I hope that the master group of psychology and my spirituality will be restored

Hello this friend;

First of all, A has a strong self-control, which is acceptable. Self-control is binding on emotions and feelings. I'll explain it in more detail;

Self-control belongs to the level of consciousness, which people can perceive and is rational. Its main core is; What to do, what not to do, what to do and what not to do. The baton behind it is; Morality, reason, law, ideological realm, etc.

Emotions and emotions are the reflection of people's subconscious in behavior and language. It is irrational and emotional, and it is contradictory to the intellectual, moral, and ideological realms.

If the contradiction between the two is handled better, we will find a balance between reason and emotion, and the opposition between emotions and emotions, and life will be relatively peaceful. If you can't reconcile these contradictions, for example, you can control your emotions and emotions with too much self-control. It will suppress the "self" in a person's heart.

leads to the formation of "obsessive-compulsive disorder".

Self-control is the ability to control oneself, including emotions.

If a student is naughty in class, or always crying, it can be said that he has poor self-control.

This A just expresses his emotions appropriately, there is nothing wrong with it, and it has nothing to do with self-control.

Since everyone is talking about self-control, then I won't talk about it, and let's talk about the problems reflected in the materials given by the landlord.

First of all, it is good for two people to compete in secret, because only in such a learning atmosphere can people be motivated. If LZ is the character of A, then, you should relax yourself from time to time and not be overwhelmed by such pressure. I also came from junior high school, and one of my brothers and I also competed in this way.

However, you must know that this can only be a reason for you to study hard, and it cannot be an excuse for the two of you to mock and deceive each other. Let's hope A can keep up this momentum.

However, there is one thing to remember:'Meditate and think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others'This will not only improve your self-control, but also make more and more friends around you. In other words, one day, B will be open and honest with you.

If, classmate, you are C, then it is better to join the contest between the two, or as an intermediary, witness the contest between the two, of course, after each round of the contest, how to mediate the atmosphere, mediate the mood of the three people, including yourself, is also very important, I won't say much here.

The last case, of course, is to stand in B's position.

In the next opinion, to friends, no, even if they are not friends, there is nothing to hide, especially in terms of learning, because there is an old Chinese saying called:"Communicate with each other and learn from each other's strengths", I think, this sentence is very appropriate here, for the three people in the material, it must be their own strengths, each has its own shortcomings, as the saying goes:"There is a sequence of hearing the Tao, and there is a specialization in the art industry"Well, that's normal.

If the two, or even C, are honest with each other and make up for their shortcomings, then the achievements of the three will inevitably work together to achieve one"Unprecedented"height (relative to three people).

Now let's start to summarize:

As the saying goes, cooperation is beneficial to both sides, and division is disadvantageous. It is the truth that the power of the individual is not stronger than the power of the collective. Of course, there should also be competition in this collective, so that it can be called a qualified collective.

Of course, if the person who posted here is the parent of the three classmates, then the following remarks must only play a role in throwing bricks and stones. Oh, by the way, when it comes to parents, I remembered that the three students can find their own parents to figure out a way, they are the ones who love you the most, and they will definitely not harm you. That's all there is to it.

I wish you all success in your studies.

Hello, I've passed the first question, you can go and see;

The second question: self-control is binding on emotions and emotions, there are too many subdivisions, I say in layman's terms: self-control on emotional constraints are mostly negative, there are emotions that do not break out will affect health, positive emotions and negative emotions need good channeling.

Self-control has a positive effect on emotional constraints, so as to avoid personal emotional harm.

Therefore, emotionally speaking, A's self-control and restraint are not very good, and it is easy to hurt the feelings of both parties from the heart; But emotionally speaking, A's self-control is good and can avoid direct emotional harm.

I don't know what kind of answer you need, but I just said it based on my feelings.

Does this have anything to do with self-control? No!

Neither A nor B is wrong. Because people are still more or less selfish when it comes to their own interests, B is not far away from revealing to A that he is the truth; When A feels that he has been deceived and is dissatisfied, he vents this emotion, and there is nothing wrong with it.

From this question, I can't see how much self-control A's self-control is, but as for whether self-control is emotionally binding or emotionally binding, it's both.

Don't use others as your own emotional trash can.

We are creating a better future, and those who create a better future are physically and mentally healthy, and a person who cannot solve his own difficulties and pains cannot bear the arduous task of creating a better future for mankind.

You have your own karma, you have paved your own way, you have suffered your own sins, and you have suffered your own suffering.

Negative, negative, pessimistic emotions are spiritual garbage, clean up these garbage by yourself, don't chatter to others, don't treat others as garbage cans that you can dump emotional garbage, that is cruel to others.

Don't keep telling others about your past suffering and pain, that's your own business, suffering and pain are also emotional garbage, don't dump it on others.

Don't tell others about your past wrongs and grievances, that's your own business, digest and deal with it yourself.

Don't tell others about the merits between you and others, that's your own business, and others have no responsibility or obligation to take on the trash can you dump your emotional garbage.

Don't tell others about your dissatisfaction and opinions about someone, have the ability to fight directly, and don't pull others into the water to support you.

Don't tell others about your dissatisfaction with **, go directly to the relevant ** department, and don't let others be your victims or burial objects.

Don't tell others about your dissatisfaction with society, ask yourself what you have contributed to society? Why let other people's emotions be polluted by your emotions as well.

Don't talk too much about your past glory and glory to others, you are suppressing others, elevating yourself, and making others uncomfortable, which is also rubbish.

So, what do you talk about when talking to people?

Talk about your plans, arrangements, and hopes for the future, the happy things you encounter, the truth, goodness, beauty, love, faith, and sincerity stories and characters you have discovered, your words of praise and encouragement to others, all positive, optimistic, and healthy messages, and so on.

If someone comes to dump your emotional garbage, listen to it if you want to! You're taking on the role of an emotional trash can, though.

Self-control is self-control. Broken down into multiple levels, including both emotional and emotional constraints. And so on, and so on, and so on...

Being friends has nothing to do with learning to keep your privacy. What A wants to know is information about B's private life, and B has the right not to tell it or to tell it incorrectly, and A's confiding in C also shows that B is very important to A.

It's just a normal human reaction. There is no psychological suggestion or mental unhealth.

Self-control refers to the ability of people to consciously control their emotions and actions. He is good at motivating himself to be brave enough to carry out the decisions he takes, and he is also good at suppressing those desires, motivations, behaviors and emotions that do not serve the stated purpose. Self-control is an important sign of strength.

Self-control refers to a person's ability to control his emotions and restrain his words and deeds in volitional actions. Self-control is mainly manifested in two aspects: on the one hand, it makes oneself strive to overcome the fear, hesitation, and laziness that are unfavorable to oneself in actual work and study; On the one hand, we should be good at suppressing impulsive behavior in practical actions.

Self-control plays a very important role in a person's success. From the ancient encyclopedic scientist Aristotle to modern philosophers, it has been noted that "a good life is based on self-control."

The opposite is capriciousness. Be self-indulgent and unrestrained by your words and actions. Arbitrarily act without regard to the consequences of the action.

You have developed the habit of self-study, but only you know whether the quality of self-study is high or not.

I suggest that you can exercise and watch something for half an hour so that you can never get distracted.

Remember, human perseverance is cultivated.

Quite normal, this question does not require a master of psychology.

For example, do you think a sick chick can grow very big?

What are you thinking? It's normal to have a blast in adolescence, perhaps thinking about someone or something and inner desires. Remember not to deliberately suppress some of your normal thoughts or desires, and release them at the right time, which will have unexpected effects.

But don't affect the efficiency of the class, my brother is a person who is always distracted in class, so I took an ordinary book, you must not repeat my mistakes!! Come on, university life is very colorful!!

There are three major psychological factors that can alter an individual's response to stressors:

1.Cognitive regulation.

The core of stress coping is a cognitive process, and the transformation of individual cognition is the key to solving stress problems. On the one hand, it is necessary to correctly identify the way you manage your own stress. Positive coping styles include asking for help, solving problems, rationalizing, transferring, and venting.

Negative ways include complaining, fantasizing, repression, and withdrawal. By being self-aware of your stress management styles and distinguishing between positive and negative ones, you can control your stress handling style as much as possible to maintain a high level of mental health. On the other hand, when looking at stressors, cognitive regulation methods can be moderated by comprehensively analyzing the problem and clarifying the favorable factors.

In addition, you can also use the long-term vision method, that is, to look far away under stress, so as to discover the meaning of overcoming difficulties and be inspired by lofty goals, so as to increase the confidence to cope with stress.

2.Behavioral regulation.

Behavior regulation refers to the gradual control and relief of psychological pressure by regulating one's own behavior. On the one hand, determine the priority of things. Urgent matters may not be important, and things that do not seem urgent may be decisive.

By prioritizing things and doing what you can, you can allocate your time and energy reasonably without taking on too much pressure. On the other hand, develop new networks of interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationships are the relationships between people that exist in all societies.

The more people you come into, the more likely you are to build a good network. Therefore, participating in group activities and taking the initiative to communicate with others is a good way to integrate into the new environment as soon as possible and alleviate feelings of loneliness and helplessness. At the same time, in interpersonal communication, we should avoid the tendency of shyness, jealousy, and arrogance, and get along with others in a positive, respectful, and tolerant way, so as to help ourselves integrate into the group and gain friendship, happiness, and help.

In addition, it is possible to change the individual's response to stressors by applying emotion regulation. Methods of emotion regulation include autosuggestion, transfer, humor, etc.

3.Social support.

Social support is a resource provided by others. There are three types of social support: material support (eg

money), emotional support (e.g., love or concern), informational support (e.g., facts or advice).

Frustration tolerance refers to an individual's ability to adapt, resist and cope with frustration. That is, when encountering a frustrating situation.

DAO, whether it can withstand blows and pressures, and whether it has a tolerance to get rid of and eliminate difficulties and avoid psychological and behavioral disorders. The size of an individual's frustration tolerance is closely related to the impact of frustration, and people with strong frustration tolerance are less negatively affected by frustration. People with weak frustration tolerance are more affected by frustration, and may even lead to psychological and behavioral abnormalities due to frustration. An individual's frustration tolerance is affected by many factors, including physiological, psychological, and social factors.

An individual's frustration tolerance is mainly formed in the acquired environment, and the acquired environment is more affected by personal psychological factors. Therefore, through acquired education and training, it is the key to improve the individual's frustration tolerance, obtain the correct concept of coping with the frustration situation, and master the relevant knowledge and skills of psychological adjustment. Enhancing people's frustration tolerance is mainly closely related to the following individual psychological factors.

Something in the environment.

To make people spontaneously produce a state of tension, and this driving force is pressure. Environmental factors come from society, and society has habitual judgment standards for a certain type of people, so that individuals (including the judged object) judge that this is the case, so that a certain type of people have an inherent image; There are people from others who are somewhat unhappy with the demands of others and others must make such demands.

Attitude: Facing reality, you have two choices – submissive and rebellious. Being submissive (or mostly submissive) in action and rebellious psychologically creates stress.

Taste: An individual's unique preference for something. You have good taste, and you don't care about certain small things and concentrate on the things you like.

A necessary process for generating stress is to "pay attention" to it, and why there is a particular "attention" to a stressor is a big question. I recommend you to read two books, "Attitude Determines State" and "Taste Determines Quality".

An effective way to relieve stress is to shift your attention, and the most fundamental way is to move away from the stressor and away from the stress-producing environment. The most common method is to pay attention to the temporary shift of the object and take a time out of the week to do sports or other fun things to dedicate yourself to it.

If you need special assistance, please consult a psychologist or psychology professor directly.