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This is a very real problem, because now we will all be forced to marry by our parents, so they want us to get married as soon as possible, but I think our own life should be controlled by ourselves, and there is no need to change the trajectory of our life because of your parents' opinions.
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If that's the case, then I won't agree to it, because I think that since I'm in a relationship, I have to be with someone I like, and if I don't like this person at all, then I won't be happy even if I'm together, and I have to have a positive communication with my parents.
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When I encounter such a situation, I feel very painful and depressed in my heart, I don't like this kind of person in the first place, I have to let me fall in love with this person, I feel that my parents don't take into account my feelings at all, my parents don't understand it, and I also feel special pain and depression in my heart.
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I just asked my friend, she said, then don't talk about it, people I don't like are together, this is a kind of mutual torture, it's very uncomfortable, if I really don't like it, and I feel that each other is not suitable, I will refuse, go to the person I really like, instead of listening to my parents, so I am too wronged myself.
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At this time, you should tell your parents that you don't want to fall in love now, you want to work hard for your career, and you can tell your parents that if you fall in love with someone you don't like, there will be no good result, even if two people get married, they will eventually go to divorce.
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Face your feelings correctly and speak up. It's not a shame to say your feelings correctly, on the contrary, you're wasting your time now, and you're wasting his time at the same time, don't think that you're very gentle and taking care of other people's feelings, about your parents, I think it should be understood like this, parents are for your good, and I hope you can live a happy life.
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Be sure to make it clear to your parents that falling in love is something that can only be carried out by two people who like each other, if you don't like it, talk about it, it will not be good for the future, and there may not be any good ending in your later life, you must let your parents change this idea. <>
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You and your beautiful parents don't let you fall in love with someone they don't like, which shows that there is a certain gap between them. Mr. Li must meet when you fall in love successfully, and their faces are ugly, so they don't want you to fall in love with them, which may also be the selfishness of the parents, but now that the marriage is free, if you really love each other, you must slowly communicate with your parents, say don't be with your parents, and bravely provoke your parents to be angry.
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In this case, it must be because there is something wrong with this person, and your parents don't want you to be deceived.
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It's also right that your parents don't let you drink and make friends with people you are not used to, and avoid Shanghai feelings.
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Aesthetic values are very different and don't have to be forced.
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Whether or not to continue the relationship that the parents do not agree with.
In the case of a high trembling situation, parents see people more deeply than you, they must have their reasons for disagreeing, it is recommended to listen to the reasons why your parents disagree first, and then think independently about whether your boyfriend or girlfriend ** has a problem. Of course, most children are rebellious, and the more parents disagree, the more they want to be together.
It stands to reason that love is free, and there is no big problem with parents disagreeing, but if you think about it from another angle, falling in love is about getting married, then marriage and marriage are not only a matter of the two of you, but a matter of two families, although sometimes you will be carried away by love, but your parents' thoughts still have to be listened to.
After all, children are the treasure of parents, and no parent wants their children to have a bad life. When you encounter your parents' rebellion, don't cry with your parents, make trouble and hang yourself, you have to find the reason for your parents' opposition, and then find a way to solve it. Of course, the freedom of marriage is now advocated, although the emotional experience of young people is not as rich as that of their parents, but they also have their own thinking, know what is right and wrong, and can also bear the consequences, when getting married, we must not only listen to the opinions of our parents, but also have our own ideas and judgments.
What to do if the relationship is not supported by parents.
From falling in love to talking about marriage, all love does not necessarily get the blessing of parents. Some people believe that love that parents do not agree with should be insisted on, and as an adult, you have to trust your own choices and judgments, and you will also be responsible for the consequences that arise. Some people also think that they should not insist, after all, parents have experience as people who have come before, and they must respect their parents' opinions, and it is difficult for a relationship to develop and result without the consent of parents.
Generally speaking, the love that parents do not agree with is mainly because they feel that the feelings of two people do not match, either because ......of economic conditions, family conditions, personal conditions, or regional issuesThey will consider and assess whether the other party is suitable for marriage. If they don't feel suitable, they stop it, and what they fear most is that their children will suffer or be hurt.
Therefore, the economic foundation determines the superstructure, and marriage is not only a new family established by two people because of love, but also a complex system in which the two parties integrate the lifestyle, family atmosphere and cultural inheritance of their respective original families. The basis of marital harmony lies in the similarity or similarity of the values and living habits of both parties, family concepts, etc.
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If your parents don't approve of your relationship, first you need to listen carefully to their reasons and try to understand their thoughts and concerns. Sometimes, your parents may object to your relationship because they fear that you will be hurt, or they think that the relationship will affect your school, work, or family relationships.
If you and your partner really want to be together, and you believe that your relationship is healthy and positive, then you can try the following methods to communicate with your parents:
Respect their opinions. Don't belittle or dismiss your parents' ideas, respect their views and try to understand their concerns.
Listen to their reasoning. Give them a chance to voice their concerns and concerns and listen carefully to their reasoning.
Try to explain what you think. Explain your feelings to them, tell them who your partner is, why you like him or her, and how you think your relationship is healthy and positive.
Find a way to compromise. Try to make compromises with your parents, such as slowly developing your relationship under their supervision, or getting them to know your partner better.
Most importantly, don't lose sight of patience and respect. It takes time for parents to accept your decision, but if you can communicate openly and show your maturity and determination, they may eventually accept your decision.
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Parents who prevent their children from falling in love freely can actually communicate with their parents. The reason why parents intervene in their children's love is because they are worried that their children will find a partner who will not make them feel very satisfied. The starting point of parents is always for the good of their children, and this should be believed.
There is no parent who is willing to let their children talk about marriage.
Parents who prevent their children from falling in love freely must take a stand. Things like marriage have to be decided by themselves, and the future life partner must also choose by themselves. After all, it is a person who has lived with him for a lifetime, and if he does not choose it himself, even if he can get married, he will be considered by his parents to be a satisfactory life partner, and he may feel a pity in the end.
Feelings can only make their own decisions, and only their own hearts know whether they are happy or not.
Many parents ignore the issue of believing that the marriage of their children should be decided by the father and the mother. In fact, it is good for them to make their own decisions about the marriage of their children, if the parents intervene too much, it will be detrimental to their marriage, and it will also produce a lot of ***. For example, children's mentality will become more and more hypocritical, and they will slowly confront their parents.
Emotional things are always known only to oneself, and others can't feel them.
If parents intervene in their relationship, if they don't stop it at first, no matter how many people they talk about in the future, they will be ruined by their parents' opinions. Because with the first, there will be a second. Never think that your parents can find a good love partner for you, after all, your parents are missing and planning for the purpose of marriage.
The marriage partner that parents want to find is the kind that lives at home, and they don't care about the feelings of their children. After all, the marriage of my parents' time is different from the current marriage situation, the age is different, and the concept of marriage is different.
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Then you have to communicate with your parents and talk to each other, and tell the reason why you are in love with each other.
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You should stick to your choice, if your parents oppose Qingzhi only superficial issues, such as appearance, height, family conditions, etc.
You should stick to your choice, because his character is not bad, not listed by his parents, if he has a motivated heart, you can try to socialize with him more, or it is okay to get married.
Falling in love and getting married should be my own business, and the person who lives with each other for a lifetime is just me, and I don't want even a lifetime of things to be arranged.
I find that there are very few truly enlightened parents nowadays because they always like to say a word:
I'm all for your good.
It is because of such a phrase "for your own good" that they will impose their hopes on their children.
For example, when they were free to love and get married, their later lives were poor and hard, and they hoped that their children could find a rich man.
But in the process, they don't pay much attention to the emotional factor, and try to persuade us with the phrase "feelings can be cultivated".
But "freedom of love, freedom of marriage", should be the pursuit of every young person.
If you can't choose anything else, at least the people you are with can let yourself choose.
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It's a normal thing to fall in love, why should parents interfere? Many times, it is because of the age at which we are in love, or each other's situation, that our parents oppose it, so what should we do if our parents interfere? Let's take a look.
Fall in love at the right age.
The reason why many parents interfere is that they think that their children start to fall in love when they are still very young, after all, they are still students, and they will inevitably miss each other when they are in love, so that the attention in class will be distracted and it is easy to affect learning.
Don't interfere with your own learning.
It is best to start dating after graduation, or when you are about to intern at university, and if it has already begun, you should also grasp the proportions of love, and at the same time do not affect your studies, academics are the most important.
Communicate rationally with your parents.
I have met a lot of friends, fell in love when I was young, were discovered by my parents, and then quarreled every day, in fact, both sides of the quarrel could not solve the problem, or spread out all the problems and communicate carefully, and each other retreated.
Ask the original Qin Yin who is opposed by the parents:
Sometimes there are other factors in the opposition of parents, after introducing their boyfriend and girlfriend to their parents, parents don't like it, don't guess the reason, or ask your parents directly, see what the boyfriend and girlfriend don't meet their minds.
Improve each other's shortcomings.
There may be a variety of reasons for the objection, and it may be very surprising to you, but if your parents ask for something that you can do with each other, then prove it to your parents and change what they think you are flawed.
Tell parents about the decision to stick with it.
The reason why many couples don't go to the end is because they gave up prematurely, after all, it's still up to you to get the marriage certificate, and tell everyone who opposes you that you will always stick to it and won't waver.
Be prepared to be incomprehensible.
Maybe in addition to your relatives and elders, your friends are not used to you being together, you must be prepared to accept their opposing eyes, have a certain psychological preparation, at first you may not be comfortable, but if you really love each other, slowly they will also accept.
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<>I think this still depends on my own personal wishes, after all, marriage is a lifelong thing. It's right for parents to have their parents' considerations, but the era of parental matchmaking like the old society has passed.
It is normal for many parents to oppose falling in love based on their understanding of each other's economic and other conditions. How many people listen to their parents and be a well-behaved and sensible child?
Love is coming, even if the sky falls, it can't be stopped. At this time, parents can only express their agreement and compromise, and love does not distinguish between high and low, right and wrong.
Basically, being able to fall in love proves that you are also an adult, and you have the ability to judge right and wrong and make your own judgments.
In fact, I understand why some parents are against falling in love, especially girls. If she wants to fall in love with someone from another province, it means that she can only see each other for a few days a year.
Love is coming, no matter how much pressure your parents say, it won't help. If you really love each other, you should wish each other to grow old together!
Don't be like this, your father has a lot more experience than you after all, so the job he arranged for you must have his own ideas, don't blame him, don't hate him, no matter what he does, he will always be your father! You have to find an appropriate time, discuss what you think with him calmly, and give him time, don't worry, after all, no parents are for the good of their children, it may be very annoying at the time, don't listen to you, but you have to be patient, take the trouble to explain the reason with him, of course, the way and time is to choose the right one, I believe that your father will definitely be able to figure it out in the end, and will be related to you. Don't hold a grudge or use extreme methods, otherwise you will hurt both parties in the end!
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