How do you do what you want? How can you always do what you want?

Big brother, don't worry, first of all, I'm not sure what the reason is for you, but I can solve your symptoms. But I'm just the one who convinces you, and the only one who can really help you is yourself. First of all, you have to be bold to talk to people, don't be afraid, you're not losing to others, why are you afraid, right?

Take the initiative to communicate with others, talk to others more, and you will find the beauty in this world. Don't be introverted, be brave, big brother, you are a man, why are you so obscene?? , Be bold, I used to be as introverted as you, but now after enlightenment, I have become very extroverted, this is actually something you can help yourself, you have to learn the psychology of prisoners of war, am I right, big brother???

I'm sure you'll succeed!!

Let go of the shackles of nothingness that you have set for yourself, and show yourself a little to the fullest

What you care about, what you are nervous about, is all the result of yourself drawing a prison for yourself.

First of all, you have to figure it out ideologically, and then try to contact people as much as possible, and it will be good after a long time.

1 Don't be self-righteous, self-clever, self-inflicted, self-delusional.

2 Think more about how to view a person from the perspective of others, listen to how others say how to evaluate a person, and don't do it backwards.

3. Slowly integrate into the masses, understand the psychology of different classes of people, be yourself in every situation, and retain your own principles.

You put too many shackles on yourself, and the more you care about what others think, the less you can do what you want, you know? The best thing to do is to think more about your own mood and less about what others think.

The best way to do this is to be socially networked and not worry too much.

Only by practicing more communication will you understand communication skills and will appear less.

The situation you are talking about.

Generally, it is difficult for people with a lot of concerns to really communicate with others or adjust it yourself, in fact, things are not necessarily what you imagined, and it feels very simple to say it if you can't make it.

Haha: No, when you're skilled at those little tricks, you just do what you want.

Personally, I think. It's a matter of character, as the saying goes:"The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. "It's okay to do things as long as you're happy.

Only when you are at peace can you do what you want.

A thoughtful thought that eliminates all worries.

First of all, there must be free thought. It is often the thoughts that determine the actions, and what thoughts lead to what kind of behavior they have. Free thought is essential.

We are often swayed by a lot of things because we care, and caring about Bi Hand Model is our pain point. When it comes to our pain points, we have to care, we have to be unfree, we have to not be able to do what we want.

Increasing one's knowledge can solve problems in many ways. There may be many ways to solve a problem, but it may be precisely because of our narrow vision that hinders our search for a way to solve the problem. With a wide range of knowledge, you can find a number of ways out, gradually unfazed, and gradually achieve what you want.

Do whatever you want, but also have your own bottom line. If there is no bottom line, then the so-called freedom, the so-called freewheeling will have no end, and the result is the continuous expansion and amplification of desire.

Be broad-minded; Different development directions determine different realms, different heights to see the scenery is not the same, want to do whatever you want, you must understand a larger and broader vision, will be when the top of the mountain at a glance.

Endurance, slowly accept some things, when these unacceptable things are gradually accepted, and the unbearable things are gradually endured, then the self-tolerance ability will also improve, and the state of doing whatever you want will will slowly take a step forward.

We must be cautious when encountering major events, otherwise we will not be mature enough. Sensibility is also a kind of lifestyle change in judging by dismantling beams, and scumbag regret cannot be completely rational. Live a little more emotionally, that is, be casual, and life will be easier.

We are often swayed by a lot of things because we care about loose and loose beards, and caring is our pain point. When the tape measure touches our pain points, we have to care, we have to be free, we can't rush, we can't do whatever we want.

Unless it's in your own dreams, you can't do what you want forever

He always does what he wants and works tirelessly for it.

Those who are extremely successful, they don't care about other people's opinions, they don't care about what they want to do, it doesn't make sense, they like to do it, they will do it. They don't imitate others, they are always mavericks, and their behavior often seems, deviant, nuclear-resistant, and unbelievable.

As Steve Jobs said:"Your time is limited, so don't live for someone else. Don't be limited by dogma, don't live in other people's ideas. "

Surpass the energy and stamina of ordinary people, and devote yourself to the things you like, no matter whether it brings you fame and fortune, no matter what others think.

One cannot do what he wants, nor can he do what he wants. There is a limit to what we can do, because we bear the responsibilities that this world has given us, the bondage that we have from birth and ascension.

The world is in order. Since ancient times, the state has national laws, and there are family rules for talking about the hometown. If you cross the line, there will be a penalty. If the world is a machine that operates on a hollow platform, then we are small screws with fixed positions, and if one of them goes wrong, the machine will be chaotic.

People and animals are different, everyone thinks, and everyone thinks differently. But we can't do whatever we want, because we are a whole and need to cooperate with each other. Just as there is no such thing as absolute freedom, freedom must be self-disciplined first.

Therefore, it is impossible for people to do as they please, let alone as they please.

You do what you want, but you want others to carry the burden.

Everyone wants to be free, we all want to be unfettered, but we don't think about what kind of life is free.

We always say that you can do whatever you want, and you can do whatever you want! But we know very well in our hearts how can there be so-called arbitrariness in this world.

When we were young, we had to obey our parents' discipline at home, and we had to listen to our teachers' arrangements at school, and we thought that when we grew up, we would be able to do whatever we wanted. So when I was young, I always dreamed of growing up.

When we grow up, we need to work and take on all kinds of social responsibilities. We need to educate our children, we need to buy a house, we need to repay the loan, we need to listen to the boss's arrangement, we need to take care of the feelings of our mother-in-law, we need to settle for our husbands, and we need to ......Those we once thought that we could do what we wanted when we grew up, and when we grew up, we realized that when we grew up, we couldn't do what we wanted, so we began to miss the time when we were young, and began to sing over and over again I don't want to grow up.

Is life too hard? Or is there no such thing as a freewheeling thing in this world?

It's that we have too many expectations and misconceptions about doing what we want.

We always think that doing whatever we want is to do what we want, but you have to understand that everything should have boundaries, and freedom is the same, it is all relative.

I once heard a story about a prisoner in a prison who said, I'm free, and my freedom is that I can decide how to spend my years in prison? You can't help but laugh when you hear it, isn't prison a place where people's freedom is restricted? However, did you know that when he was released from prison, he obtained a CPA certificate through his studies in prison?

What I want to say is that there is no such thing as good or bad, right or wrong in this world.

What you think is wrong may just be something wrong with our definition. We don't have an effective understanding of things.

The world is beautiful, but we have too many requirements for ourselves! It should not be us who are disappointed in the world, but in ourselves.

In life, there are always some people who never think of you when they have nothing to do. There's something good to share, and they don't think of you. However, as long as it is something to be courtesy, they always think of you as soon as possible and never pull you down.

Although we don't feel good in our hearts, we always get in the way of some emotions and send red envelopes with a smile on our faces.

I stumbled across a piece of text. It is said that when people reach a certain age, they should abandon some people. The first is to look down on your relatives and friends.

The second is someone who is insincere and hypocritical to you. I think there seems to be some truth to that. Usually, there are always some people who always pretend not to hear or see when you need to disturb the heights.

But when he himself needs it, he will change the law to let you know. I'm embarrassed not to show you. Usually strangers are stranger than passers-by.

Even if you build a kitchen at home, you have to be asked to drink happy wine. For such relatives and friends, it's not that I'm stingy, I really want to abandon it.

Whenever I receive ** from relatives and friends who have not been in contact with me all year round, I am asked to go to drink wine one day and another. I really want to say, "I'm not going". But so far, I have been able to attend the appointment as scheduled.

I would love to be a freewheeling person and only be good to those who are genuinely good to me. Or even double down on being nice to them. For those who usually never think about me, and who never shush the cold when we are in trouble, they no longer pay attention to the spring and plum side meetings.

I don't know if I do this, will I be said to be ruthless and unjust, and I don't understand human feelings?

What do you need to support your freewheeling life, maybe a person who is used to doing whatever he wants no longer needs to have a fulcrum, those casual and honest temperaments are enough to support an interesting soul.

It's like escaping the hustle and bustle of the city, being a quiet person, reading, traveling, and giving yourself a soft time, which can be not too far away, not too expensive. Maybe we are all interesting people, but time makes us rare and interesting, but people who do what they want are not necessarily free.

In this world, you can either make friends with people with interesting souls, or get along with simple and simple people. If not, then what's the matter with going it alone, life needs to be used carefully, and decisions must be made carefully, because we only live once, how can we be willing to let "her" not be beautiful? In this one-time life, I practiced some knowledge of life, and what I learned was all the way to self-understanding, no matter what direction I went to, it was to find a better self.

However, when all this becomes a fetter, can you single-handedly fight your way out of the encirclement?

Each of us has the problems of life, but the treatment of mentality is very different, not everyone can do what they want to let go of themselves and look at life optimistically. In fact, in this world, where there is sunshine, there are shadows, and where there is light, there is darkness. No corner is truly self-contained.

Therefore, all the beauty in the world is given by us, even if it is just a state of mind......

It may be that after seeing through all the world, you will be able to enjoy every minute and every second of your own life as you like, but there will still be good and bad dependence, don't forget to be kind to others in good times, and be kind to yourself in bad times, there is no road in vain in life, every step counts.

For example, color is everything, all the scenes in the world, and the wise man uses all the things in the world to confuse others, but his own wisdom is not confused. The fool is fascinated by all things in the world, things have changed, life is empty in the end, why bother to be stubborn, at the moment, seek a safe trip, and the rest of your life is enough.

Do what you want, not mess around, not go with the flow. When I was young, I always felt that I didn't know how to pass the time, and I spent my time all day long. When I was middle-aged, I realized that my time was so limited, almost pitiful.

If you want to do whatever you want, it has become very luxurious to answer potatoes at one time.

Calm down and do one thing slowly, slowly. A cup of tea, a book. A pot of flowers, or a painting.

A plate of side dishes, a pot of sake, a person, a period of time, sitting alone in the sunset. You may feel lonely, but slowly appreciate the process, it is not the same as a kind of fun, sometimes you can do what you want, not simply casual, even if you want to do what you want, you will have the ...... of the hand hall with the delicacy of doing what you want

Doing what you want means doing what you think in your mind, and not being affected by other factors.

I had a dream: to wander the rivers and lakes and carry wine. It was the cause and effect planted by watching "The Legend of Chu Liuxiang" when I was very young, and I was entangled until I graduated from college for two or three years.

Chu Liuxiang wandered the rivers and lakes, carrying the beauty and walking, how fast! The heart yearns for it. But until now, I haven't even traveled seriously, but I have really wandered the rivers and lakes, but there is no wine, not even food.

Why can't the vast majority of us do what we want? It's not because you don't have the ability, it's because you do what you want, and you don't have the ability. Lack of capacity leads to the lack of corresponding resources, let alone the possibility of doing what we want.

Doing what you want is a manifestation of incompetence, or incompetence is the result of doing what you want.

The acquisition of any kind of skill in the world is not easy to complete, it must be studied hard, patient practice, this long process is not happy at all, boring, boring, hard, irritable these negative emotions may accompany the whole process.

Without the accumulation of time, it is almost impossible to master a skill with a lot of practice and do it slightly better than others. And what is competence? It's the accumulation of one skill at a time, for example:

A person only has speech skills, and there is absolutely no person who has both speech skills and writing skills.

From thinking to writing to revising, my chaotic practice writing, about 500 words, will take me about an hour to an hour and a half. During the period, it was very sad, and it would be broken and I couldn't write it at all; I don't know how to use words, I have ideas in my head, but I just can't find the words to express them; will be sleepy, but after the debate wheel is buried, he will slap himself twice, and he will still fall asleep after a while; I will lose confidence in myself because I fell asleep one day and didn't write; will be overwhelmed; There will be no hope. None of this can be done on a whim.

If you do what you want, sleep when you're sleepy, don't write if you can't think of it, don't read if you don't see hope, I don't think I'll ever be able to write, and I think the same will be true of your process of learning skills.

There is a very simple truth, we should have heard it many times, the simpler many things the better, and many things are very simple in essence. If you want to learn to write well, just read and write more; If you want to learn to speak well, just talk more; If you want to learn English well, just use it more; If you want to drive a good car, just drive more; If you want to be insured, it's good to visit more. Isn't it simple, many things are very simple in nature, but simple does not mean easy.

We all know that if we want to have performance, visiting customers more is the best path, and everything else is secondary, but there are nearly 800 people in the entire county company, and it is rare to really visit customers three times a day. Doesn't everyone else want to make money on the list, it's an insult to IQ to think like this. It's just a simple truth, which many people may understand, but simple does not mean easy.

If we do what we want, we will not have the patience to continue to polish a certain skill, and there will be no way to practice that skill well, let alone the accumulation of skills and the improvement of ability.