How not to be disgusted, how to deal with people who are annoying?

Actually, I want to ask you a question, did you ever hate your parents?

I don't know how to express what you said, the only thing I can say is to resolve it from your heart.

This requires a detached mindset and a mature mind.

I don't know if you'll be able to do it, so I'll tell you about it. It's about bringing two contradictory things together.

You have to abandon the fact that they are your parents, and at the same time accept the fact that they are your parents, which is contradictory in itself, you also have to understand what kind of person they are in their hearts, maybe your mother is greedy for small things, you don't like your behavior habits, and you don't agree with your father's actions, but this does not hinder your own development, you need to be able to have your own values and outlook on life, you have to think that they are an ordinary person who lives with you, a person you don't know, you also have to know that you can't change anyone, so, Don't say what you see or don't like, just don't see it. Take care of your own affairs, you must study hard, you must succeed, so that you can choose your own life in the future, you have a choice, otherwise you will have no choice in the future, you may be like them, and at the same time be counted out every day.

But you have to understand that they are your parents, you have to love them, you are a person with inner wisdom, and you find that your own dearest parents are such people, don't you feel sorry for them? You may be very sad to watch their embarrassment. They have some shortcomings in character and habits, you have to be tolerant, you have to let them live a better life, let them have food and clothing.

And certainly, this is also what I want to say, even if you don't want such parents, it's not impossible. There are some parents in this world who are not very good and do not do their own obligations, but you can't give up, you have to work hard, work hard to get to a higher environment, to be able to get rid of the status quo!

You can go and see "Wind and Rain Harvard Road", Youku has it (find the Chinese dubbing of **8), maybe it can give you some inspiration and help! Step up your game!

Find out from yourself if you have the same shortcomings as the other person.

1. Treat people with courtesy, don't despise people you hate too much, and don't speak badly or attack each other. If we really want to reduce their distractions, we need to maintain proper etiquette and respect with them. When I meet different types of people, it is only because of personal experience and past education methods that they have chosen different paths and need to be accepted and understood.

For example, when someone you don't like complains or complains to you, be careful to listen to him and give him affirmation, even if you don't agree with him. By showing respect and gratitude in this way, the annoying person will also feel recognized and will no longer continue to argue or talk back endlessly. 2. Improve self-confidenceSecondly, if you want to shut up annoying people with high emotional intelligence, it is recommended that you make yourself appear confident and calm.

Even in the face of provocations and attacks from the other party, dare to express your opinion and convey this confident attitude to the other party. Don't lose confidence because of the words of people you hate, and don't allow yourself to become easily impulsive or emotionally out of control. Improving one's self-confidence can also increase one's knowledge and background through a lot of reading and studying, so that you can better protect yourself, have more in-depth and thorough explanations and opinions, and thus reduce meaningless exchanges.

In such conversations, make the people who hate you realize that you are too knowledgeable, so as to reduce the complexity and negative emotions of communication. 3. Adopt an appropriate distanceFinally, if the words of the person who is disgusting are becoming more and more rude and frequent, we can consider keeping a certain distance from him in order to reduce our contact. In your dealings with others, avoid revealing too much of the details of your life and emotions, and don't give them too much attention to avoid getting caught up in meaningless arguments and debates.

The most important thing is to maintain a good physical and mental state, so that even if the other person does not communicate in a harmonious way, we do not have to feel discouraged about it, because it does not affect other areas of our lives. Eventually, such people will also choose to be far away from us.

In life, we all meet people who are uncomfortable, they may be your colleagues, bosses, clients, family members, or strangers. In the face of these people, it is easy for us to lose control of our emotions and respond impulsively.

However, such a reaction can often make the situation worse and even hurt yourself. Therefore, we need some people with high emotional intelligence to deal with these nasty people and shut them up.

First, we need to be clear about the fact that we can't control the behavior of others, but we can control our own reactions. When we meet someone we hate, we need to learn to control our emotions and not let the other person's words or actions touch our nerves.

We can take deep breaths or relax our bodies to relieve our tension. At the same time, we must also learn to accept our emotions and not hold them down or deny their existence. We can acknowledge our emotions and tell ourselves that these are only temporary feelings and that we can change them in a positive way.

Secondly, we need to master some skills with high emotional intelligence. When we meet someone we hate, we don't have to fight with them or attack each other. Instead, we can respond to the other person with some polite and firm words to let the other person know our attitude and bottom line.

For example, if the other person insults or attacks you, you can say, "I don't think it's appropriate behavior, I want us to communicate based on respect and understanding." Such words can make the other person realize that their behavior is inappropriate and remind the other person to respect your feelings.

In addition, we can also use some tips to divert the subject to silence the annoying person. If the topic is irrelevant or inappropriate to you, you can try to move the topic elsewhere.

For example, if the other person keeps talking about *** and you are not interested or want to touch on the topic, you can say, "I understand your point of view, but can we change the subject?" I recently read a very interesting book, would you like to hear about it?

Such words can make the other person feel that you are interested in their ideas and give them a chance to divert their attention.

Finally, keep reminding yourself to stay positive. No matter how annoying someone we meet, we have to believe that we are capable of coping and solving problems. Be positive and believe in your worth and abilities.

Don't let the words or actions of people you hate affect your confidence and happiness. By focusing on our own growth and development, and building good relationships, we are better able to deal with people we hate, while developing high emotional intelligence to deal with these challenges.

How do you do it without being annoying? Just get rid of the "self-centered" vice.

Self-centered" people have four characteristics:

Sometimes I think about it, these four characteristics really fit me, especially a few years ago. In fact, doesn't it sound ironic that even self-centered people hate people with these four characteristics?

The four stages of the state of life:

Any normal person needs to go through these four stages in the process of growing up. It's just that not everyone can reach the fourth stage, there are many people who stay in the third stage, some people who stay in the second stage, and even those who simply stay in the first stage.

The first and fourth stages are both mentally healthy. Of course, the healthiest thing is to enter the fourth stage. Although there are very few people who can finally make it to the fourth stage, they are all the same, relatively peaceful.

They are quite satisfied with themselves, and in their eyes everyone else is good, so they can live in peace......If you think about it, how can someone who thinks they are good and thinks others are good at the same time "interrupt others while they are talking and then lead the topic to themselves"? How is it possible to "think about elevating yourself when you are idle"? How is it possible to "prove yourself right no matter what"?

How is it possible that "as long as the topic is not on oneself, all that comes out is negative words"?

It's as simple as that. So, either you're in the fourth stage or you're in the first stage – you're not in the "second or third stage" that is going to be annoying anyway. ** The "self-centered" method turned out to be "pushing yourself hard" - focusing only on your own growth and not making unnecessary comparisons with others.

According to this standard, the three provinces of my body:

To be a trustworthy person, do the following:

If you can do these three things, you are a very stable person, not easy to get out of the moth halfway, and you are an ideal partner and trustworthy.

To be unobnoxious, consider the following:

1.Respect for others: Respect for other people's opinions, feelings, and personal space is the foundation of good relationships. Refrain from criticizing or belittling the opinions of others and respect their independence and rights.

2.Listen and care: Actively listen to the opinions and stories of others and express your concern and interest in them. Show genuine interest and care, and let others feel that Hengsun is valued and understood.

3.Be polite and friendly: Be polite and friendly, and be mindful of your words and expressions when dealing with others. Avoid impulsive and rude words and actions, and try to maintain a gentle and kind attitude.

4.Avoid excessive self-attention: Don't always put yourself at the center and focus on your own needs and interests. Learn to pay attention to others, understand their feelings and needs, and try to provide support and help.

5.Sincerity and honesty: Be sincere and honest and avoid lying or deliberately misleading others. Building trust is the key to building good relationships with others.

6.Resolve conflict positively: When a conflict or misunderstanding arises, actively seek a solution rather than letting emotions escalate or be skeptical. Try to have an open and equal dialogue with others to seek common understanding and solutions.

7.Respect personal space: Respect the personal space and privacy of others, and do not interfere excessively or infringe on the rights and interests of others. Give others proper freedom and independence and don't interfere too much with their choices and decisions.

The bottom line is that everyone has their own likes and preferences, and it's impossible to make everyone like you. The key is to be genuine, respectful, and kind, and to establish positive interactions and exchanges with others, which can increase the level of pleasure with others.