was also missing him.

Parents are getting older, and we have fewer and fewer opportunities to be around, don't think that now that the transportation is developed, it is easy to go back, but the reality is that after having children, there are more factors that hinder you from going home than you can imagine.

Behind every girl who marries far away is an unknown history of blood and tears, and few people can be an exception to happiness.

So, I don't recommend that you marry far away.

If you really like him, let him go to your city, men are more adaptable than women, and mothers-in-law treat sons-in-law much better than mothers-in-law treat daughters-in-law.

Finally, I wish you happiness.

I think that when you encounter this kind of thing, you should first let yourself have a period of time to examine it, after all, girls who marry far away rarely live well, and their parents are also for their own good, so they should consider it.

At this time, it is still necessary to communicate and communicate with your mother in a timely manner. I hope that my mother can understand me more and be able to bless her.

Then let this man come to your city to develop, so that you don't have to marry far away, and you don't have to leave him, as long as he agrees, if you don't agree, then you can only separate.

Alas! It seems that you really love him, and you love him more than he loves you (which should certainly not be compared).

Sister, I am from here, and I have a few words to tell you:

1, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult relationship in the world, which is much more difficult than the mother-in-law and son-in-law. But the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not, up to the 3000 years of our country's history, across various foreign countries, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too difficult.

I suggest you listen to your mother's opinion. If you get married, your husband doesn't have to face your mother anymore, but you have to face his mother, you have to think about it! You can also ask your cousins, cousins, and other women how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

2, you are not a distant marriage, you will come back in a few hours, the point is, you don't listen to your mother's opinion, and you insist on going your own way. There are always stumbles in the life of the two people, and the average woman goes back to her parents' house, and the husband can only take you back if he comes to admit his mistakes. This process is not to bully people, but to let him learn to be a husband, learn to be considerate of you, and take care of you!

If you quarrel in the future, how will you go back to your parents' house? Of course, your mother must love you, but it is indispensable to say that you were persuaded at the time that you didn't listen or something like that... A lot of marriage is a game of competition, if you marry in the past, then at the beginning, it will be weak.

You'll have a lot less chance of fighting for your fair rights.

3, your mother doesn't have to let you live with her (there are many contradictions when you live together), and she doesn't let him plug the door upside down, besides, your mother is also old, there are three long and two short, and she really needs to be taken care of. If he really loves you, he should think for you! A big man also has to care about his mother-in-law's pickiness about him, and I feel that this person's stomach is average.

4. You have just graduated, and your career has just started in **, and his local development in your home is not necessarily worse than the development in his home! As a man, you should keep the difficulties to yourself! You should think about your lover, and you should have the ability to play the world no matter what you are in and realize your promise to your lover!

Be responsible for your lover!

If you think this is too demanding of your lover, I can only say that he still needs to grow and hone, and I hope he matures as soon as possible.

It's all the country's fault! If you really love each other, you won't have so many worries, what do you say? If you want to do both, you might as well not think about it!

Which one you choose, parents or objects, will make you in a dilemma!! It's all unique, feelings, family affection, which is more important, weigh it yourself!! It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs!

You know.