Teach children only what to do without telling why?

Of course not.

Some of the children around me have their own ideas when they are only one or two years old. Today's children are especially smart. If you just say how to do it, and don't let him know why.

He won't listen to you. More recklessness. Because, such rebellion will make you angry.

And he had a sense of victory over the adults. As a result, it can only become more and more difficult to manage.

Adults say that the east is biased to the west. They just don't listen to you. Because you can't make sense.

Moreover, the use of stiff imperative language will make the child bored, and psychologically he will feel that the adult does not love him at all and will not let him do anything. As a result, such children will do this with adults everywhere.

Today's children are sensible and know how to be early. You don't want to lie to him. They also have a strong sense of understanding.

So, make things clear. Tell him why he did it. The child will understand and weigh the results.

When they understand that if they continue to be naughty, they will not only gain no benefit, but will lose more. They'll stop and give your suggestion seriously. This way you will also be calm and not lose your temper all the time.

Slowly, the child will understand that his parents have a reason for suggesting that I do things like this. I should listen, or I'll take a detour or pay a bigger price for my actions. Our children will become well-behaved and sensible. Communication between parents and children will also be smoother.

In short, making children obedient and sensible also needs to be cultivated. Only careful parenting can achieve results. Just blindly pointing fingers and giving orders can only increase children's disgust with their parents.

So say what you want to say for reasons, don't just say how.

I think that everything has a reason for its existence, and only by understanding the essence of the problem can we have a deeper understanding of whether this matter is correct or not.

When educating a child, not only tell him what to do, but also explain to him why he does it, and I think the latter is more important than the former.

When children don't know what to do in the face of many things, adults often only tell the child what to do, and rarely explain to him why, which can only instill a stereotypical behavior pattern into the child, and cannot let him learn to think independently and draw inferences.

For example, adults will tell a child to wash his hands before eating, but he will not tell him why he should wash his hands and what is the difference between washing his hands and not washing his hands. Then the child will only know to wash his hands before meals, and only think that it is a troublesome habit, but will not appreciate the importance of washing his hands before meals.

There is a one-month assessment period after the recruitment of new students in our club, which is to let those who pass the interview learn some daily work in our office and the processing of many documents.

They have to learn a lot of things this month, and many of them are cramming, telling new members what to do, and some things have been told many times and new members still can't remember because they don't know why they do it.

The so-called know what it is, know why it is. If you start to understand the essence of an event, then you will have a deep understanding of its existence, and you will think about how to do it better from your own perspective, instead of completely following the methods that others have forced you to do, and in the end you still don't know in your heart.

This assessment period is the same as teaching children. How you teach him will have a direct impact on how he accepts and deals with it.

Like our minister said, if he doesn't know why he did it, then his handling of this matter will always be superficial, and with a little change, he won't know what to do.

I think it's better to tell the reason, in fact, children are more sensible than adults think, and their understanding skills are also very strong. You have to respect him, tell him why, and he will accept it, otherwise it will backfire.

Of course not, it's best to explain it to her, don't think that the child can't understand it, in fact, she doesn't know a lot!

It is often seen that some parents are tutoring their children to write homework, which is obviously a very simple topic, but the child just can't do it, and it is very clear to the child, but the child still can't, the parent loses his temper, the child is scared and crying, the noise is constant, and the child says that he can't learn.

What should I do if my child says he can't learn?

1. Guide children to discover and observe.

Make full use of children's curiosity, cultivate interest, and inspire children to observe actively; Combine the cultivation of children's interest and attention in turns, and guide children to observe correctly.

2. Encourage your child to try.

When you want to help your child learn some skills, you should first encourage your child to try boldly, just keep your mouth shut and support him, and if your child is in trouble and want your help, you can help him. When the child is not successful after trying a few times, then you might as well persuade him to give up first, tell him that "it will be the same to destroy the potatoes when you try again next time", don't force the child to die, which will make the child frustrated too strong, if you lose interest in learning, it is really worth the loss.

3. Train children's concentration in games.

Children have a strong degree of concentration and stability in play activities. So it is necessary to buy some toys to stimulate interest.

4. Listen to more stories.

Children are too stupid, let children listen to more stories. Listen to more stories and cultivate children's quality in painting and quality.

The reason why the child says he can't learn:

First, I didn't pay attention to the lectures.

As long as the children follow the teacher's curriculum step by step, most of the children absorb and digest new knowledge in the classroom, and then can easily learn each course through after-class exercises.

However, some children are playful by nature and have difficulty concentrating in class. For example, in class, the idea of driving a small car, or because of the lack of a good night's rest and sleepiness, some children secretly do other things, whispering with other classmates, etc.

The reason for the existence of these problems in children is basically the bad problems developed from the first grade of primary school, when parents should not have paid attention to their children's classroom situation, did not communicate with teachers, and did not tell their children how to teach class. So, this type of child wastes so much time in class that he doesn't know how to do his homework.

The second is that they have not developed a good habit of active learning.

It is normal for children to scatter their thoughts in class, but some children will check and fill in the gaps after school, and those who do not understand will ask the teacher to ask their classmates and parents, and they will learn it after a little extra class. However, some children do not learn what they have learned in class, and they don't pay attention to it at all after class, and they completely put it in the back of their minds, and it seems that it doesn't matter if it will or not. When parents teach, they don't listen carefully, so they can't learn all the time.

Be patient, don't be discouraged, your encouragement and patience are the biggest motivation for children. In your spare time, you can make pinyin cards with your children, play games such as "Find Friends", "I'll Tell, You Guess", etc., or let your children be a little teacher to teach you to read Pinyin.

In this case, when educating the child's chain source, first of all, we should understand the real needs of the child, and also communicate and exchange more about the child's sense of progress.

I think that in such a situation, we must help the child find the right way to learn, be by the child's side, do not put too much pressure on the child, and encourage the child more carefully.

The child will feel very uncomfortable, and it will arouse the child's rebellious psychology, so don't say no often, you should respect the child's inner thoughts, so that's fine.

Because if you often say no when educating children, it will lead to a special lack of self-confidence in children, and it will also lead to some inferiority complex emotions in children, and it is likely to affect children's character development.

If you often say no to your child or refuse your child, it will make your child feel particularly insecure, and your child will not communicate with his parents no matter what problems arise in the future.

It is because this can help to cultivate the child's character, so that the child can do what he says, and it can also leave a better impression on the child, so that the child can become a role model for learning.

Because this will hurt the child's self-esteem, because the child himself has his own opinions.

Because if you often say that you are not so reluctant to make some requests, and children are not willing to communicate with their parents in many things, it is generally best not to easily say no to your child.

Because when educating your child, you must have principles and let him know your attitude, so that the child will know that he is wrong.

Introduction: Parents play a very important role in the development of their children, and parents should also educate their children correctly. So do you know what parents can't do in the process of educating their children? Let's find out today.

Some parents spoil their children too much is not to let their children do anything, and all the requirements of the children are met, you must know that you now have the ability to meet the children's relatively small requirements, but when you grow up, you have no way to meet, at that time the children will blame their parents and resent their parents, obviously you give your best everything to the child, but why not get a good word from the child? Moreover, the parents' subcontracting will make the child have no ability to live and no ability to be independent, and there is no way to gain a foothold in the society in the later stage, and it is very likely to be eliminated by this society, so we must help the child establish a correct outlook on life and values, so that the child has a good behavior habit and an excellent character.

In addition to the above over-doting, there is also a kind of too control over the child, that is, the child 100% has to listen to his own words, the child can not have his own thoughts, can not have his own thinking, even if I ask you, but in the end it is also according to the needs and requirements of the parents to choose, the child does not have any sense of existence at all. In the long run, children will have the idea that everything the parents say is right, and everything he says is wrong, but these are just the wishful thinking of the parents, and there is no harm to the children. Growing up in such an environment for a long time can lead to indecision, weakness and incompetence.

And when educating children, you must not educate them in the way of beating and scolding, otherwise the child's personality will be distorted.

We should not spoil children, should not hurt children's self-esteem, but should understand children's psychological thoughts, set a good example for children, and be children's leaders.

In the process of growing up, children should not be forced to do some things, do not put too much pressure on children, should let children exert their freedom, use their imagination, to enroll in an interest class, and at the same time should support some of the children's interests, and impose their own thinking on children.

What should not be done is to educate the child with emotions in the education of children, and after you have this emotion, it will especially affect the results of education.

Introduction: I don't know that children's education is not just for education, there are other aspects, parents must do a good job of guiding.

When it comes to learning, children will be very distressed, so parents must understand their children's thoughts at this time and be sure to see what their children like. Some children may have some incorrect behaviors when doing things, so parents must talk to their children well so that they know what to do. Some children can't see clearly when they sit in the last row of the classroom, so parents must let the child adjust and buy a pair of glasses to prevent anything from happening to the child during the lesson.

If the child is very serious in class, but the grades have not been raised, then parents must find other reasons for the child, so that the child can learn not only to let the child achieve good grades, but also to let the child grow in thought. If every child can be motivated, then parents can also be very relieved and can treat parents very carefully, must grasp the development needs of children, must learn to help children. No matter what kind of things the child does, parents must seriously talk to the child and let the child take some decisions appropriately.

Although the child is somewhat interested, parents must not let the child have regrets.

Many children are always reluctant to listen when they are educated, so parents need to see what kind of difference there is between students with good grades and bad grades, and teachers must learn to guide these students. Many teachers also know how to motivate students, but you need to think about what kind of ways to make children more and more progressive? What kind of ways can I make my child more listening?

You should consider whether the child is distracted, and if the child is distracted, the teacher should not be too anxious. Everyone may have more ideas when doing things, but the teacher must talk to the child.