How do you restrain yourself from saying certain things?

Silence is golden, I take this phrase as a motto. As the old saying goes, "there is calm in every big event", which tells us that if things are slow, they will be round, and that it is easier to succeed when things are slow. The more mature a person is, the less likely he is to show himself in front of others, but to respect his inner feelings.

If you do it, you will be a saint, if you say that you will be a sage, if you say that you will be a sage, if you say that you will not do it, you will be a liar. So, why should I babble? Self-cultivation and virtue, so as to form their own gentleman's personality.

This sentence is a bit boastful. I say again, I dare not say that I am a gentleman, but I am definitely not a hypocrite. Living in groups can also prevent disasters from coming out of the mouth, and diseases from entering the mouth.

The so-called "right and wrong is only to open more mouths, and the troubles are all due to the strong head", sit alone to guard against your heart, be cautious about your words and deeds, and prevent your own chaotic heart.

Talking less doesn't mean you're going to be absolutely quiet. There are occasions when you need to be brave enough to show yourself and show your abilities. Observe words and looks, say when you should speak, and shut up when you shouldn't.

Many villains could have won by relying on their strong strength, but because they talked too much, the protagonist seized the opportunity to counterattack and make a big comeback. In the workplace, officialdom, and family, good words mean more opportunities to calm potential arguments or crises. Speaking is an art that requires consistent observation, reflection, and practice.

If you want to talk less, remember two words: humility! Being humble keeps you shut up.

Learn to listen before you talk less. It is important to listen to others, not only to show respect for others, but also to learn how to speak so that others do not get bored to listen to them. I also talk a lot, and the speed of speech is fast, often when I finish speaking, others ask again, let me say it again slowly, and often I am interrupted in the middle of speaking, so I also start to learn to talk less.

You can talk more when you need to liven up the atmosphere, and if you suddenly don't talk at all, the people around you won't get used to it all at once. Sometimes what can be said in one or two sentences, think about it a little before you leave it, and don't express it in five or six sentences. In this way, I feel very capable, and even my mouth is not so thirsty so easily.

First of all, you have to figure out the occasion, so that you have the goal of the general direction first, and you probably know what you can and can't say. If you encounter an occasion that you don't understand, then talk less and listen more. If you meet your own profession and others just want to understand, you can simply say something that is easy to understand, and don't talk endlessly in your own world and say that this occasion is not your home field.

If it's your home game, then you should greet more and give full play to your strengths.

In various chats and parties, if you encounter the other party who doesn't want to say and doesn't say much, you can change the topic of such a chat to avoid embarrassment, and say less at this time. When others help you analyze the problem, you should say more and tell the problem without reservation.

As the saying goes: if you say too much, you will lose. It's not good to talk too much, but communication between people is a must.

So how to make your language more charming, better increase feelings through communication, and at the same time block some ineffective communication? You might as well try to think more before speaking, in the process of brain thinking, you will reduce some ineffective language, better communicate feelings, in the process you can also choose what to say and what to say carefully. This can ensure normal communication and reduce the situation of too many words being lost.

Talking is not a derogatory term. Instead of talking less, less nonsense. Since he has the specialty of speaking, he should be a master of lively atmosphere in communication, a humorous and funny person in life, and an indispensable striker in his career.

You might as well practice your speeches, read more stories, memorize more jokes, and learn more communicative emotional intelligence. Every circle needs someone like you who likes to talk and can talk.

Don't talk about life, say what you should say, don't say what you shouldn't say, when your husband and wife ask if they quarrel is to talk less, suppress their breath, and tolerate each other to talk less. Talk less when the leader shields you. In short, it is still necessary to see the wind and make the rudder.

Read more books. Don't read the chicken soup article on the bad street, and don't read the inspirational story of a certain celebrity. Looking at Chinese classics, that is the real wisdom of life.

It makes sense that these classics have survived to this day. Read more books and you will know what is beneficial and what not to do.

First of all, learn to slow down the speed of speech, after slowing down the speed of speech, the mind will be peaceful, the mind will be peaceful, the mind will be less wrong, less wrong words, there is no need to worry about saying more or less, right?

Since it is a habitual pattern, it is not so difficult to change, first of all, you must record yourself under what circumstances you will say it. Swearing? Feeling aggrieved? Feel unfair? Or have I encountered something else;

The second is to refer to other behavior patterns, find the trigger point of your own swearing, and then look for other effective or similar behavior methods, such as feeling wronged, you can immediately think about the reason, that is, to take a step forward, because when people are scolding, they often feel helpless and powerless.

Then slowly start to implement new ways of behaving, slowly replacing the previous way of swearing. At first, it needs to be deliberately replaced.

Eventually, you'll find that you've adapted to your new pattern of non-swearing, and it's going to be natural. There is no need for restraint, deliberately.

Hopefully, it will be useful to you and you will be successful in changing your habits.

I want to let myself talk less, because if I can't help but speak, I can't help but explode. It seems that the foul language is a little uncontrollable, so talk less. When you want to speak, think twice, first organize it in your brain, and then correct it as soon as you want to say it.

But if you swear yourself, then you must control yourself, you must pay attention to your words and deeds, don't swear, swearing is very bad.

Maybe you've already formed a habit, and it's hard to break a habit. But you have to restrain yourself, no matter how familiar you are, don't say it, think about it before you say it, and you can change it gradually.