Should I refute my father in law s point of view?

No, just listen to it. There are many aspects to be careful about getting along with your father-in-law, and you can't act too casual.

Listening is the key to talking to your husband. The uncle is different from the daughter, the daughter listens to her father, and if there is something uncomfortable, she will quarrel directly. Uncle can't do it, no matter how much you nag, you have to endure listening, and you have to pretend to be very patient to listen.

Everyone has married their baby daughter to you, and you can't bear this hardship?

Get along with your father-in-law, don't be reckless, no matter how good you are, you have to keep a low profile. Don't show off the bragging skills of your fox friends and dog friends here in the old man, it will not help you at all, but will affect your image in the heart of the old man. The old man generally still wants to be stable, and he will not feel at ease when he sees you talking so much!

In front of the old man, the attitude must be modest and cautious. For example, when you meet an old man who likes to be reasonable, you must nod your head again and again and praise him; When you meet an old man who loves to tell stories, you must listen attentively and enjoy it. The old people have always experienced more things than we young people, and it doesn't hurt to hear more.

This face must be given to the old man!

When talking to the father-in-law and the mother-in-law, you must pay attention to your tone, especially the honorific language, you must remember that you must speak appropriately, and do not say some abrupt words, which will cause the disgust of the father-in-law and the mother-in-law, everyone must pay attention.

When I see my father-in-law and mother-in-law for the first time, it is normal to be nervous, but nervousness is nervousness, and some things that should be paid attention to should be paid attention to. The most important thing is to have a flexible brain and feel very honest and down-to-earth. To know how to observe words and looks, when eating, if the father-in-law likes to drink, you must accompany the drink, of course, in the position of the seat should also pay attention to some basic etiquette, at the same time the first time to go to the father-in-law and mother-in-law's house, it is not recommended to stay for a long time, a day or two is enough, some even have to come back in the afternoon!

When you are in contact with your father-in-law, you must respect them, especially when your father-in-law speaks, you must not stop it, don't grab words, this is a very bad aspect of what many people do, listen to the father-in-law to look at him seriously, don't interject casually, so that he is a quality person.

No. I think you should be tolerant of the wrong but harmless ideas and practices of your elders, and it is almost impossible for you to change a person's opinion, so it is better to save his face.

It shouldn't be refuted, if you refute it, others won't necessarily accept it, and it will make everyone unhappy, there is no need for this, and you will have to face it in the future.

Don't be too tough to refute directly, you can also express some of your own views appropriately, anyway, don't blindly obey, you still have to express your own views on some important issues.

Don't blindly refute and rush to say your point. Because when oneself is refuted by a nameless, it is difficult for people to accept the other party's opinion out of self-preservation.

It should be refuted, but you can communicate with your partner and then tell your father-in-law tactfully, instead of refuting it directly, which can easily lead to conflicts, and it is very hurtful, and finally it becomes a quarrel.

Don't want it, why should you get along with your father-in-law, you won't have any sense of accomplishment after rebutting it, but it will affect the good feeling in your father-in-law's heart, just follow your father-in-law.

No refutation. My father-in-law is Taishan, and what I hate most is that others challenge his authority, so even if you don't agree, don't refute it to your face.

I don't think you should refute it. You said that you are a father-in-law, which means that you have not yet taken their daughter, and everything will change. Let's go with your father-in-law.

Don't refute, after all, the father-in-law is the father of his wife, and he wants to give his wife face, but also respect the elders, and refutes the displeasure of his wife's family.

No refutation. Under normal circumstances, if you refute it, it will inevitably lead to a war of words, and no matter who wins, it will inevitably be embarrassing in the end.

Hello, dear, this phenomenon is common for the following reasons: First, the language habits of the father-in-law's family, and the tone of speech between members is not good at agreeing, so they are easy to find faults. The father-in-law has low emotional intelligence and can't communicate, but he doesn't have any other malice.

Second, there are cultural and cognitive differences between the two generations, which can also be said to be a generation gap, with different views on the same thing. Don't pay too much attention to this kind of thing, after all, they are not others, you can tactfully ask them the reason, and then solve the problem according to the situation.

I haven't experienced this from you, and I now eat at my father-in-law's house every day. No, a family of three has been eating for three or four years. Haha, envy has wood.

After I was cheeky, I would come from Beijing to Shenzhen after graduating from college, and I didn't know what to buy when I came to her house, anyway, I went over with a big bag and a small bag, and my father-in-law copied more than a dozen dishes, and the table was full of dishes. Don't ask why, because my dad and her dad were classmates, and my wife and I were classmates. For the problem that the father-in-law doesn't like himself, I think that after the child is born, the family of three often goes back to see, buy something that is appetizing to the father-in-law, and pull the family out to play, nothing to chat, after a long time, with a grandson in the middle, the relationship will ease, I can't dislike you, you don't like him, so that the relationship between you and your wife will also have problems in life in the future.

It is reasonable for the father-in-law to dislike the uncle, after all, it was the father-in-law's lover in his previous life who was robbed by the uncle to be his wife, although it was a joke, which shows the father-in-law's love for his daughter. Based on the above two reasons, as an uncle, you must do three things well, and you will definitely be able to win the favor of your father-in-law: you must be good to his daughter, and at the same time, you must be positive, and your father-in-law will be relieved to hand over his daughter to you.

Be respectful to your father-in-law. Be sure to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law.

I am qualified to come to such a question, because I am also a person with a father-in-law, my daughter-in-law and I talked about ourselves, the first time I met my father-in-law was when I was in school, he drove a motorcycle to pick me up and my daughter-in-law, the first time I saw my father-in-law, his hair was a lot, he was a country doctor, he looked very kind, and he was approachable! After all, my girlfriend and I had just been talking for half a year at that time, so I met my future father-in-law in a daze, and I was more introverted, so I didn't like to talk much when I lived at my daughter-in-law's house! On the contrary, they said that I was more stable, reliable, and very good, and I got up very early every morning when I lived at my daughter-in-law's house, helped my mother-in-law cook the pot, and dried some groceries, hoping to win their favor, but I didn't do it deliberately, I usually do this in my own house, so I can't see that it's pretended!

From a narrow point of view, the daughter is the father's treasure, there is no doubt about this, the father can't accept the fact that his daughter leaves him, although he will leave sooner or later, but no matter how old the daughter is, she is a child. From a lenient point of view, if you observe society, parents are almost not satisfied with finding a son-in-law, no matter how good you are, no matter how good you are, he can find fault with you, because they think that no matter how good you are to her, they are not as good as they are to their daughter.

Normally, they are reluctant to do everything possible before marriage, and they will be very good to you after marriage, and they will recognize you, because they have regarded you as a family, if they do not recognize you after marriage, they have to find reasons from themselves, examine themselves, and see if they are not doing well.

If you want to get your father-in-law's satisfaction and optimism, not only do you be good to his daughter, but also pay attention to the following points: the first impression is very important, the first meeting must be polite, generous, and show your hands to make others seem that you are more sensible! Love your daughter-in-law enough, this is the only way to move your future father-in-law the most, no matter how good you do the rest, it's all nonsense if you don't love your daughter-in-law! Often pass**, often call your father-in-law**, even if you don't say much, you have to play, so that he will deepen his impression of you.

Daughters are the heart of their father, the flower you picked is still highly educated, and your family environment is not as good as the woman, with hard work for her to go to college, study for a master's degree, you have thought about the hard work and fatigue behind it, more than 20 years, she has not honored her parents, she was taken by you to be a daughter-in-law, your father-in-law must be unhappy, promised you that it is because he loves his daughter.

The main thing is that you should be good to other people's daughters, filial to the elderly, stronger than others, and able to earn money to support your family, rather than having an empty brain with a high IQ but no economic mind. Therefore, after the child is born, go to the father-in-law's house more, take a roundabout route, please the mother-in-law, blow the wind in the ear, and get the father-in-law in one or two years.

If he really doesn't like himself, then you should have a little more patience, after all, when a person accepts a person, he needs a certain amount of time, this time can't be, he should be in a hurry, you should slowly show him his advantages.

It's nothing.,It's up to your personal mental quality.。。

He has not yet said that his parents-in-law live in the countryside' or in the city; Is it a small city, or a big city. What is the state of living in the local area, what is the health situation, etc., should be considered. In this way, the correct answer can be made.

In my opinion, there are two old husbands and wives every month, and in the countryside, vegetables, chickens and ducks are planted and bred by themselves, which can reduce a little living expenses, and they have a little savings if they are a little poor. But if you're in a city or a big city, you don't have much to save after you settle your living expenses. Eating every day, buying vegetables, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, spring, summer, autumn and winter seasonal clothes, monthly **, water and electricity bills, etc., everything costs money, and going out is inseparable from a money word.

Have you ever thought about it, the old husband and wife, with hard work, raised their daughter and handed it over to their son-in-law, and now the old husband and wife only have an income of 3,000 yuan per month, and they don't have much savings, and the old man is most concerned about getting sick in the future, how to do without savings.

Of course, the key is whether the juniors care about the elderly, often go to the elderly's homes to see, cheer for their homework, buy something to visit their second family, and have a good relationship with their second family, and they will not put forward any high requirements.

Since you have asked their daughter to be their wife, as long as you are able, try your best to meet their necessary living expenses and future medical security. As long as you can care about them, they won't make unreasonable demands.

It really doesn't make sense. The son-in-law's income is the result of his own efforts, and it has nothing to do with his parents-in-law, and the son-in-law's own economic conditions allow, he can give them some extra money every month, but he asks for 100,000 yuan per year, and if his own son earns 500,000 yuan a year, I believe he will not give them 100,000 yuan. Because the son-in-law also has his own home and his own parents, he also needs to reserve, and unreasonable requests should be refused.

Of course it doesn't make sense. Is there any reason to give your father-in-law 100,000. It would be nice to have enough money for living expenses.

It's a lot of heart to get two thousand a month.

It doesn't matter if the economy allows, the father-in-law is also a relative, don't look too much at the money, it's not about being more than satisfying, otherwise life will have no meaning.

I said that this parents-in-law are really demanding, and I am really speechless, even if it is not a high-end life, it will not be good. Sick. At most, it's enough to play with 2 or 3.

His parents-in-law are a bit too much, after all, their daughter doesn't go to work to earn money, if they are really short of money, they can tell their son-in-law, but they can't force it, it will be disgusting.

Do your best to do your duty and support the elderly. You can't be too much to the elderly, but you can't let the old people mess around.

Resolutely do not give. I don't have the money to enjoy a high-end life.

You're talking nonsense, it makes sense jb

In traditional Chinese culture, a son-in-law is regarded as a member of the wife's family and should bear certain maintenance obligations. Therefore, I believe that the son-in-law has an obligation to support Yue Feng for the following reasons:

1.Social morality: The son-in-law has the obligation to assume the responsibility of supporting Yue Feng, which is a manifestation of social morality and family values.

2.Family relationship: The son-in-law has established a kinship relationship with Yue Feng, and should respect and take care of Yue Feng's living needs.

Traditional culture: In traditional Chinese culture, children grow up to take care of their parents and fathers-in-law, and sons-in-law, as members of the wife's family, should also fulfill this obligation.