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There are a lot of people like this, and you shouldn't be overly upset.
We're a human being, and I'm still pretty much like you.
In the past, I was always distressed and wanted to change, but the more I tried to change, the more I couldn't change.
After studying psychology, I know that people like us may not like interpersonal communication due to the lack of parental love and insecurity in childhood.
When we grow up, we have to face life, we want to live independently, we find ourselves lacking in interpersonal exercise, we are very distressed about this, and we strongly try to change, but the more we want to change, the more we will notice that we are unnatural in interpersonal communication, the more unnatural it is, the more painful it will be, the more painful it will deepen our sensitivity to interpersonal communication, and the more sensitive we are, the more unnatural we feel, and as a result, we fall into it and can't extricate ourselves, which psychology calls "spiritual interaction".
If you want to break the "spiritual interaction", the best way is to accept the reality, accept that we are such people, that it will be unnatural when interacting with people, accept him, tell yourself that it is not natural to be natural, I am like this, there is nothing remarkable.
Accepting this unnaturalness and not trying to change it will easily break the "spiritual interaction", and the unnatural feeling will slowly fade.
And most importantly, what should we do at this age?
We're going to do what we're supposed to do, whatever it's supposed to do.
When you do it, it will be unnatural to interact with people, very uncomfortable, and want to escape, but you must do it hard, focus on action, take the goal of the behavior as the principle, don't think about yourself in order to complete the goal, whether you are afraid of interacting with people, and don't think about whether you are unnatural.
When you continue to accept the inner anxiety and the fear of interacting with people in order to do things, after going through a lot of exercise, you will find that you begin to have self-confidence, you have a lot of experience in interacting with people, and you don't feel too unnatural.
The most important thing is to leave everything behind, don't run away, move forward bravely, and train yourself, only then can you truly create your own life with confidence.
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It's best for the landlord to add his age and gender.
Don't be too busy labeling yourself "socially phobic", judging by your description, I think it's just a shy and introverted personality.
I have been introverted and withdrawn since I was in junior high school, and even my teachers will tell my parents that I am withdrawn and unsocial.
From junior high school to university, I had a lot of problems, such as not knowing how to participate in conversations, being embarrassed to take the initiative to say hello, and even avoiding acquaintances. Even in the end, they will deliberately keep a distance from people, making it difficult for people to get close. But now, with the passage of time and experience, these problems are largely gone.
I don't think you're very old, so you don't really need to worry, if you find it difficult to get in on a certain occasion, just be a quiet listener and listen to how other people are.
At the bottom, you can read more books and increase your knowledge, and the amount of knowledge is the guarantee to expand the conversation.
At the same time, reading and writing more will also increase your language skills.
In addition, you can start with people you are familiar with and will not make you feel stressed, and talk to them more, which is also a way to improve gradually.
Don't mind too much about small actions such as touching your hair, some people in their 20s still have a small problem of blushing and sticking out their tongue. But you have to understand that if a boy has a lot of small movements, it will make people feel unsteady and naïve, so these are things that you need to deliberately refrain from on certain occasions.
In short, a self-confident and natural state is indeed not pretended, when your inner self is full, these qualities will be naturally revealed.
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It's not pretending, self-confidence is a natural thing, your situation is caused by weak kidney function, and improving kidney function is the only way to solve it. We are Shanghai Haoyang Psychological Counselors and are very experienced in this area.
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You can ask the doctor.
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It is recommended that you consider the customs, habits, and civilization that have been cultivated from the perspective of geography and the environment on the basis of the environment.
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Asian civilization is more solid, rational and institutionalized than European civilization!
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Where did the four ancient countries of European civilization come from?
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(a^2+1)-4a^2 =1-3a^2
12/(m^2-9)-2/m-3
12/(m+3)(m-3)-2/m-3
12-2m-6/(m+3)(m-3)
2/(m+3)
This is a type of question.
The solution mode is to make x 2=y 3=z 5=k
Get x=2ky=3k
Z=5k is substituted into the second equation to get k=2
x=4y=6
z=10
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You're talking about the membership badge of Tieba.
First of all, if you are a member of a post bar, for example, you are a WOW bar, and the member name is KLZ graduate.
Then you have to go to the paste bar**,You can buy badges of various types of land ants,You can enter the paste bar in my i paste bar**,Then go to my early product and click to enable the badge。
It is important to choose which sticker to use when purchasing the badge, because some people join more than one sticker.
Paste bar** is purchased with paste bar beans, you first see if your beans are enough to buy a successful badge, there is a badge under your avatar that says klz graduation.
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Well, I'll guarantee you when you say that, I guess I think you're lying, and you can't help it.
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