What is your attitude towards long distance marriage? What do you think about long distance marriage

The word "distant marriage" is still far away from me, but when I see people around me getting married, I find that there are not many people who marry far away, but when you watch the news, you will find that many foreign girls will marry far away from China, no matter what life is like in the future, it is not easy to make a decision to marry far away.

I remember that my uncle got married last year, and his new wife was from Anhui, and my uncle was from Gansu, so it seems that he was married far away, one in the southern city and the other in the northern city. Let's not talk about what everyone's life will be like in the future, from the perspective of eating habits, the southern cities eat relatively lightly, and the northern ones will eat a little heavy, and if you feel that the food is not well adjusted, you don't know how to cook in the future! From the point of view of ideology, the way of thinking of men and women is different, and then look at the men in Gansu who are more machismo, and they have a paranoia about many things, so it seems that there will be some problems in dealing with things.

From the perspective of homesickness, women are generally very homesick, if they are so far away from home, they will always be very homesick, even if there are trains and planes, it will not relieve homesickness. In terms of speaking, each place has its own accent, just like in a province in Guangdong, everyone may not be able to understand everyone's words, let alone a Gansu and an Anhui, so this is also very difficult to solve. <>

So I don't think it's very good to marry far away, but if it's for your good wholeheartedly, can give you a good family, and can always tolerate your little temper, it's okay to marry far away, but this kind of thing must be decided carefully, otherwise it's too late to regret it then!

The term long-distance marriage is no longer familiar to me, because I am one of all the women who marry far away. If you ask me about my attitude towards marrying far away, I must think that marrying far away is a wrong choice.

When I was young, I did everything impulsively, and I was carried away by love. I believe what others say, the transportation is so convenient now, and it is the same to marry **.

But I think that no matter how convenient the transportation is, it is still very painful to marry far away, because you can't go back whenever you want, even if you go back with your children, you still have to look at the face of your in-laws.

When I go home, I have to prepare too much luggage, and I can't help but have to carry things for my parents, and I can't wait to have three heads and six arms. Even if the plane is fast, if you have to rush to the airport, if it is inconvenient to go to the airport, you have to change a few times, and then transfer a few times after getting off the plane.

I envy my cousin, although she is married to Xi'an, she can come back to visit my aunt every weekend, and from time to time take my aunt to Xi'an for a few days.

And I can't do it at all, every time I separate is like a painful goodbye, I will cry all the way on the day I go out, and I am most afraid that my sister will tell me that my parents didn't eat dinner the night I left.

If you marry far away, you only have a husband who loves you by your side, but he can understand you at the beginning, and then feel that everything you think is strange has to adapt to it by yourself, and you have to work hard to understand the dialect you don't understand, eat food that you are not used to, and accept all different living habits.

And sooner or later, your husband will join the army that spurs you, and he will say to you, why are you not used to such delicious food? It's been so long, do you understand what we're saying?

If your husband can still accommodate and understand you everywhere, maybe you are not so lonely, at least in the dead of night, there are still people who can accompany you and listen to your complaints.

At the beginning of the marriage, the righteousness was even too selfish, and now watching their parents get older and older, sometimes they will look up in an instant to realize that there are so many more wrinkles and a lot of tan.

So I especially want to stay by their side to protect them, and all I can get from marrying away is my husband's sincerity and my children who may not change for the time being, and I have to endure my in-laws' criticism of me, and use the time I could have spent with my parents to accompany a strange family.

Of course, if the conditions are very good, you can afford to buy a house in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, take your parents over so that they will never be tired again, and they can live with me forever, then marrying far away is happy, but most people don't have such good conditions, so they can only let the distant marriage take away the happiness in my heart.

Female Lu Niansheng can marry far away for love, and boys can also go far away for love, we leave a familiar city, go to a strange city, and establish new interpersonal relationships.

1. Truly love you, be good to you, and give you a sense of security.

"Be nice to you" is a volatile item, but if he can't even do the most basic things in the empty bush, then it's definitely not worth marrying.

And being good to you is not just talking, you have to take action. For example, often accompany you home to see your parents; Will it help you deal with your relationship with their extended family, and defend you when there are conflicts? The most straightforward, salary, real estate, etc., is not completely when you are your own person, etc.

2. Be grateful for your efforts, be considerate of you, and know empathy.

Love is mutual, you pay for him, he sees it in his eyes, knows that it is not easy for you to marry far away, and will empathize with you.

Sometimes, it doesn't make sense to say "sacrifice", you always emphasize, he is always annoying, this is not love, this is coercion. The best way is that if you don't say it, he understands it, and you warm each other.

3. If there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they can defend you and stand by your side.

He can always stand on your side and defend you at all times, even if he encounters a conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he will not pull the shelf, so that you will not be isolated and helpless when you marry in the past.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law largely depends on what the man caught in the middle does.

I am able to accept marrying far away, mainly because as long as I can marry a beloved person and live happily and happily for a lifetime, even if it is far away, it is worth it. If you blindly insist on the idea of not marrying far away, you may lose a beautiful marriage, and you may regret it for a lifetime.

It is said that marriage is unattainable, and it can be repaired in the same boat for a hundred years, and it can be slept together for a thousand years. Being able to meet someone who makes you empty and full of excitement is a blessing that has been cultivated for thousands of years, so when true love comes, you must seize this opportunity and don't let a good marriage slip away from your eyes.

Nowadays, people's ideas are becoming more and more open, even if they only have one child, as long as the child is willing, their parents will agree to her marrying far away.

My colleague is a southerner, he fell in love with her husband during college, although she is the only child in the family, but she resolutely came to the north with her boyfriend, lived a happy life, and now the children are in high school. Speaking of her lofty experience, she said that her parents also wanted her to stay by her side, but her parents also said that if you are really special and willing, you will pursue your happiness, we are old, and we will talk about our old things.

She is very grateful to her enlightened parents, she has to go home to visit her parents every Spring Festival, and the time with her parents every year is no more than ten days, although the gathering is short, but it is happy.

We can accept distant marriage because there is no one we like nearby, and we find him far away. I don't want to settle for myself, and find someone I don't like to marry nearby. So, I followed him to the far side of the Jishi.

It has formed what everyone calls the problem of long-distance marriage! The farthest distance in marriage is not how far I was from him before, but how far away are the hearts of the two of us now?

Two people, their hearts are not together, even if his home is very close to my home, they will not be happy when they get married. Two people, hearts together, even if his home is far away from my home, it is a very happy thing to get married. Love is not a business, there are gains and there are losses.

It's not because anyone wants to marry far away, but fate is here. Although everyone may not agree, but when they do, they have to make a difficult choice. No one wants to go far and try the impossible.

But for the sake of love, you can only give it a go! If you think so much, you might as well put it into action. Time will test everything and prove everything.

Some people are doing well, and some people are not having a good time. It's not because you're married far, it's not because you're married, it's because you're honest, tolerant and understanding, and whether you can persevere, it's your heart. Don't attribute the unhappiness of marriage to long-distance marriage.

We should also summarize our own problems well, and we cannot generalize. For me, being away from home for decades and living in a foreign land can be regarded as marrying far away! So far, I'm quite satisfied.

In the eyes of others, there may be many aspects where we are not perfect. But in our own eyes, this home is happy enough and warm enough. Since the family can be happy together and run for life, there is nothing that cannot be done!

So, we still keep smiling. Thank you for having me. Do you accept distant marriage?

We accept long-distance marriage. Because whether we are happy or unhappy in marriage does not depend on how far we marry, but whether we can share blessings and difficulties in the future. We did, so happy.

If you can't do it, you won't be happy. Far away, near, all to cherish! Where fate is, there is, regardless of each other.

First of all, I wouldn't be cheap, because if you're far away from your own family, it's probably going to be very harmful or very bad. There are problems, especially the question of marriage.

Because many people get married, it will have a lot of problems, if you marry in a place far away from your family, you have no way to go home to complain, because your economic cost is relatively high, for example, hundreds of kilometers, you go back is also very troublesome, especially if you have children, with children.

Therefore, if you want to get married, you must find someone near you, this kind of ready-made or community people will be better, because your family will definitely not want you to marry far away, because you will be wronged in the future, and they will not be able to help you.

So from my personal point of view, I think even if you have the courage to consider the problem from your own point of view, if you two people get married, it must be suitable and the most important, so it is not appropriate for you to find a person who is very far away from yourself, so you will not necessarily have a happy life at all, especially if the other party is not necessarily the other party does not necessarily take you, especially if it is particularly good, the situation is not necessarily. If you can continue to live in this place, you may have the intention of getting divorced.

For long-distance marriage, I think there will only be a small number of people who are very happy, because many of you will have conflicts, especially if you stay alone in this place, and you don't know the people in this place at all. Therefore, you will be very unfamiliar with the energy barrier, and you will have problems, especially after some people get married and have children, it will have some postpartum depression, so at this time it may have a great impact on yourself, especially your husband, who may still have no one to talk to you or talk to at work.

So we should think about it from a practical point of view, and then he decides whether he's a good situation, and I think if it's really willing to marry him, then he should be able to buy a house or where to buy a house? This place works words. And if you don't live in the other person's hometown, I think that's acceptable, otherwise you can't accept it.