How will adult friendships change?

When you grow up, some of your friends will get better and better and become lifelong friends; Others drift away until they become stranger than strangers. <>

In elementary school, children's friendships are simple and beautiful, but also a little naïve. I remember when I was in elementary school, I had a few very good friends, and we would always go to school together and come home from school, do homework and play together, deal with naughty boys together, share delicious snacks together, pass notes in class, write letters to each other after class, and see each other even every day. Each of us became friends for some very simple and simple reasons, maybe because he had good grades so he wanted to be friends with him, maybe because he was cute so he wanted to be friends with him, or maybe because everyone liked to watch the same cartoon and became good friends.

I say a little naïve because people may have conflicts for a very small reason, such as not borrowing you toys to play, not helping you with your homework, or if he is better off with another classmate, which may cause conflicts and make noise. Of course, children's friendship is easy to cause conflicts, and it is easy to solve conflicts and become very good again. However, when I grew up and went to junior high school and high school, everyone was separated, and there were very few elementary school classmates in the same middle school, let alone the same class, and the contact became less and less, and the relationship became more and more estranged.

Now that I'm in college, there may be quite a few elementary school classmates who can't recognize each other when they meet each other. So, for me, there are probably only one or two good friends from elementary school who are still in touch now.

In junior high school and high school, there were a few good friends who thought they would be together for the rest of their lives, but as time went by, the relationships with less contact became more and more estranged, and the topics of meeting again became less, and it was no longer the kind of talk-free that it was back then. But there are also a few who are more closely connected after graduation, and they become better and better, or it may be because everyone grows up and becomes an adult, and they cherish the friends who are still together.

I've heard a lot of people who are older than me, or seniors, say that in fact, the most friends after working and starting a family are friends I met in college, and although I haven't had this experience, I've gradually come to agree with this view.

In my eyes, adult friendship is more realistic and more profitable.

Friendships as children can be built with a lollipop, you give the other person a lollipop, and the next time she has something good to play with. But the friendship between adults, maybe you give someone a lollipop, and they may refuse, saying sorry, I can't eat sweet, so you can't find an excuse to give her something.

In addition, everyone is an adult, and some things seem to be well known, and there are some rules among adults that some people who are not deeply involved in the world cannot understand. There are some things that I don't understand, but I don't think everyone can understand them.

Minors will also make a lot of friends, and there are only a few of the best friends, but everyone who interacts with them is sincere in their relationship, perhaps because there is no interest in interacting at that time.

In fact, adults make friends with a wide range of people, and there are a few friends who really make friends, but these friends may be you when you were a child, or you may have friends in college, but the people you interact with after work I think it should be just a simple relationship of interests, and it may not be possible to talk about it if it is sincere.

In adulthood, due to the pressure of life and work, your purpose of making friends will become impure, maybe you used to make friends for fun, now it is more for interpersonal relationships, maybe some people will help you in some things, as the saying goes, multiple friends have many roads.

Maybe your real friends are old friends from the past, you can ignore the way you speak, you can complain about your dissatisfaction and unwillingness to be mediocre in life, because no one will laugh at you because of your incompetence, or say that these words you have said will become her after-dinner conversation.

So in the adult world, what may be beneficial to me is what I want to socialize, which may not have any effect on me now, but it may help in the future, and it may be more enthusiastic about this type of person, and the rest of the people or things may not dare to ignore it.

Through what you usually see and hear, add your own summary. I think there are two main changes.

The first aspect is that adult friendship doesn't always talk about it, and sometimes you don't even know if it exists. You'll find that mom and dad don't usually talk about their friends at home. Not to mention that he has a particularly good relationship with so-and-so.

There are even times when we take it for granted that Mom and Dad don't have our own friends, our best friends. But we are wrong. Because everyone will have their own good friends, but we choose different ways of expression.

During the Chinese New Year this year, we had a mysterious guest in our house, which I had never seen or heard of before, but then my father told me that it was his best friend, just like his own brother. But in my eyes, I haven't heard of this person suddenly appearing in 20 years. It gives me a feeling that it's hard to swallow.

But that's the case with adults, they don't treat friends as their daily life. But the existence of such friends cannot be denied. <>

The second aspect is that friends will not be the focus of your life, maybe we now feel that we can't survive if we lose friends, and we will communicate with our friends every day, but for adults, they have their own careers. With their own family, many times they will not consider their friends, let alone take friends as the focus of their lives, but for friends, they do not hesitate, and sometimes they are waiting for an opportunity to cherish, know and talk with friends.

We can't say that the friendship between adults will become weaker, we can only say that it will become more mature. This maturation completely ignores time, space, place. He is like an old wine, always silently emitting his fragrance in one place, even when no one tastes it.

There are many kinds of emotions that surround each person's life. Among them, one of the most important relationships we have faced since childhood is friendship. As we grow up, so do our friends.

We come into contact with people with very different personalities and face a variety of friendships. As the saying goes, "the older you get, the more lonely you become", a big part of the reason is that after we leave school and enter the society, our responsibilities and the pressure on our hearts have changed. And so the friendship changed.

When we are children, friendship is easy to acquire, and friendship between friends is very simple. When we reach youth, our psychology changes, and our requirements for the people around us also change, not only to play together, but more importantly, to have a common language goal, to work together and encourage each other. When we reach adulthood, our requirements for friendship are more "demanding", and mentors will help us become our ideal person to a great extent, which will make us better.

Such friendships should be cherished. <>

After middle age, most people's energy and time are focused on work and family, and there are few opportunities to get together with old friends, and at this time, everyone's contact gradually decreases. Occasionally organize a party to talk about some of our recent events, and look back on the crazy things we did when we were students, which is the greatest relief for us. It's also important to set aside some time for your friends.

This will make our friendship more precious and will make us cherish this hard-won friendship even more.

Friendship will stay with us for a lifetime, and friends need to support each other. Treating friends requires politeness and trust. Because of a long period of inconnection, friendships can become fragile.

For true friends, most people will be whoever goes on, no matter what happens, no matter how well they go, as long as you ask, I'm there. That's what matters.

Compared to childhood friendships, it can get much more complicated. Childhood is the simplest and happiest time in a person's life, the whole world is their own, and the people around them love themselves, don't worry about having nothing to eat, don't worry about no clothes to wear, don't worry about no bed to sleep, just play happily every day. There are a few friends who play particularly well, and it seems that this is the whole world.

I don't need to take it to heart when I quarrel or fight with my friends, and soon I will play together again, everyone will share delicious food, everyone will play together if they have fun, and everyone will share what good things will be shared, no one will hide their selfishness, and no one will be selfish. The time of youth is so simple and bright, and the whole world is lit up by small joys. We were so easily satisfied, so easy to be happy.

And then we grew up. There are fewer and fewer people around. We feel that something has changed, but we can't find it.

There are fewer and fewer people around you, there are fewer and fewer people who can stay up late with you to chat, and there are fewer and fewer people who can cry with you, and you don't even seem to find a person who can talk to your heart and go out to travel together, but you are still stupidly deceiving yourself, nothing has changed. In fact, it has changed, our relationship has changed, we are less and less in touch, and the relationship is getting weaker and weaker, I want to maintain this relationship a lot, but I find that your reaction is so sad for me. You don't seem to be the one who just plays with me anymore.

There are more and more things in our hearts, our feelings seem to be getting colder and colder, and we seem to be drifting apart. I wanted to redeem you, but I found that you were far away. Ah, friend, goodbye.

Society is very realistic. The friendship of adults is mixed with interests. I don't talk about the simple friendship that didn't mix any interests when I was a student.

When I was on campus, there was no pressure of life, I didn't have to worry about everything by myself, my parents were there, and my parents gave me everything for my living expenses.

But when you become an adult, you have to worry about it. You can't rely on your parents all the time. The pressure of life will be pressed on your shoulders.

At work, we all want to move up. When you enter the society as an adult, you will know that many times when you want to get an opportunity, not only do you need to have the ability to do this porcelain job, but sometimes you also have to have this network to get some relevant information. to take this opportunity down.

Connections are important. That's why there are so many socials after work. I think that most of the friendships in adulthood are wine table friends.

But it's not that there aren't the kind of friends you can make on campus. It's just less.

Generally, people who enter college are adults, and you will find that the friendship in college is very different from your previous friendships in junior high and high school. Adult friendship is not just a friendship relationship, but also a lot of materialistic, superficial and utilitarian things.

The dormitory next to our dormitory is very worrying.

There are two class leaders in our class, and one of our dormitories belongs to the kind of people who are not very in charge, and major matters are decided by the class leader in the dormitory next to us, but we know a lot of inside information. Sometimes the people in our dormitory would just bolt the door and carry a small bench around to discuss all kinds of shady things. A roommate in that dormitory would especially slap the class leader, and if there were any snacks to send to the class leader, accompany the class leader to skip class, and fetch water for the class leader in winter, it is said that the class leader has fetched water up to five times in winter, but her pot is full every day.

That roommate studied well, but she was not the first place, but the inspirational scholarship of 8,000 yuan was in her hands. It's not in vain that she treats the squad leader so wholeheartedly.

Seeing that she has a good relationship with the squad leader, but so much money should not be given to her, the squad leader is not studying well, and she is very unbalanced if this money does not fall into her own hands. In the class, she said, hey, so much money is given to one person, it's too unfair to do this, and I have to react to the situation with the leaders of the college. This kind of hypocrisy has long been known to everyone in the class, and they cover up their bad thoughts under the banner of being good for everyone.

There is no way, we still have to cooperate with her work, vote for her when we vote, otherwise she will hold a grudge.

Adult friendship is like this mixed with a lot of other things, you feel terrible, you feel helpless, but that's society. In the future, we will really enter social life, and we must keep our eyes open, not everything is as beautiful as it seems.

I think adults should see friendship more clearly, not that adults shouldn't take friendship too seriously, but adults need to treat friendship in the right way.

The reason why I say this is mainly because there are so many things that adults need to do, and they also have all kinds of responsibilities. For adults, there is no need for adults to regard friendship as too important, but they also need to pay enough attention to friendship, a good friendship can make the relationship between two people better and better, and at the same time, it can also allow many people to get more help, and two good friends can support each other.

Adults need silver reeds to see friendship more clearly.

For adults, it is difficult for adults to look at friendship in a simple way, because friendship at this time is often mixed with various interests, and some people's friendships will gradually drift away because of the relationship of interests. To some extent, a rare friendship is very precious in the eyes of adults, and many people yearn for those true friendships. <>

Adults also need to value friendship enough.

Although friendship between adults is generally not simple, this does not mean that adults cannot obtain simple friendships, and people of the same age should not treat friendship as a casual relationship. If we can encounter a friendship relationship in our lives, we should cherish this relationship enough, and at the same time, we need to give and help each other as much as possible. <>

Adults need to be a little more realistic.

A good friendship can make two people better and better, but for adults, adults need to be as realistic as possible in various relationships. In real life, two Fenglu people may come together because of similar interests and hobbies, but because the relationship between the two people itself will be mixed with some practical factors, this leads us not to look at the friendship relationship with too naïve eyes. I think that the state of adult friendship should be that the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and two people also need to seek common ground and differences in various things as much as possible.