How much does divorce affect the children in the family?

Divorce can have a particularly bad impact on children, which is manifested in the following ways:

First, the child has a withdrawn personality.

As we can see from our lives, many withdrawn children are single-parent families. There is often no harmony between the two people, either quarreling or fighting, which casts a shadow on the child's young mind, so that the child's personality is particularly strange, and loneliness is just one of the manifestations.

Children from single-parent families are reluctant to socialize with other people, and they hide their inner words in their hearts and are unwilling to show them, which will lead to the children on the road of crime after a long time. Timely psychological counseling must be carried out for such children, so as to get out of the cycle of loneliness.

Second, the child's personality performance is particularly extreme.

We often see children from single-parent families who are always particularly extreme in their personalities. When you laugh, you laugh uncontrollably, but when you're alone, you hide under the covers and cry bitterly. This is the embodiment of extreme character.

I have seen a lot of such children, and at the same time, they may also have violent tendencies, and their toys are not willing to share with children, and it is a kind of selfishness to come out first. While everyone was playing together, the child was hiding in the corner alone, staring blankly. I seem to have a lot to say.

Third, children are prone to precocious maturity after divorce.

Children from single-parent families are more precocious, because children have experienced much more things than other classmates, and they have a lot of knowledge and understanding of the world.

From the above analysis, we can see that the impact of divorce on children is very large, so couples who want to divorce should seriously consider it before making a decision.

In modern society, there are more and more divorced people, but divorce is not worth advocating. Divorce often has a lot of effects on a family and children, leading to inconveniences in their lives, as well as distorted personalities. Many people change the trajectory of their lives because of divorce, and it casts a shadow over their children's lives.

Divorce is often not decided by trivial matters overnight, but the long-term accumulation of contradictions continues to erupt, and finally leads to the result of divorce. If you live in a quarrelsome environment for a long time, your personality will become very irritable and you will easily get angry with those close to you. And as two parties who have to face endless disputes with each other at the thought of going home, then they no longer have the thought of wanting to go home and think about how to escape all day long.

For them, the family is no longer a warm harbor, but a silent battlefield.

And children who have lived in the shadow of their parents' divorce for a long time can easily become distorted. Some children feel inferior because of their parents' divorce and feel that they cannot hold their heads up in front of their peers, then they may become reticent and unwilling to communicate with others, closing themselves in a small world. Some children will suddenly become very rebellious because of this, they will begin to change themselves, no longer the original well-behaved state, use their own resistance to express their dissatisfaction with their parents' divorce, and may eventually go astray.

Moreover, as a humane society in China, many people are still not very acceptable to divorce, especially the elderly, who may be nagged by the elderly in the family after divorce, thinking that it is your own reasons that will lead to such a result. At this time, you have to bear the pressure from the family, as well as the pressure from the society. There are even some people who suffer from depression because some things are not handled properly after the divorce.

Therefore, the matter of divorce affects the whole body, and we must think about it properly.

Many people say that falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. The moment two people decide to separate, it means that they have to bear the harm caused to the elderly and children in both families.

My cousin is the kind of guy who says no.

Second, a person who does things vigorously and resolutely, last year, she divorced because of a discordant relationship with her brother-in-law, and when she divorced, she threatened, I am really fed up with him, and I never want to see him again, let alone step into that home. The people around her thought that she could do what she said and admired her courage. <>

But what everyone didn't expect was that three months after the divorce, my cousin secretly went to the kindergarten alone to see the child, and bought a lot of new clothes and toys for the child. When she got home, she cried and said to her aunt, "The child came to me and called me Mom, and I relented."

We all advised him that since the child was awarded to the man, you should appropriately reduce the number of meetings with the child. It's good for both parties.

She ostensibly promised us, but secretly gave the child pocket money. When the child is young, he will tell his grandparents about these things when he comes home, and on several occasions, it will be very unpleasant for both parties.

Children are the hearts and minds of parents, and that relationship cannot be parted. No matter how ruthless you are, he still has a constant blood relationship with you. Divorce is a great harm to both families and children, the children are still young, their views of the world are very simple, the divorce of their parents may cast a shadow on their young hearts, and in the future, they may be afraid to talk about the topic of their parents.

No one's love life is smooth sailing, and there will inevitably be some stumbles in life. Understand each other, tolerate each other, and don't file for divorce lightly.

A happy and beautiful family collapses in an instant, and two people who love each other very much are the most familiar strangers from then on, and they don't even want to know each other's lives.

Both parents will also be hit and hurt, and it will take a long time to enlighten your parents and make them understand that you really can't continue to live and that divorce is your only option.

Children cannot grow up in a complete family and must lose a kind of love, children who grow up in single-parent families mature earlier than the average child, they will be very independent and give themselves more security.

Because the parents' failed marriage leaves a lot of shadows on their childhood, it will lead to children with psychological problems such as low self-esteem and autism, and children are innocent in marriage, and they are hurt more than adults.

Seeing that all the friends around me are accompanied by their parents, but there is one less person in my own family, I see that the parents of other children come to the school to attend the parent-teacher conference, and my seat may be empty.

Children who grow up in single-parent families are prone to fear marriage, they don't want their future marriage to be a failure like their parents, they know better than anyone what a failed marriage means to their children, and they don't want their children to experience the pain they have experienced.

After the divorce, the parents will remarry, they are afraid that they are a child who has a home and cannot go back, they are afraid that their parents have a new family, and they are an outsider.

They don't dare to ask too much in front of their parents, for fear that their parents will get bored of themselves, or even don't want themselves, seeing their parents quarreling because of their own upbringing, questioning each other for not educating their children well, and the children don't know who to blame.

Big can't help it. The juniors are pregnant... My ex-husband's family, in their eyes, I am an outsider

Divorce has a great impact on children, especially those in adolescence and childhood, and it can change their worldview and outlook on life.

If mom and dad divorce, children will think that they are people without a father or a mother, and they will feel that they are different from others, and their personalities will become more and more inferior.

Children from single-parent families are afraid of being bullied and isolated, so they are cautious about everything, for fear of being kept secret by others, and they have no sense of security in their hearts, and even feel strange to their surroundings, afraid to try what they like, and their personalities are getting weaker and weaker.

Most of the children of single-parent families have experienced unhappy family life, so they are also skeptical about marriage, and do not want to improve, unless their mentality is very good, they may be afraid of marriage for a lifetime, have no confidence in the other half, and it is not easy to trust other people, and this influence may last for a lifetime.

Divorce needs attention:

The procedure for divorce by mutual agreement is divided into three parts: application, examination and registration. Both parties must apply in person, not entrust others**, and must issue a divorce agreement signed by both parties. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' intention to divorce voluntarily, as well as the opinions of equal consultation on the custody of children, property and debts, and other matters of equal consultation.

Divorce has a great impact on children, and the specific analysis is as follows:

1. The lack of security caused by the divorce of parents will accompany many children throughout their lives and become a lingering shadow.

For each child, they form a triangular relationship with their parents, with the three vertices being the father, the mother, and the child. The divorce of the parents means the dissolution of the most stable relationship of the triangle, and although custody may go to the mother or father, the home is incomplete for the child.

Second, the lack of family responsibility due to the divorce of parents will show up in adulthood, and their marriage may be even weaker.

The biggest difference between a happy marriage and a divorced family is whether the husband and wife have a strong sense of family responsibility, and the sense of family responsibility stems from each person's loyalty to the marriage, self-dedication, tolerance and understanding, and deep love for children. If you make a comparison, you will find that couples in happy marriages will put love for their children first, while men and women in divorced families will love themselves first.

3. Incomplete personality caused by the divorce of parents will become a hard injury, irritable and suspicious, and lack of care for family members.

Every child's childhood is the most important stage for building a complete personality, and the happiness of the family will make the child have enough psychological security, and on this basis, he will be happy in life. Throughout every divorced family, children will lose the happiness and joy that should belong to them because of the disintegration of the family.

Summary

There are many more influences that divorced parents have on their children, and they are by no means limited to the three aspects mentioned above, but in any case, they are all thought-provoking. If every couple can realize the important influence of the family on the growth of the child, they should fully consider how to create a warm environment for the child to grow up and how to assume the minimum sense of family responsibility before giving the child life.

Let the child get a happy childhood, so as to use reason to implement family education for the child. Love is a manifestation of ability, learning to love one's family requires continuous learning, and only in this way can you let yourself know what kind of family responsibilities you should give.

The impact is huge. There are four common effects of divorce on children:

1. Divorce itself is a broken home for children.

2. The divorce itself directly causes the children to leave their original living environment, or changes the original family and interpersonal environment.

3. When parents remarry, no matter what attitude the other party has towards the child, the child will feel that he is a superfluous person.

Fourth, after remarriage, the run-in between stepparents and the run-in process between stepparents and children will bring psychological trauma to children.

Many parents who are emotionally incompatible often continue to maintain marriages in name only in the name of loving their children. In fact, as a parent, you should realize that divorce is not terrible for children, but what is even more terrible is the real trauma brought to children in a dysfunctional marriage.

NEED NOTICE:

Parents who are negotiating a divorce or have been divorced, how to give their children normal family warmth, should pay attention to the following points:

1. Remember to slander each other in front of your children.

Parents are role models for their children, who are still young and lack the ability to make independent judgments. If husband and wife speak ill of each other in front of their children, it can seriously mislead the children and affect the image of the parents in the minds of the children.

2. Do not cut off the child's interaction with one parent.

After the divorce, no matter which parent the child is awarded to, parents have the right to visit the child and get along with the child.

3. Don't let your children go.

Even if there is no affection and marriage between husband and wife, they should not ignore their children. Children are the victims of marriage, and after divorce, couples should care more about their children, spend more time with them, and communicate more with them than ever before.

4. Don't spoil your child too much.

Some parents will feel guilty about their children after divorce, and will try their best to make up for the debt to their children. Even if the child makes excessive requests, he will agree unconditionally, which is harmful to the child's growth.

Legal Analysis: The impact of a divorced family on children is generally psychological, such as low self-esteem, and a discordant family environment can make children feel nervous about interpersonal relationships and a sense of loneliness.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1076:Where both husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority.

The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

Article 1085:After divorce, where children are directly raised by one party, the other party shall bear part or all of the child support. The amount of the cost to be borne and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment.

The agreement or judgment provided for in the preceding paragraph does not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent in excess of the amount originally set forth in the agreement or judgment when necessary.

Article 1087:In the event of divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by mutual agreement; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman, and the innocent party.

The rights and interests enjoyed by husbands or wives in the contracting and management of family land shall be protected in accordance with law.