After eight years of long distance love, why doesn t the other half want to marry me?

It's been eight years since I've been in love, and it should be said that there's nothing new anymore, and it's okay if you want to get married at this time. But he doesn't want to marry you, and that's a serious problem. You should find out what the problem is, to see if he doesn't love you anymore?

Or maybe you have other concerns.

I used to watch a short film about emotions about two people falling in love while they were in college. After graduation, they have been living together, but the man has never proposed to the woman. This made the woman anxious, and the woman mentioned it to him many times, and she proposed to the man in turn.

But the man didn't agree. <>

I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking about it, and it's for the sake of the other party, but I think there's another aspect that is also selfish. Maybe I just don't want to take on the responsibility of marriage, after all, after marriage, it will be a matter of two families.

Think about it yourself, for so many years, people have been with you, even if they don't get married, they will suffer with you, and it's still a rented house. People have never disliked you, nor have they said that this kind of life is bad. If it's really for a better life, then you can find another person.

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First, the eight-year love run has allowed you to get to know each other better, and the other party feels that you can't give yourself happiness after getting to know you, so the other party doesn't trust you enough and feels that you won't give you hope. Or because of the other party's family, his parents do not agree to your marriage, so he does not agree to marry you. <>

Second, there are unforeseen circumstances or the other party has found someone who feels more suitable for him, or the other party has something unspeakable, you have to communicate and learn from the friends around him to see what is the specific reason why he is reluctant to go to the palace of marriage with you, it may be that he has been with a new friend in recent times, and feels that the new friend is more suitable than you to start a family with him. Or the other party has been sick recently, so in order not to drag you down, he will give up the eight-year love run and do not agree to marry you.

No matter what the reason is, after being together for eight years, no one can easily give up the person who has been with them for eight years, communicate more, find the reason, and then find a solution.

In fact, I think the difference between falling in love and getting married is really very big, if your other half has been in love with you for eight years and is still unwilling to marry you, then I think he should have concerns in his heart! It certainly won't be because the two of you are not suitable, after all, we've been together for eight years.

Then he will definitely have a lot of his own hardships, and he will think a lot about whether he has the ability to give you happiness, give you future life security, and reassure your parents.

Just like Shen Teng and his wife, he and his wife have been in a relationship for 12 years before, but he has no intention of getting married, he said in an interview later, he thinks that at that time he was not able to give his girlfriend a future and security.

In fact, many times, a man will think a little more than a woman, you are the person he loves, so he will definitely not think about his marriage when he has achieved nothing, so he is not willing to choose to get married. It's okay, he's just working on your future.

Most people decide to get married because they see the good in each other. There are also some people who make up their minds to get married so that their parents don't have to worry about it. Because the child is not married, the parents will be very anxious.

Therefore, everyone's original intention of getting married is different, but everyone must understand each other before marriage. <>

For many young people, they especially enjoy the state of falling in love. Everyone will be very happy in the process of falling in love, but once the topic of marriage is mentioned, there will be some conflicts between them. There are also some people who have been in love with each other for a long time, but still have no idea of getting married.

After such a situation occurs, it will also make their hearts very entangled. Because they don't know how to choose in the future, it can even make some people feel very lost. But for most people, the reason why they make up their minds to get married may be because they see the good in each other.

Because after seeing the advantages of the other party, many people will have the idea of getting married. In this way, it can also reduce the conflict after marriage, and at the same time make the married life of two people happier. There are also some people who get married because they want to cope with their parents.

Because you have been single, you will be urged to marry by your family, which will also affect everyone's mood. And at this time, parents will be very worried, and they will even arrange blind dates for their children. So in order to cope with their parents, some people will choose to find a random person to marry.

Therefore, you can see that everyone's attitude towards marriage is different. If the other party is a person who can be trusted, getting married is not a terrible thing. Because in this way, they can bring a better life to everyone, and at the same time, they can take on the responsibility of the family.

Therefore, before getting married, everyone must think about whether the other party is worthy of entrusting for life. And when you get married, you have to say your requirements in advance. In this way, two people can calm down and think, and at the same time, they should also see if the other person has some bad habits.

After two people get along for a long time, I have mastered a set of effective ways to get along, and then I decided to get married by taking into account the career development of two people, trusting, understanding, respecting, and tolerating each other in daily interactions.

I decided to get married because I felt that both parties had reached a certain age, and their family background and financial strength had reached a certain standard.

I mentioned it directly, and he was very nice and dedicated to me, and agreed to sign the prenuptial agreement. He has a very stable job and is very willing to help me get back on my feet.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a relatively complex marital relationship, which is also a problem that every couple faces. But there are some people who have no way to escape such problems after marriage, so they can only continue to live hard, but if they find that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not harmonious before remarriage, then such a relationship is likely to end.

Seven years of affection, if not to get married. Then there can be a lot of problems in this relationship. After all, your approach makes the other party impatient.

Falling in love and getting married are not the same, during the love period, the other party will be more considerate of each other, and there is room for each other, but after getting married, there will be more chai, rice, silver, cherry, oil and salt, and it is easy to be anxious.

Because marriage has life in addition to love, and there are inevitably many contradictions in life, this situation will occur.

Because the time spent together after marriage is definitely more auspicious than when you are in love, many shortcomings or different living habits will be exposed in front of each other, and after marriage, it is bound to switch from love to trivial matters such as rice, oil, salt and other things in life, once you can't reach an agreement, there will definitely be quarrels from time to time.

Because before marriage and after marriage are completely two concepts, after marriage, then you have to bear the responsibility, as well as the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in life, which can make you laugh and worry about it, and it will naturally be noisy.

In fact, it's not because of deep feelings, it may be because the two people don't want to get married, and they don't want to have a future with each other.

It shouldn't be considered a deep feeling, and true love will enter the marriage hall, this is where love belongs, and it should be unready.

I don't think so, but two people are used to a romantic relationship, but it is more difficult to casually give each other a marriage shackle.

This is definitely not, because I think that the reason why I have not been married is probably because I have not reached the age of marriage or because there are other factors that affect it. Otherwise, why not get married? Because some people's words, he may be for example. There are many influencing factors.

First of all, if you get married, many people have cars and houses, and if you don't have a car, a house, or a material foundation, many people will not get married, and even if you have that kind of marriage object, you must have a bride price, a house, a car and a house, so that the other party or the other party's parents will be willing to marry you and let the children.

The second thing is that some people are not married because they may be working now, for example, because some people, especially women, may be busy with their careers, so they don't necessarily, they want to get married now, because if you get married now, you may have children for life, or if you don't, having children may cause conflicts. In this way, it is easy to put yourself in a very passive state. Therefore, he may not have the intention of getting married now, and he may be preparing his career first, and he may be preparing the answer.

But I don't think this can negate his feelings, very deep, because some people's words are very deep, but if you grow over time, many times the feelings may be lost in the end, and he will become that kind of family affection. Because it is impossible for your feelings to be maintained all the time, and relative to love, he will also have that. You don't have that kind of thing at the end of these two lull periods.

The feeling of being in love, you know, is equivalent to two people being very close because of their relationship.

In the end, I think that in fact, no matter what, the relationship between the two people is deep? But not getting married may still have a great impact, not only for the children that if you get married, parents must hope that the children can get married as soon as possible, and then having children is the primary purpose.

Lin Dingding and Zhao Zixuan have been together since college, and after graduation, they did not fall into the law of "breaking up after graduation" like other couples, and still walked hand in hand. In the blink of an eye, it has been four years since the two of them graduated, and they each have stable jobs, and the two of them are not young at this time, but Zhao Zixuan has never mentioned marriage, Lin Dingding vaguely mentioned a few words, but Zhao Zixuan said that he wanted to play for two more years, so the disheartened Lin Dingding proposed to break up, and Zhao Zixuan did not keep it.

After a while, he called Lin Dingding again and said that he wanted to get back together, saying that he would change, and asked Lin Dingding to give him time, after all, the two of them had an emotional foundation for eight years, and Lin Dingding still returned to Zhao Zixuan under his soft heart, but Zhao Zixuan asked Lin Dingding to wait for him for two years, saying that he would get married when his career was stable. Lin Dingding was already numb to Zhao Zixuan's words and didn't want to believe him anymore. Don't know what to do?

In my opinion, there is nothing different about the rhythm of long-distance love and marriage, maybe it's just that the mentality of the two has changed.

Because marriage is something that requires each other to be truly responsible for a lifetime, it will give people a certain amount of pressure.

Therefore, marriage is the grave of love, and when you enter marriage, you have to face all the cumbersome things such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, etc.

Because marriage and love are two different things, love can last a long time, but marriage may not be happy.

Marriage is not a matter of two people, it is a matter of two families, and there will be many trivial things after marriage.