He always surprises me suddenly, and usually he is cold.

I don't really like people who are hot and cold, and I always feel that being busy with work is just an excuse. If you really like to work alone, no matter how busy you are, you will want to get it. I only think of you when I'm lonely, so what do you do when you're lonely?

If you're already in a relationship, you start by figuring out what you want. What he does makes you uncomfortable, and you decide how to solve it. But you can't ask the other person to change, you can only hope that the other person will change, but the other person doesn't want to change how you should be.

For example, you can calmly say to him: Thank you very much for doing these things for me. I'm glad you did.

But you usually (the specific situation, don't call me **, cold attitude towards me...) I feel like you don't love me and don't care about me. So I want you how to do.

Then listen to his opinions and ideas, and work together to solve the problem.

My boyfriend and I often use this kind of showdown to solve problems. Guessing can make you fall in love with the wrong person, or it can make you miss out on someone who really loves you. So, confession is the best way to go.

Maybe you're smart. May you enjoy your love.

You yourself said that it was ambiguous, then he only thought of you when he was sad and sleepy, and talked to you, but he didn't really love you. So you don't really care, because he may have a female (boyfriend) friend if not, he will forget you if he has something he likes, online dating rarely becomes a reality, ambiguous is not good, I hope you find your own happiness! Treat him like a regular friend.

Don't overthink it.

Maybe he doesn't love you, and he will take the initiative to contact you when he suddenly thinks of it, but you are obsessed with him, and it is always you who is hurt if it goes on like this, why should you maintain a fruitless love? To find your own true happiness, the most important thing is to suit yourself.

Some people will think of him many times intentionally or unintentionally, and even feel sad because of his coldness, probably because you haven't let go of the other party and care more about him in your heart, so you will think about him all the time, and it is difficult to let go of this relationship. Since you like it, then go to him directly, there is no need to be sad alone, you still have to be brave to express it to the other party, don't always hide it in your heart, in case you regret it later, it will be very difficult to keep this relationship. <>

You may be unable to let go of the other person. It may be easy to like someone, but it is even more difficult to forget a person, after all, he has left a deep impression on himself, and he has had some good memories, so his position in your heart is still very important, so that you will think of him intentionally or unintentionally, whenever you see something, you will think of things related to him, two people have lived together for a long time Pei Yuanye, naturally they will experience a lot of things together. Even a hat will remind you that he has the same one.

If you feel like you can't forget it, you can try to salvage the relationship or find someone to take his place. <>

Because the emotional wounds you have suffered are more severe. Some people are particularly hurt by their ex, so how much they once loved, how much they hate now. As soon as he thinks of the other party, he will grit his teeth and even want to go up and beat him.

Sometimes I feel that I am blind, and I once fell in love with such a person, so whenever I think of such a thing, it makes people feel very heartbroken. <>

Since you have broken up with each other, you still have to live your current life, you can try to do some exercise to divert your attention, or you can go out to travel with your friends, and the beauty comes from the hurt in your heart. Trying to delete all the memories in your mind and then watch something very beautiful can temporarily relieve your inner loneliness.

In fact, it's because you still have a relationship for him, and you were very reluctant to break up at that time, and you also paid a lot of true love in this relationship. So you don't want to live up to your dedication.

You love this man very much, so even if he doesn't care about you and doesn't feel sorry for you at all, you still can't bear him, and your heart will still hurt very much.

You may like him and wish he would be a little warmer with you, or you may treat him as a very good friend and he doesn't treat you the same way.