How can dads be involved in family parenting?

Dads are always fighting for their careers outside, and for them, they are also fighting for their families and families, because they will feel that if I can create more economic benefits, my family can live a more comfortable life.

1.Communicate, express your feelings, just tell the other person your feelings and expectations, don't judge the other person, and let the other person know your needs clearly.

2.Thank each other for their efforts, maybe what the mother wants is that the father can help in the parenting process, but the father only cares about making money outside and does not meet the mother's expectations, but he should still thank the father for doing his best for the family.

3 Learn to encourage Dad, Dad may not be involved may be a lack of skills, Dad doesn't know how to coax the child, Mom seems to know how to get along with the child by nature, Dad is relatively clumsy, but no matter how Dad behaves, the child can always learn different things from Dad. Mom has to learn to let go and believe that dad can do well. Even if you are clumsy at first, as long as you practice regularly, Dad will find a way to get along with children happily and encourage every little bit of progress in Dad.

If you're on the same frequency as me.

When the mother is pregnant, because the hormone and the baby grow in her body, she will pay more attention to the child's situation than the father during pregnancy, and the father himself has no hormone influence before the arrival of the child, so many mothers will reflect that the father does not care about the baby as much as herself.

Therefore, if you want fathers to participate in family parenting, mothers need to learn a few skills:

Generally speaking, dad is in the work after home to have time to get along with the baby, then the mother must learn to seize this opportunity, to create more space for dad and baby to get along, so that dad and baby more familiar and intimate, will increase the intimacy between the two, will also let dad have more "father's love" consciousness.

And now that the network communication is so developed, mothers can take advantage of this convenience to pass more information about the baby to the father, you can try to share some of the baby's real-time dynamics with the father every once in a while, and tell him what growth the baby has compared to before, let him know every progress node of the baby, let him know more about the baby's information, and slowly the fathers will pay attention to the baby's dynamic habits, and will be more attentive to the baby.

Of course, in addition to these tips, it is also important for mom and dad to communicate more and let him understand some of his ideas.

Fathers play a very important role in the process of family parenting, and the children brought out by fathers who participate in parenting are often braver, creative, and more responsible, which has a great impact on the interpersonal relationships and marital relationships of children when they grow up.

So how do you get dads involved in family parenting?

1.First of all, when talking to your dad, don't start with accusations or sarcasm. Let's not say, you can't listen to the child crying (because he may really not hear it, even if he hears it, he will feel that there is a mother, so he will naturally block it) We have to give the father clear and clear instructions, the child is crying now, you go and pick him up and coax him.

It must be clear and unambiguous, specific to each step, for example, you now go wash your hands with hand sanitizer and then take the bottle out of the sterilizer, give the baby 100ml of milk powder, shake it from side to side, don't shake it up and down, and wipe the water outside after washing. Take another bib.

2.In the process of fathers taking care of their children, they often have a different way of taking care of their children than mothers, and they give their children more space and more freedom. This is great for children to fully explore the world.

Mothers often take on the role of comfort and nurture in the process of parenting, providing a safer environment for their children, so there will be more restrictions. The role of the father is to give the child full freedom and security, and not care about some details, so that the child can explore to his heart's content. At this time, the mother should not be in a hurry to point out the difference with herself, give the father full power and freedom, when the father and the child are together, they are often crazy with the child, different parenting methods, so that the child is bolder and more athletic.

3.In the process of some specific nursing operations of parenting, it is often not because it is the father and not, in fact, the mother is more skilled than the father just does it more times, so the mother should give the father full patience, give them opportunities, encourage more and criticize less.

Many mothers will complain that they have to take care of housework and take care of their children, but Dad is very idle and doesn't have to do anything, Mom is busy to death, and Dad is idle. But in today's society, many mothers are also in the workplace, and they need to fight for their careers and take care of their families.

Because fathers do not need to be pregnant or give birth, they are not as prepared for the arrival of their children as mothers. At the same time, mothers will unconsciously prepare early due to their natural maternal love, so if they want their fathers to participate in parenting, they must teach fathers how to take care of their children.

1. Present facts and be reasonable.

Mom needs to tell dad that dad plays an important role in the growth of children, and children need daddy's companionship and education. Without the involvement of the father, a child's education is incomplete.

2. Encourage Dad.

Dad and Mom, like Mom, are also the first time in life, and no one has experience to find, so when Dad tries to join parenting, Mom should give appropriate encouragement, and when Dad makes mistakes, Mom should not blame and blame, and help Dad do better and better. Sometimes, fathers are also willing to join in parenting, but as soon as they do something, they are told by mothers: It's not right here, it's not right, it's better for me to come.

Over time, Dad lost his enthusiasm for parenting and was reluctant to try more.

In today's Chinese families, "father absence" is a common phenomenon in childcare. Because the traditional Chinese concept is that the man is the outsider and the woman is the inside, the woman should take care of the children, and the man is only responsible for earning money. However, in today's society, in fact, the functions of men and women in the family are becoming more and more consistent, and both play a role in the economy and the maintenance of the next generation.

In fact, dads play an important role in the child's growth path, and the more dads are involved in parenting, the sunnier and healthier the child's growth will be. So, how do you get dads more involved in parenting?

Do a good job of division of labor. Communicate well with the child's father, parenting is the common responsibility of everyone, let the father know that his participation can make the child's personality more cheerful and confident, let the father know what he can do, such as the child's diet is responsible for the father, coaxing sleep and washing clothes is the responsibility of the mother;

Be encouraging. Let Dad change diapers, Dad may be very clumsy, slow movements, at this time don't blame him, men's self-esteem is very strong, as soon as you accuse, he still has a little enthusiasm will be wiped out, simply don't do it, in fact, no matter how much you actually do, you can always find something worthy of affirmation, more praise, such as: Thanks to you, I can have a good rest.

In this way, Dad will be more motivated to do it next time;

Even if you don't do well at the beginning, stick to it.

Mom doesn't think Dad is doing well or too slowly, so she takes over the work herself, sometimes it's not that Dad doesn't want to do it, but Mom is too diligent and makes Dad feel that there is nothing to do. Mom has to learn to be lazy, and since she has arranged things for him, trust him, or give him clear instructions at the beginning, and take Dad to learn to do it together.

In most families in China, mothers bear the responsibility of educating and raising their children, while fathers, who are indifferent to their children's upbringing. With the rapid development of society, the traditional concept of education is also being constantly improved and changed, family parenting is not only what mothers need to do, but also fathers need to participate. And in modern families, only a few fathers care about their children's upbringing.

The healthy growth of a child requires not only the mother's love, but also the father's high shore. In this way, children can be healthy and happy, and their body and mind can develop harmoniously.

So how should we involve dads in the parenting of the family? I think moms should do the following:

First, mothers should not put everything in their own hands, take care of the children by themselves, and just let the father work to support the family, although the child is provided with financial support, but there is really a blank in the child's education. You should learn to let go appropriately. There must be a concept that children are common to us, and we should work together with our husbands to raise children well.

You must also clearly tell your father that the child's upbringing requires the cooperation of both of you.

Second, mom should continue to encourage dad and tell the child's dad that the child loves you and needs more company from you, and wants to learn from your strengths. The education that the father gives to the child is irreplaceable for you as a mother, fully support and encourage the child's father, and help the father to take on the responsibility of family parenting.

Third, we should continue to praise Dad's goodness in front of the child, so that the child can truly experience the greatness of Dad, so as to deepen the child's sense of worship of Dad, admire his father more, and take the initiative to contact Dad. This provides a good opportunity for fathers to raise children, so that fathers can participate in family parenting more smoothly.

Fourth, the mother should provide the child's father with a certain amount of parenting experience, participate in the family parenting with the child's father, and maintain an equal attitude of doing things, the child's education is not only a mother's business, it needs the joint efforts of the father and mother.

Children are two people, must be under the education of both parents to form a complete personality, if there is only one separate education, it is defective, so I think that parents should cooperate with each other, so that children in the process of growth, get a more complete education method.

Nowadays, more and more families are taking the route of widowed education, and fathers usually don't take their children at all, and they won't take their children, even if they want to, they always feel that they have more than enough heart and not enough power.

I think when the child is young, it is necessary to let the father participate in changing the baby's diapers, making milk powder, and playing with the baby, although it is a very simple thing, but the more opportunities for the father to participate, the better the relationship between the child and the father, so that the father also makes a difference.

For example, when Dad is changing diapers, mom can encourage dad and tell the baby that you see Dad is changing your diaper now, you see Dad is great, and it's very comfortable to help you change diapers, right? This is also an encouragement for Dad. Don't complain, while you say that he is not right, and at the same time say that he is not right to hold the baby like this, which will discourage the father's enthusiasm.

No one will be born with children, although women say that their minds are more delicate, men are clumsy, but we must give fathers a chance, some mothers are not very worried about fathers with children, the more you don't give him a chance, the less he has the opportunity to adjust himself and his children.

I think the importance of dad in children's hearts is often realized when children get along with dad alone, so we must give children and dad more parent-child time alone, such as letting dad take the child to build blocks, play puzzles together, and play football together.

Every dad is a hero in the eyes of his children, so we must give dad more opportunities and let him perform more.

Communication and communication are the most useful, and couples should communicate more if they have problems to let him know what you think.

Dad parenting is an indispensable part of children's growth, and babies always prefer to play with their fathers more than their mothers. Fathers are part of the pillars of family life, and many fathers will refuse to take care of their babies on the grounds that they are working harder. But after refusing, he still played his own game on the sidelines.

1.Don't overdo it for you, don't worry enough for fear of getting bad children. The more you don't let him do it, the more time he feels like it's his mother's responsibility.

I think I can let him start with small things, such as feeding the baby or reading storybooks. Then praise more, let him feel that he is doing a great job, and over time he will slowly get used to it.

2.Let the child call dad more and be called by the child, which is something that every father is willing to do. The change of dad starts from the child is called "dad", the milk will be called dad, and the play will be called "dad".

3.Make more, parent-child time. Every day after eating, we go out for a walk and go shopping in the park.

The children belong to both husband and wife, and the father is also involved in parenting, so it will be a lot of fun, what do you think?

In the process of parenting, the role of the father plays a vital role in the development of the child. To get fathers more involved in parenting, it is necessary to create more opportunities to interact with children. Let the father play an important role in parenting and gradually integrate into the child's education.

Fathers set appropriate goals for their children, so that they have the opportunity to succeed and experience the joy of success.

Don't be too demanding, but set appropriate learning goals for him, so that he can achieve the goals and achieve success through a period of hard work. The joy of success in learning is the source of motivation for children to desire to learn and overcome difficulties.

Dad should be calm and don't see grades as the only criterion for evaluating his child's academic performance.

Although the child is relatively poor in terms of academic performance, he must be excellent in other aspects. Dad's encouragement, praise and praise and the power of example quickly bring tangible experience to a child's education.

In parenting education, children will develop full self-confidence, think that they are better than others in some aspects, and produce a sense of success. We must not regard children as useless and reprimand them all day long because of their lagging academic performance, but should be good at discovering children's shining points, encouraging them in time, and valuing the children's all-round development and improvement of comprehensive quality. This is the role and responsibility of fathers in parenting education.