I m a good person, but I can t make good friends

Friend, you are similar to me, many times I will follow the will of others, but one thing is different is that I will never pay more attention to those who have a bad relationship, now I have a general relationship with others, not as serious as you, people are like this, sometimes you have to go-for-tat, others will respect you, it is absolutely beneficial to be generous, but you should have your own principles and bottom line, and no one will face you if you violate the principles and bottom line, just like that, you will definitely win respect.

Friends, if you come together, you will get along, if you don't get along, you won't get along, don't accommodate everywhere and work hard to keep it.

Calm down the mentality, everyone is equal, not how much you pay, how much you pay, and naturally you can't measure the return of others with your own efforts.

China's population of 1.3 billion people You will always meet friends who can get along well.

You can't make good friends because you can't satisfy them.

Insist that you will be able to find it, things by like, people by groups, don't lose your individuality.

When they are in need or in a bad mood, I always try to help and comfort them, and when I am in a bad mood, I don't know what they are doing.

This sentence is like narrating my friendship process, I am like you from junior high school to high school to college, as if my relationship with friends is my blind dedication, I can always do my best to help others when they are in trouble, but when I am in trouble, everyone comes to help me? Don't friends help each other? Am I really a fool who only thinks about others, but others don't take you seriously at all.

I remember making a few friends with good relationships in high school, but I always felt that there was a sense of complexity in my relationship with them, as if there was nothing, I could always feel that they didn't treat me as a friend, I always wanted to communicate with others, I also thought that my personality was absolutely fine, but I didn't have any true friends in my life until now, am I really the living Jesus, blindly paying for others, and in the end I can't get the understanding and care of others--- I decided not to deliberately accommodate others, everything is casual, there will always be good friends, If you don't have it, you don't have to deliberately look for it and hurt yourself.

I hope you can understand one thing: your affection for friends is only dependence, and it is not a real friendship. You just need someone you know to give you a sense of security and help you get rid of your loneliness.

The reason why this is the case is because you have a strong inferiority complex at the bottom of your character, and you need to go to the ** yourself as to how it is formed, such as the long-term denial of your parents, the betrayal of relatives and friends, and so on.

This kind of inferiority makes you not dare to give your sincerity when interacting with people, you are not befriending your friends, but only currying favor with your friends through constant concessions and sacrifices as bribes. But there is a limit to what you can give, and you are worried that at any time a competitor who is more expensive than you will take away your friends.

This fear of losing dependence at any time can in turn prevent you from trusting your friends, making it difficult to be honest with them. In response to this uneasiness, you may even want your friend to be under your surveillance at all times, and you will be tempted to know what the other person has done without you, so as to check if the other person has betrayed you.

This behavior can make your friends feel that you are too glued and that your personal space is being violated, and thus begin to alienate you. If you're aware of your problem, why don't you try to trust your friends from now on? At the same time, in order to strengthen friendship with friends, you need to stop emotional bribery and improve yourself to become a person who can help your friends.

There is no friend that cannot be replaced, you are sad just because you care too much, try to keep yourself busy and don't think about these problems all day. After a long time, you will naturally get used to it, and at the same time, you are also doing well, after all, you have always been cranky things, and you have done things to improve yourself, and when you become excellent, you will find. There will be more and more friends.

used to be self, but it was just too hypocritical.

It's not uncommon to meet such a person, but it can be seen that Miao Miao herself is a sensitive and delicate person, and she is always self-reflecting, blaming others for their own mistakes, and not blaming the other party, the most serious word she uses is only one "very hurtful" may be that I am not good, review myself, and after a long time in my heart, it becomes inferior, it may be that I am inferior, I dare not fit in, and I have formed a curse of not being able to make friends.

Have you ever been told bad things behind your friend's back Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

But in fact, the problem is only in the beginning, you treat the other person as a friend, but the other person does not. If it's a friend, if there's anything wrong, she can say it face-to-face, not scold you behind your back; If you feel that you can't get along, you won't get along, and you're not playing you on the surface.

Maybe in getting along, Miao Miao may really do something wrong, but the other party does not give positive feedback, give her a chance to explain and even correct, if there is, you may find that with such introspection and sensitivity, you will not intentionally do anything bad.

Maybe the other party completely forgot about it later, but you can't forget it for the rest of your life, but this must not be a curse for not making friends, it may just make you more cautious about who is worth making friends?

Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

In fact, don't worry, you will always meet friends with the same interests, and you should pay attention to the following points when making friends:

1. Don't treat others as friends, others will treat you as friends, don't imagine too well about people you know and let yourself be hurt.

2. It's not that you have met an unfriendly person, you will be an unfriendly person in the future, don't imagine too badly about the people you know, and let yourself worry too much.

3. Don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes, self-reflection is a good quality, "small province is good for yourself, big province hurts your body".

4. If there is a misunderstanding between friends, the first thing is to communicate positively, and unilaterally saying that you are not really wrong behind your back does not mean that you are really wrong, but saying that you are wrong in the first place.

Have you ever been told bad things behind your friend's back Do you worry that you won't be able to make friends?

5. Bad experiences will have some good value, such as making you know better which friends are worth making, and there will naturally be answers in getting along.

6. Be prepared to understand that the person who understands you is not sent by God, it is you who meet and attract with your own personality charm, believe in the good of your existing partners and friends, first of all, believe in your own good.

7. Not being able to make friends is not a curse, there are not so many friends, look at those who stay and understand you, it doesn't need to be so laborious, and there is no curse to drive them away, recognizing them is enough to break self-doubt.

8. The comfort of "just like Danbi with me, my friends are all your friends" is very heartwarming, and people who choose two-way are also worth believing, but "friends of friends" still need to use their own hearts to distinguish it, maybe it is not suitable for you!