Should a divorced man with no children be together?

Look at how this man is, if he has a good character and is good to you, you can be with him, after all, divorce is not a big deal, let alone no children.

Divorced men are not scary, but the most feared are problematic divorced men. We generally don't treat divorced men mainly because divorced people should have a little problem, after all, as long as two people can live on, few people will choose to divorce, if they come to the step of divorce, the problem is still very serious.

So if you like him, before you decide to marry him, you might as well ask him why he got divorced. If the cause is on his wife, then no problem. If you divorce because he is at fault, then you have to be cautious, after all, a man who makes a mistake is still easy to make mistakes again.

There was a girl in our village who knew a boy when she was working outside, and not long after the two of them dated, the boy asked the girl to get married. After inquiring, I found out that the boy had been married once, but the two separated before they could get the license. Only relatives and neighbors in the village knew about it.

After many inquiries, I learned that the boy was lazy and tired after marriage, and he was not motivated to play games at home every day.

The wife couldn't bear it anymore and chose to divorce. After the divorce, it was difficult for the boy to find a partner within a radius of several miles, so he could only meet other girls by going out to work.

Fortunately, the girl in the neighborhood knew about it before marriage, and if she hadn't inquired, she wouldn't have chosen the wrong path. Therefore, when marrying a divorced man, you must use a little more care, and you must not be carried away by feelings.

If he has a good character and has nothing to do with his ex-wife after the divorce, then it is a good choice for you to choose him, because men who have experienced marriage are more mature and stable than ordinary people, and they will know how to cherish you more.

First of all, it depends on whether you love him or not, if you love him very much, you can be with him, divorce does not mean that there is a problem with the man, maybe he has not met the right person, but he has had an imperfect marriage.

You have to think about how to tell your parents that most parents don't want their daughters to marry a divorced man, and most of the parents' thinking is feudal.

If you love him very much and are sure that you will marry him, then you can enlighten your parents that they love their children and will not think about your happiness.

If you just think that a man is good to you and his maturity is what you want, but you don't love him very much, but you don't want to hurt his heart for your pursuit, it is better to refuse decisively.

The more a man pays to you, the more he can't see anything in return, it will also hurt him somewhat, and even have a psychological imbalance, and he will think that you are delaying his time and sincerity.

If you want to be together, you have to consider his family background, he has a child, but he is not by his side, but the child is his own, after all, because the child has some contact with his ex-wife, and even because the child often eats and plays with his ex-wife with the child, etc., you have to have a lot of tolerance to understand him.

His child may not necessarily accept you as a stepmother, and even lose his temper with you, and you can't deal with a child, you have to give the child more care and tolerance, maybe the child will not appreciate it and make you sad, but this is all you need to face.

If you can't tolerate a lot, let the man have a lot of dealings with his ex-wife, and can't stand the trouble his children bring to you, it means that you are not suitable to be a stepmother, and it is better not to compare prices together.

I don't think so. You have to be calm, unless you're ready to be someone's stepmother. You know that he is divorced, even if it is not all his problem, then the divorce must have something to do with him, not to mention whether it is a personality defect, in case there are other hidden shortcomings, you should not know.

You also said that he has a child, and if it is a girl, it is better at least it does not have to pay a lot of money, but if it is a boy, he does not live with his own child now, are you sure that he will not take his child in the future, I am not sure? <>

And if it's a man, after all, it's his son, and if his son wants to find a daughter-in-law in the future, he will definitely have to help, what else can you say at that time, you can't say anything, complain, it's useless, because it's someone's son, so I don't think it's easy to marry a divorced man, unless you are prepared for any kind of situation.

However, there is a limit to every woman's patience, can you always put up with your man spending money on children who are not related to you, can you bear that someone in your house may come to live at any time?

So life is like a deck of cards, you can only play it yourself.

In fact, love is your own, you need to think about this matter yourself, do you think there will be a future after being with him?

I remember my aunt used to do this kind of thing where she worked. When one of their girls married his current husband, he was also unmarried, but her husband was divorced. But the girl felt that it was because of a love affair that I was going to marry this guy.

But their lives were not happy after marriage, and the two of them often quarreled, and the family burden was particularly heavy. Therefore, the girl felt unhappy and wanted to divorce, but the boy did not agree. Because after all, the man is already married for the second time, so he may really not be able to find a daughter-in-law in the case of divorce.

But seeing that they were not happy, the people next to me kept saying that you were asked to marry someone who had never been married, but you just married someone who had been married. Therefore, the two quit their jobs because they kept quarreling with the woman.

Therefore, you have to think clearly about this aspect. You can go back and ask your parents for their opinion and see what they think. After all, getting married is also a big event, and the opinions of parents are also the main aspect.

You can talk to friends with people close to you and ask them to help you see if this man is good to you. Because of the people around us, sometimes they look at people more realistically than we do. Then you can ask your friends to give you advice, because sometimes we can't figure out these things ourselves.

Because of love, sometimes we like to get carried away because of love, and we don't know how to choose. So in the face of such a thing, you have to discuss it carefully with your family and friends, and if they think it's okay, then you can do it. So think it through, because it's not a small thing after all.

When many women get married, they are very interesting, and the focus is very strange, you didn't say how your relationship is? Just ask if you want to be together, whether you are together or not, it depends on the relationship between you. If the relationship is good, these are not problems, but if you are not very good with each other and you are suspicious, then of course you should be cautious.

In fact, a divorced man still needs to see what is going on with the other party.

If a man is divorced and has children, it will actually be very troublesome to remarry the family. There is a friend who is first married, her husband is second married, and the man's ex-wife has left a child who is very young. When she got married, her mother-in-law begged her to treat the children left by her ex-wife well, and she was also a kind person.

Of course, she raised the child as if it were her own child, and when her child was born, many problems came out, and she was burdened with a lot of pressure. Although the stepson didn't know that she wasn't her biological mother, she was jealous that she later gave birth to a younger sister, and the problems with both children came out anyway. She felt a lot of pressure and brought it up, wanting to tell the child that she was not her real mother, but she couldn't, and she felt torn.

It's not that a man with children can't get married, but it's important to figure out how a man with a child will maintain the family and face the child in the future. Divorced men, why are they divorced. There are always a thousand strange reasons, but there is no doubt that he did not make his marriage well, why?

Of course, any failed marriage is never the fault of one person. Of course, it is also possible that they are not each other's fate, so.

This issue needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and it must also be decided carefully.

The first consideration in the analysis is whether you really love him and whether he really loves you. If it's just a whim, forget it, because a divorced man will always give people a sense of insecurity, and such a marriage will not end well, and it is a useless waste of his youth. If you've been in love for a long time and you're sure it's not wishful thinking, then you can consider whether you can be together.

Secondly, you should consider his personality and personality, after all, he has already had a failed relationship experience, and you don't know why, so his behavior should be considered, otherwise, his behavior after success may change drastically, and you will regret it later. If, after your interactions, you are completely sure that his personality is okay, then you can play another level at this time.

Finally, it is to ask for the opinion of your parents, of course, it is difficult for them to accept it at this time, but you don't have to be impatient because they are also for your good, maybe they will also check for you, if you don't just dislike his second marriage, you can listen to it, maybe it will be useful. And, then your marriage will be happier.

If all of the above are suitable, then even if he has children, it is nothing, of course, it will be better if he does not have children. If it's not ideal, you'll have to think about it carefully.

Legal Analysis: It depends on your own inner considerations, but parents have the obligation to raise their children. If the man wants to have a child, the court will not necessarily award the child to the man.

The court's decision on the custody of a child will generally take into account the age of the child, the economic conditions of both the man and the woman, and the work status of both parties.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1076:Where both husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority.

The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

Article 1085:After divorce, where children are directly raised by one party, the other party shall bear part or all of the child support. The amount of the cost to be borne and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment.

The agreement or judgment provided for in the preceding paragraph does not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent in excess of the amount originally set forth in the agreement or judgment when necessary.

Article 1087:In the event of divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by mutual agreement; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman, and the innocent party.

The rights and interests enjoyed by husbands or wives in the contracting and management of family land shall be protected in accordance with law.

1.I am afraid that it will affect my second marriage.

Many people are reluctant to take care of their children after divorce, but choose to abandon their children, because they are afraid of affecting their next second marriage, so they are unwilling to take children. In fact, there are no longer a few people who think this way, but some people are hindered by morality and the pressure of their parents, so they often keep their children, but there are also people who insist on going their own way, and they don't care about the feelings of others at all, even if they are their parents. I have to say that this kind of person is very selfish, especially some people who are not from a good family background are often more afraid of marrying with children for a second time, because men are not as good as women, and they can still marry with a child.

Once a man has a child, then in fact, many women are still very concerned, and it will have a greater impact on the success rate of second marriage.

2.I'm afraid of dragging myself down.

I have to say that people are selfish in many cases, and no matter how selfish people are, when facing their loved ones, especially their own flesh and blood, it stands to reason that they should be selfless. However, in reality, there are often exceptions, and some people may not be able to give selflessly even in the face of their closest relatives, so this is one of the reasons why some men will abandon their children after divorce and throw their children to their women. To put it bluntly, people like them are afraid that their children will drag them down, and they are afraid that taking a child will affect their chic life.

Of course, men who generally have such a situation are often some waste wood with little ability, who want money but no money, and do not seek to be motivated, so they are afraid that their children will drag themselves down, and they are not even willing to raise their own children. Of course, although some people are unwilling to take their children, but they still give some child support to the woman, this kind of person can be somewhat forgiven, the most hateful thing is that some people are not even willing to pay child support, the kind that does not pull out a dime, that is really a vain parent.

3.Because it's not a boy.

Sometimes we have to talk about a cliché topic, and that is the idea of patriarchal preference for the older generation. Although this kind of thinking is much better among our younger generation, there are still some people who care about it, so in this case, if the two parties divorce, then if the child is not a boy, then the man is likely not to want it, and chooses to abandon his child and leave her to the woman. I have to say that there are still such scumbags Mu Hui, I believe that if you have paid attention, you will find that most of the parents who fight for the custody of their children are because the children are boys, and it seems that they rarely fight for custody because of girls.

I have to say that this is a very infuriating thing, some men obviously think like this, they have to dump the blame on their parents, saying that they mean, I have to say that such a man who is not responsible is really scum, I hope everyone will not meet such a man, can meet a good man who truly loves him for a lifetime.