Living with my son of three, I have been in conflict with my son recently, what should I do?

You live with your son and a family of three, and it is strange that there is no conflict with your son, you know that the elderly are now old-age and have the conditions to live closer to their children, but they have to live alone, just to avoid contradictions. Your situation is that you have been with your son on the surface, but in fact, you have not taken into account your daughter-in-law's feelings, you have lived with your son for three. If you don't have a house and have lived with your son of three, sooner or later there will be conflicts.

If you have a house, even if it is in your hometown, it is better to go home, and there will be no contradictions.

It is inevitable that two generations will live together, because of different ages, different concepts, and different schedules, and there will be conflicts. So otherwise, they can live separately, they can't be separated, and they can only pretend to be deaf and dumb to avoid conflicts with them. When living in a child's house, you should have the idea of being a guest, not the host, so that you can get along easily.

It is inevitable to live with your son, understand each other and talk more, no one is easy to talk less, for the family to suffer a little loss and hardship together, and work together to achieve harmony and happiness.

Today's children are more rebellious and can't scold, they can only reason slowly. If the child does not listen, then talk another day and let the child and himself calm down.

There are always contradictions between the old man and his sons, and the old man rarely interferes in all the affairs of the two sons, including taking care of the children's education.

Find out what the cause of the contradiction is, and solve the root cause. When the family is together, there are many contradictions, and it is not a confrontation between the enemy and me.

It is possible to be separated for a period of time.

I think you're being too harsh.

Although there are parents all over the world.

But if a person is not a saint or a sage, he can do no wrong.

Kneeling for 3 5 hours (don't you feel distressed).

He now thinks in his heart that you don't love him.

So it's even more rebellious.

Try to give some freedom.

Letting go once in a while is more beneficial for his growth, isn't it?

Don't you think it's too much to scold him because of going to the toilet?

It can be said tactfully: Good son, do you still want your mother to flush the toilet for you like when you were a child? It's not embarrassing (he's 17 years old, and he'll feel shameless if he's scolded for flushing the toilet) As for not saying hello when you enter the door (my husband is still like this, I can't change it, o(o) After all, young people nowadays are not so particular and don't have so many courtesies He thinks he's back, you already know that the family doesn't need to care too much.

Try to talk about your heart once in a while, father and son are more suitable.

Due to time constraints.

I'm going to get breakfast.

If you still don't understand, you can send me a private message.

I wish you a happy family.

I think as a mother, you can adjust in the middle, you can say to your son, dad criticizes you is also for your good, you can give some examples of fathers caring for their sons, so that it is more convincing, and move the child from the heart, so that he will have a sense of respect for the father, I think there will be no quarrels in the future, and the father can persuade him to care more about the child. I hope my advice helps you and I wish you all a happy day!

The children in this grade have reached the period of adolescent rebellion, it's okay, just care about it, after this period of time, it won't be like this, my brother and my mother are like this.

Auntie, I want to say that there is really a big problem with your education method, either scolding or beating. Didn't try to communicate well, he should have been gentle with him when he was young, and then let him say his thoughts, is it not good to solve it peacefully, now the times are advancing, living in an era has an era of behavioral habits, hobbies, there are many things we have different views, that is, what we call the generation gap, educating children should not just be unilateral only to teach sterility. For example, my brother is now 13 years old, and I still remember that I slapped him when he was 5 years old, I never beat him once and never scolded him, and now he does not do anything well, I will analyze with him like a heart-to-heart conversation, and then let him say what he has to say, now he basically listens to me, and at home he doesn't even listen to my grandfather and my father's words to listen to me, my grandfather said that he said two sentences and he was impatient to quarrel with my grandfather, I interrupted them to educate him, and he listened.

Auntie, in such a situation, you should first bow your head and admit your mistake to him. said that the tone was not good, and the speech was too impulsive and too heavy; Then be reasonable. At this time, he was in a rebellious period, trying to ignore the small things and persuade and educate the big things.

My son is older! Separate lives!

We are retired and live with our son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren.

The daughter-in-law thinks we are nagging, and the grandchildren are not worried.

I don't want to sleep at night, surf the Internet, what are the things on the Internet, I don't want to get up in the morning, how good it is to move my muscles and bones, like we are now old, and our body is obviously not good, I really hope that they can suffer less and enjoy more blessings at our age.

Oh,I always listen to the noisy love of love**,,Those classmates who brought it home Oh,,I'm really afraid of learning bad things from those things,,Alas。

Friend, I saw you describe this, presumably your son has never been to kindergarten so far, otherwise he probably wouldn't talk back to this extent Hitting a child is not a good way to educate the problem The best way is to let your son go to kindergarten as soon as possible, usually a kindergarten child can go when he is more than two years old When he comes into contact with other children, he will naturally know what he is doing wrong The child will listen to the kindergarten teacher more than the parents, and other children will give him a role model Generally boys are very skinny at this age Don't worry too much about your children, boys, take your time

Communicate, be friends with children, don't think of yourself as a high emperor, children don't like to communicate with majestic adults.

Think from the child's point of view, the child's difficulties and thoughts As a parent, as an adult, you can think more comprehensively, but the child can't, the child's thoughts are more simple and stubborn, like to drill the horns of the bull, patiently talk to them as their peers, don't get angry.

Relax and give him her freedom.

As much as nothing to him to her.

In addition, write him a letter to her.

Tell us why.

It's time to be humble.

In addition, explain the expectations for the child.

And explain what the child is doing wrong.

Communicate more, after all, there is a generation gap.

Only by dividing the economy can we achieve long-term peace and stability. If the parents do not have a financial ** and the children support their parents, there will be fewer financial disputes. If it is the other way around, it is necessary to distinguish priorities.

First of all, the family expenses should have the main body, if the parents are the main body of daily food and drink, then the children have to pay for food. The standard of food expenses shall be determined according to the family's income, and the children shall follow the agreement, and shall not be cheated.

It is normal for there to be a gap between the two generations, and I often have heard that my parents will have a judgment on their own psychology after hearing about the outdated and unscientific concepts, and then I will tell my parents about the conflict between those concepts and current science. Why do you have to say that it is divided into occasions, because when parents are in a bad mood and you keep repeating their opinions, they will definitely not listen, and sometimes they may feel that their children are disgusted with their lack of culture, or they will feel that they are out of line with the times and panic. Therefore, we should try to use the right way to make parents accept the current science, instead of stubbornly insisting on our own unscientific theories.

Or sometimes, if some stereotypes are not harmful, we can also respect the opinions of our parents. Each of us has a scale in our own psychology, and we will weigh it, which will not hurt the psychology of our parents, but also allow our parents to understand science, and we can also establish regular communication with our parents.

In the face of your parents' empiricism, you have to listen carefully and agree sincerely, and you must have a final conclusion in your heart, and your parents will not always stare at what you do and need to respond tactfully. Don't impose your own ideas on your parents, after all, your parents are old and frail, some things are inadequate, and it is difficult to improve and change if they are mentally dull or rigid.

In fact, the conflict of ideas and concepts is irreconcilable, and in order to fundamentally solve this problem, we also need to start from the ideological concept and change the ideological concepts of your parents, which is not only conducive to reconciling the conflict between you and your parents, but also conducive to your parents to better accept the new things of modernization and live a better and happier life. It is not easy to change the ideological concepts formed by parents over the years, but if one is not done well, it will deepen the contradictions between the two parties, and even end up unhappily. Therefore, if we want to change the ideological concepts of our parents, we should pay more attention to ways and means, and adopt more gradual ways that are acceptable to our parents.

Some of the lessons of my parents had to be learned, they walked longer than the bridge we crossed, and they ate more salt and salt than we ate rice. With some small things in life in the family, involving some of their old ideas, they should turn a blind eye and get by. If it is a matter of principle, for example, on the issue of educating children, grandparents are accustomed to grandchildren, and they must not agree.

Xiaomei is one of my students, she and her husband are college classmates, and the relationship has always been very good, although it is not a place, but after graduation, the boy came to Xiaomei's city and was admitted to a teacher in a local key middle school. Then arrange a job, buy a house and get married, everything is logical. But after Xiaomei became pregnant, her parents proposed to live with their daughter, and the parents said that they had nothing to do when they retired, and that it was convenient to live together to take care of their daughter's childbirth and live together, and the parents fully intervened in the daily life of the little couple, and their food, clothing, housing and transportation were decided by their parents.

After the child was born, the cost became more and more, and Xiaomei's parents began to count the man. Get a dead salary, work hard and leisurely, and when you come home from work every day, you just watch TV, unlike other teachers who work as tutors, earn extra money, and can't even afford to support your family. After Xiaomei gave birth, she was a little uncomfortable, very dependent on her mother, listening to these words all day long, she also felt very irritable, and she began to be dissatisfied with her husband.

After a long time, the contradiction between the young couple became deeper and deeper, and finally one day, Xiaomei couldn't stand it anymore, and filed for divorce under the impulse of increasing day after day. The husband was dumbfounded, thinking that he didn't smoke, drink, or spend all day's time, but he just had a day of classes, and he was tired and didn't want to make up for his children. But she only listened to her parents' words, and did not understand herself at all, so she moved out of her home in a fit of anger and lived in the teacher's dormitory of that school.

There must be people who have had this experience, and our parents who live with us must also want to do their part to reduce the burden of our lives to a certain extent, and let us be busy with work with peace of mind. However, because of some differences in thinking concepts, parents are often prone to doing bad things with good intentions. Just like Xiaomei's parents, they may not listen to their words, but the foothold is to hope that their daughter will be happy, and they hope that the life of the young couple can get better and better, but they are used to using the standards of the elderly to measure the marriage of young people.

The starting point of the conflict between parents and you is for your own good, young people should know how to carry some unpleasantness, in the face of some behaviors of their parents, if it is difficult for you to understand that communication is fruitless, at least you must respect your parents in behavior. The hair and skin of the body originate from the parents, and the key to filial piety to the parents must also lie in the Shun, Shun scale and skills, in order to reduce the conflict with the parents, and the family can be harmonious and beautiful.

Sooner or later, if you have to reconcile, you have to take a step back, as the saying goes, take a step back and open the sky, our parents gave birth to us and raised us, we understand more.

Cold salad, family affection is something that smashes bones and tendons, and after the contradiction, no matter who is right or wrong, forget it.

The son understands Lao Tzu, and Lao Tzu must also educate his son.

Parents and children communicate more, maybe the child is a little precocious, you can go to the school to ask teachers and classmates, try to understand the child's life from many aspects, communicate with the child more, less reprimand, let the child recognize his mistakes and correct himself.

Let my son understand that Dad loves him!