Would anyone just want to find someone to marry and then work on their own careers?

Although I am a girl, I think the same as you, I don't want marriage to be an obstacle to my morality. The world is so big, I want to work hard to see how prosperous the world really is!

When I was a child, my mother always taught me that girls should do more housework, and when they marry into someone else's family, they will do anything! so that they will not be blinded by their in-laws.

Mom said that no matter how powerful a woman is before she gets married, she must eventually start a family and teach her husband and children! Otherwise, her marriage will not be happy, and her husband will not be able to stand a woman who can't take care of his family in the end, and he will leave you! So you have to learn to do housework, the battlefield of a woman's life is home!

But I don't want that!

In fact, I really don't want to stay at home for the rest of my life, give birth to men, wash clothes and cook, these can be done by nannies! Why should I waste my time doing something that anyone can do? After getting married, did you become a nanny who didn't want money?

No, no, no, it's not the life I want.

Many people say that their husbands have become lazy after getting married, and that's because you are lazy behind his back, aren't you? I don't want to be this kind of yellow-faced woman, I want to compete with men for jobs, even after getting married, I don't want to waste my life on unnecessary things!

What the? What should a traditional woman do? Traditional thinking can't bind a woman with ideals! I want to fly higher and farther to see the vastness of the world.

I've been married for more than a year, but I've never given up earning money or giving up my career. Maybe I'll have a baby in the future, but I don't want it right now! I want to take my career to a certain height!

Even if my career can't go up, I have to find a way to saturate my wallet! I want to live a delicate life and create with my hands.

As women, we should not be men's accessories for the rest of our lives, we must have our own careers, and only careers can reflect our value! What is the value of being a housewife at home? You deal with some non-verbal chores every day, and you will lose yourself!

You may one day be eliminated by your husband by your family!

That's what I thought about, so when I got married, I didn't find someone to fall in love with, I found a man who could accept my novel ideas to marry! He fights his job, I fight mine. It's time to go to work, it's the battlefield.

After work, back to our own kennel, we are family! So, it's perfect!

We think the same, but maybe the details are different! I know very well that when I go to work, I can do what I have to do! I'm off work, I'm home, I'm not the kind of person who is very sharp outside, I will hold my husband and be coquettish, grab his clothes and ask him to hug!

Well, it's good to have your own career, but you can't live without the warmth of your family! After all, family is your strongest backing!

Support all women who want to have their own careers, you are the best! You deserve better!

I also often think like this, finding someone who does not disturb each other to marry, and after marriage, everyone is busy with their own careers, which is also a way of life. The reason why I think this way is because I feel more and more that I can't meet someone I love, but I don't have a strong heart to face other people's pointing and sadness from my parents, so I think about finding someone who respects each other to marry, so that at least when others ask you if you have a boyfriend, you don't have to explain that it's not that you don't want to find it, it's not that you have a high vision, it's not that you have emotional feelings, and so on. You can concentrate on doing what you want to do and continue to fight for the cause you have worked so hard for so many years.

Finding someone who respects each other to marry is also a life choice, you understand his hard work for his career, and he understands how difficult it is for you to work hard for your dreams. You don't have to explain to the other party all the time because of frequent entertainment, for fear that the other party will worry or think too much, and you don't need to report to the other party in advance because of overtime, because this is the normal state of career progress. After marriage, if we don't work in a city, we can also meet in a different place, once or twice a month, when a classmate gets married, you can generously take him to participate, like everyone to introduce this is my husband, I am no longer alone, no one will introduce me to a boyfriend, no one will care about me cynically.

Perhaps, you will think that you are just looking for a life companion and not having a complete family. However, what is a family, will there be a home if there is love, and can there be no home without love, and this mode of getting along may also be in love for a long time. It's just that there is less of you and me in the usual marriage, and the two people after marriage are still independent individuals, still themselves, but they have one more married identity.

Now there are still a lot of such people, everyone's pursuit is different, but others do not necessarily understand your mind, family members still hope that you can complete your life events as soon as possible, get married, pass on the ancestry, this is the law since ancient times, at this time there will be people with the same idea as you, find someone to get married to plug other people's mouths, comfort the family, and then do their own things with peace of mind, wholeheartedly pursue their goals, do not catch up with each other, but can also accompany each other, support each other. <>

Nowadays, people are very self-minded, they have clear goals, they don't want to do other things if the goal is not reached, they just want to do one thing seriously, but when they reach a certain age, parents will begin to force marriage, afraid that you can't marry or afraid that you can't marry a wife, all kinds of nagging, this nagging is annoying, and delays the mood to do things, some people don't follow the concept of love like you, just find a similar person to marry, just a request, and don't interfere with each other after marriage.

Marriage is not child's play, can it really be okay for both of you to have no effect after getting married? This remains to be examined, how can two people living together not be connected to each other. But it may also be that after a long time, feelings will arise, this is not certain, you are working hard, you can comfort each other, help each other, feelings are all getting along.

I think it's okay to work hard in your career, but marriage can't be child's play, you have to be responsible for others, but also for yourself, you can tell your family about your thoughts, so as to get their support, no fake marriage. In addition, you can also meet the right one in the process of hard work, don't give up because you want a career, you can catch it, and happiness is to grasp it yourself.

I used to think so, but I didn't know until I got married! After all, there has to be someone to take care of the family!

No. Since they are going to get married and work hard in their careers, they must both help each other.

It should be true, when you reach the age of starting a family. Just go to start a family, if the world chain is still developing, two people cooperate to do the business of the hand more quietly, cooperate with each other, and help each other.

After starting a family first and then starting a business, successful men are supported by a woman who has paid silently, and this woman is often the one who has stabilized her marriage. After starting a family, I have a stronger sense of responsibility, and I also have a goal and motivation to strive for, which is more conducive to achieving my career.

Men choose marriage in essence for the purpose of exploiting women in a rational way.

In the book "Social Psychology", the social exchange theory has been proposed, which refers to the fact that individuals will have a certain social exchange cost when they carry out social communication activities, and the return of this cost is called social reward.

Generally speaking, honorariums are also divided into six categories: love, money, status, information, goods, service or service.

Men tend to be the more obvious reality, and they choose to marry a woman, both for themselves and for their families, and women who can maximize the remuneration of social exchange are generally their first choice.

Whether it's a woman helping a man in his career or taking care of a man's family, men need women to be the object of reasonable exploitation in the relationship.

When it comes to the age of marriage, you should definitely eliminate Zheng or go to start a family first and then work hard for your career, after all, you may not be able to succeed in your career, it will take many years, if you really work hard, you may miss a very good love time and marriage time at the age, if not, you may be older at that time, and Naiqiao Jane's career has not succeeded.

Starting a family and starting a business, this is a multiple-choice question with multiple answers, and it is also an important step in life planning. Since it is more than one answer, you can choose more than one. Therefore, there is no need to stick to one model.

Start a family first and then start a business, first start a business and then start a family, start a family while starting a business, and the brothers have to "vary from person to person".

The so-called "individualized" means that you should plan according to your own situation. Your own situation includes your family's financial situation, your academic and professional status, your emotional situation, and your social relationship status. Basically, these four reference elements.

For example, if your family is relatively wealthy and there is little pressure to start a family, then you don't have to wait until you have a career to get married. You can take advantage of the conditions of a big family, get married and start a family, and then consider your development direction, and wait until you have a successful career before you consider whether to go out independently and discuss the family system with your parents. It's about starting a family before starting a business.

However, China has a large number of poor people, so there are not many cases of Xian Shenhua implementing this model.

Most people still start a business first and then start a family. Because they don't have enough capacity to sustain the development of the family. We say that falling in love can be dreamy and free.

But marriage and family require responsibility and competence. If you don't have the ability to fall in love, but if you don't have the ability, don't get married and start a family, and trouble will come. The pressure of work, the pressure of emotion, the pressure of family, and the pressure of having children are all around, and you can't achieve anything.

The family has not been dealt with well, and the career has not improved. Because of this, filial piety, most people still take care of their work first, their careers are stable, and the conditions are ripe, which will naturally create conditions for sweet love and marriage.

If it's a boy, if you have a reliable girlfriend, I think most people want to get married first and then struggle. After all, for boys, there is less worry about the marriage when the major event is solved, and they can struggle together with their partners, and the food and daily life and stumbling and stumbling can also be shared by two people, and Tongyin has a lot of help on the road of struggle.

Now whether it is urban or rural, for ordinary families, the issue of bride price is a huge obstacle on the road to marriage for boys, if you can get married early, the parents are not very old, even if the family bears the debt because of the bride price of the marriage, the family can pay it slowly together in the future.

But it's not the same to struggle first and then get married, there is no end to struggle, some people feel that if they have no debts, they can get married, some people think that they can't get married if they don't earn three or five hundred thousand yuan, and some people think that if they don't have a villa or a luxury car, they won't be successful. In this way, there is no end to the struggle.

In fact, for boys, if your girlfriend is really willing to spend your life with you, then don't drag it out, marriage is the best way to be responsible for your girlfriend and your feelings. In fact, all the experiences you have together are the greatest wealth on the road to accumulating your feelings!

And for girls, there are more things to consider, most girls also think that it is too unrealistic to get married first and then struggle, a girl's youth is only a few years, who will consume your youth with you? If the other party is a good person with affection and righteousness, it's fine, but if it's a scumbag, the two of them have lived a poor life for a few years, and if you just struggle to make a man, you will get a little three or four, it's really worth the loss, it's better to directly find a person with good conditions and be more comfortable on the road of youth.

For most girls, the answer to this question is yes: it is impossible to get married first and then struggle! However, it is not excluded that some girls are like moths to a fire, knowing that the road ahead is bumpy, knowing that there will be many difficulties in the future, but they will face the difficulties, although they don't know what the final result will be, but they are indomitable.

It is recommended to check and sell first to work hard in the forest. In fact, there is no set age for marriage. It is necessary to make changes in accordance with the situation of social development.

In the past, it was common for people in their 20s to get married, but now there are many people in their 30s and older who get married. If you work hard for your career first, having a certain material foundation will add more security to your new marriage.

When it is time to get married, it should be the formation of a family in their own career, because now many families are facing a lot of emotional crises, only by forming a family, you can settle down and continue to work hard, because any career needs the help and foil of the family, in order to Pei Lu to work harder.