If you hesitate to be with someone else, does it prove that the relationship is not deep enough?

Hesitation to be with others just shows that you are a sane person and a person who is responsible for yourself and others.

Since you're hesitating to be with him, there's bound to be a lot for you to consider. It's right to think through before making a decision!

First, do you really love him?

Second, are we really fit together?

Many people say that they have feelings, but they are not necessarily suitable for being together. It depends on whether two people have three views on one. Otherwise, no matter how good love is, it will be defeated by time!

Third, is he really the person I'm looking for?

What kind of person do I want to be with? Is he really the man I've been looking for? It is said that choosing a person is choosing a life. Are you really ready?

If the answer to all of the above points is yes. Then you will definitely choose to stay with him. If the answer is no, you will hesitate. It is much better to treat every relationship rationally than to be a moth to a fire.

In the relationship, it is not enough to have love, and whether the feelings are deep or not is not determined by the speed of agreeing to him, adults must treat feelings rationally in order to be able to last longer.

I'm an emotional person: Miss Cantaloupe Zhu. I never disdain to boil chicken soup, if you want to boil it, you only boil the Jianghu Huanglian soup that is bitter and clear-mouthed.

I don't think necessarily, rational people will not be carried away by feelings, they will have their own thoughts, so I think hesitation is not necessarily that the feelings are not deep enough, there must be a reason for hesitation.

The other party may be very good to you, take care of you enough, tolerate your little temper enough for you, and be handsome enough, but he is not good enough, he is idle all day long, there is no serious work, every day except to accompany you is to play games, the money for their own meals is to reach out to their parents, no matter how good such a person is to you, you will definitely hesitate to be with him because you may come to him and not see any good future, no matter how good a person is to you, he is not self-motivated, everything is empty talk.

If you hesitate because of this, then you can try to change him, let him seriously find a good job, if he really loves you, he will definitely make changes for you, if he can obediently listen to you, then you don't have to hesitate at this time.

It could also be that there are certain aspects of him that you can't accept, but you like him, so you hesitate. For example, if he spends money lavishly and doesn't take money seriously, you will feel that such a person may not be very good at running a family in the future, in other words, he will not be able to live, and you are afraid that you will not be able to control him in the future, so you hesitate to agree to him.

So your hesitation may not be unreasonable, and it doesn't prove that your feelings for him are not deep enough, but you are rational enough not to be carried away by love, you are not only thinking about the present, you are also thinking about the future, you are not just enjoying the beauty of the present, but at the same time planning for the future. In fact, from a certain point of view, your calmness is correct, everyone knows that the divorce rate is very high now, and impulsiveness is part of the reason.

I estimate that you and ta are in an embarrassing situation where you are not in lovers and have a friend limit, and the reason why you hesitate to be with her is not necessarily to prove that the relationship is not deep enough, there are many reasons for this. <>

1, the other party's charm problem, someone once confessed, the other party refused on the grounds that the two parties have different family backgrounds, their parents are not teachers or civil servants, and they are not the marriage standards given to her by her parents, and then go to confess with a person with the same family background or even someone who may destroy national unity but is very good at coaxing little girls. In the final analysis, appearance, talent is more important than sincerity for a pursuing girl, if the charm of TA is not enough to attract you, and you are sure that it will not change after being together, please don't agree, otherwise the other party will die of pain.

2. Worry about the impact on your friendship after the failure of the relationship, which proves that you have a strong sense of responsibility, but lack of real reason, if you respect each other and take care of each other in love, even if you break up peacefully because of irresistible factors in the end, then such feelings will not affect your future friendship, and even you will become the key person who really solves each other's problems in the future, or, your relationship has overridden love, friendship, and become a close relationship without embarrassment. But make sure to respect each other when you are in love, and don't break up because you dislike each other or are disgusted by the other person to the point of nausea.

3. The feelings are not deep enough. Although I don't want to admit it, there is still a lack of deep feelings, if you are entangled in the above two problems and not be with him. That's because you don't have a deep relationship, you don't know each other, you are afraid of him intervening in your life, thinking that he doesn't have the security you want, that he doesn't have the maturity or charm you want.

1. When choosing whether to be with a person, it is not only about emotional issues, but also about financial issues. If there is a financial problem between you, it will also make the other party want to be with you or not. For example, if you have a girlfriend and you even ask her for money for dinner, do you think she will hesitate to stay with you?

Will definitely hesitate.

2. Family affection will also be a factor in the other party's hesitation to be with you. For example, if one of your parents does not approve of you being together, that other parent will definitely hesitate.

3. Whether you are in a long-distance relationship.

It may also influence your relationship, so that the lonely party will hesitate to continue to be with you.

4. Your bad habits that you don't change will also make a person who loves you think about whether you are trustworthy or not, which will also make him hesitate to continue with you.

The fact is that when you hesitate to be with him, it is because the relationship is not deep enough for you to be with him without hesitation, so your heart will waver, struggle, and hesitate.

Just as I was confused some time ago, the man is really good to me, everything depends on me, and he is also very good to his daughter, whether it is good or not is not pretended, it can be seen from some small details, I can see that he really wants to have a home, and what he said to me is also true, but I hesitate in my heart, very contradictory, and keep telling myself that if I meet someone who is good to me, I will marry it, and if I can find a sincere person, I will cherish it, but I can't fool myself, I try to communicate with him more, try to contact, try to adapt to his variety, In my mind, I kept ringing the alarm bell, others are good, work is good, and the important thing is to be good to children, you should be content, and you have been telling yourself like this that you must be content.

But I still hesitated, I would still be frightened, especially when he proposed to go to his house to meet his parents, I knew that I couldn't hide, I had to be clear about the purpose, I couldn't be so vague, so I finally said everything I thought, and when I was done, my heart was much lighter.

So hesitation is because the relationship is not deep enough, if a relationship is deep enough, it will not be subject to any difficulties, just like we buy clothes, if this dress is just a general like, we will hesitate, will consider his **, but if for the kind of clothes that we want super wanted, we will not hesitate to buy it, that is, the economy is not enough, we will also find a way to save, and then go when we have saved enough, we can also eat instant noodles for a month because of a piece of clothing, people's feelings are similar to this reason, So when you hesitate, it must be that the feelings are not deep enough!