I m 28 years old, my work is very confusing, and my life is chaotic! 100

Hey, I feel the same way when I see this. I used to go to college, but like you, I spent four years in college. After graduating, I found a job to know that I forgave the past four years as if I hadn't studied.

The competition for employment is too great, what do I have to fight! Wept bitterly and regretted it. After that, I quit gaming, got used to the routine, and my life became better.

For you to say that the personality is too introverted, can't do a good job, can't manage, and doesn't have a girlfriend... A mess in life must be a problem of disordered life and rest, you should get rid of games, and live a healthy life, I think your problems will change a lot. The main thing is that the positive energy of the individual should be greater than the negative energy, so that you can be confident and your life can be improved.

This is my personal experience, you can refer to it

In fact, if you want to be promoted or become capable, you can try to take a self-exam. Self-study for an undergraduate major, and you can choose weekend training, which will not delay you from going to work at all. And this road is relatively easy, you can get a diploma. If you have a diploma, you have the confidence to do anything.

If you don't want to take the self-exam, you can also take some training courses to improve your skills, or work on a skill such as English for a while.

When it comes to girlfriends, you have to pay more attention to your appearance, neat and clean. Talk steadily, if you don't know how to speak, then talk less and do more.

Make a suitable daily routine to ensure that the body is energetic, so that the mood will be better, and when the mood is good, it will be more cheerful. It's that simple. Secondly, go to night school to recharge, not afraid of being late, afraid that thirty years old does not have high skills.

In terms of girlfriends, don't worry, if you have a successful career, love will appear.

In <> secular sense, at the age of 28, the age of running for three, it is long overdue for a stable job and a successful career. But in a practical sense, 28 years old may still be an age when you don't even know what you want. A lot of people feel that I don't know what kind of work I like, and I don't know what kind of work I can do well.

In fact, this kind of confusion, whether it is 18 or 28 years old, can exist in a state.

It's only 28 years old, so I guess I've been in the work for several years. Lost in work, it is likely that you have no confidence in your current job, or you are bored with it. Do you want to try to change jobs, sometimes you feel uncomfortable sitting in this position, in fact, it is not your own reason, but this position is not suitable for you, try to change a chair.

Think about how much time you usually spend on **, of course, it is likely to be on your mobile phone. So how much time does it take to get on your phone? If it's a shopping software, try if you can do it**, or write some blog posts and write some shopping experiences.

It's visible what your time is spent on, and what you're willing to waste so much time on other than your work.

For example, I like to watch movies, and some of my classmates founded *** during college, specializing in writing movies and TV series, and often gather people who understand movies in the circle of friends. You might think it's not a serious thing, but it's a bit narrow-minded, and it's cool to treat it not just as a hobby, but as a career.

Maybe your current job is not satisfying, but there must be something you are good at. If you think about it and think that you don't have it, then go for trial and error, 28 years old, not as old as you think, try writing, try cooking, try driving, etc. Not just for a job, but also for a happy state of mind.

Because of the confusion in your career, I think you should do one thing: ask yourself if your original intention is still there, and ask what you chose this career for? If you're starting a business, why did you start it in the first place?

Today you are starting to be confused, is it inconsistent with your original intention, is it getting farther and farther away from your original intention? Therefore, on the road of life, we should ask ourselves from time to time: Is my original intention still there?

This is what I share with many friends: bask in your original intention more, and take it out to soak up the sun when you have time.

We are in a period of confusion, how should we better get out of our confusion? I'll give you a few tips here:

1. Have the courage to take responsibility.

There are many things in the company every day, no matter whether it is big or small, once you find a problem, you must bravely assume your own responsibilities, and face it positively, and strive to find a solution to the problem, do not blame your colleagues, or your own leaders.

2. Do your duty.

When we find a problem, we should calm down as soon as possible, immediately put into work, stop all gossip, and do not spread the so-called gossip to your colleagues. Remember, our priority is to do the job at hand, which is to do our part. If you spend all your time guessing what's going to happen next, things often backfire.

3. Have a big picture.

Whether we are starting our own business or working in a company, we must have a big picture. For the sake of the company's long-term development in the future, we can put aside our personal grievances and grievances, and cooperation is very important at this time, especially in critical moments.

Being good at working with people is an efficient way to deal with people, which will mean that the wisdom of all people can work together to solve problems, which can better improve the company's business, and can also avoid the loneliness, confusion, and even many people being crushed by work when facing tedious work.

4. Be hopeful.

There is no need to be sympathetic at work, the so-called poor people must have something to hate, this sentence was also given to me by a friend, I memorized this sentence, but it took me nearly 3 years to understand.

We are busy with work every day, and we hope that we will get a full job, rather than being idle and busy. Hope is very important, it always brings us direction, brings that fulfillment, and looking back at the years we have passed, there will be no regrets. We should pay more attention to those good things!

At the age of 28, you are approaching the age of standing. The most lacking thing right now is not diplomas and skills. It's a person's ambition.

A person without ambition will do things like the sky, and it is difficult to move an inch in society! In addition, in today's highly competitive commodity economy and society, there is no plan, and it is normal to open any store without certain practical experience! What you have to do now is:

Tree ambition and focus on one thing. For example, pass the diploma through self-study exams. Or dive into learning a professional skill. It is necessary to study under the guidance of a superior person or to enter a specialized training institution or specialized school for further study.

After you have certain skills and specialties, first find a job that is conducive to your life development and start doing it first. Focus on gaining practical experience.

By the time 1 or 2 years have passed, you already have some practical experience. At this time, you can plan your life well. Do you want to continue working or start your own business?

You must not only grasp the opportunity to have a certain sense of advancement, but also carefully consider what you can! You can set yourself an infinite number of small goals that you must achieve in the near future. Then gradually approach your big goal in life through the completion of countless small goals.

When planning your life, you must take into account your actual situation. Because, any unrealistic planning will let it.

You take many detours!

None of the things you say about poor social competitiveness and poor social skills are innate, they can be changed through your subjective efforts. As long as you are determined to improve your abilities in this area, and then try to focus on making yourself better and better!

Don't be discouraged, don't be confused, take control of your future direction, as long as you go step by step, my wife will be proud to have a husband like you! Through struggle, everything will be there for. I wish you success!

Let's become a monk! When you are a monk for two years, when do you feel that you are better and then return to vulgarity!

Hello, young bai

Most people have been confused, some people have a long time, some people have a short time, there is no doubt that the time of confusion is too long, it is not good, because it is a person's energy, knowledge, physical strength, and health status are OK The time is limited, if the endless confusion, the good youth can be wasted, and it is necessary to get out of the confusion period as soon as possible!

The more you listen to your parents from an early age, the more likely it is for children to grow up confused, because a person needs to have a clear sense of self from an early age, but our traditions and culture, and even family education are not allowed, we all think that children are obedient is the best, so when they grow up, other people's opinions and suggestions have no reference value, but their own self-consciousness has not been formed, it is vague, incomplete, and can not guide the way for the next life, it is confused, this process needs to start anew, thinking, Action is indispensable. The homework you have pulled down since you were a child will be made up for when you become an adult!

After graduating from college, you need to be responsible for your own future, and even need to be responsible for your parents and children, and the pressure will increase with age! If you are confused for a long time, you will miss many important periods!

Now the chef industry is better, you can consider it.

Confusion is to help struggle.

Receiving help is help.

Mentality, emotional.

Adjust to work.

Learning. Motivated Inspired by encounters.

If you're not fit to start your own business at all, then I think you'd better go and work honestly.

However, if you don't have a diploma or skills, it's hard to find a job. Haven't you considered re-employment by learning something?

A person quietly thinks about why he is like this? In this case, how to find the reason step by step! There is nothing terrible about failure, the most important thing is to find the reason for failure!

Just dare to take your own step. Will it only sigh ......?Do things and find a way to solve them!

You should work hard, find a stable job, and study hard so that you will have a purpose in life.

I think you should turn your attention to reading a book, or improve your skills, so that you can find a job.

I think you should first adjust your mentality, and then look for a job, only in this way can you make a breakthrough and make yourself better.

First of all, you should calm down and summarize your experience during this time, whether it is work, life or emotion, find the problem, and then find a way to solve it.

Don't think too much, you put your feelings aside first, try to do the work you have, and at least give yourself a reason to talk about your feelings with confidence. No matter how bad it is, we should act first, not sit idly by.

Stabilize your life first, and you'll have plenty of time to make things better.

At the age of 22, that is, not long after leaving school, it is normal for life to be unstable. At this moment, there is no need to be too anxious, you need to figure out what you really want first, and then your life can really be stable.

Figure out what exactly you want and choose a job with that goal in mind. When I first entered society, you were as confused and helpless as you were. At that time, I also didn't find a stable job, my life was chaotic, and my emotional life came to an end.

But at the time, I didn't understand what to do, so I just got through it.

I can discuss this with you now as a person who has come before, and the most fundamental reason for your current state is that you don't know what you want. Without goals, there is no motivation, and without motivation, everything will naturally get worse and worse.

Ask yourself what you want, and then aim to find a job and stabilize your life first. A regular job is really important for a person, and it will make your life start to settle down.

Find happiness in work, find happiness in life, there is still time for everything, don't be in too much of a hurry. At the age of 22, it may be the most youthful and energetic time period for a young person. You still have plenty of time to make changes in your life and enough energy to pursue the happiness and career you want.

It's good to take one step at a time, and don't rush it, otherwise it will all become a sacrifice. You can first seek happiness in your work and cultivate a career of your own.

When you become good enough, there will always be a lot of people of the opposite sex around you, and there will not be too many obstacles in your emotional life.

Work and emotion are two very important things in life, you can't achieve it overnight, slowly cultivate yourself and slowly improve your ability, everything will be the best arrangement.

No one can change a life in a short period of time, and it all takes a long process. Slow down your restless heart, move forward step by step, and life will always be as you wish.

Find a job to support yourself first, survival is the premise of everything.