What should I do in the face of my husband s excesses against my father? 10

First of all, it's not easy for a husband to do it upside down.

Secondly, 'Father told his husband to get out'...Description: Your father is stronger.

Third, "The husband scolded his father and was ready to make a big move" Illustrate: Your husband's emotional intelligence is not high. There is an old Chinese saying that people can't bow their heads under low eaves.

The old man is very wrong, and he can't do anything. If you can't stand it, you can leave, but you can't lower your head like a man.

Clause. Fourth, as a bystander, you can't be blamed for not being able to stop the situation from getting worse. But you should know in your heart where your heart is directing.

Your father is used to being strong, and I guess his values are not what you agree with. Your husband has been suppressed all these years, and the final turn of face can be said to be a little **, if you go out with him, will he vent his previous grievances on you.

It feels like you're not a very assertive person, and it's best if your mother could help you with these tricky things. If your mother can't help you, or has passed away (sorry, just as a condition, no malice). I suggest that you don't rush to make a decision, it's better to ignore anyone and find a quiet place, such as a friend's or relative's house for a few days.

Be sure to wait for your husband and your father to calm down, and then ask them to talk together.

Tell your father that you can move out, but please respect your husband because he is your dependent!

At the same time, you have to tell your husband that you can suffer with him outside, but he should respect your father! How can a person who doesn't know how to respect the elderly be your dependence?!

You have to be super tough in this matter!! Don't take sides, if you can't get along, you don't follow anyone, you live alone until the problem is completely solved.

It will be very difficult in the early stage, but you have to understand that the difficulty now is your smoothness in the later stage.

You can move out, but you must make sure that you are not hurt by your husband.

At the same time, you have to ease the conflict between your father and your husband, and you must be tough as the only judge among them, so that you can control the situation.

Finally, I hope you get through it soon, bye.

I feel that your husband is not easy to listen to, and he is already aggrieved when he breaks the door, and men are very face-saving.

It's up to you to solve this problem. You need to do your father's work and your husband's work at the same time. At this time, neither side can be protected, and both sides are at fault, whatever the reason.

People need to respect each other, this is the premise, if you don't have respect for it, it's a big deal. So you have to look at the problem**? From the entrance of the problem, even if it is better in the future, it is better to move out and live.

You still have to do a good job of two people, the old man is generally more stubborn, so you should follow your father a little, the best way is for the two of you to move out and live by yourself, so that you can avoid contact with your father, and wait for a while, the relationship eases, and then make plans.

Most people have experienced excessive concern from their family members during their teenage years, if you are a teenager, there is no other way to endure it, because your persuasion and collusion may not be taken seriously, if you are over 25 years old, you should be able to communicate with your family about the things that your family is overly concerned about.

Use your actions to reassure them and reassure them.

Obey on the surface, but what to do behind the scenes, and be strategic about them, after all, it is a very pleasant thing for a person to do things according to his own wishes, and he can also experience self-esteem, let's say the other extreme, listen to others in everything (no matter who that person is, in what name, to influence your thoughts and actions) Isn't it a puppet?!

Being relied on creates ability, and letting go creates a sense of responsibility (of course, the premise of these two is to be loved).

Satisfactory answer enthusiastic to ask friends 2011-03-27We want to know it with affection, move it with reason! Follow-up question: The two generations have different ideas, and often they don't think it's right when we think so.

The ideas of one East and one West cannot be combined. In order to take care of their feelings, I was very aggrieved: Oh, why is this such a big difference?

Your parents are too concerned, and my parents don't care much about me! Alas....Let's get started! Patience is over, they can't be with you for a lifetime!

Follow-up question: He wants me to go on a blind date tomorrow, can I bear it? Shall we change our parents?

Blind date? Do you have someone you like?

If you don't have one, you can go and see it, if that person is not what you like, they probably won't let you go on a blind date again! Follow-up question: My boyfriend came to me in the past two days, do you want me to tell him?

Your girlfriend is going on a blind date, and she won't be available until a few days? : Then tell your parents that you have a boyfriend!

Bring your boyfriend home and show them so you can talk to your parents! Follow-up: Thank you for your valuable advice, I will consider it.

I'm using it for the first time, can I ask what the points are used for?

First of all, you have to do the ideological work of your parents, let the man you love go to your house and beg your parents to agree with the two of you, if it really doesn't work, you can let him kneel and beg your parents!

If he loves you very much, he will definitely do anything for you, and this little thing should not be difficult.

If I were to be me, I would do everything I could to make your parents like me.

If it doesn't work, then only the two of you elope, this is the last resort. Generally speaking, as long as a man is willing to work hard, your parents will be soft-hearted...

I wish you every success

You should face your parents head-on, let your two sincerity move them, not think of any way to solve the current situation first, I think you should use practical actions to make them understand the two of you, you should be able to make them feel that you are with such a man, you will be happy, you will be happy, you don't necessarily need any material or money to live, you should try to make them understand you, let them know that you really love each other, not play the world, the above statement is just a suggestion, can you adopt it voluntarily, thank you.

It's not undesirable for a divorced man, it's just that you're still young, and it's normal for your parents to think more about you, and if he is really good to you, he will naturally know how to do it. It's not something you're up to.

If the two of you really love each other, then you can be together, as for the parents who disagree, it is you and your boyfriend who communicate too little with them, and at the same time ask your boyfriend to make a little achievement, so that your parents feel that your boyfriend is a trustworthy person, time will tell.

Considering the very practical problem, you are a yellow flower girl after all, and you are still young, and you have not experienced so many trials, not to mention, how can you have both fish and bear's paws? On the one hand, the parents who gave birth to you and raised you, and on the other hand, a divorced man, how do you know that he truly loves you? Women, as long as men and men talk sweetly, their hearts will soften, do you think family affection is important or love is important?

I must choose my parents, after all, there is only one parent, love, marriage and divorce, right?

You communicate too little with your parents, and if your parents knew you, they wouldn't be forced to die. Do more ideological work to be your parents.

That's right, you have to find a husband with technology. That's the iron rice bowl, what is a civil servant, when layoffs are made in a financial crisis, when layoffs are made, if they are laid off because they are incapable. It's nothing in society.

What do you want your mom to think, and likewise, your mom wants you to think the same way, but in a different direction!

I think parents still lack the understanding of their children's feelings, and they should think about their children's hearts and minds. We can't just think about the issue of future security, and we must achieve spiritual communication, and only by effective communication can we find a balance between doing things.

I think it's time to change the concept of employment, no matter what unit, whether it is an enterprise or a career, there is no iron rice bowl now, technology is the most stable means of work in today's society, relying on technology to eat is the real ability, from the perspective of income, skilled people have a high income, so it is better to learn a craft, technology, whether it is to work for others or do it yourself, it is good, don't believe in any fixed job, public institution or something, that's just a full stomach, but it is impossible to make more money. So my point of view is to find a technology, and the husband who has expertise will not run out of food at any time, and the older the technology, the more useful it is.

Since they love each other very much, when the old man says bad things about each other, don't follow their wishes, you have to refute, of course, I don't want you to quarrel with them, but to say that the other party is good, and your husband also communicates, and your mother-in-law says that you are not good, and he loses his temper with you again, isn't this adding fuel to the fire. The old people always love to nag, they always have to say something that they don't like to see, sometimes they learn to adjust it, when they don't say it, don't care, they just want to vent, not really complain too much, so you don't have to care, they want to do whatever they want, in the case of two old people quarreling, just persuade them, everyone is a family, don't quarrel, how good is harmony, harmony makes money, you say this, they are embarrassed to quarrel.

The elders always want the children to behave according to their own lifestyle, in fact, they don't understand the modern young people too well, and advise the elders not to impose control over the children, which is futile, and the result will be full of conflicts and unhappy families on both sides.

You both grew up in single-parent families, and your parents' ideas are definitely different from yours, and your values are different. Understand more about the minds of the elderly, try to follow them, and please find an appropriate time to explain some things slowly.

"Five Good Women in the New Era".

Professor Wang Yuanwu talked about the shaping and influence of parents on children.

You live for yourself, you just love each other, and you don't care about those people.

Try to communicate with your parents to let them know that they are grown up and that there are things that can be solved on their own.

Have a good talk with them and prove that you are an adult with your actions.

Prove your ability in a timely manner, let them feel that "the child has grown up" to help parents do some housework within their ability, participate in more social activities, hang out with classmates, agree on what time to get home, etc., if they still manage you very strictly, then find something for them to do, such as work or shopping.

The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not had conflicts for a long time, and I personally think that they should move out, and they will not work at all after a long time, so everyone is good.

The money you want to use now can let your husband communicate, don't you open your mouth, it's not more contradictory, to put it bluntly, they slam the door so much, won't it be all yours in the future? Children they have to take and wait for them to take them, and if you take them well, you will save trouble, and if you don't bring them well, you will send out all the complaints together. Also, you are married, you are a daughter-in-law, a wife, a mother, you should be domineering or you should have, don't suffer what you shouldn't suffer, you will never come out like this, but it's not the kind of unforgiving kind of ha, it's the hall and the kitchen, you must have prestige at home, and you must have confidence in speaking....Come on....

Beauty looks at your father-in-law from a different perspective, for example, in addition to her careful mind and nosy about other people's affairs, her mouth loves to nag. What are the advantages, such as loving your children, or caring about your husband and your food, clothing, housing and transportation, the main thing is that your husband leaves your father-in-law, does he have the ability to support the family alone, if you leave your father-in-law, you can also live well, then you put forward your request to separate the family, your father-in-law's economic conditions are good, but he has a strange temper, but you will never be poor in life with him, but you have to endure his control and constraints, because in the eyes of your father-in-law, you and your husband are still children, you can only endure it now, as long as the general direction can pass, relax your heart Think about a husband who loves you, a lovely child, a father-in-law who doesn't have to worry about your life, how happy you are, your father-in-law doesn't give you money now, but your child will use money in the future, he loves your child so much, and he will definitely take care of your child, don't you save that expense, think about it, if you have a poor father-in-law who doesn't ask you anything, you still have to earn money to raise a child for him, do you think that kind of life is tiring.

You relax first!

Like you said, you have the qualifications to be arrogant, after all, you gave birth to a fat boy. You can tell your husband and ask him to discuss with your parents-in-law about giving more pocket money, you can't come forward, they communicate, and be angry and get along.

Sometimes, their parents think like this, eating at home, living at home, thinking that they can save any expenses, but in fact, this is not the case, and there are many things that are not in these two ranks, just like you said Xiaodong Xiaoxi. These should be told to his son indirectly, and let him answer him, so that the effect is better. To put it bluntly, they're a bit picky.

The first 150,000 gift money is the favor of your husband's relatives and friends, and it is normal for your in-laws to pay it back without your share. Don't care.

Second, you can't take children when you're young, your in-laws have experience, since everyone is for children, you should be generous and let the old people toss. Forgive your in-laws and won't abuse your grandson. Don't let go, when they're not at home, you still have to look like a mother.

Third, you must have your own job. It can be seen that your in-laws are more money-conscious and treat you as an outsider. Then you have to use your own brain and be self-reliant.

Even if you are a little tired, don't go to work in your in-laws' hotel, you have to be a backbone! You're also hard at spending the money you've saved! It's called economic independence!

Got it? You can not bring children, this must be understood.

It can be seen that you have a kind personality, are more knowledgeable (forbearance), and will handle family relationships well.