How big are the sequelae of the boy s poor raising ?

The sequelae of "poor raising" are contagious, the child longs for a sense of belonging because of the same, a sense of accomplishment because of something to share, because of material poverty and lack of knowledge, the child is excluded and ridiculed, which will affect his life, the absolute lack of material, but hopes that the child has a full mind, even the master of education can not do it.

It will lead to their inner self-confidence not too much, and they will not be so sure of doing things, and they may also feel a little inferior, because people always live in the economic era, and it is inevitable that there will be some comparisons.

When he falls in love, he will seem very stingy, and girls will not like him very much, because poor boys will make others feel that they can't be on the stage and make others feel more rustic.

He will gradually become very small, not generous at all, and no girl will be able to look down on him, because he is used to being poor, so he is reluctant to spend a penny.

In the future, even after earning a lot of money, they may be very frugal, which will actually be detrimental to their future development to a higher level. Therefore, it is necessary to be poor and not excessive.

To make children feel inferior, in fact, any education method is to master a moderate principle, and there is no need to deliberately "raise poor" before the child is not stereotyped, and it is wise to meet appropriately and do what he can, and help children establish a correct view of money.

Poor boys will develop a resolute character, be able to endure hardships and hardships, not afraid of trouble, and not picky in their conduct. There is also a cheerful, optimistic, positive, and generous attitude towards life.

When he has a girlfriend, when his girlfriend is tired of walking, he will not go to the car together, he will choose to have his girlfriend, walk home, and talk about spending money, he has to talk about a lot of reasons for wasting money.

The boy should be very self-reliant, because the boy will slowly develop his self-confidence in the process of raising himself, and he will be able to deal with some things with ease.

1. Inner inferiority: Just like the boy mentioned above, he has been raised poor since he was a child, and some netizens said that because of the poor support of his parents, this boy doesn't know how many things he has lost! Because the phenomenon of comparison is very serious now, especially when I was a student, it was more rampant, and the last time my little niece said to my brother:

Dad, can you drive me to school next time, because everyone else is driving! Hearing this, I was shocked to feel that such a young child knew how to compare? Children's self-esteem is fragile and sensitive, if their family is not as good as others, they will be very inferior, it is difficult to be confident, so while raising children poorly, we must not ignore the spiritual education of children, tell children that there is no shame in no money, as long as they rely on their own hands, there will be anything in the future!

2. No temperament: It is often said that self-confident people have the most temperament, but poor children have been instilled with the ideas of "poor family", "can't afford it" and "to be obedient" since childhood, how can they be confident? Why is it that, in general, those with wealthy families will be more temperamental?

Because in ordinary life, children know that they are worthy of excellent things, and they are naturally full of self-confidence temperament.

3. Spending money on tiptoe: thrift is naturally a good thing, but excessive thrift is no confidence, some people are used to being poor when they are young, even if they are now grown up and have the financial ability, they still dare not slip into high-end stores, it has become a habit, and it is so easy to change?

It doesn't matter if you're poor or not, the main thing is that you have to broaden his horizons.

We often pursue a famous educational saying: "poor children, rich daughters", in fact, this sentence cannot be generalized, and boys and girls cannot be poor to a certain extent. Children who are too poor will have a concept of poverty in their bones, which will have a bad impact on their future personality soundness.

Today we will share the three harms of raising children in poverty.

The first harm: it is not conducive to the formation of children's consumption concept.

Consumption, wanting, sometimes is a human desire. The child's want, the child's consumption, is also a child's desire. If parents are too restrained, they often educate their children about poverty.

Children will suppress their desire since childhood, but their desires are like tigers, and sometimes they can't suppress them. Therefore, overly suppressing one's consumption and desire will plant bad seeds in the hearts of children.

On the other hand, especially girls, who suppress their desire excessively, are prone to meeting scumbags when they grow up. This is the reason why good girls always meet scumbags, because when they were children, they suppressed their desires excessively. Therefore, when they grow up, when others give a little, the child will feel flattered and trust others.

Therefore, parents should give their children appropriately, so that children can form a correct view of consumption.

The second hazard: it is easy to cause children to have low self-esteem, which is not conducive to the integrity of children's personality.

We talked about the child's desire to consume in the previous paragraph, which is also a desire to express. Therefore, if the children are taught poverty for a long time, the children will feel in their hearts that this is something I can't afford, and that I can't afford it. Since childhood, I have looked at the things that children of the same age have, but children can only look timidly.

Over time, the child will have an inferiority complex in his heart. I feel that I am inferior to others, and I feel that my family is poorer than others. From an early age, children will have a feeling of inferiority, and this feeling starts when I can't afford it.

The third hazard: it is easy to cause estrangement in the parent-child relationship.

Every time a child expresses what he wants to his parents, it is based on the trust of his parents and hopes to get feedback from his parents. But the child is always talking, and then always getting rejection from the parents. Over time, the door of the child's heart is closed, and he no longer expresses his desires to the child.

Slowly, parents don't know what their children are thinking and what their children want. Parents also lose the opportunity to communicate with their children because they are always rejected by their children. Because of this, parents have slowly lost the opportunity to understand their children, and it is difficult to open the door of children's hearts, but it is indeed so easy to close.

Parent-child relationships are difficult to establish, but alienation is easy. A few are not good, and if you don't give them a few times, you can estranged the parent-child relationship for a long time.

First of all, children who have been raised by their parents since childhood are more likely to lack love.

Children's ideas are always very simple, if they are dressed up as little princesses and princes by their parents, children will feel that their parents like to love themselves very much.

On the other hand, if you don't look good in your clothes, or if you don't have access to ordinary toys and gifts, your child will be ridiculed by other children, and some people will even say, "Your parents don't love you." These unintentional words are very devastating to young children, once or twice, the child can still digest them, and if they are not always satisfied, the child will definitely think that their parents really do not love themselves.

Secondly, in terms of personality, these boys who were raised by "poor" are more likely to have low self-esteem.

If they can't get what others get easily, they will constantly doubt and deny themselves, and feel that they are not good enough.

And this kind of thinking will make the child become unconfident, start to have low self-esteem, and dare not contact everyone.

In the end, they don't dare to have real thoughts when it comes to expression.

Many children, under the strict control of their parents, instinctively do not express their thoughts. They are afraid that if they say what they really think, they will attract criticism and scolding from their parents. Therefore, in the case of parents who frequently suppress their children's true thoughts, children have slowly learned to "restraint".

However, this kind of restraint can make the child unhappy, and may even distort his healthy outlook on life, causing him to live a life of depression and loss.

Therefore, parents should not blindly raise boys poorly, and even if they want to be poor, they should also pay attention to the principle of poor support, not simply "picking the door".