What is the boundary between long term love and long planned ?

Maybe now everyone thinks that there is no long-lasting beauty, but just a long-planned conspiracy by one of the parties. In fact, the long-term love and the long-term planning are just different motivations at the beginning. Or to put it this way, the motivation for the beginning of the long-term love is relatively simple, just to be friends.

The motive is not pure at the beginning, and it is completely purposeful to be friends, and finally to <> in order to be with that person

Separately, long-term love is when two people have feelings in the days they get along, and after they have a certain understanding of each other's personalities, tempers, hobbies, etc., they have experienced ups and downs together, and they have feelings for each other. After rational and serious thinking, it was decided to be together, and it was fair and responsible to both of them. And I think the feelings formed in this way are deeper, stronger, more stable, and can also withstand any test.

The long-planned plan is before two people start to get along, and the motives of one of them are not pure. This kind of getting along is just to let the other person find his good in the process of getting along, and get used to him, and can't do without him. If you get along well, you can be together, and if you don't get along well, you can only break up in two shots.

If you really don't get along well, then the usually purposeful party will be even more uncomfortable. His emotional thinking is generally greater than his rational thinking, because he wants to get her from the beginning, and what he can't get is always in turmoil, and he will be unwilling. In this case, it will hurt both people, and the end result may be a lose-lose situation.

Therefore, I think that whether it is a long-term relationship or a long-term plan, we should think carefully before deciding to date, and we should be responsible for this hard-won relationship.

Feelings over time, mainly focus on when there is no emotion, only because of the long time together to produce feelings, this kind of feelings are beautiful, but if you have been planning for a long time, it is different, this kind of feelings are purposeful, not pure.

I don't agree with this statement, because long-term affection is a clean and loving feeling, while long-term planning is a purposeful, aggressive bad feeling.

The long-term love is very simple and natural together, and the long-planned plan is planned, so I personally disagree with this statement.

I don't agree, long-term love is a relationship that two people slowly cultivate in their daily life, and it has been planned for a long time with a purpose, these two are different.

No, long-term love is when two people have been together for a long time and find that each other and their three views are very easy to get along with, and it feels like they are not true feelings after planning for a long time.

The word "long-term love" is actually very simple, and feelings arise after being together for a long time, but the word "premeditated for a long time" is derogatory because it is purposeful.

First of all, the motives of the two terms are different, the former refers to feelings that arise naturally without any arrangement, while the latter focuses on intentional or ill-intentioned intentions in the first place.

"Born of love for a long time" is purer, cleaner, and feels better than "planned for a long time", "planned for a long time" sounds more like a conspiracy "has been planned for a long time.""。

In the first day, he will want to do something from the bottom of his heart, or he just likes it, and he will give him what he has been planning for a long time, even if he has a hostility towards him in his heart.

There is no specific boundary between the two, whether it is friendship or love, it is only determined by the expression of people's inner feelings and the identification of individuals, and the two depend on each other and become an indispensable and important part of life.

In fact, love and friendship have no boundaries, it just depends on your heart, you want it to be love, it is love, of course, if you want it can also be friendship. But if one day you find that you can't tell whether you are friendship or love with her (him), and you can't control the single direction of your feelings, it can only mean that your heart is confused.

Friendship is probably that it is very comfortable to stay together but not embarrassed, any topic can be discussed, and you will miss it but not be too attached. Love is that you are by my side, you are everything to me, and if you are not by my side, everything is you.

It feels like love is the only one in the world, and there is always more than one friend.

Whether there is a sexual relationship or not, that's all.

Most of the true love is not what you find, but what you encounter inadvertently, of course, there is also long-term love. But a person who wants to leave you will not say it at the time, he will slowly reveal it to you. So if someone wants to break up with you, it's not a day or two since he thinks about it.

Fate is hard to come by, and it often appears when you don't expect it. When the fate is exhausted, it is useless for you to force it, all your efforts are in vain! Let it be. The way people get along with each other, as the old saying goes: It's easy to see each other, but it's hard to be a person for a long time!

Friendship and love.

Friendship is a charcoal fire in the harsh winter; It is the shade of greenery in the scorching heat; It's a stepping stone in the rapids; It is also a nautical light in the sea of fog. Friendship is stronger than love, how many gaps in slander, cracks in misunderstanding; No amount of space or the passage of time can destroy the flowers of the soul. Friendship is more eternal than life, even if the human body dies out, but the spiritual friendship still exists, like the stars, like the bright moon, like the morning glow, more like the rainbow, presented in the spiritual universe, as long as life exists, friendship exists in life.

Love, the eternal theme of mankind forever. Love is gone, and life withers. Love is purity, it is boundless mystery, and it can make songs forget to tears and dashing.

Love should be rational, love without reason is a wild horse out of the border, and excessive reason will kill love in vain, so that the flower of affection can not open, the leaf of love turns green unintentionally, and the fruit of love blooms in restraint.

It has been said, "There is no real friendship between men and women." "That's too absolute.

Love is on the left, love is on the right, walking on both sides of life. Sow seeds at any time, bloom at any time, and the fragrance of flowers embellished with the process of life is pervasive, so that the pedestrians who wear the branches and leaves do not feel pain when stepping on thistles, and there are tears to flow, but they are not sad. "Love and friendship must make our tree of life green and lush, whether in the sun, whether in the wind and rain, it can shine with a kind of glory that is about to come out.

In life, love is often followed by friendship, and many men and women are moving towards love because of friendship, but it is not for the sake of love to develop friendship. All kinds of interactions should be moderate, otherwise you will fall into the trap of degrading. When friendship ripples in the depths of the heart, it should be scrutinized:

Is it love or friendship? When the waves of feelings invade, there should be no easy promises, and there can be no regrets when promises. Commitment may not be difficult, sometimes it's just a gentle nod; Sometimes it's just a gentle handshake, but it's hard to fulfill a promise.

Because a gentle nod, it is an oath made with credibility; A gentle handshake is a personal guarantee.

Fearing or blaming the friendship between men and women, both in the past and in the present, is a real hypocrisy. Who can say that there is no real friendship between men and women?

Friendship can develop into love, but love cannot replace friendship. In addition to love, I believe that there is real friendship.

Love and friendship also do not depend on which is important, but on quantity and depth. Deep feelings are more important.

Friendship is the feeling of mutual respect and care between people, love is beyond the friendship between friends and is only limited to two people of an emotion, not allowing others to join a selfish feeling.

To be exact, it is difficult to say what the boundary is between love and friendship, because the word "love over time" is not unfamiliar to anyone, the key is to look at your own heart, if you want to love someone, you have to consider whether he can finally do "heart to heart" with you, this is the most important thing, you can also be friends, but as just a friend, will not interfere with your private life all the time, if you pay too much attention, it will become a trace of danger of crossing the line!! Those boundaries are artificial, rather than having a clear line dictating the relationship between the two: "I'm sure you'll handle it well"!

Friendship can be said to whisper, troubles, pain, and so on, confidants who share together, but love is a very subtle thing in life, words are not clear, the two cannot be measured, and in your heart you will never turn friendship into love, because you know very well what you are doing.

Friendship can often evolve into love at very delicate times, however. When love is over, it seems a little difficult to turn into a simple friendship, because we have hurt each other. Unless it's a very open-minded person.

The boundaries are between what can and can't

I prefer to believe in love at first sight, although many people say that it is just a matter of seeing the difference, but in my opinion, love is just a choice after weighing the pros and cons. These two feelings are very similar, our mentality of love and marriage, when we fall in love, we only consider whether we like it or not, but marriage involves the family conditions of the garage.

"As soon as the golden wind and jade dew meet, they will win countless in the world".This is a poem I like very much, in my cognition, love at first sight is the feeling I yearn for. The first time you see the other person, you can't help but like this person, you don't even know his family background and economic situation, you just feel this way from the heart, what a great thing. Although it was only a brief encounter, they fell in love like this, without any consideration.

If the long-term love is really desirable, there will be none"If life is only as first seen, what is the autumn wind sad fan".Finish. Many of us will hesitate in the face of each other's pursuit and confession, and choose to hesitate, don't we just want to compare and measure, what will happen to me and this person, and I can still remain rational in the face of love, which is also admirable.

Some people may say that this is the attitude of the person in charge, noncommittal. Why did you have no feelings for a person at the beginning, and in the process of getting along later, you were moved by the other party, and you were all because the other party did a lot of things for you, which tilted the balance in your heart.

Maybe my view is one-sided,But I want to be someone who falls in love with someone at first sight and forgets about it, and I don't want to be someone who thinks twice and chooses carefully, which is not the affection I wanted. I'm a romantic, so I'm more inclined to the first feeling.

From a psychological point of view: love at first sight or long-term love, which is more reliable?

Both don't believe much, because both of them are similar, and over time, love is actually dependence, just like what you get, you suddenly lose it, and you feel reluctant, but after losing it for a long time, you feel nothing, and it is unreasonable to explain this thing with love!

Love at first sight and long-term love, more willing to believe in long-term love, the two will quarrel together, and there should be a dispute over something, whether it is family affection or love, they need to run in together, and they will slowly have feelings and love after getting along for a long time, but there is also love at first sight that can succeed, and it seems that there is not much success.

It should be worth believing in the long-term relationship, because after getting along for a long time, they understand each other's personalities and hobbies. So I believe that we will get along well with each other over time. And love at first sight is not good, and after a long time together, you find that your personality and hobbies are different, and after a long time, contradictions will appear.

I think it's better to fall in love at first sight and then fall in love over time! After all, it is all appearance associations now, and only when you look at the right eye at first glance will there be the next development.

Over time, two people get along with each other for a long time, understand each other, and love at first sight is only suitable for the current eye, in getting along will feel that the other party does not have the heart of the original acquaintance, and the contradiction will make both parties only see each other's shortcomings and distrust each other.

I would like to believe that the kind of love that lasts for a long time, the quality is high and reliable, everyone is more familiar with and understands than the beginning, and the love is guaranteed, and the days will be happy. Support long-term affection.

My boyfriend and I fell in love at first sight, he kept staring at me the first time he saw me, but the friend next to me saw it and asked me if I knew him, I had bad eyes, and I couldn't see his appearance from a distance. The second time we met was on the stairs, and he was talking to me, and my eyes were astigmatism, and I didn't see his face clearly because of the light. The third time was at the dinner, I happened to be late, there was a seat next to him, he looked at me with bright eyes and smiled, I fell in love with him at first sight.

The first two times I didn't know if it was him because of my bad eyes, or if I found out later. For me, the dinner was like seeing him for the first time, and I have been in love with him until now, no matter what happened, when I think of his bright eyes and smiling at the beginning, I forgive him.

After all, love at first sight is only because of a certain aspect of the other party that attracted you at that time.

Love at first sight is based on appearance, and love over time shows that it is truly compatible.

Love for a long time, love at first sight is the intention of seeing the color, and love for a long time is a long-term plan.