What should I do if my personality lacks love and I always push too hard in love?

Lack of love is the desire to be loved, so you will work harder to love others, and you have been looking forward to getting love in return through your own efforts. This will scare people. So, you might as well put your time and energy into something else, and it will be different.

When you give 10 points of love, you actually expect the other party to give you 10 points of love in return. Because an insecure person has to rely on this extreme way to constantly prove his importance to the other person. Based on this premise, when you lower your expectations or give yourself the assumption that "the other party will not give you in return", do you consider reining in your unrestrained efforts?

Your output is because you still have hope, but when your hope is completely shattered, the driving force of the output is gone, and even if the inertial drive does not stop immediately, it will not be able to move for long. ‍‍

Either suffer from being snubbed for the first time, no matter what the situation is, what you think about is whether you have done something wrong, whether you are too uneasy. Cut your self-worth and do something self-deprecating.

Half of the time you spend thinking about each other and other things to put it bluntly, you have to have your own life. The more you love each other, the more you have to have your own life. Fitness, singing, learning an art, no matter how bad you are playing games, in short, learn to spend time on yourself.

Because you are afraid of losing, you have to create a better version of yourself; Only by creating a better self will you not feel that you are "unworthy of love", and you will no longer suffer from gains and losses, which is a virtuous circle. ‍‍

Break your illusions and find out what they really look like. In a few days you may see a flawless partner, but if you are willing to spend months getting to know each other carefully and observing each other, maybe you will find a flawed (but also true) ta. If you really can't control your pace, or can't see each other clearly under the filter of obsession, it's a good idea to listen to what your mutual friends have to say about them. ‍‍

You have to understand whether you are passionate about an illusory TA or a real TA. The subject fell into a state of infatuation when he first met each other for a few days, and part of this infatuation was also caused by not knowing each other well enough. In places that are not yet understood, people tend to fill them with their own fantasies.

You need to deliberately promote understanding and dedication on both sides, and stop making excuses for anything bad in the other person. ‍‍

Don't be in a hurry to fall in love first, it's not fate that you can't force it, you can't catch it, you will be very tired if you catch it, and you will give up when you are tired, and then you will start the vicious circle you said. But if it's the right person, he won't rush you, and even threaten you with leaving. You can get to know this boy first, and when friends go with the flow.

You turn your attention to yourself and learn how you can live without a man. And then one day you meet the right person, and everything is so natural. ‍‍

Since you want to be happy if you lack love and are afraid of being hurt, you must first know people and start a relationship rationally. Don't say anymore, I'm just a little girl, I lack love, I can't care so much, who gives me a sense of security, who do I go with, then you say that you are with the wrong person, you use too much force, and in the end you hurt your liver, lungs, and heart, who do you blame? Then let yourself learn to have the ability to love someone, don't always treat him in your own way, people don't like to eat apples, and you willfully give others a car, is this called love?

Think about the feeling that you just deliver what the other person needs to him, will the person who loves you not be moved and cherish you? Don't feel that a man is controlled by you every day, let you everywhere, you feel that this is the true love for you, no one is born to serve whom. I think love is first of all two people who are equal and sympathetic to each other, appreciate each other and tolerate each other, two people understand each other, treat each other sincerely, love sincerely, you worship him as your hero, he loves you and humbly let you treat you as a baby, so good! ‍‍

Many people know very well what kind of "dangerous" situation they are in, and they know that they can easily lose themselves in love. In order to correct himself, he consciously suppressed his own language expression. I always feel that if I keep my mouth shut and don't tell the other party about my turbulent love, I can hide it from the world.

But in terms of action, the "excessive force" on the other party has not decreased at all. In fact, there is no need at all, this is just self-deception. The more you don't say it, the heavier the burden in your heart, the heavier the burden, the more you imply that you have sunk deeper and deeper.

Therefore, don't be afraid to express your love with a little exaggeration in language, when you set yourself as a person who is more "affectionate" than yourself, this stark contrast will make you realize that you don't love him as much as you described, so you will have a sense of security. ‍‍

It is normal to use too much force in love, you love him (her) and want to stick to him all the time, but in moderation. If you cling too much to each other, don't give each other independent space, and sometimes don't believe him, it will make your partner feel an invisible oppression, forcing your partner to want to escape, and after a long time, it will bury hidden dangers for love, accumulate contradictions, and lead to quarrels and breakups.

If you want to change your state of overexerting yourself in love, you can start from three aspects:

1.Find more happiness in yourself.

People who lack love are easy to get lost in love, regard love as the whole of their life, and their minds are full of each other.

This will further compress their own space, leaving them with no interest and energy to find their own happiness, and the emptiness of their hearts will make their desire for the other half more urgent, forming a vicious circle.

To be liberated from this state, it is necessary to strengthen one's ability to find happiness.

You can cultivate more hobbies and hobbies, so that you have something to think about and do in addition to love, which can not only adjust your life focus, so that you don't focus all your energy on love, but also make yourself more interesting and make your partner like you more.

2.Good at communication and courage to express needs.

People who lack love often show fiery enthusiasm in their relationships, are prone to over-dedication and self-touching, and then feel that they are at a loss, and will rush to take it from their partner in order to satisfy their inner balance.

Many people can't let go of their sons, and when they ask their partners, they have a tough tone, or even very pretentious. For example, "I want to stick to you whenever I am free, and you don't even come to me first when you are free", followed by a quarrel and complaining, your partner will think that you are unreasonable, and you yourself are actually wronged.

Therefore, if you want to learn to express your needs positively and desire their love, then be brave enough to tell them. "I want you to stay with me a little longer", the effect of saying this will be much better than making trouble and being alone and wronged.

In fact, most people are happy and happy to meet their partners who express their needs and needs directly. So be good at communicating, and be brave enough to speak up about your needs, so that the other party can gradually become comfortable with you.

3.Try to find a partner who is also lacking in love.

People who lack love are actually not uncommon. If the person who lacks love is with someone who has low needs for affection, the needs of both parties will be obviously unequal, one party will not be satisfied, and the other party will feel that the relationship has made him depressed and suffocated, physically and mentally exhausted.

Lack of love is not a sin, but the need for affection is greater than ordinary people, and if two people of the same kind are together to satisfy each other, it is not a good thing.

If you have found that you are a person who lacks love, then when choosing a partner, you can take this element into account, try to find someone who has a high demand for affection, and don't look for someone who is very independent and does not like to cling.

Lack of love in personality and excessive force in love is actually a normal phenomenon, and the reason for this is often caused by unmet long-term emotional needs, or having a loveless childhood. If you are such a person, then don't deny yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Adjust slowly, and you will get the happiness you want.

Sincerely apologize and explain the reason.

The Ascending Race withered leniency and was forgiven.

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If the time is noisy, the day is in love.

Try more, love more, and experience more nonsense, only then do you know what pants are love, and after more experience and more blows, you will not use too much force since the hailstorm. Note: First, don't be deceived, and second, don't go to the other extreme.

Spend more time with Min and communicate more with her parents, and eat, dance, and do exercises with her parents for a long time. Do eye exercises. Mom and Dad, you've worked hard.

I'm really happy, Honglu hopes that you don't let me take a stool and lack love. It's always too hard to fall in love, but it's best for you to reconcile. I hope you all get along.

Don't go too far, okay? You've gone a lot too far.

This is not knowing how to distribute love, it needs to be honed!

If you push too hard, you have to take it easy, don't end up hurting the most.

Lack of love in character is always too strong to hide the stove front, because of the long-term lack of love, for this kind of world balance situation, we must adjust ourselves in time, and we must know how to restrain ourselves, know what we need, in order to solve this problem.

1.Discover your own hobbies and distract yourself with hobbies, 2Consciously control the number of times you take the initiative to find each other, if the other party often does not take the initiative, you don't take the initiative, 3Guide the other party to spend money for you, and according to the law of sinking, the other party will be more clingy to you.

First of all, you have to know that a balance point of love is in **, don't pay too much, raise the scum and don't use too much force, you can do some strong dark socks in your heart, and slowly and appropriately pay the noise and quietly show some feelings.

Modify Duan Zheng himself, avoid similar things from happening to him again, calm down, and calmly face the disadvantages of renting relatives no matter what he encounters, so that he will not use too much force when he is in love.

When you think of being loved as a gift in your heart, you can't handle the relationship calmly. Remember at all times that you deserve to be pampered, even if you don't fit the public aesthetic at all. The more you love each other, the more you have to have your own life.

Fitness, singing, learning a pure art, no matter how bad it is to play games, in short, learn to put time on yourself. Only by creating a better version of yourself will not feel that you are "unworthy of love."

We are very serious because of the lack of love, but people who don't understand will be scared by us, so we have to control ourselves.

I think if you have this kind of defect, you can have a good talk with your other Hail Chun half Sun Xianying, talk about some of your troubles, and let the other party know what kind of thoughts you have, and don't cause misunderstandings to the other party.

Then be a little more restrained, be more careful, and be able to fall in love too hard is basically because you are too careless.

There is such a saying: the lucky person is in childhood ** for a lifetime, and the unfortunate person is in childhood ** for a lifetime. Some people are influenced by their families and have not loved since childhood, which makes them grow up and do not know how to get along with their loved ones.

When in love, the degree is always uncertain. Excessive demand: always want to ask for something from the other party, hoping that the other party will give you something, so that the other party feels a lot of pressure.

Insecure: This kind of person always loses more than he gains. Even when surrounded by love, he is still insecure, always doubting the firmness of this love and needing to prove his love to himself.

If the other person does not respond to the same love in time, they will feel unbalanced inside. If a person lacks love, he will continue to export love, but he cannot let the other person protect him, he will only make himself more annoying. Although all efforts are voluntary and they all take each other seriously, too much love will make the other person unbearable, and will make the other person want to give up such love because of too much pressure.

A person's character is difficult to change, and once there is a lack of love, it is difficult to be filled. Even if someone loves you very much, it can't satisfy you. What this kind of person can do is to reduce their reactions and reduce the distress of some negative emotions.

First, learn to keep your love in your heart. Although you love him very much and have a lot to say to him, don't be too obvious, too impulsive, learn to restrain yourself and express it differently. You can write down what you want to say in a notebook and let this love be hidden somewhere in the bottom of your heart.

Wait until the love between you is strong, and then find a suitable opportunity to tell him.

Second, learning to endure is also a way to show love. If you want the other person to see your love and be willing to give it to you, you should tell yourself this: I can't do it.

If I do that, it will put pressure on him. I will give him an independent space and give him the right to choose freely. I have to learn to wait for the other person so that they are really willing to take the initiative.

Let yourself become independent, become patient, learn to restrain your emotions, learn to endure, so that you can get closer to happiness.

Third, it is necessary to maintain the rhythm of a single life. In love, although you really want to be together all the time, you have to learn to maintain the rhythm of life when you were single. Work hard when you go to work, concentrate on studying when you study, and hang out when it's time to go out with good friends.

Don't disrupt your original rhythm of life just because you're in love. Make the other person feel comfortable with you, learn to be independent, do what you have been doing, live your original self, so that your heart will not always feel empty.

We should force ourselves to study hard and constantly improve our abilities in all aspects. Don't always say that pushing too a relationship will only make you feel anxious, always feel uneasy, and then want to influence the people around you, which will only make people tired of you.