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Everyone grows up from the past. To deny your past is to deny you. Then there will inevitably be no good outcome. Honey, let's be apart for a while. You can't wake up someone who is immersed in your own world.
Whenever you meet him, he will always mind your past, can't see your good, and even hurts you with words. The question is, is it your fault for owning the past? When you and your ex-boyfriend are in love, when you reach that point, what is he doing in **?
When you break up and are in pain, does he show up in time to relieve your pain? You're not wrong. He didn't appear, it's also a fact, and it's also a matter of fate.
If he really can't let go, you can temporarily endure the pain and separate for a while, and always uncover the scars with him (isn't it more hurt, aren't you afraid that if you go on like this every day, your estrangement will get bigger and bigger?). It's better to believe in one thing: people who really like each other will come back when they are separated, calm down, he will judge, can he completely let go of your past and choose to be with you, you can also judge, for such a person, can you still choose to be with him under the impact of time.
Make it clear to him, remember, you must make it clear, let him face the facts, you also face the facts, let the temporary parting test your feelings, if you both agree to be apart for a period of time and not contact at all (not a breakup), if you really like each other, think about it well, to live, maybe a month is the best interval, and when you meet again, these questions will not be a reason to hinder you.
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Then change a boyfriend, if you like someone, you have to accept all of her, including your previous feelings, he minds very much, it can only mean that he doesn't like it enough.
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Then break up and let him find someone he hasn't talked about, what kind of emotional cleanliness is this. Then you broke up with him, didn't he also fall in love, and let him chase you again, so that the two of you are the same.
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This kind of machismo thinking is serious, even if you marry him, he will bring up this matter from time to time, so if you can't stand it, break up!
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I think it's better for you to break up, it's an established fact that you escaped love, and you can't change it. If the other party keeps minding, it's useless to explain it.
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Since he always minds that you have been in love, then you should break up with him, otherwise he will always hurt you with this matter after a long time.
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It's better to split up as soon as possible with such a boyfriend, otherwise you won't be happy together, find someone else who knows how to cherish you.
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Care more about him, love him, let him know how much you love him, and tell him that you will only love him alone in the future.
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If he really minds so much, I advise you to break up, otherwise you will give everything for him in the future, and in the end he will still mind, and it will be too late at that time.
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It would be a shame to tell your boyfriend that it's not a big deal, and don't let this little thing affect the relationship between the two of you.
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I think it's normal, boys sometimes have a bit of a cleanliness mentality, they don't say it, but they care about the girl's ex.
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Very few people are in love only once in their lives, so if your boyfriend has been in love many times, I think we should also face this matter with a calm mind, and don't think that there is anything wrong with him having been in love many times.
If we don't mind, we can actually think about whether we have been in love many times. If I've been in love many times myself, then I don't think it's necessary to mind others, but if it's the first time we've been in a relationship, and then our boyfriend has been in a relationship many times, we can just tell him some of our inner suspicions. If you communicate directly with your boyfriend about this kind of problem, there is no big problem, and you can also understand how he treated his girlfriend in his previous relationship.
has been in love many times, but it can only show that in the previous relationship, those people are indeed not suitable for us. But talking about these relationships is also to let us continue to find ourselves in love, find our own problems in love, and then slowly improve. As long as these relationships are good to get together and disperse, I don't think there is much of a problem for people who are in love.
So minding or not is just our inner thoughts, and it's a thing of the past that our boyfriends have been in love many times.
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If we say that we have been in love many times because he has been in love many times, and we are very mindful in our hearts, which leads to a bad relationship between the two people, I think it is more than worth the loss. In fact, the past has passed, but he was able to find his own problems from so many relationships in the past, and then treat the current one well. And the current is like the descendants who planted trees and the descendants who enjoyed the shade.
So don't mind, as long as we can talk to our boyfriend and be open to solving this matter, I don't think there's any need to mind about it.
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You shouldn't mind, because it's normal for guys to be in love many times, and that's all in the past.
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If you really get along for a long time, you should know what kind of person he is, or the previous breakup is not all his reason, if you like it, you won't mind, there is nothing that should not be, mind to separate, don't mind to be together, you have already asked so, it means that you mind, some questions do not need to be asked.
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You shouldn't mind, because everyone's previous experience cannot be changed, and you shouldn't look at him when you fall in love.
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You should mind, if your boyfriend is in a relationship a lot of times, it means that your boyfriend is more attentive, and you should pay more attention.
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Personally, I don't think you should continue to date him, because he cares very much about your love history, so there will be a lot of friction in the future.
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Personally, I think you should continue to have a relationship with him, your love history is already in the past, tell him not to mind these things anymore, get along well, and communicate well.
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Don't, this kind of man doesn't really love you, if you can't do it, then he will probably treat you very badly in the future.
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If you want to talk about it again, then before you talk about it, please think about what is the meaning of you talking about it or telling the other party about it, and after thinking about your purpose, you can decide how you want to say it and to what extent.
If there is a lot of complicated love history, say some simple, less and less wrong, this is the principle. If it's for a better future, then a beautiful lie; If you can be honest with each other, why hide it?
If one of them wants to know, he will confess, and if two people are together, they will forget about the past, live in the present, and look forward to the future.
If you can avoid it, you can avoid it, if you can't avoid it, the lover insists on asking, then figure out the other party first, and then be cautious after exploring the starting point.
Regarding the history of love, since it is "history", there is already a suspicion of artificial processing, so proceed from reality and avoid all the minefields that may trigger the sensitive nerves of becoming humans. Honest with reservations, not lying, this is a kind of human sophistication in life.
There are always people who feel that if you love someone, you should completely confess yourself to him, and unreserved confession is trust.
But I think whether or not to confess is based on whether or not to hurt the other party, if I know that I confess the details of my past relationship history may make the other party angry or quarrel with me because of this, then I will choose not to confess the details.
A really smart person will lightly skip the details of past relationships, and it is better not to know some things than to know.
People who have been clinging to the past will not have a better future.
Love is an infinite longing for everyone, and being able to join hands with your first love is of course the result that everyone wants.
But there are also a lot of love that can't go to the end, and have to break up and collapse for some reasons. Life has to go on, and the wounds of falling out of love will slowly heal over time, so who doesn't have a few romances in their life, these are all normal.
Who doesn't have the past, but some people don't mind the other half's past, the past is the past, and the most important thing is the present, and some people don't mind the other half of the past very much.
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Boyfriends are very concerned about your love history, then you break up, if you are reluctantly together, you will not be happy, because he cares about your past, so he will bring up this matter from time to time, which is often unpleasant for both parties.
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Since your boyfriend is very concerned about your love history, it means that he is a human-shaped person with a small intestine and chicken belly, and your bad love history is a hungry tenant who can't be changed, and since he is jealous, he can only break up and can't live together.
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I think the other half's love history is not important, the most important thing is whether there are historical problems, and whether the other party is completely relieved of what happened before and completely broke off the relationship.
Everyone has their own past, it's inevitable, and if the past happened and can't be changed, why should we live with it?
Before establishing a relationship with a person, really talk to each other frankly, and understand each other's emotional and love history, understand how many times the other party has been in love, how the last time they broke up, understand the other party's outlook on life and values, and also understand the other party's character and other information through some friends and people around them, and make sure that the other party is a "reliable" person before formally establishing the relationship, which can avoid some risks of being hurt.
Mind what the psychology of your partner's past is.
There are three types of psychology that make you mind your partner's past.
1. There is a sense of insecurity in the heart.
People who have a sense of security will understand that people will change and grow, but people who have a strong sense of inner anxiety like to look at problems from a certain perspective.
Therefore, when you find out that your partner has loved someone so much, or that your partner has done something for your ex, it can trigger insecurities and the fear of abandonment.
Moreover, the insecure person will be very concerned about his place in his partner's heart, hoping that he is unique, and once his partner has an unforgettable past, he will feel disappointed, helpless, feel that he is not important, and attack himself.
2. Inferiority complex.
There are also people who have low self-esteem in their hearts, so they will compare themselves with their partner's previous partners. If the previous partner is better than you, you will be afraid that your partner will abandon you.
This kind of psychology arises because people with low self-esteem need to judge their self-worth by comparing themselves with others, they have a strong sense of low value in their hearts, they don't think they are good enough, and they don't accept themselves. They think they're good enough to be loved.
Therefore, they will always please their partner in the relationship, feeling that they can only get their partner's love after giving, but they will often cause their partner not to cherish it because of excessive giving.
3. Control the mind.
There is a group of people who also care about their partner's past, and this type of person is a person who has a strong desire to control. The reason why they care is because they are afraid of losing control, so they will always treat the other half as an object, thinking that he belongs only to them.
Once someone else appears, he will feel out of control in his heart and feel that he can't accept his partner, even if this person is in the past tense, he will still mind very much in his heart.
If his grades are very good, then he may not be very good at dealing with these things, a little overwhelmed, or it may be that he has not considered these things, but since he likes it, he has to stick to the end, I believe that this boy is also very good, his words show that he doesn't want to hurt you, he is really happy enough, you are the same, it is also a happy thing to like someone.
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