Are scheming and kindness at odds with each other?

There are positive and negative scheming, some people have malicious or crooked thoughts, can't treat things correctly and fairly, love to be greedy, egoistic, etc., this kind of scheming is negative; And some people have good thoughts, good nature, and will not harm others, and the scheming in the hearts of such people is positive, and it cannot be said that such people are not good people, and they vary according to the person's character. Therefore, scheming cannot be absolutely said to be the opposite of kindness.

All roads lead to Beijing, and there are scheming just to think about more roads.

Can people who think about Ludo still be stupid? If there is a path that does not harm others, he will certainly not choose the path of harm.

There are only two kinds of people who can harm people, one is the scheming person, and the way he thinks can only harm people.

And if you don't hurt people, you can't go this way.

Normally, scheming and kindness are okay.

Scheming and kindness are not absolutely at odds with kindness. Scheming is sometimes understood to mean being clever and clever. Scheming doesn't necessarily mean that you will do things that are harmful to others, it's just a few more eyes.

I have a friend who is too smart, her brain spins very fast, she has a very good observation ability, often the same thing or scene, others don't have any ideas in their heads, but she has a lot of ideas, things in a moment. However, although she cares about herself, she will not do anything harmful to others. At the end of the day, she's also kind.

Scheming is a flexible mind, strong observation ability, a wide angle of seeing things, and many ways, but as long as it is the right way, then he is a kind person.

Kindness is a person's quality, a person's temperament, and there will be strong scheming, but they are all used in the right path, are these two contradictory?

I think it's a mutual promotion!!

I used to have a word to myself: A good man with wisdom has a safe life!!

What do you think?

Good luck with you!!

There is no Amitabha Buddha ...... in the south

Scheming is smart and clever, figuratively thinking about things from a wide angle, and kindness is a person's quality, is a person's temperament, kind people can also have a strong scheming, that is, to go to the right path, do you still think they are contradictory?

No, it's better to be kind, because no one will die if they don't work.

Reunions between classmates are actually a very normal thing, you have to think more about him, since others asked him to go, it means that others still have him in their hearts, if he doesn't go, it is equivalent to saying that he doesn't give people this face, he lied to you in order not to let you worry, but also out of good intentions, can't be said that he is too scheming, if you want to say that he is not right, I think it should be that he did not bring you with him, so let you worry about him, you can't compare his friends with you, Because friends and girlfriends are never in the same unit, the dilemma of love and righteousness, sometimes it is inevitable to take care of one or the other, you have to understand him more, in fact, each other should give each other more free space, don't stick too tight, otherwise it will make the other party feel depressed, breathless, don't think too much, if you leave him for this matter, then I think the price he paid for this party is too great, if it's just that, I think no one can avoid it except him! The two of you have been together for five years, there are not many people who can go through so many years together, if he doesn't love you, I don't think he will be with you for so many years, and you are the same, if you don't love him, I don't think the two of you can go today, so don't hurt each other's feelings for so many years for a little thing, let alone break up lightly, I don't think it's worth it, we should be more considerate of each other, more tolerant, so that we can go through one journey after another together, there is no perfect love in the world, There is no 100% love, eternal love is nothing more than tolerance and cherishing!

I felt like it was a very common thing, and he wanted to go to a class reunion and lied to you. The two of you are a unit, but you both have your own circles and should not interfere with each other, and he has to lie to you in order not to make you angry in front of you! Have you never deceived him for what you like, even if you don't, you should try to think about it from his standpoint, men have to save face, his classmates ask him to go again, you let him behave in front of his classmates in the future!

It is true that men are not as delicate as women, but they will think about the overall situation in the long run! I hope you can forgive him and I wish you all happiness!

I think you have magnified the problem, and this little thing has swept away five years of relationship, and your relationship is too fragile! In that case, let's divide it!

I think it's not all his fault in this matter, you have to know that in front of buddies, men are very face-saving, you think about him, if he doesn't go today, what will those buddies say tomorrow! And one thing is very certain: he could have gone secretly without telling you, but he still told you, which shows that he thinks you don't blame him too much, and you should forgive her for this honesty (don't despise this honesty, it's important)!

It's a pity that he overestimates you, and you're not as understanding as you are in his heart!

Maybe you don't think she's a good boyfriend, but he's a good man who values righteousness, a righteous person, and will never be a person who doesn't care about his family, or just doesn't show it at ordinary times, and you can see it at critical moments, you don't want to have a boyfriend who is usually very good to you, when something happens, or at a critical moment, you don't care about it!

Your parents are really, not making peace for you, and adding fuel to the fire!

In short, all he did was not want to argue with you and you to go, and the method of cutting first and then playing was not a trap, more and more men would use the method of cutting and not playing, so you should be content, and please think more from his point of view, and treat your lover with a tolerant heart!

Good luck!

This doesn't mean that he is scheming, it may be that he wants to go, but you don't let him go, so he said in front of you that he won't go, in fact, he just wants to go in his heart, a class reunion. If it were me, I would have been angry, but it is possible that he didn't want you to be angry, so he let you go home first.

Now that you've been together for five years, don't you know him well enough. If it's separated because of this, is it worth it? You try to talk to him again, everyone talks about the topic head-on, and tries to understand each other's true thoughts, aren't you going to get married, but you can't miss your happiness because of this little thing.

It's not easy to be together, let alone for such a long time, in front of love, you can't be hit by a small thing, only love after wind and rain can last longer.

Love has to stand the test.

Sometimes I get angry in that situation, and I understand that! Because I also have a big temper, I lose my temper a lot, and every time I lose my temper, my boyfriend always says that I have no reason to do it! I'm fainting!

I've had similar examples with him before! It was also his friend who told him to go and I didn't let him, and then he went quietly again! Actually?

When two people are together, they also need to understand each other! Because after all, your boyfriend also has his own position! Boys also value their friends very much, what if your good friend calls you your boyfriend?

Will you quarrel with him? In fact, it is indeed a trivial matter, after all, we have been together for a few years, there is no need to quarrel like this for that kind of thing! Do you want to break up?

When the time comes, your boyfriend is really sad and breaks up, will you be happy? Must be as sad as I am, is it like this now, and there will be a lifetime in the future? And I can see that your boyfriend actually respects you and loves you very much!

Although he lied to you, it was also a little trick, and if he had told you at the time, you would definitely not let you, maybe you would have to quarrel! Didn't you call ** and tell you that he was going? It shows that he respects you and loves you very much, otherwise he wouldn't have told you!

It's all about reconciliation anyway! So next time he comes to you again, you give him a chance, give him a face, and forget it!

You should be glad you found a good man! She rejected them so as not to make you angry! Later, although he went, he confessed to you!

It shows that he loves you very much in his heart! We women shouldn't look at men so closely! He should be given some space!

The kind of man who listens to women about everything is cowardly! The best thing to do is that you should accompany him to a friend's party to sit down and pull him back early! Let his friends get to know you too!

Your boyfriend will also think that you are reasonable, but there is nothing to be angry about! You must cherish this kind of man!

You can't blame him for this, you've been together for five years.

But you still don't understand that it's his fault?

And you have been together for five years.

You should know that there are some things that you should take care of and some things that you should not manage.

Maybe he won't go.

But you have to not let him go.

That's why he wanted to go.

To say, men should also have their own circles.

I can't revolve around you every day.

Even more so when you're married.

You have to understand.

It's been five years since the time of love.

You shouldn't be making him listen to you for everything.

Sometimes you have to think about each other.

I'm really from here.

Don't make a fuss about a little thing.

Think about what is good about him.

Five years is not a short time, cherish the people in front of you.

Class reunions are normal.

Why not let him go.

He's a scheming here.

Besides, he told you later.

I didn't hide it from you, I'm honest, it's just such a small thing to make it like this.

Is it worth it? When I hear you say that, I think you don't love each other anymore.

Passers-by just talk casually, and people think differently.

I don't think so.

This is normal, he also needs a little space of his own, not to mention that he sent you to the car when he was leaving, and repeatedly called ** to you, I feel that he cares about you, I think you are too careful.

Because she doesn't want you to be angry.

As for going to classmates again, it's not easy to get together, and of course he doesn't miss it.

He still cares about you.

I would like to ask the landlord a question: does he want your approval to go to the toilet?

I have nothing to say about you, if so. If you don't want to. You do this as if you were going to the toilet and asking you.

- -You're funny, it's just a party, aren't you overdoing it?

If you get married, you don't even care about how much he eats and how much he pulls.

Let each other be a little free.

Hehe, it's funny. Women are just careful eyes. Of course, it's not just for you. Hehe... At last.. I can only bless you .

It's such a small thing, it's not going to happen, I think it's because you think too much,

Your reasoning is like too much money is not beneficial. You may have some problems with yourself, because you always feel that others are asking for you, and you are defending yourself. In fact, what people need is to compare themselves with themselves, don't be afraid of others surpassing you or something, if you can work together, but there are very few people who can have this mentality.

You set up your own defenses, you think that others can't feel it, in fact, the emotions between people are very subtle, after a long time, your mentality can be felt by others, they think you are that kind of person, so they don't want to make true friends with you.

For example, if you have more money, can you say okay? I think, on the one hand, of course, it's good, we can buy a lot of things we need with more money, but on the other hand, people with a lot of money will change their personalities, and you can't blame them, some things don't transfer by human will, this is very helpless. If everyone can restrain their desires, then the society is obviously harmonious, but people just have desires...

I reckon your performance makes others feel a little contrived, and a little fake.

Because they are jealous of you, jealous of your good studies, or poor students feel inferior to you.

That's right, that's right, I think too. But you have to think on the bright side, it shows that you are very capable and worthy of help, so don't feel bad.

Don't be too social. It's okay to give a little between friends.

Haven't I shared a good thing with you?

Introduction to Pisces.

Pisces date of birth: February 20 - March 20.

Pisces is the last sign of the zodiac, and he combines the strengths and weaknesses of all zodiac signs, while being influenced by the emotions of the water signs, which adds a more complex touch to their already complex personality. The greatest strength of Pisces people is that they have a kind heart, and they are willing to help others, even at the expense of themselves.

Pisces traits.

Symbol: Fish.

Quadruple Nature: Water.

Ruling house: 12th house.

Feminine: Negative.

The biggest feature: abusive feelings.

Host Star: Neptune.

Color: white.

Tripartite Officer: Change.

In charge of the body: feet, lymph glands.

Jewels: ivory stones.

Lucky number: 11

Metal: copper.

Golden sentence: make love no war!