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Children who are often beaten may have violent tendencies when they grow up, and children who are never beaten may be very optimistic about life in the future, at least they will not use violence to solve problems.

Children who are often beaten will have a lot of restraints when they grow up, and they do not have any creative ability and thinking ability, and they are usually very inferior. Children who are not beaten will be very confident when they grow up, and have a very unique ability to think and create, and they are very liked by leaders.

Children who are often beaten like to use violence to solve problems and will be more impulsive, while children who are not beaten are more rational.

Children who are often beaten may grow up to become more violent, and the solution to the problem is to solve the problem violently, because the violence is already in their minds; A child who is never beaten is likely to be much more rational.

Children who are often beaten and who have never been beatenWhen I grow up, the gap is reflected in: self-confidence, bravery, academic performance, and so on.

Let's take a closer look at the gaps in these three aspects:

First, self-confidence. We know that children who are often beaten are generally less confident and have low self-esteem, while those who have never been beaten are full of self-confidence. Participate in activities or participate in class management.

Children with low self-esteem who are often beaten do not dare to participate in class management activities or participate in campus cultural activities. And those children who have never been beaten are more confident, dare to participate in activities, and dare to participate in class management. Being able to present themselves on a variety of platforms is the difference in self-confidence between children who are often beaten and those who have never been beaten.

Second, bravery. Children who are often beaten are generally more timid and afraid. And those children who have never been beaten.

When they grow up, they are more courageous, dare to face difficulties, and dare to face setbacks. They are not easily defeated by difficulties and setbacks, they are able to analyze problems and solve problems. Always find a way to solve the problem, not run away.

Children who are often beaten, in the face of difficulties and setbacks, always choose to escape, dare not face it, and dare not stand up to overcome difficulties. That's the difference between the child who is often beaten and the child who never gets beaten, but who is brave.

The third aspect is academic performance. It is possible that children who are often beaten have excellent academic performance, because they are forced to do well in their academic performance because they are forced to be beaten and scolded by their parents, and they have to get good scores in every final exam. And those children who have never been beaten, their academic performance may not be so good, but they are very good in other aspects, dare to stand up and express themselves, dare to express their ideas and concepts, this is the most important purpose of learning is to cultivate children's spirit, rather than stick to the paper score.

The gap is very big, because their mentality of resisting scum will also have a certain difference, and the way they deal with things is different, and their Changming personality and liveliness are all different, children who have never been beaten are more lively, and children who are often beaten are relatively calm.

The gap between these chaotic people is still relatively large, hail wheel because the children who have never been beaten are relatively lively and cheerful, and they have different views on things, and their imagination is also relatively open, but the children who are often beaten, their hearts are generally relatively closed, and they are more timid in the face of some things, and they dare not express their opinions.

When they grow up, the distance between the stools is very large, and the children who are often beaten by the book are very insecure, and at the same time, their psychological tolerance is relatively strong. However, children who have never been beaten will have poor psychological tolerance, but it also has a lot to do with the later growth and development of Xiaohong, and has a lot to do with the usual educational environment.

Children who are often beaten are more sensitive to low self-esteem, are particularly cautious when doing things, and sometimes have a particularly serious rebellious mentality; Children who have not been beaten are generally more confident, more independent, and have principles and bottom lines in doing things.

In the past two days, I read an article in which the author believes that "stick education" is easier for children to know awe than other education methods, and the educational effect is immediate. The author also believes that there is a big gap between children who are "often beaten" and those who "have not been beaten" grow up. Children who have been beaten grow up to have a strong ability to resist frustration, while children who have never been beaten have too poor ability to resist frustration, and the slightest setback will be easily defeated.

In addition, children who are often beaten understand what to do and what not to do, and recognize and correct their mistakes in time after being punished, they will gradually form a correct view of right and wrong, and they will be very principled in doing things as adults. And children who have never been exposed to it are easy to hit a wall and suffer losses when they become adults.

Personally, I think that there is some truth in this author's point of view, but it is not universal.

I have two little brothers.

When I was a child, my brother was often beaten, beaten by his parents, and beaten by his teachers. But his younger brother is the treasure of the family and is rarely beaten.

When they grow up, the gap between the brothers is huge. My brother is introverted and negative, not good at talking, shrinking from things, having no opinions, listening to others in everything, always keeping a certain distance from others, and not good at communicating with people. A life of mediocrity and ordinary.

And his younger brother is very good at talking, very assertive, and dares to move forward, and his career is getting bigger and bigger, and his life is more and more nourishing.

All in all, "stick education" has its benefits, but it is not without its drawbacks. Some children have a dozen, which will have a beneficial effect on them; However, for some children, the frequent beatings of the bridge will have a negative impact on their lives. Whether or not to be beaten, the effect varies from person to person.

I think that educating children, "wonderful and extremely sensitive" and "terrible" should not be wasted, only organic combination, will be beneficial to children!

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When educating children, we have all heard such a sentence, that is, children "can't make a device if they don't fight", after finding that their children have made mistakes, some parents start to beat their children without saying a word, until the children cry and say "I was wrong, I won't dare to do it next time"; There are also some parents who adopt a "tolerant" model when educating their children, with education as the main focus and violence as a supplement, and try not to solve it with sticks if it can be solved with language. These are two different ways for parents to deal with problems after a child makes a mistake, the same is a mistake, but the child gets a different way of punishment, when he grows up, what is the difference between a child who is often beaten and a child who is not beaten? In fact, the difference is still obvious.

One: Children who are often beaten grow up to be more timid and have lower self-esteem.

Many times, Xiao Wang doesn't know what he is wrong, he only knows that his parents are always unhappy, and he accidentally stains his clothes and scratches his shoes, and his father starts beating people. In order to avoid being beaten, the little king is careful in everything he does. When he grew up, others said that Xiao Wang was very timid, and persuaded him to be more confident, Xiao Wang also knew that he had a problem with his personality, but he couldn't change it.

Children who are often beaten often often have character flaws, and they look like the kind of children who are not sunny. Children who are rarely beaten when they are young, when they do something, they do not scruple too much, they are decisive, more sunny and more optimistic.

Two: Children who are often beaten grow up to be more rebellious.

It is said that after a child makes a mistake, he will remember it for a long time after beating him, otherwise the child will not change his mind repeatedly. However, if the child is beaten more times than he should bear at a young age, it will make the child more disobedient and rebellious the more he is beaten. Children also need reasons to be beaten, sometimes the mistakes they make are not to the point where they have to be beaten, as long as parents communicate well with their children, children will generally correct their mistakes.

If everything is solved by beating and scolding, the child will not be convinced, and will naturally work against his parents, and when he grows up, his relationship with his parents will not be very harmonious.

Children who are not beaten much when they are young will be more polite, have a better relationship with their parents, and when they grow up, they will also treat their children with a more tolerant heart.

Do you still beat your own children a lot? After a child makes a mistake, there is not only a way of education such as beating and scolding, there are so many good ways of education, why do you only choose the one that does the most harm to the child? After the child was harmed, he regretted it.