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Teach you a trick. It is to eat every day with a big bowl of rice, and then take all the dishes you want to eat at one time, similar to the Western meal system, but you are just a person who divides the meal, but the effect is the same, that is, hygiene, you no longer have to worry about your father-in-law's bad habits, I have a good method
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I hope you can let yourself try to accept it, I also have this situation, but it's good to get along for a long time, because sometimes you will feel how unhygienic it is, but that's all old habits, you let them change their estimates is enough, and I will tell you a way, implement a separate meal system in your house, and eat it in a bowl, but it can't be covered up for long.
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As a daughter-in-law, you can't change the habits of the elderly for decades because you are not used to it, even if there are some bad habits, only if you are a daughter-in-law, be more tolerant and patient. One day you'll find yourself in a similar situation. Perfect!
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Or will I eat, and put all the dishes in the bowl at once, this method can avoid similar situations, in such a home do not need to be too particular, you can try to overcome it.
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Everyone has their own habits.
Although your father-in-law's habit is not very good.
But it can't be helped, it's actually a small problem.
You don't want to eat that dish.
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As a daughter-in-law, you can't say it yourself, you can tell your lover that he is their son, and it will be useful to say it.
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Yes, treat the elderly more modestly!
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Decades of habits, you still hope he will change when he is old! Family.
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It's so scary, I didn't think about it at the time, find a house with a house, how good it would be for two people to live by themselves.
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Then move out and don't live with your in-laws, so that there will be no conflicts and disagreements.
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The specific way is to discuss with your husband to move out as soon as possible and live on your own, which can reduce a lot of troubles and unnecessary misunderstandings, that is because you are two generations, and the generation gap in the middle is very large, sometimes irreparable and irreconcilable.
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I think that since we can live separately in this way, nothing bad will happen when we are separated, after all, distance produces beauty.
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Everyone who enters the palace of marriage will experience blind dates, contacts, meeting parents, and remarriage. These procedures seem simple, but in fact, there are a lot of troubles and trivial things in them, and if you are not careful, two families and a couple will break up. Becoming a family is like a demine, standing there waiting for people to evaluate the value, and the slightest inappropriate place will be taken out and weighed.
After getting married, it's okay not to live with your parents, but if you live with your parents, you're really in a minefield, and if you don't go carelessly, you will have an accident. Different values lead to very different living habits; In particular, if the schedule cannot be reconciled, one party must make concessions.
For example, in my home, there is only one bathroom, and I am not used to so many people using one toilet, but there is no way for objective reasons; I want to live separately from my in-laws, my husband always has a lot of reasons, the house is far away from the city, it is inconvenient, it is not the right time to wait; There is only one washing machine, not much cleaning, and it is used to wash shoes from time to time, which is unacceptable, endure (always pay attention, always clean, I am used to throwing two pieces of washing machine sink cleaning agent into my clothes now); I don't need to eat at the dining table, I like to eat while watching TV on the coffee table; Always don't sleep at night and can't wake up during the day; I always like to watch TV in the living room at night, and the sound is very loud, and it is useless to say ......
The important thing is that when you make concessions, you will give people an inch, and that's human nature. I used to think it would be nice to communicate, but it backfired.
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After getting married, having children, there are more and more disadvantages of living with parents-in-law, although living with the elderly, there are also benefits, but there are also troubles.
For example, my mother-in-law loves to clean up, she always likes to turn things over, and she is curious about everything, and the things I put in the utility room, packed in the storage box, are often turned out by her to see, and after reading it, she does not close the lid.
I don't feel free to eat, after all, I love snacks, they are old again, if you ask them to eat together, they have a bad stomach, don't ask them to eat, it seems rude.
And cooking, she doesn't want to do it, just wait for me to do it, I don't want to do it and wait for her to do it, the same goes for washing dishes, now it's all you wash for a day, I'll wash for a day.
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Whether or not the two generations want to live together involves practical interests.
Now that young people are getting married, they can't buy a house, buy a car, or give a bride price by their own ability, so the parents of both sides will provide great help financially, so some of them will think that they have the right to interfere in the lives of the young couple, such as asking their daughter-in-law when to have children and how many children.
And young people, get the benefits must not be too ruthless, parents say to listen to what they say, the most practical, is to get rid of the old people to help watch the children, now the social pressure is so great, it is difficult to find a job lost, especially women after taking the children out of work, basically can not return to the previous level, so the hail bend has become a family needs to work together, daughter-in-law gives birth to children, parents-in-law take care of children, the young couple continue to work hard to pay off the mortgage, car loan, make milk powder money, etc., otherwise there is no old man to helpLife is really scrambling and struggling. Now some girls are looking for a partner, and they will also see whether the man's parents have a pension, whether they are in good health, whether they can and are willing to help Yuan Qi take care of the children.
Although there will be many contradictions between the elderly and children, such as differences in living habits, ideological differences, differences in parenting concepts, and the run-in collision of living under the same roof with each other, which will lead to many bad things, but there is no way, the family is a big interest as a whole, unless young people do not rely on the elderly to get married, do not rely on them to help take care of children, and each other can arrange their own lives, so that they can achieve a distance to produce beauty, and everyone is at ease.
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