What to do if you are nervous about talking to someone you don t know

In fact, the other party is also nervous... Just relax.

Nervous and unnatural solutions to talking to others, be confident, speak in an organized and logical manner, and lower your inner requirements.

1. Self-confidence. Self-confidence helps solve problems. The same is true for overcoming the nervousness of speaking, when you speak in public, don't always have the thought in your heart that you are not as good as others, so as to increase your nervousness.

So when you speak in public, you have to be confident, and you have to keep hinting in your heart that this is nothing, there is nothing to be afraid of, in fact, you are a better self, and you will speak very fluently.

2. Speak in an organized and logical manner.

If you want to improve your skills in this area, you should pay more attention to the related words you use when you speak, only use the words "then", "actually" and "but" are not enough, regardless of whether your words are reasonable or organized, the better effect of using good related words is that it will make people feel that you seem to be logical in your speech, and you can pay attention to what you will say next.

3. Reduce internal requirements.

Keep your inner demands down and don't care too much about your performance. In the process of interacting with others, people have an inherent demand, hoping to make a good impression on the other person, and it is natural to want to hide their shortcomings. However, if this is too demanding, you will be very concerned about whether your performance is good or not, which will cause nervousness.

Speaking method skills

Learn to listen, don't show impatience when others speak to you, listen patiently to what others have to say, and if there are other different opinions, wait for others to finish before putting forward your opinions, and be gentle. Pay attention to the occasion when speaking, pay attention to different places and different social groups when speaking, and do not make loud noises.

When you meet strangers, you are nervous when you talk to others, in fact, this is all your psychological effect, so how to adjust it? Let's take a look.

1. Learn to be confident. I think the most important thing is to build self-confidence, or to be mentally cold, when you are an authority in a certain field, do you get nervous when you explain to others? Of course not!

Of course, you can be cold in your mentality and kind in your tone.

2. Learn to be adaptable. In different scenarios, quickly organize language to describe everything you see, as fast as you can, increasing the vocabulary capacity and reaction speed per minute. It will be of great help to the on-the-spot response and language organization.

If you feel weird to chant words in a crowd, you can get up early in the morning in the park, or you can look out the window by the railing indoors.

3. Don't overestimate the other party. If you think that you are inferior to him, or even useless, you should think more about your strengths, and at the same time use your strengths to stimulate and strengthen your self-confidence. This will boost your self-confidence, which in turn will help you eliminate and relieve tension.

4. Practice facing others. Not facing others usually means: I feel inferior next to you; I feel inferior to you; I'm afraid of you.

Hiding from other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; I did or thought of something I didn't want you to know; I'm afraid that as soon as I touch your eyes, you will see through me. It's all bad information.

Facing people up to you is telling you that I am honest and above board. I believe what I am telling you is true.

5. Practice speaking in public. People who are reticent in meetings think, "My opinion may not be valuable, and if I say it, others may think it is stupid, and I better say nothing."

Besides, everyone else probably knows more than I do, and I don't want you to know that I'm so ignorant. "These people often make very vague promises to themselves and wait until the next time they speak. But they knew they would not be able to keep that promise.

Every time these reticent people don't speak, he is poisoned by a lack of confidence again, and he loses more and more self-confidence. From a positive point of view, if you try to speak, you will increase your confidence and it will be easier to speak next time. So, speak more, this is the "vitamin" of faith.

Due to lack of self-confidence, the psychology is more sensitive, and wants to perform well in others, but does not achieve the expected results, resulting in psychological shadows. In the face of strangers or relatively unfamiliar occasions, they will worry about not performing well and be nervous, resulting in not being able to speak and not daring to speak. A vicious cycle is formed, and depression may develop over time.

It is recommended to carry out self-psychological conditioning, first of all, to remove sensitive emotions and actively participate in social interactions. Interpersonal communication is about sincerity, as long as you try your best to show that you don't care too much about what others think, and let go of your psychological burden. Secondly, it is necessary to maintain a calm mood, and the interaction begins to protect deep breathing, which is conducive to clarity and proper expression of one's thoughts.

This shows that you are usually less timid, or you are more introverted, so you will meet strangers who are nervous and unable to speak, usually talk to people more, communicate with people more, and slowly you will not be nervous, and you should be relaxed.

If you care about the result, you especially care about what others think of you, you are especially worried about others talking about you behind your back, and you are worried that others will say bad things about you.

Anxiety should be relieved, and depression should be relieved, and you should talk calmly with other people, or you should relax your mood and improve your strength, etc., so that you will not be nervous when talking.

The first is that you should practice speaking on your own, when you are at home.

The second is that you should think clearly about what you want to say before you speak, and the last is that you can make yourself more confident and try to go to some public places to speak boldly, which can exercise you.

When you are at home, you can practice in front of the mirror, imagine the scene when you talk to others, and when you are talking to others, you can relax and relieve tension, take a deep breath first, and then talk to others.

1) Be sure to communicate with others more, the more you communicate, the lower the tension usually becomes. This is behavioural training. 2) Lower your expectations, which means don't set too many demands on yourself and accept your performance.

People tend to exaggerate the impression their performance gives to others. 3) Downplay possible negative comments from others. Admit that you are deficient in this area, and you are not afraid of being ridiculed by others, and if you do it, you will break through.

4) Keep practicing. When you are alone, you can conduct self-speech and speech training to make yourself more prepared and fluent.

First of all, when talking to others, you must be very confident, and don't be nervous, you must do a good job of psychological construction, tell yourself not to be nervous, and you will not be particularly nervous at this time.

When you are nervous, you can take a deep breath to relax, tell yourself, don't be afraid, don't be nervous, and make mental cues, so that you can gradually relax, or prepare well in advance, so that you don't feel nervous.

You can exercise yourself more, as the saying goes, practice makes perfect, and if you talk to strangers a lot more often, then you won't feel nervous and scared. For example, you can try to give a speech in a public place such as the subway, or ask strangers for directions, which can exercise you.

If you want to talk in front of strangers without being nervous, I think psychological suggestion is a very good way, when you are facing strangers, you feel very nervous, at this time you have to tell yourself in your heart, it's okay, don't be afraid, there is nothing to be nervous about, just keep encouraging yourself, you won't be so nervous.

If you want to speak in front of strangers without being nervous, you need to have a strong mental quality, if you have a strong mental quality, then you will be very calm when facing strangers, and you will not be nervous and afraid. For example, when you are interviewing, if you have a strong mental quality, then you will not have stage fright, and you will be more favored by the interviewer if you are calm and calm.

You can comfort yourself more, anyway, these are strangers, even if you say something bad, they won't know you, let alone laugh at you, so this doesn't have any effect on you, I think this kind of words can be very effective to help you relieve this tension, and let you play better on stage.