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The state of parents and marital relationship are the most important factors affecting children, and many children are affected by the divorce of their parents, resulting in a mess in their future lives. Although your parents are currently in a state of divorce, as a senior high school candidate, you need to consider not only the marriage relationship of your parents, but more importantly, your future and life.

What you have to do at the moment must be to balance your mentality, you should persuade yourself to let go of all family factors and completely focus on yourself, study, and college entrance examinations. Your identity is not only a child in a family, but also a senior high school candidate, I think for the current you, the latter identity must be heavier. You've been working hard for three years and you're waiting for this exam, so don't be affected by too many external factors.

Don't think about using the current time to solve the relationship between your parents, you may not be able to do this at all, or you can do it, but it will take a long time to complete, but you are about to take the college entrance examination, and you simply don't have that much time to do it. It's better to concentrate on preparing for the exam now, and wait for a good result before you can calm down and solve the relationship between your parents.

It's all because you are actually an adult, and you should be able to understand that there will always be stumbles when two people get along together, and instead of tormenting and tangling with each other, it is better to give each other a good result. Although they are separated, you are not alone, they will definitely take care of your exam emotions, but it is important that you have your own confidence and be able to adjust your mentality to be able to face the exam and the rest of your life bravely.

In any case, although the college entrance examination cannot decide everything, it is still undeniable that the college entrance examination is a major turning point in life. Your parents are going to divorce, and they choose to divorce in your senior year of high school, they must have thought it out and felt that there is no way to pay attention to each other, otherwise they should wait for you to tell you after the college entrance examination, so as not to affect your exam preparation mood like now. I believe that when they choose to divorce, the last person they want to hurt is you.

As for the reason why they want to divorce, you don't need to ask clearly, the parents are adults, and they must have made their choice out of their considerations. Even if you ask, you may not be able to change anything. At present, your first task is to maintain your learning status, spend more energy on studying, try to calm your mood, and complete the current top priority.

As long as you know one thing, your parents are divorced or your parents, they can still love you, and you can still call them mom and dad, and the relationship between family and family cannot be broken. Even if you live under different roofs and have your own lives and partners in the future, this blood relationship will always exist. You also want your parents to live happily and happily, and they also look forward to you taking the university entrance exam and having a better life in the future.

Don't let this matter affect your mood for a long time.

No blame, no accountability.

Senior high school is the first major turning point in our lives, and it is also the only opportunity in our lives to compete on a level playing field in the true sense.

The average parent is definitely more concerned about their child's senior year of high school than the child himself, because they are from the past, and they know how cruel the competition is in the future, and they know what kind of convenience a better university will bring you in the future.

So since your parents are divorced at this juncture, there must really be no way, the relationship has come to an end, and even the surface peace can't be maintained, no matter how hard the two people get together, it will only add harm to both parties. They must not want you to know this kind of news at this time, after all, they gave birth to you and raised you for eighteen years, and this kind of family affection cannot be separated anyway.

So don't really blame them, if they have a way, how can they hurt you?

You see how many unhappy mothers on the Internet have endured their anger for their children all their lives, and three big words have been highlighted all their lives: unhappy. But you certainly don't want your parents to give up their lives for you, how can you be happy when you see them endure and laugh for you?

Don't pursue the reason for their divorce now, after all, your experience should still be focused on learning. There is no end to the pursuit of such a thing. Who can tell who is right and who is wrong in a relationship, who is responsible for whom, and who caused the marriage to come to an end.

Nothing can happen suddenly, without warning. It must be that all kinds of emotions are bred little by little on weekdays, and they slowly grow and sprout in daily life, knowing that the last one is out of control. So there's no end to your pursuit, and I believe that since it's all been to the point of divorce, you should be vaguely aware of it.

In short, as I said at the beginning, don't blame, don't hold accountable. Work hard to calm your mood, and then focus on your studies, and when you are admitted to the university and can be independent, you will have the ability and right to pursue what you want to pursue and accuse you of what you want to blame.

There is still a long way to go, and there is still a way to go.

Do you want your parents to have a result, or do you want them to keep arguing?

I don't think it was when your parents** found out that they were going to divorce! I guess I learned it from someone else, right? That's because your parents are afraid of affecting you, too!

Personally, I also think that an unhappy marriage should not be insisted on, and it will only be a waste of time and a waste of life if it persists! Divorce is not a rare thing in this century, and I don't want to be angry with my parents to make such a result, but now that this is the case, I don't think we small ones should interfere. We kids don't understand the world of adults, and it's useless for us to meddle.

Now that you're in your third year of high school, you have one year to take the college entrance examination. I think at this time, you should balance your mentality, study hard, and strive for a good score in the exam. As for what your parents decide, let them do it!

You may be sad, but it's better than hearing them arguing every time you come home, don't you? You must not think like one of my classmates, her parents divorced, she dropped out of school and stopped studying, feeling that she had no home, and then she didn't go to the college entrance examination! Just imagine, if your parents are divorced, it's useless for you to be sad, she doesn't go to the college entrance examination, but she can't live with them and herself.

If you are a parent, you don't want your children to worry about their own affairs. I have a girlfriend who is that her parents are also divorced, and there is still sadness, but she is also very calm, and now their parents are married separately and have a baby, everyone is very happy, and her girlfriend is more at ease, because she knows that it is useless for her to be sad, and it is futile to meddle.

Now you still have to study hard and strive to get into a good university, as for your parents, you really don't have to worry too much about your parents' affairs, they will naturally handle it themselves.

You relax, don't think so much, after all, feelings can't be forced. And you're in your third year of high school, which proves that your parents are in their forties, and people at this age generally do things after careful consideration and don't do anything on impulse. So at this time, if your parents are really peacefully divorced, then you should have a blessed heart.

Because they may have wanted a divorce early on, or they may have found it really unhappy to live like this. That's why the two of them chose to divorce at this time. And you're also older, you should also know that you can't make the two of them unhappy because of your happiness.

Maybe you are reluctant to separate your parents, but what if separation is really their best choice. After all, it's their life, and they have the right to choose how they want to live. <>

And you have to know that no matter what they do, their love for you will not diminish. After all, the relationship between them will not affect the love for you, and you have to live your life. If you study hard now, it is a manifestation of living your life well.

You really don't have to think too much about it, just have a blessed mentality. Because there are some things, the more you think about a lot of assumptions that don't exist, the easier it is to get into the nitty-gritty.

I believe that there are a lot of single parents around you, don't you think they are doing well? So there's no need for you to feel unbalanced, and since there is no affection between your parents anymore, why do you force them to be together? Don't you want to let them live in happiness for the rest of their lives?

You have to know that even if they get divorced, they will plan your life properly.

Whether you are divorced or not, you are always the most important person in their hearts. Your place in their hearts has never changed. It's just that the environment in which the two of them live has changed.

Their divorce can be said to be a matter between the two of them, and the relationship between father and son has not changed in the slightest. You should bless them and wish them to find their happiness as soon as possible. That's what you're supposed to do as a child.

If you want to open it, there is no such thing as an imbalance, what you have to do now is to do your homework, prepare for your college entrance examination, and stop distracting yourself from these.

<> in traditional Chinese culture, the concept of family has always been regarded as the supreme value. As a child, we have the obligation to assume family responsibilities and maintain family harmony. However, with the acceleration of urbanization and modernization, more and more families have contradictions and problems.

Among them, divorce and remarriage have become a serious social problem. For a young person like me, it is difficult for me to accept the divorce or remarriage of my parents, because I think it will have a great impact on family harmony, family stability and personal growth.

First of all, my parents' divorce would make me feel extremely lost and helpless. Family is the most important environment for a person's growth, and my parents are the most important pillars in my life. Nowadays, with the intensification of various pressures and challenges in society, the marriage relationship of parents is also prone to various problems.

For me, the parents' decisions may be in their own interest and do not take into account my feelings as a child. After all, I was raised by them and grew up on them, and if they are no longer united, then I will feel helpless and disappointed. My parents' divorce was a major blow and psychological damage to me.

Secondly, the remarriage of my parents is also unacceptable to me. Although remarriage is common in today's society, in my opinion, remarriage means new relatives, new families, all of which need to go through a long process of adaptation. In other words, remarriage will seriously affect the stability of my family and the development of family relationships.

I may need to adjust to new family members, expand new networks, and adjust to new environments and lifestyles. It takes a lot of time and effort for me to adapt, and it takes time for my family and relationships to re-establish. In this way, it will have a detrimental effect on my personal growth and development.

Finally, the divorce or remarriage of parents is not conducive to the development of family harmony and affection. The family is the most basic social unit, and harmony is the prerequisite for family happiness and family stability. However, the divorce or remarriage of the father and the mother, such as the mother, will directly destroy the balance of family harmony, increase the tension and contradictions between family members, and reduce the intimacy and trust between family members.

Obviously, this is not good for the future development of the family and the healthy growth of children.

Therefore, as a child, I cannot accept my own parents divorcing or remarrying. Instead, I want my parents to be able to take my feelings into account across their own interests, maintain family harmony, and resolve conflicts and problems through communication, mutual understanding and support. Only in this way can our family become a harmonious, happy and happy family, and I can grow and develop smoothly.

For many people, the divorce or remarriage of parents is a very difficult thing to accept. This can cause many complex emotional reactions, including disappointment, anger, sadness, and upset. In this case, it is important to understand and accept these emotions in a way that is honest and pure.

Try to understand your feelings and find healthy ways to deal with them, such as talking to a friend or psychologist.

However, regardless of our personal opinions, the divorce or remarriage of parents is their own decision and should not be judged or blamed by us. We can express our thoughts and feelings, but the final decision is up to them. We need to respect their decisions and do our best to adapt to this change.

It may take time and effort, but we can work to understand and support them.

In addition, we need to realize that divorce and remarriage are not the end of the world. While these changes can be inconvenient and challenging, we can learn to find the positives. For example, a parental divorce may lead to fewer quarrels and tensions, allowing them to better **** their needs and happiness.

Remarriage may bring new family members and friends, allowing us to expand our social circle and experiences.

In conclusion, it may take time and effort to accept a parent's divorce or remarriage, but we need to understand and respect their decision, learn to adapt and discover the positive.