At what point did you feel bad?

Just now, for a moment I felt that I had grown so big and was not sensible at all, I quarreled with my mother yesterday, the quarrel was very fierce, the relationship has not been very good in the past few years, I woke up this morning, I didn't bring a penny, and I was ready to go back to school in the field. Halfway to see a mother's call, disgusted and did not answer, after checking the ticket only to see my brother riding around the passenger station, only to understand that my brother called ** want to send me to the station, suddenly quite disappointed in myself, my brother is 6 years younger than me, but I have not had a recognition as a sister, he has always been taking care of me, yesterday because of a quarrel with my mother, he did not speak for me and vomited with him, early this morning he has gone to the garage to wait for me, thinking far away from the station, want to send me! I also thought that I didn't have breakfast, and the snacks I bought for me from a long distance.

I accidentally added an elementary school classmate today. It was a long time ago, but the moment I saw his name, I felt very uncomfortable. Unspeakably sad.

When I was a child, I was not sensible, I was very showy and stupid, and I loved to meddle in things. So some people don't like to look at it and like to trouble me. I still can't forget the details.

I used to think about the bland and relaxed drama of releasing the old suspicion and meeting each other with a smile and enmity. But I really can't. If I forgive the classmate who has grown up and felt naïve now, what qualifications do I have to think of myself who cried for a long night.

I felt so bad I couldn't even say a word of forgiveness. I'd rather remember it all the time than give someone a good answer.

Now I have a great self-esteem and dare, I don't know how to get along with people, I should have a very low emotional intelligence, I hate myself very much, I am selfish, I can always get things to the worst situation, I am eager to communicate but I am alone, I always think about others in the worst situation, I am rich in inner drama, I always feel targeted, I have a hard mouth and a good face, I am really annoying.

Maybe it's because I can't do my job well, I can't do the little things in life well, and when I am criticized by people who care, I actually know that it's nothing, but for some reason it crushes me.

My favorite girl told me that there are only three or two things I ask you for, but you will forget, you can't do it, and I don't want you to do anything in the future. At that time, I felt that if there was no hope, no decoration of good memories, no matter how much I liked it, it would become very boring.

I feel terrible right now, worse at all. I am a kindergarten teacher, and I went to a five-year junior college after graduating from junior high school, and I felt that I was very bad when I couldn't even get into high school. What's even worse is that even the junior college is entrusted to enter, so bad that I don't have the face to say.

I think I'm very bad at the moment, I don't have a clear goal, I don't dare to take that step in what I want to do, I really need guidance from someone superior.

Everyone around you has a clear future, but you are worried about ...... degreeThe greatest pain was not that I couldn't ask for it, but that I could.

Perhaps each of us has such confusion and worries about various things every day. I believe that you are a self-motivated, self-esteem-minded, face-loving person. You're always comparing yourself to the people around you, and you're always finding that no matter what you do, you don't feel like you're as good as anyone else, and you can't do it better than anyone else.

That's because when you compare, you tend to start with yourself and see others as the end, and you feel that it is very far away. But you ignore your own unique side, even if in fact others do better than you, it is undeniable, but you have to understand that you are not bad, so you have to cultivate a confident self in your daily life and study. Don't suppress yourself every day, feel that you are nothing, nothing is better than others, as long as you do what you should accomplish, then you are responsible for yourself.

Another thing I see is that you obviously have a sense of fear of the future, afraid that you will not be able to do anything in the future, you will not be able to hold your head up in front of your family, and you will be inferior to your classmates and friends. In fact, fear is a normal state of mind that everyone has, but you feel this stronger than others, so it will disrupt your normal life from time to time and make yourself anxious and nervous.

In this case, you have to learn to decompress, don't think too much about the future, after all, no one can be in the future, and people are constantly growing, the more insights you have, the more experience you accumulate, you will deal with things very well, you will find yourself that mature and stable temperament, this is self-confidence. A confident person will make himself better.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, self-improvement can lead to self-reliance. If you don't want to belong to the family to bear too much burden for you, try to learn to change the present with your own ability and ability, so that your parents know that they have not worked in vain to cultivate you, and you are their pride. If your boyfriend can be trusted and relied on, you should encourage each other to persevere together, difficulties are never terrible, and complaining about fate will only make the future worse.

I think you should be very glad to be able to recognize this, if a person never knows his shortcomings, that is the most terrible, since you already know that you are the worst, take today as a new starting point.

At one point, my friend's QQ signature was "Have confidence in yourself".

I don't understand how such a good person can not have confidence in himself. Handsome, mild-mannered, bachelor's degree, graduate school, state-owned enterprise work, and two sisters at home, no matter how you look at it, you think she is a lucky one. However, these did not become the basis of his self-confidence, but often felt that he was too humble.

One of his favorite quotes is Nietzsche's "Every day when you don't dance is a disappointment to life." The reason is that this famous sentence inspired him to survive the extremely difficult years of "World War II" in the graduate school entrance examination.

Because I have just come into contact with each other, some words are inconvenient to say too directly. But I really think he is very good, and I have always wanted to comfort him, the days of fighting alone in World War II sharpened his mind, and to some extent it shows that he is a determined person, and it should not be the "dishonorable" experience that he feels.

However, no matter how much he is affirmed by others, it is difficult to change his judgment of himself.

In fact, everyone's perception of themselves is not in sync with the outside world. It is generally believed that one's own judgment is objective, and the judgment of others is subjective. Humble people, the judgment of their own unconfidence is based on rough experiences, so even if they are excellent, they still feel that you don't know what I have been through, and you don't know when I am embarrassed.

2. I'm the same, I don't believe in myself.

When people ask me what kind of person I am, I usually just answer "one neurotic". Because I do feel like I'm nervous, I've gone from being sensitive and cautious to being heartless, and from being heartless and heartless to being what I am now, which I can't define. On the one hand, there are too many things that touch me, and I will be inexplicably sentimental; On the other hand, I'm really nervous, and I don't have many things that get in my eyes.

My colleague said I was smart, but of course I didn't believe it, because I thought that people who didn't count well couldn't be smart; I often laugh at myself for being mentally retarded because I never get a score on an intelligence test. My friends say it's cute, but I don't believe it, how can a person like me who is nervous and grinning be cute?

However, judging by the results, it seems that I am not bad at the moment. The work went well, friends often praised him, and his first impression was generally optimistic. However, I don't think so, I still feel bad.

So, I kept asking my dad what it means to be smart. So, I tentatively asked the opposite sex, what kind of person in your eyes is cute. However, none of them solved the mystery in my heart.

At this time, how I would like to have a scale table, like the year-end assessment form, list the indicators one by one, and then give the corresponding score range of each indicator and score it against each other. If I pass everything, will I believe that I am really not that bad? Will I just believe that this tensor subscale is the most objective and the most trustworthy?

Will it be so? I won't!

3. So I often can't figure out what is subjective and which is objective.

So in the end, I don't have to worry about what kind of standard or what kind of judgment.

I began to approach and open like the "little sun" around me.

First, if your goal is to have low self-esteem, then this will help you very much.

Second, your purposefulness.

It's not that you have low self-esteem, but that you want to change better, and the gap between your current state and your goal is too big, so please stop having low self-esteem and work hard to change, so that it will help your goal. Otherwise, you will only have to be inferior forever in the future. Strive to change, in order to have confidence, the appearance is immutable, it is really impossible, if it is**problem, skin care, body, fat**, proportion, as long as thin will not be ugly**.

Grades don't mean anything, those famous universities in the United States don't pick the best grades but pick the average, Harvard once selected a student who failed the college entrance examination in my country, because he actively does public welfare activities and loves the society, which is really important. Social skills, everyone has their own strengths, as long as you improve your character, there is a saying, people are divided into groups, and there will be people who appreciate you. If you are good at trying something new, the reason why people are miserable is because they have time to think about why they are not happy.

You just arrange a lot of things for your shortcomings and don't think about it, and after a long time, you will definitely change, as long as you are willing to persevere.

Ask thank you, I'll try.

I feel like I have nothing, nothing, my roommates' family conditions are better than mine, my family helps to buy a house, and I take the graduate school entrance examination by myself, but I have nothing, although I study very hard, but I think of studying for three years, and the family is not easy to bear, so I don't have the courage to go to graduate school, and I will graduate next year. Although he talked about a boyfriend and treated me well, he felt like he had nothing like me, although his family conditions were average, but he was also better than me, and I still felt inferior in my heart. Not only does the family have no money, but they also have no ability.

I feel like I really don't have anything. Although I still love him, my self-esteem always makes me want to break up, I want to be better, but I don't want him to feel my inner inferiority, and I always feel that no matter how hard I try, I can't catch up with others, and others also work hard. I don't know how to describe me now, I just feel like I'm bad, what should I do?

The world is born equal, whether rich or poor, the rich will have a day of decay, and the poor will also have a day of wealth, but they need to work hard by themselves, not standing still, then there will be a day of change, don't complain about their own poorness, just don't work hard, isn't there a saying, if you are not strong, who can fight for you.

As the old saying goes, "When people ride horses, we ride donkeys, and look back at those who walk—more than the upper than the bottom." In the vast sea of people, there are many like you. They have it, did they create it themselves?

Although you try to do what you should do and live on your own terms, sooner or later it will belong to you. "People are doing and the sky is watching", and being a kind person will naturally get better and better.

Because you have low self-esteem! Relax the dim sum, it's not scary to be worse than them, I'm afraid I'm afraid that I will look down on myself! How do you know you'll not make as much money as they will in the future?

How do you know they'll be better than you in the future?! You have to have a good attitude to surpass others! Do you understand!?

Now adults always like to compare you with others, and if you compare more, you will be afraid! Don't bother with that! The higher the person stands, the higher the requirements of others, and no matter how good he does, he will not get too much praise from others, but he will be disliked if he does one wrong thing!

On the contrary, the lower the person stands, the lower the requirements of others for him over time, so that he is happy and relaxed, when you do a good thing, others will praise you, even if you do wrong, others will not say too much?! What's wrong! Be in a better state of mind!

Don't think too much, just be yourself!

Girl, don't look down on yourself, the conditions at home are given by your parents, and your children have nothing to do with them, everyone's future has countless possibilities, even if the other party's family conditions are good, but if you don't work hard, maybe after a few years, you are far from working hard.

First of all, complete the current studies, don't compare with others, so that you can never compare, compare with yourself, today I am a little better than yesterday, a little better, tomorrow I will be better than today, to have self-confidence, believe in yourself, come on!

Hello, you feel that you are bad in those aspects, it is the aspect of life, yes.

Work, emotional, or sexual? Everyone's life opportunities are different, and not everything is going well, failure and setbacks are inevitable, the main thing is to adjust the mentality and face the problems in life correctly.

Psychological guidance: It is recommended that you let go of your emotions and think about everything, learn to appreciate yourself more, participate in more activities that can improve your self-confidence, and communicate more with family and friends.