What was your journey and feeling about coming out of social phobia?

There is a feeling of being reborn. Social phobia is nothing more than that you have low self-esteem and dare not communicate with others, as long as you overcome this shortcoming, you will come out.

I'm going to be a small company personnel, I used to be a sales guide, now I feel very uncomfortable doing a little position, every night I will think, some people come to me for help, I see myself as very important, then the work problem will also be noticed by others, I am afraid of the feeling of being centered on me, I feel that there are countless eyes staring, in fact, I also want to do the kind of thing to do my own things well, no matter what else is most comfortable, there is no way to finally have a chance to rise, I am indeed like this! You say that I am not a social phobia, what do you think, I will be better.

I have been with my children for three years, I don't know what it's like outside, I'm afraid of working, I'm afraid to go out, and I even have a barrier to communicating with people.

Later, my friends accompanied me every day, walked with me, sang with me, went shopping with me, helped me find a job, and slowly walked out of my own story.

It's like a baby who has fallen off from its mother's body, and although it is painful, it has regained its own whole world.

In fact, when you really don't care about other people's opinions, and have the courage to put forward your needs in front of others, social phobia is good.

Therefore, it is a process of psychological maturity and personality soundness.

Because I am not good at expressing myself, whenever I am brave enough to express my thoughts, others will look at me with strange eyes, so I always feel that I am wrong, which makes me very unconfident. But after challenging this mentality, you will feel that your experience is worth collecting, and only after experiencing it will you understand and make yourself more stable.

To get out of social fear, it is important to overcome psychological barriers. Laughing oak.

Social fear, to overcome perfectionism.

You don't dare to talk to others, in fact, because you care too much about other people's eyes and value yourself too much. The opposite of perfectionism is inferiority, once you find that your words are not fluent, or which sentence makes a small mistake, you will immediately be overly nervous, feel as if you have stabbed the big Lou, feel that you are useless. In this vicious circle, you will fall into autism, and in order to ensure your perfect image, you will simply avoid communication.

Therefore, to overcome social phobia, it is necessary to avoid perfectionist tendencies in the first place. Occasionally, you have to forgive yourself for a little mistake, after all, this is human nature.

Social phobia is to overcome self-centered tendencies.

Another reason for social phobia is that it is too self-centered, focusing only on oneself and ignoring others.

Speaking of which, some people may come to refute me: I'm afraid it's because I care too much about others! Fear of offending others, fear that others will be hurt by my words, which leads to not daring to communicate.

In fact, you might as well ask yourself, are you really worried about someone else? More often than not, what you're worried about is how the other person will think of you and whether it will leave a bad impression on them after offending them. Once they show that they don't care, or are magnanimous, you will feel relieved.

Finally, I hope my advice on liters is helpful.

The main manifestation of social fear is that it is afraid of dealing with people, it is very sensitive to the stimulus of laughter and blindness, and it is always under an inexplicable pressure and very tense. In the long run, there are some dangers like this. So how do you overcome your fear and socialize normally?

1. Think more about the harm of social fear, the importance of normal social interaction, and patients should try to socialize.

2. Write down the reasons for the fear of socializing and see the worst outcome. In the end, it wasn't as terrible as I imagined, but I thought too much, and no one cared too much about you, just scared myself.

3. You can talk to yourself first, talk to the big trees and scarecrows in the open field, treat them as your own audience, and try to explain your own opinions in an orderly manner. You can also read your favorite articles aloud at home. Try to be natural and relaxed.

Let yourself speak first.

4. Talk to the people closest to you, and try to find as many topics as you can talk to. Relaxed and enjoyable communication. Exercise your courage and overcome your fears.

5. Gradually go to strangers to communicate and snore. First of all, you can say some words that you encounter in daily life, such as: how are you feeling today, and you have a happy event to share today.

From simple to complex, step by step. In fact, speaking is really interesting, you can share the happiness of others, after tasting the sweetness of speaking, you are getting bolder and bolder, and finally you dare to speak in front of the public, enjoying the pride and sense of accomplishment that everyone pays attention to. The main thing is to put down your face, take the first step, and be bold in your attempts.