Why do couples reluctant to separate as they get older?

Because they understand more and more the difficulty of companionship and getting along, that kind of love is slowly turning into family affection, and the longer it passes, the more inseparable they are from each other. Husbands and wives will definitely have things that they don't understand each other at the beginning, and their own little tempers will not be restrained, and when they get older, they gradually understand each other, even better than they know themselves, and each other's tempers have gradually been run-in.

Then the older people get, the more mature they become, they will be more considerate and understanding of each other, and they will not say that they will be separated as they did when they were young, and they will die to save face and suffer crimes. The longer you spend together, the more things you experience together, and the more you know how to cherish them. At first, you may be afraid of letting the other party see your bad things, but you will be seen and discovered, but this is also the reason for loving each other more and more, even when the other party is the worst and the lowest, you will learn to feel that no one else is more suitable for you than the other party.

Family affection is a kind of blood dissolved in water feelings, is never want to leave, when love gradually becomes family affection, they really regard each other as a family, will not say two words again, and even sometimes do not speak, each other a look to understand what the other party wants to express, so it is difficult to accept that the other party is not around. Leaving the whole life will change drastically, because habits are the most terrible and the most loving. When they get used to each other for many years, they will feel strange when they are not around, and they will think about separation.

And there are really things that can only be done by each other, and when I think of it, I can't live without my own life.

And the older they get, the more they will understand that the years are unforgiving, and there will definitely be some regretful people around them who can't be together, and they will be more and more truly with each other, and it will be difficult to get along with them, and they will want to live together even more until death. And they generally have children, and their lives will first revolve around the children until the children have their own lives and return to the company of two people, the older they are, the more they will feel that it is important and lucky to have each other.

Because the older people are, the more lonely they feel, as the so-called old children and old children, the older people are, the more naïve they are, just like children, they crave companionship, they don't like to be alone, and the children are very busy with work at this time. Having their own wife can accompany them, so the older couples are willing to separate.

I often see their husbands and wives running hand in hand in the park, and it feels very warm. And there is also a sense of dependence, in short, it is impossible to describe that emotion in words.

It's not like the feeling of getting along with young couples, it's more like two relatives who depend on each other, and whoever leaves the other, the other can't live. They value each other very much, and these are things that their own children can't give. <>

In our hometown, there is such a phenomenon. Many old couples live alone together, and some of their children have gone out to work. There is no company of children, so there are only two people who live together for their lives.

One died of illness, and the other went with him a few days later. Because they can't accept the fact that their wives have left them. Because my heart was too uncomfortable and too sad, I cried myself to death.

This is not an exaggeration at all, and a lot of this happens in our country.

And the elderly are more fragile when they get old, and they often have a thought. I just don't want to be a burden to my children. So they don't want to move in with their children, and they feel more comfortable doing it.

And they don't want their children to see their embarrassment.

So I think it's really pitiful when people get old. Let's not always be busy with work. Spending more time with our parents will give them a little comfort in their hearts.

It is believed that the older a person gets, the more he likes some old things, including his wife. The more people come, the fewer they will have friends, and after experiencing the life and death of friends, they will know how to cherish the people in front of them. Therefore, the older people get, the more reluctant they are to part with their spouses.

Because they don't know how long they can stay with each other, and they don't know how long they can stay with them, they just want to be together for a longer time.

There is a stark contrast between the little ones and the elderly. Everyone says that old children are small children, and this is indeed the case. When children are young, what they need most is companionship.

It's the same when your parents are old, and what you need most is companionship. In many places, children and elderly people are more similar.

But there's one thing that's very different. That's perceptions and perceptions. One of the things that children often say in conversation is, what am I going to do in the future? And one of the things that old people often say is how I used to be. This is the difference between the elderly and the small.

Because the child's life has just begun, he has a lot of expectations for the future. And the lives of the elderly are coming to an end, so they have no future, only the past. This is also the reason why the elderly like to tell stories of the past and like nostalgia.

And it is because of this kind of thinking that the elderly prefer the things of the past.

I like the people of the past, and I like the things of the past. I like my former friends, and I like the wives I married when I was young. The older a person gets, the more life and death he experiences.

The older a person gets, the more he can appreciate the feeling of his friends dying one after another. Watching the old friends leave one by one, thinking that they will also leave in the near future, and looking at the wife in front of them, there will be more and more reluctance. And this is the reason why couples are more reluctant to separate as they get older.

I don't know how you came to this conclusion. Because I don't have such examples around me. On the contrary, it is the opposite.

My grandparents have been arguing for most of their lives. Until her grandmother left, she didn't want to see her grandfather more, and if she said more, there was no reluctance at all.

According to my mother, my grandfather and grandmother were both married for the second time, and my grandmother seemed to be because her original husband went to join the army, and then the two divorced. Grandpa: That's because his first wife died of illness! The two met through the introduction of the matchmaker.

My grandmother's home is in the county seat, but my grandfather's home is deep in the mountains. It stands to reason that grandma shouldn't play, more conditions, more bad places to add. However, in those days, there was only a way to survive if there was food, and I was very annoyed that I didn't have food every day in the city.

After passing through my grandmother's house, I cultivated a lot of wasteland. My grandfather's son is the youngest son in the family (there are more than a dozen brothers and sisters in the family).This is more favorable.

He had a good job at that time, so he basically didn't know how to do farm work, and my grandmother did all these things. Maybe it's because the two of them don't have the right personalities, my mom said that they've been arguing since she continued.

But in my impression, every time I go back to visit them during the New Year's holiday, there are not many times when I quarrel, but I look happy. But the story I heard from my aunt and uncle was that my grandfather had a very irritable personality, and he often beat the children and was unwilling to participate in farm work.

A hard-working person and a lazy person naturally can't get along, so it leads to a bad relationship between the two of them. My grandfather and grandmother also don't have a good relationship, my grandmother basically doesn't speak, my grandfather has his own social circle to write a good hand, and he is loved by the whole village, and then she will have a lot of things to do every day. Two people sleep in separate beds, and then there is basically zero communication.

There is a test: choose one person to leave among the many people closest to you in your heart, parents, children, spouses, brothers and sisters, each time you have to choose one person to leave you, and the person who is tested is the spouse who is left in the end. <>

Throughout our lives, our parents have accompanied us through our youth, Zhou has accompanied us through middle age, and our siblings have accompanied us through our childhood. When we grow up, the only one who can accompany us for life is our other half.

1.Time has made the old couple have a deep family affection. When we start to get married and start a family, our parents will not continue to accompany us, or even our parents will leave this world.

But the spouse does accompany us to face the pain of the person, since the beginning of marriage, all the ups and downs have to be tasted together, there is an inseparable relationship between the husband and wife, the old husband and wife have lived like a person, the other half is their own siblings, how can they still be separated.

2.There are some common victories between old couples, common concerns. Husband and wife live together every day and every year, all the experiences between them are the same, they have a common home, a common friend, a common child, these people and things are closely linked to each other.

The old couple's concerns are the same, and even the thoughts about the future are the same, how can they be willing to separate.

3.In the end, all that remains is each other. Old couples, after the loss of their parents, the children of the family, no one can accompany each other every day, then there is only a spouse, in the most lonely and lonely time, when sick and bedridden, when going out for a walk, only the other party can accompany themselves, only the other party can always feel their own mood.

That's really inseparable.

The older you get, the more you crave the company of your other half.

We often say that young couples come together because we were able to meet, get acquainted, get to know each other when we were young, and became husband and wife. When we get old, we get along together for a lifetime, and at this time we are a life partner.

We often see people from our parents' generation always talking together, but we have to think that this is how they have lived in this life. The relationship between them has been so good that we can't imagine it, and it's not at all something I can understand.

We often think that the bickering of our parents is proof that they are not in a good relationship. They often say in front of us, if it weren't for the children, I would have divorced you a long time ago.

But you're wrong, they didn't stay together because of you. They say such things just as an excuse, as a testament to the people they have good feelings for. The reason why they say such things so many times, and they have never been divorced, is because they are true love.

We often say that love is a kind of family affection in the deepest depths, and his parents have become a kind of family affection.

We are young people, and we need to learn from them. When we get older, we also feel that our partner is the most important person in our lives.

Why are so many old people suddenly aging a lot because of the death of their partner? This is because what they wanted in life is no longer there.

It's like my grandfather, I passed away some time ago in my grandmother, and he suddenly looked like he was many years older. He was already very old, but looking from the outside, he was still very energetic, and every time my grandmother wanted to eat something, he tried to satisfy her.

However, as soon as my grandmother died, my grandfather didn't want to eat anything, and he couldn't even sleep, which is a kind of proof of their relationship.

We often say that companionship is the most beautiful confession, and companionship is a habit for a lifetime.

People get older.

Husband and wife are separated, and the expenses of the two places are of course large, and the relationship between the two places will not be small. Coupled with the cost of carriage and horses back and forth, the cost of reunion will be aggravated, and the pressure of life will increase. Missing each other and remembering the big and small things at home will make people involuntarily increase their worries, and they will have to worry more than people who are not separated.

It will speed up aging. But it won't be very obvious.

What are the effects of long-term separation?

Separation is not good, and it is easy to have disagreements.